Why I Have Stopped Dating White Men

[Anonymous]

I am Indian so my experience would be different from other race let's begin

They were never proud to date me :- lets be real indian don't have best steorytypes in the world people assumed many things about us like indians dont bath and indians are dirty and the way everyone make fun of indians accent etc thanks apu and American media because of it so any white guy won't be proud of his indian girlfriend and would have to justify why he is dating one

They never respected me in the same way they would respect a non indian girl:-in america people don't have any respect for indians so it is no surprise that they don't really respected me they always used to ignored what i used to say and they were sexually aggressive to me this is one example i had told him that i was not ho*ny and i wanted to guess what he is saying but since i am indian it doesn't matter what i want all of them did that to me and this is one example they have done worse things to me.

Good percentage of them only wanted to sleep or date with me because i am indian:- there is a good number of White men who want to sleep or date all ethnicity in this world.

They would never understand racism that i have faced :- white people don't have faced racism their whole life so i am not surprised why they were not able to see racism that i used to face i had latino or black boyfriend they used to understand it .they were ignorant about it.

They never dated me seriously :- reason why my white boyfriends were with me was because i am hot and they wanted to sleep with me all of them took me for granted.

superiority complex:- in American white people are at top in racial hierarchy and indians are at bottom all of my white boyfriend had this superiority complex they always made me feel inferior my latino and black boyfriend never did it.

Others white people never accepted our relationship:- in america it is considered social faux pas for white people to date a indian their family or friends never approved of me even random white stranger used to think that is weird for them to date me.

They said racist things to me :- my white boyfriend loved making indian jokes.

So many American even on gag believe in racist steorytypes about indians it is sad anyway i am open to all non white men i am just tired about being used as sex object and not getting respect being taken for granted and being made feel inferior i would advice any indian girl to don't date a white guy at least until indian have better steorytypes because they deserve better white guys still hit on me and ask me for date but i am not interested in feeling used and inferior maybe all of them are not same but i never met a good one and tired of giving white guys chance because they always turn out to be same hope that American media in future start showing indians in positive light.anyway all of these thing's happened with me even though i am super hot and super successful.

[Anonymous]

I totally understand how you feel..
I'm half-Greek, half-Italian but I'm not very pale, I have a medium to olive complexion and stronger features so people assume I'm middle-Eastern or Jewish most of the time. I've faced a fair share of racist when I was in the USA; you can tell by the way people look at you or the tone of their voce that they don't consider you equal
Only when I spoke up and they heard my British accent (I've grown up in London) some people were intimidated by me. Some still viewed me as trash though

That's America, the most racist place in the world

[Opinion Owner]

*share of racism

[myTake Owner]

You are right in america there is a racial hierarchy

[WaywardMoose]

Was it the same way in London?

[Opinion Owner]

@WaywardMoose nope I never had such a problem there. London is multicultural and besides UK has strict anti-racism laws

[WaywardMoose]

So where in the US did you experience this?

[Opinion Owner]

@WaywardMoose in Chicago
Also around white people (when I say white I mean very pale who are of Northern or West European ancestry). I had a summer tan and people looked at me in disgust

[WaywardMoose]

How is california when it comes to this?

[WaywardMoose]

Is there racism there too?

[Opinion Owner]

@WaywardMoose I haven't been there so I don't know

[zagor]

How many places have you been to? If you think America is an exceptionally racist place you haven't been to many countries.

[Opinion Owner]

@zagor I've travelled a lot since I was very little and I never experienced racism except for America

[SpearsAndStones]

I've been to more racist places than the US. Not many, but South Africa (or really any African country) is worse. The whites all make their own little rich communities that are totally disconnected from the native Africans and drain their economies. Then when I visit, I get a literal 300-1000% upcharge on all goods and services. Still literally only mere dollars because everything is so cheap. I also had children follow me through villages shouting Azungu (white person) throwing stones and pulling at my clothes. Young mother's would bring their toddlers out to clap along with the other children. I'm not saying that something comparable has never happened in the US, but it's not the norm.

[SpearsAndStones]

Also Hungary and Slovakia are really bad for Neo-Nazis and other unsavory figures. And in certain societies race isn't defined the same way as it is in the West. For example, Chinese, Koreans and Japanese have historically been at odds and they all shit on Filipinos. Go to UAE and you'll find a lot of South Asians, Southeast Asians and Africans being treated like chaff. Israel is pretty bad for Jew/European vs. Arab, and so is Palestine. Australia is also comparable to America in terms of racism. Ask the Rohingya what they think the most racist place in the world is and they might say Burma, since they're currently being genocided

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take.

