I am not in the dating world, but when I go on lunch dates with female friends, I never expect them to pay. There is no reason they should pay unless she is the host or that was the condition she insisted on. Even then, I have tricked on paying all of myself because I just don't feels right. Again, just cultural.
Buddy, that’s just stupid. I never pay for one of my female friends when we go out. If I was on a date, he’ll yeah I’m paying, but what you’re doing is letting yourself be taken advantage of, and just dumb. Would you pay for a guy friend? Hell. No. Not unless they were in a bad spot once in awhile. Girls are the same way in that scenario.
@Tyme1313 I'm having a lavish life despite having kids in college. So I don't think your theory is making a lot of sense.
Not everybody's life revolves around feeding girlfriends or supporting family with a $10-20/hr or a $60,000/yr job. Some are more fortunate than others.
Lol, then yes we are in roughly the same situation. Then you aren't spending money on dates, so my saving money not paying for others should put us right on par.
Whoever does the asking out should pay. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman, if you ask someone out on a date and expect them to pay, you’re an asshole regardless of your gender. Just saying
@Tyme1313 If I like a guy, I’ll ask him out. And I’m prepared to pay every time but if a guy asks me out (and yes it does happen), he should pay. It’s just common courtesy really. That’s not me being a hypocrite. I’ve had it happen both ways.
I wouldn't say that they should pay the bill but maybe split the bill. I've had girls pay the bill before. In fact one would never let me pay, she would excuse herself to the bathroom and go and pay the bill... (she was weird). But at the same time I've also been out with girls who just expected me to pay, which is also fine as I go along expecting to do that anyway
A meal is a minimum of $20 and that's as cheap as you can generally get it. There's food at home which has already been paid for, so why not cook something instead? Cinemas are similar, around $20 a ticket, but you can watch something at home for free. To be fair we've been to the cinema together, but that was twice in an 8 month relationship. I have a 'luxury' budget of $60 a week, there is zero point spending upwards of 1/3 of that on something that's not worth it and can be done easier and cheaper at home.
I'm not American thank fuck. And yeah shit's expensive in australia, especially melbourne. But even still I don't know who actually likes restaurant dates. I'm not a foodie and it's a weird concept to me.
On the first date you don't know each other. One of you might as well just leave without a goodbye and make the other pay mo matter what. Both should be ready to pay. So don't you drink Veuve Clicquot on the first date.
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You should date men, that way you’ll happily pay.
Also, most of your point make no sense and don’t support your argument.
its a basic tradition of dating for the man to pay for the girl. It's an expectation actually. Unless the girl doesn't like you at the end of the date, she is going to ask to split the check.
I never said you should coddle her. If I wanted to go out to lunch with her, I'd offer to pay for us both, or I'd just not ask her to lunch with me. What I WOULDN'T do, is put her on the spot, and put her in a position to pay out money on a frivolous lunch, when that money is desperately needed elsewhere.
The bill should either be split or paid by the one that invited the other. I always pay my share of the bill and I don't think I'm responsible for the food the other person orders.
For a first date I would suggest splitting the bill. For future dates, the one who proposed the date should be expected to pay but of course their partner can offer to split the bill.
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I am so glad that I never have to face this retarded issue
You're lesbian?
How about whoever initiated gets to pay? That seems fair to me. There's also the option of just splitting the bill.
Catch 22, men almost always initiate
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I am not in the dating world, but when I go on lunch dates with female friends, I never expect them to pay. There is no reason they should pay unless she is the host or that was the condition she insisted on. Even then, I have tricked on paying all of myself because I just don't feels right. Again, just cultural.
The only thing I don't pay for is alcohol.
You are not in the dating world, splitting the bill with Friends, male or female is always the appropriate action.
Buddy, that’s just stupid. I never pay for one of my female friends when we go out. If I was on a date, he’ll yeah I’m paying, but what you’re doing is letting yourself be taken advantage of, and just dumb. Would you pay for a guy friend? Hell. No. Not unless they were in a bad spot once in awhile. Girls are the same way in that scenario.
I think it's my wish how I spend my money, right?
Being able to do something doesn’t mean that you should. That’s absolutely idiotic.
@Mornin23 you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.
@SarahsSummer fair enough
Which is why smart men who split the bill will always be more financially secure then you. 🤗
@Tyme1313 Hahahahaha. What a "smart" skill to make such accurate assumptions about others. I'm impressed.
