This will be a fairly short mytake compared to my others and more resembles a rant of my frustrations. As you all know the protests have seemed to reach it's peak, and with all the stresses that are surrounding me like the BLM movement and this pandemic along with academics, I just want to be with my boyfriend and even that is becoming a stressor for me! Many of my black friends, family, people I look up to criticise me for dating someone out of my race. At first I thought it was just some joke "hahah yeah, I'm the family member who doesn't date just black men" or "so funny I'm the only one with a white boyfriend" but then they all started to tell me things that are blatantly inappropriate and not just them. I've had people argue that I'm destroying my roots with "white sinister blood" before but that's the internet, I already expect that.
But unfortunately the people of my everyday life are saying it too
Friends I thought who are actually my friends told me I'm whitewashed, not a real black person and that I'm too ashamed to date my own race, that I'm desperate. I've even had my very close cousin call me a traitor and I haven't talked to her since.
Not only are these comments racist as shit they show that no one respects me or my romantic decisions, how is my love life their fucking issue? Even though I tell myself this sometimes all of it gets to me.
"Maybe this really isn't the right thing?"
"Am I just fetishizing him like they say, am I desperate?"
"When everything goes back to normal will people harass my boyfriend whenever we're together, or me or BOTH of us??"
It overwelms me and makes my heartache, I go into a mini panic but I always try and remember just how much he means to me, call it puppy love if you'd like but I've never felt so much for someone else's life over mine before, and when I think of that fact I don't doubt myself so much anymore...
If you judge people for dating someone who doesn't look like you, fuck off
You don't have the god damn right to tell someone who to love, sex, orientation and race shouldn't be a driving factor for why you want two people to not be together. It should be their chemistry, if they have personalities conflicting or if one is using and harming the other. If you are that kind of person stop for one minute and use your head. If you still have your close minded thinking bringing you to say shitty things to interracial couples you are better off just keeping that damn mouth of yours shut because they don't want to hear it.
For the people in this kind of relationship
As long as you love the person you are with for them what you have isn't wrong and you shouldn't feel guilty, ashamed, or embarrassed at any point in time for that relationship whether it's from the outside or your partner themself. Realize that life is fucking tough and there will always be someone being a total shithead who just wants to ruin anything, don't let said shithead crumble down what you've took time to build up. Thank you everyone for taking the time to read this, I will leave anonymity on but please just think before you post what you are thinking on my my take. Cheers.