[Jonny317]

It's unfortunate that she spent all this time highlight HER problems with white guys and all teh comments are from white guys telling her she's wrong. i'm a white guy and I'm watching you guys prove her point. One thing white guys have trouble doing is just to shut up and listen.

[myTake Owner]

That's very true they are not able to accept the way i way treated

[winterfox10]

As a white guy who has only dated Indian girls: I hear you, and I'm sorry that love between us is so needlessly difficult

[myTake Owner]

I know it is because of racism and steorytype about indians indians are not seen as dating material i hope things get better for indian girls at least in future they don't have to go through this.

[winterfox10]

A lot of Indians are pretty critical of it too though. Indians tend to isolate themselves from people of other races, in America at least... So a lot of my non-Indian friends think that hanging out with Indians would just be a headache.

[myTake Owner]

Many do but at least indian who don't do it shouldn't face racism

[myTake Owner]

What is ashamed to be about dating me i look like a model and i am engineer like super successful racism is so bad and i am not even comparing myself to white girl other non indian girls get more respect

[winterfox10]

I think it's because of how Indians tend to act, socially. Like a lot of Americans just don't find Indians very friendly. I don't mean to be so forward, but would you mind if I saw your picture?

[myTake Owner]

I am anonymous for a reason

[myTake Owner]

I am super friendly maybe other indians are not that friendly but they should give respect to those who are

[winterfox10]

Fair enough, but I thought I would ask. I am sure that many Americans have experience with Indians being really cliquey, or something.

[myTake Owner]

Most indian men they have ruinned indian women image

[winterfox10]

My girlfriend had a terrible, promiscuous reputation in school. I still had feelings for her though. I knew that she was a gem, regardless of what other people were saying. As I've gotten to know her, I have started to doubt the rumors more and more.

Based on what I am seeing about her, I just don't think she's acting like someone who was having regular hook ups with random men.

[myTake Owner]

Why she had promiscuous reputation is it because she is indian?

[winterfox10]

I don't think race had anything to do with it. The rumors were mostly being spread by a frat. My guess is that she might have gotten friendly with one of the brothers (probably didn't have sex with him though) but then turned down the other guys, so they spread a rumor about how they'd passed her around. A few of the people who knew her for a while had always said that she was a girl who seemed a little bit too friendly with guys.

Like I said though: even after talking with this girl for a few minutes, I had trouble imagining her hooking up with a lot of guys.

[myTake Owner]

That's sad she have to go through it

[winterfox10]

It is... She has so much love to give, but she's a headstrong, dedicated, smart, confident, independent, highly motivated, and stunningly gorgeous woman. A lot of people really feel the need to cut someone like that down.

[myTake Owner]

Also indian i guess she get steorytype for being indian?

[winterfox10]

Probably. I didn't really hear about those. I'm sure that it was the basic "brown girl is less pure than the white girl," that you always see in the American Media. Classic "other-ing"

[myTake Owner]

I know people also do it with me

[myTake Owner]

People judge you for dating a indian?

[winterfox10]

Kind of... they more just wonder why I'm doing it. They figure that it would be easier to date an American girl.

[myTake Owner]

I think that you should write my take about your relationship with her

[winterfox10]

Sounds like a bit too much work, honestly. My relationship isn't going to offer any insight to people who aren't inclined in that direction anyway.

[myTake Owner]

I am sure that many would be interested reading about the way you and she was treated your mytake would probably be popular but it's your own wish what you want to do

[winterfox10]

Hmm... I will definitely think about it... Thank you for your support!

[OlderAndWiser]

Perhaps you found a string of Caucasian Americans who had such an attitude but that does not mean that all of us share that stereotype and those beliefs. Perhaps you were looking for gu9ys in the wrong places.

When I was 25 years old, I met an Indian psychiatrist who was intelligent, beautiful, and very sweet. I made it clear to her that I was attracted and I wanted to date her but she felt more attracted to one of my acquaintances, a guy who jut wanted to have sex with her and then move on to the next girl. So I got the friend zone, he got to pull down her panties, and then she was devastated when he stopped calling her. Should I blame this experience on the fact that she is an Indian?

[myTake Owner]

I had many white boyfriend's not one you don't know how many chance i have given to white men

[OlderAndWiser]

When you consistently get treated the same way by everyone you date, it usually reflects on something that you are doing to select these guys or something that you are doing in the relationships. It is less likely that it is everyone else's fault.

[myTake Owner]

You are denying racism against indian

[OlderAndWiser]

You are insisting that ALL Caucasian men are racist. That is a racist attitude.

ALL that I am saying is that not all Caucasian men are racist so perhaps you are doing something that attracts the wrong Caucasian men.

[myTake Owner]

I know some indian girls who faced same problem

[Logorithim]

OK, this is getting less and less believable. One or two bad apples I could believe, but ALL of them looking down on you? I don't buy it.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am not saying that there are no racist Caucasian males in the US. I am only saying that not all Caucasian males in the US are racist. If all you can find is racist Caucasian males, then you need to examine how and where you do your looking.

Condemning all US Caucasian males because of your experiences is RACIST!

[myTake Owner]

They did and isn't it better if i stay away from them

[OlderAndWiser]

If you can't listen to what other people tell you and determine a better strategy, then that is what you should do. BUT. . . the problem is not that all Caucasian males are racist. The problem is that the only Caucasian males who you can attract are racist.

[howlyz]

I agree, I know because I like indian women, even I am not from US but from Europe I know there is people there who like indian women genuinely

I would rather say that your age explain this kind of attitude, you should broaden your view on things, guys in these years (18-24 and even older up to 35 and sometimes more of course) they treat all women like that and just want to sleep with you, including white women which they probably use the most, now you come into the picture (being young, exotic and hot) and you are treated exactly the same as all the other girls, never mind some primitive assholes that are trying to make you feel less with those things you mentioned, instead of reacting like this you should feel special, instead of this attitude recognize that 90% of human population, every race and both genders are kind of asshole-ish..

[howlyz]

also wait until you really grow up and have more experience (35+) and let's see what will you think then, you will most likely think that nothing in this world is fair, along with the rest of us humans of all races

in the meat time wait for a decent guy if you want something that will not last one night, probably the age group you are dating caused this biased opinion, you like in the hook up culture age and time, plus you gravitate in that age group is it so hard to put two and two together

[myTake Owner]

@howlyz what about indian joke and superiority complex? Believe me they would have respected Me if i was not indian

[Logorithim]

How many of these white guys did you date?

[myTake Owner]

@Logorithim are you asking for how many white guys i have dated in number? i would say 5

[Logorithim]

Two Things About that stand out to me:

1) You seem to have made the same mistake in getting the same type of guy. That falls on you, especially when you could have turned them down or at least have recognized patterns.

2) You seem to have already in your life had a lot of boyfriends (at least 7). That is not a problem per se, but when viewed within the overall context, that doesn't indicate stability, which mostly falls in you because you are the common denominator.

I can't buy 5 white guys approaching you and dating you who all look down on Indians. That defies credulity. It looks to me like the real problem lies elsewhere and you don't want to admit that.

[howlyz]

no they wouldn't sweetie, trust me on that, you are just taking it to the heart that is all, and you shouldn't do that

those guys don't respect their own mother trust me, they also don't respect white girls I give you my word also, they even don't know what respect means so they even don't respect them selves

for guys that age, everything is just a game and playing trust me on this one, no matter what reason they use to scold you it is just a game for them, they would probably find another reason to do it, like if you wear glasses or anything really

if you are smart you should try and see what is behind this behaviour, stop just focusing on the apparent and the visible, there must be something behind and I gave you an insight ot at least an idea

I know that as a girl you are mentally more mature than guys your age, maybe consider dating older guys then

[howlyz]

about that indian joke, you shouldn't take that to heart really, I know it is not ok to make such jokes but if you see trough it a bit you will realise that is nothing but a childish behaviour of a few airhead adolescent (white) male collegues of yours, that's the real truth

you should play along and make some white trash jokes when they do that, I am sure your rating in that group will rise, you will get respect and if you do that a couple of times, you will have respect, they do this to you because they kinda like you but don't know from which angle to aproach you so they choose the most stupid one

[howlyz]

it's just a big fucking misunderstanding, like everything in life, but a lot of people fail to see that

[myTake Owner]

@Logorithim i had lot of boyfriend so what? are you slutshaming me and you don't care about how i have suffered and i have developed inferiority complex?

[myTake Owner]

@Logorithim look at comment here one saying that i come from country where people shit on street another calling me collie it is a racist comment against indian there are racist comment here

[OlderAndWiser]

The fact that SOME Americans are racist does not mean that ALL Americans are racist, Judging all of us in a derogatory way because of the actions of some of us is called. . . RACISM!!!

[myTake Owner]

I was just telling you that think about it how these people are friends and family of most white guys in USA so they would never approved of our relationship and even random White stranger won't approved of it.

[Logorithim]

We don't know for sure who made that comment, nor do we know who made the comment claiming to be an Indian guy and saying Indian guys wouldn't want you because you've dated a lot of non-Indians.

If you actually read what I told you, it's obviously not slut shaming, and I'm actually doing you a favor in pointing out that there are some underlying problems you need to solve. Having a lot of partners is symptomatic of Underlying Problems.

About this oft-stated inferiority complex you have, that is one of the underlying problems. I do not see why you have one since you say you're attractive and successful in your career. No person needs validation by a partner or partners, so by dwelling on this inferiority complex, you are making the Things worse. What you Need to Focus on in how you relate to guys in a relationship and how to end Things if you are not being treated with respect. Your inferiority complex is also giving you a highly distorted view of White People think of Indians.

[myTake Owner]

@Logorithim i have developed inferiority complex because of racism i have suffered i don't know but sometimes i feel is it my mistake that i am indian or how much better i would have been treated if i was not indian.

[myTake Owner]

@Logorithim winterfox10 ask him how his indian girlfriend's were treated by society he is a white guy who only have dated indian girl he will tell you how he and his indian girlfriend were treated by society

[Unit1]

I see she has lashed out to you too mein freund!
Oh man the irony is strong here.
(psst! Maybe you should tell her you're black?)

[Logorithim]

@Unit1: She's got some hangup she needs to get counseling for, one which is supported by some false premises and it's ironic that she doesn't seem to realize her own prejudice is based on these false premises.

[Unit1]

@Logorithim there's mostly no saving of those kinds of humans. But just maybe time will turn them around.

[Logorithim]

For the umpteenth time, most white USians do not look down on Indians.

I think it's rather strange that we have anons claiming to be black or Indian women who have been mistreated by their white boyfriend.

[myTake Owner]

They do you know it don't deny it i was mistreated and i have right to talk it

[myTake Owner]

I can't make this kind of post without being anonymous i dont want some white guys to block me for speaking truth

[Logorithim]

I know that it's common not to date a member of the same race after a bad experience with an interracial relationship, but you've jumped to some wild conclusions here and I'd be worried About you bearing a grudge against White Folks.

[Jonny317]

Just because you're a white knight doesn't mean her history isn't valid. Why are you so quick to dismiss what she's saying?
America has a race problem. Check.
White guys can be racist. Check
She's done with the bullshit? Check
A white guy on GAG is dismissing her history right now. Check

[myTake Owner]

I won't lie i have developed a inferiority complex and i don't think that any white guy would be interested in me romantically it is always sexual i find later about it and it is not easy for me to leave a relationship irrespective of how i am being treated and i actually believe that if he would mistreat me than white people would take his side.

[Jonny317]

I'm truly sorry to hear about your situation and I hope it improves. i can't blame you for your outlook.

[Logorithim]

@Jonny317: I think it is obvious that you are the white knight here.

@myTakeOwner: I don't think continually posting about this here is going to get you over what you're feeling. You shouldn't feel some inferiority complex at all, and that you do is concerning. I would advise not dating anyone of any race until you can get rid of that complex. Date whomever you are comfortable with, and date with confidence that you are worthwhile.

[Jonny317]

@Logorithim glad you changed your tune

[myTake Owner]

I like talking about it actually inferiority complex was developed because of my white boyfriend superiority complex i actually used to think that i deserve being treated like that i am ashamed of being indian because of hate i get for it.

[Jaded214]

It's rather strange that you're attacking her for her experience. Keep that same energy for the rest of these racist trolls on here that you don't say anything to. Like your buddy white panther.

[Logorithim]

@Jaded214: I don't deem it credible that ann attractive and successful woman would put herself through multiple bad interracial relationships with white guys (she has said "many"). It seems like there is an agenda here.

If indeed she has experienced exactly what she said she has, then she should take the advice I gave her above and also get counseling if she needs it. Stay away from guys that don't treat you with respect, regardless of race.

[zagor]

Has it occurred to you that a lot of white guys mistreat white/Asian/black girls? As do a lot of non-white guys?

Making a broad statement based on one or two experiences is like me meeting Yao Ming and deducing that all Chinese men are over a foot taller than me.

[myTake Owner]

@zagor i had 5 white boyfriend and after black white are most racist to indians so i am not surprised by the way they treated me

[zagor]

That is strange, for on dating sites the one group that most wants to date only their ethnicity - is Indian women.

[CherryRoseChampange]

I'm really sorry that that has been your experience with white men. And I kind of relate just a little bit, but in an almost reverse standpoint. I'm personally not super found of Indian men but it's because I've had terrible experiences with them. So they just aren't my top choices dating-wise. However, I will say that wouldn't stop me from dating one completely. Race doesn't stop me, because I know in general not every man is the same.

And althoughI've met a number of Indian men who were the worst I've also met some extraordinary ones who are treasures and silver linings in humanity. So it all just depends. I'd suggest not giving up hope though, don't miss out on a possible good man because of people in the past who were the same race as him.

[myTake Owner]

Some people here are writing racist comment about indian honestly i would advice a non indian women to not date a indian guy only indian women can tolerate them

[chrisbigman]

Putting a blanket statement on an entire group of people (white men) just because of your experience with 1 or more (but not all) is unfair. I'm sorry that you got treated by some assholes. But don't think or say that we are all the same. We are NOT. I don't agree with the KKK. I don't agree with Trump (on a lot of issues). I don't agree with Bush or Cheney in terms of why we went into Iraq. Our skin color does not automatically equate to complete equal-ness. Most of the European Union and Russian are white, which is where most (if not all) white people come from - at least those that were not actually born right in the US. Does that mean we are all the same? Of course not. We come from different backgrounds and cultures.

[myTake Owner]

I know it was mostly about American but i have seen racist comment about indians by European so i don't know how different they would be compared to American

[chrisbigman]

They are as different as Indians (from India) are with Native Americans in the United States (different kind of Indians).

[myTake Owner]

I am indian from India

[chrisbigman]

I know. I was making a comparison between Indians from India and Indians from America (Native Americans).

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry for that. I have a similar experience with Indian men. I used to date an Indian guy who was basically using me as his white trophy girlfriend to show off to his friends who were super creepy always leering at me and "accidentally" groping me his father and brother were exactly the same and his mother hated me because I was white. When I discussed the matter with him he acted like it was normal as if all white women are whores to be treated that way. I eventually dumped him. I'd like to say that was an isolated case but I've travelled to a few other countries India included and Indian men are exactly the same with the sexism and racism. A few black guys often talk about how racist Indians can be to them too, espicially men who they as thieves and drug dealers just because they are black.

[myTake Owner]

Indians men are not perfect i would advice any non indian women to not date them they probably won't be able to adjust in family etc

[Opinion Owner]

So groping is normal in Indian families?

[myTake Owner]

It is not normal at all never happened with me

[Opinion Owner]

Are you sure because it's a big problem in India. Anyway I will never go near an Indian man again.

[myTake Owner]

I support you non indian women shouldn't go closed to indian men only indian women can handle them

[Opinion Owner]

There isn't much to handle and no woman should have to face sexual harrassment or abuse.

[telstrabill]

Surely the idea of caste is not unfamiliar to you? In the west it is also evident but in subtler tones. We often judge people by their colour, caste, religion, socioeconomic status and the suburb in which they live. I think the true measure of a person is in what they say and backed up in what they do - regardless of all the social stigmas people put on them. The internet is a dangerous place for vulnerable people to try and hook up. There is no way you can identify body language, the nuances of tone of voice through texting and all the other things that that might alarm us about predators of any kind. To me, internet dating is playing Russian roulette with your emotions and subsequently your life. Very occasionally you may hear of a success story, but it's like winning Lotto. Good luck with your search. <3

[myTake Owner]

Judging someone for being indian is racist

[telstrabill]

Yes it is. I agree.

[Anonymous]

when I think of Indian girls I think of iisuperwomanii on youtube.
But if you felt mistreated, could you not just tell your boyfriend "when you do this, it upsets me... I need this, can you do this?"
I am Asian and married to a white guy. He is not perfect and does a lot of things that pisses me off like he doesn't care for my feelings and only seems to want sex but the thing is I went to counseling with him and he his no emotional intelligence so he can't empathize and accept that I have feelings... he just can't. It's like... some times you just have to accept that that is who he is. I have to empathize and understand and accept myself. He can't do that.. he just is focused on work, make money and sex. He can't try to get to know me, understand me and validate my feelings because he is just not wired to do that. But in his own weird way, he does love me and does things like buy me expensive stuff to show me he loves me.

[myTake Owner]

Sorry but i am not desperate for white men like you according to me i deserve better than a guy who treat me like sex object and don't respect me and my culture and try to understand me

[Omnious240]

My God you sound pathetic and desperate, Tell me if the guy was Black or Latino would you still put up with being the whore Asian sex doll like you do for this white guy who clearly doesn't love you from the sound of it. Know your worth and you Asian women need to cut the white worshipping bullshit. Other races see it and we think it's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

As an Indian guy, good luck with that. Because you're already trash in our eyes for sleeping around with everyone and anyone, going on your little "world tour" and riding the cock carousel. And none of us'll ever consider taking you back (except for maybe some guys back in India, so desperate to get their Green Card that they'd marry literally anyone for it). Get used to being that perpetually unwed, snide, bitchy cousin who hangs around in the background, with her face caked in make-up and wearing the most expensive saree she could find, trying to sabotage things and throw a spanner in the works at every family wedding out of bitterness and resentment for having been left on the shelf.

[myTake Owner]

Don't worry there are Good indian men in this world and i am open to dating Latino and black men by the way you are probably jealous because white women won't date you classic sultshaming here

[Opinion Owner]

You can only be 'slutshamed' if you're ashamed of being a slut- if you yourself consider it to be shameful. You're no 'slut and proud', that's for sure. Your parents must be so ashamed of you. But no more so that you're ashamed of yourself.

[myTake Owner]

I am not ashamed of myself and my parents are proud of me i probably earn more than you and definitely more successful it is my body i get to decide with how many men i want to sleep with you don't have right to judge

[Opinion Owner]

Everyone has the right to judge anyone and anything, you imbecile. That's what thinking, what sentience is. Though not for the lack of people like you trying to wipe it out. Do you earn more than me; are you more fiscally successful than me? I don't know, and quite frankly, I don't GAF. About that, or your body, or your decisions. Yes, you get to decide how many men you want to sleep with. But us men also get to decide whether we want to sleep with you or not; and to use our better judgement in deciding whether or not you're worth it. And for any man with the slightest bit of self-respect, that question answers itself. Only homeless people, starving people, and drug addicts desperate for their next fix, go dumpster diving for fifth, tenth, twentieth-hand hand-me-downs. But please, feel free to brag about taking your pick of them.

[myTake Owner]

You don't need to worry about it i am super hot and super successful any men would be Lucky to Marry me so many guy's hit on me and want to date me

[Opinion Owner]

Riiight. This is you:
timesofindia.indiatimes.com/photo/38192485.cms

[myTake Owner]

I am probably 100% time hotter than any women you have dated any think about it most non indian won't date indian men and most indian women these days are not virgin who would indian men date or marry?

[Opinion Owner]

This is you right now:

[Opinion Owner]

It's soo hilarious!

[myTake Owner]

Picture of your future wife

[Opinion Owner]

Hold up- OMG, you're asking to marry me? I'm gonna, I'm gonna...

[myTake Owner]

Lol you are not even in my league i can do thousand time better than you

[Opinion Owner]

Well sure you can. You could spend the rest of your days alone, with yourself. It's better for everyone that way.

[myTake Owner]

Do you even know how many guy's hit on me?

[Opinion Owner]

You do know this doesn't sort of thing count as 'guys hitting on you', right?

[myTake Owner]

So many guy's have asked me out

[lomimore]

Typical guy who can not take it that you preffer dating other races and is trying to put you down that way because they know other races are not as open to date them as indian girls and now they. are dating outside too, what?

[Opinion Owner]

@lomimore It's nothing to do with her dating other races, or anyone dating other races. It's to do with her being a serial casual dater who sleeps around with people she claims not even to be attracted to, just 'cause "it is my body i get to decide with how many men i want to sleep with you don't have right to judge". That's what makes her trashy, not the fact that she's open to dating men of other races (with the sole recent exception of White men now, apparently). If you disagree, I take it that you're the same?

[myTake Owner]

@lomimore you are right he is just jealous

[myTake Owner]

Lol this is 21 st century nothing wrong in casual dating or sleeping around

[Opinion Owner]

@lomimore And just take a good long look at her last series of comments. "You don't need to worry about it i am super hot and super successful any men would be Lucky to Marry me so many guy's hit on me and want to date me"; "I am probably 100% time hotter than any women you have dated any think about it most non indian won't date indian men and most indian women these days are not virgin who would indian men date or marry?"; "Lol you are not even in my league i can do thousand time better than you"; "Picture of your future wife"'; "Lol you are not even in my league i can do thousand time better than you"; "Do you even know how many guy's hit on me?"; "So many guy's have asked me out". Just how insecure is this girl? How desperate for attention and validation can you get? Reverse the genders, and anyone can recognize it as the rant of a virgin incel basement dwelling loser. And there are plenty of female incels out there too, especially Indian women...

[myTake Owner]

Female incel lol most women can easily get laid and don't even talk about with how many guys i have slept with i am incel haha indian men are probably biggest group in incel community

[Opinion Owner]

See, that's what I'm talking about. Exactly what an incel would say, word for word.

[myTake Owner]

How was i able to get guys if i am incel?

[legalboxers]

I get your logic. But Im assuming not all white people are the same. I get "why aren't you a doctor, why aren't you in computers, why aren't you in finance" to. "hey pump my gas" "what are the lotto numbers" "which slushie tastes better".

I chose law because I got sick of the bullshit sterotype..

as for dating. Handful people where I live have some preconceived notion that we are suppose to "stick with our own kind" to.. "oh this indian guy on a dating site sent me cock pics etc"..

I am not them, I dont hang out in that type crowd. Stereotyping...
#ignorancelivesdontmatter

[myTake Owner]

At least i can dates lol

[legalboxers]

true.. :)

[andreasderjuengere]

The attitude of ''whites'' towards Indians that you described: I have also seen it from all sorts of other ethnic groups. Indians (as in: ''typical'', ''common'' or ''usual'') obviously aren't too welcome overall. Why is that so?
You mention sterotypes - One of the stereotypes is that the problem always is ''the others''. Poor, misunderstood and suppressed Indians. I am being stereotyped myself; my words and actions however adjust this perception.

[myTake Owner]

It was my mistake wow i can't believe it

[andreasderjuengere]

I did not say that. I pointed out that you show signs of stereotypes in your own text. Which can lead others to feel confirmed about this?

[myTake Owner]

I am only sharing experience

[andreasderjuengere]

Yes, and me as well. I am not on a hard position here, but really - a little, I struggle with Indian mentality as well. But I try to be positive about it.

[myTake Owner]

What indian have done to you do you hate indians?

[andreasderjuengere]

It is not hate. I just have a long and uninterrupted history of meeting Indian people and each ''case'' left us (on both sides) with unsatisfying and/or unhappy results. I sort of ''analyzed'' this -for me- and find that my and ''your'' culture and behavioral patterns do not match well. To my surprise I had later found that quite a number of other people from ''my'' origins have similar comments about guys from ''your'' origins. We all really need to work on this; I find it -emm- unfortunate.

[myTake Owner]

I am sorry about it i guess usually indian men are problam in my experience people don't usually have problems with indian women

[andreasderjuengere]

T O T A L L Y T R U E ! :D

[myTake Owner]

So please if you want you can dislike indian men but indian women according to me don't deserve hate

[andreasderjuengere]

The problem being: you girls have fathers, brothers and uncles.

[myTake Owner]

We don't deserve hate for things our father or uncle or brother have done 🙄 indian women are amazing they deserve better according to me indian women have to face racism because of indian men.

[andreasderjuengere]

At least from my side this is not hate. Caution, rather. But see: all boys or men have a mother who shaped them to a certain extent. I'd also find it an extreme demand to detach or distance yourself from your family or partly your cultural background; this doesn't look fair to your identity, to me.

[myTake Owner]

It is not usually mother it is usually cousin and male friend who make them like this there is no need to be cautious around them

[andreasderjuengere]

What a world! Allright then: the next Indian lady I might meet will have my open ears. Ok with you?

[myTake Owner]

Good with me

[HikerDude]

So let me ask you, if a white American guy moved to Indian, would he be considered at the top of the social hierarchy? No he wouldn't. He would be seen as an interloper whose motives were questionable. Upper-class Indians see themselves as superior to white people anyhow, so it's a certainty that a white American guy would do worse in Indian that you are doing here.

[myTake Owner]

I used to live in india believe me many people would love him

[HikerDude]

I doubt that, because the large numbers of Indian people I interacted with in college disliked white people. The girls didn't date white guys, and the guys tried to bigtime American guys. The reality is that no one would even care if a white guy complained about being mistreated in India, because no one would accept that he had any right to demand anything there as a guest. That's why I don't take this very seriously. The US wasn't set up to cater to foreign nationals. No country is, so it's unrealistic to expect that here.

[Koki11]

I have dated white Indian n mixed race n black but I like how I'm treated when I'm dating outside my race n I love our differences n that keeps me interested and I've never dated an Asian yet loI. Love is love n I don't want the negative to blind the positive.

[Omnious240]

Are you implying black men treat you worse? and do African men count? As in men from Africa because they have a different culture that would equate to differences that keep you interested as well. Afro Brazilian and Caribbean as well.

[Gavyn]

I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through this, but I should let you know that white people in America face racism everywhere they go. From black people practically calling us slave owners for things white peoples ancestors did that they’ve never personally suffered from, to being treated with prejudice in regards to racism (like, we’re all racist, or you can’t be racist to white people, things like that.)

[myTake Owner]

Honestly i am sorry i was a bit angry when i wrote it i hope it didn't offend you

[TheAceholeSupreme666]

Sweety, I am sorry you had bad experiences. It's not that these guys are white, it's that they are arrogant, ignorant, or both. See, maybe the men you dated were not of decent quality of character.
A man of decent character doesn't care about race or esoterics. He cares about the person. The person on the inside. The real you. Perhaps you might consider this. Perhaps not.

[myTake Owner]

Most white guy's are like that and sadly nobody care about the way they treated me

[TheAceholeSupreme666]

Then perhaps if that isn't working, find out why, and then change it up try something else. Try
Dating all different types of men. Variety is the spice of life. I'm half Irish and half Apache. I'm rejected by both sides. I stopped dating white women many years ago because as soon as the learn I'm half Apache, then it's white guilt and feather chasing... so vain, empty and hallow. I've dated ladies from many races and places. White, Black, Asian, Latina, etc...
For me, I discovered I like Latinas the best. I'm a traditional kind of guy. Latinas are very traditional too. I like that. I never dated an Indian woman. I have known several. Teachers aide in school ( her name was Anu), some former neighbors were from India, (Pen, Darshita, and Shiri) lovely folks. Several other filks over the years. Lovely folks. But I never attempted to date an Indian woman because I respect tradition, cultural ones too, but within reason.
I know that dating whoever you like isn't the way things are done.

[myTake Owner]

What sort of culture tradition do you respect that you never dated a indian?

[TheAceholeSupreme666]

I was speaking in a general sense and making a generalised reference to all cultures and traditions.
I wasn't being specific. Now, I never dated a woman from India because I've honestly never gotten the chance to do so.

[Anonymous]

Indians don't face racism in India but other races do. Indians are the most racist people you can meet, as a black man in London I can tell you Indians don't like me in their shop, don't want me dating their daughters and Indian women just use black men for sex.

[myTake Owner]

I never did i respected my black boyfriend indians are not as bad as you think

[Opinion Owner]

Indians are the most racist people I've ever encountered.

[myTake Owner]

Indians probably faced some of the worst racism in the world

[Opinion Owner]

Mostly from each other.

[myTake Owner]

From non indian too indians aren't most welcomed abd liked people in the world

[Opinion Owner]

Not the same and yet Indians are still the most racist people there is.

[myTake Owner]

Some indian are racist but most indian are amazing people type of people who faced racism

[Opinion Owner]

Nah most are racist.

[Anonymous]

I think what you've said is fair. I once dated a Chinese woman who left me because she said "you only like me because I'm Asian not because of who I am". She was right.

[myTake Owner]

Based on my experience white guy's who date Asian women have creepy fetish.

[lomimore]

I understand its unfirtunate the white guys you've dated have treated you poorely but in some of your post it sounds like you are trying to put all white men down because some treated you the wrong way

[myTake Owner]

Most white American are racist to indian i don't want to take risk now

[Unit1]

https://i.imgur.com/p66JCQw.gif
You: The problem are white men

Me: You have had sour experiences with terrible humans, who happened to be 1) white and 2) male.

It's always easier to shift the blame around rather than taking a look at yourself.

Sure, you can have your preferences in dating but putting a category of humans in blame is not a mature thing to do.

[myTake Owner]

You are racist you probably hate indians

[myTake Owner]

You are right white people can't do anything wrong it was probably my mistake by the way i had 5 white boyfriend not one ot two

[Unit1]

You proved my point.

[Unit1]

Sour experiences aren't exclusive to white men.

I could go on about how much i despise gold diggers. But I have chosen to not have any business let alone a relationship with money hungry females.
I used to bitch about it but I got an even better idea. I have chosen to not associate myself with gold diggers and i have chosen to not even acknowledge their very presence.

And my suggestion here is you do the same. Stop associating with toxic people and do not tolerate any BS.

[myTake Owner]

What is your point? why i had same experience with 5 white men common you know the answer

[Unit1]

The irony of you claiming me being racist when you have published an article where you describe your reasons and sour experiences with the white race.

I am not sure what I have expected but then I can't be surprised either way.

[myTake Owner]

So according to you just because i am indian i should tolerate racism?

[Unit1]

racism
ˈreɪsɪz (ə) m/
noun

prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior.
the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics, abilities, or qualities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.

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Your mytake title: Why I Have Stopped Dating White Men

I will leave it at that now.

[Unit1]

And I repeat what I have said a few minutes ago:

"Stop associating with toxic people and do not tolerate any BS. "

[viginian]

I will always say this: race matters, racism exists. If you don't want to deal with it, you should just date in your race. It makes everything easier. And if there aren't a lot of your race where you are, move.

[myTake Owner]

I had latino and black boyfriend i don't had any problems with them

[viginian]

In America specifically, people only see race as colored vs whites, with minor exceptions for Asians

[myTake Owner]

Why is there exception for Asians?

[viginian]

I don't know. Whites call them "honorary whites." Some Asians hate whites and try to group with other minorities. It's weird

[myTake Owner]

Latino and middle eastern look way more like white than a Asian can ever look and if it is about being successful than indian definitely are most successful ethnic group.

[viginian]

in terms of economic success, no. it goes jews, whites, chinese/japanese/koreans, then indians, arabs, hispanics, blacks

[Lostfornow]

I'm very sorry that you have went through relationships like that. Most guys treat all woman like that, please just because you haven't meant the right "white" guy yet don't hate us all. It sounds like you have dated a lot of asses. We are not all like that, I know if we were to date I would treat you with nothing but respect, always!

[myTake Owner]

Most white people are racist to indian because of apu and American media post any questions about indian you will get racist reply it is so sad