No assumptions. If I dont spend extra money, and you do, I'm financially more secure. 🤗
@Tyme1313 Good for you if you feel that way.
It's not a feeling, just basic math.
@Tyme1313 I'm having a lavish life despite having kids in college. So I don't think your theory is making a lot of sense.
Not everybody's life revolves around feeding girlfriends or supporting family with a $10-20/hr or a $60,000/yr job. Some are more fortunate than others.
Lol, then yes we are in roughly the same situation. Then you aren't spending money on dates, so my saving money not paying for others should put us right on par.
@Tyme1313 I'm glad we came to the same conclusion. All's well that ends well. Haha.
Whoever does the asking out should pay. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman, if you ask someone out on a date and expect them to pay, you’re an asshole regardless of your gender. Just saying
That's pretty convenient when you're not even expected to ask out.
So how many guys have you asked out then? Sit down hypocrite.
Just my opinion. I guess I shouldn’t have used the asshole line but still.
@Tyme1313 If I like a guy, I’ll ask him out. And I’m prepared to pay every time but if a guy asks me out (and yes it does happen), he should pay. It’s just common courtesy really. That’s not me being a hypocrite. I’ve had it happen both ways.
And to answer your question, I don’t know exactly because I don’t count. And nope not sitting down. I’m entitled to my opinion.
I wouldn't say that they should pay the bill but maybe split the bill. I've had girls pay the bill before. In fact one would never let me pay, she would excuse herself to the bathroom and go and pay the bill... (she was weird). But at the same time I've also been out with girls who just expected me to pay, which is also fine as I go along expecting to do that anyway
No, split the bill on the first date. That way there is incentive there for neither see as a free meal. Both have stakes in the matter. Equality.
Interesting take, even though I don't necessarily agree. If you're a third wave feminist, then yes, you should pay.
Why not split the bill? although most guys will insist on paying.
anyways, I dont mind paying once in a while as long as it is not always me paying. Same for him. I'd feel bad.
Most guys won't insist on paying, and many do so simply because they assume you won't go out with them again unless they pay.
wow RIP rules of civility and politeness lol XD
Real men would be insulted for you to pay normally
Why is this such a big issue? Ideally I think both should split the cost or allow the couple in question to decide.
So I guess you didn't go to a psychologist as were adviced to...
I don't need one. I am not a hypocrite at all. I use logic.
You do need one.
Why do I need one?
@AngelicEmpress yesss girl yes...💞
What's wrong with splitting the bill? That's what I always insist on doing.
Who actually goes out for dates?
Plus pay for your own food
I know right! Girls just ask random dudes to go to their house and fuck them. That's what's because of dating.
no man, it's called hanging out at home.
Which is what I said...
you just hang out, smoke weed, watch a film. It's cheap. Restaurants aren't. I don't have that kind of money.
You don't go for a quick bite? The cinema?
A meal is a minimum of $20 and that's as cheap as you can generally get it. There's food at home which has already been paid for, so why not cook something instead? Cinemas are similar, around $20 a ticket, but you can watch something at home for free. To be fair we've been to the cinema together, but that was twice in an 8 month relationship. I have a 'luxury' budget of $60 a week, there is zero point spending upwards of 1/3 of that on something that's not worth it and can be done easier and cheaper at home.
Right well America is fucked up then because getting food and going to the cinema in Ireland is fairly affordable.
I'm not American thank fuck. And yeah shit's expensive in australia, especially melbourne. But even still I don't know who actually likes restaurant dates. I'm not a foodie and it's a weird concept to me.
Oh sorry, thought you were from the US. People in the US make a lot of money so I guess it's just inflation. Ah well.
On the first date you don't know each other. One of you might as well just leave without a goodbye and make the other pay mo matter what. Both should be ready to pay. So don't you drink Veuve Clicquot on the first date.
You should date men, that way you’ll happily pay.
Also, most of your point make no sense and don’t support your argument.
Nah bro good luck. Even the times when a girl asked to split the bill I knew the relationship wasn't gonna happen
What?
its a basic tradition of dating for the man to pay for the girl. It's an expectation actually. Unless the girl doesn't like you at the end of the date, she is going to ask to split the check.
You shovel it into your mouth, you pay for it. If a girl won't pay her own way, then move on.
It's different if she's a single mom who's struggling.
It's not different. She chose to get pregnant and have the baby, she shoulnd't be coddled for it.
I never said you should coddle her. If I wanted to go out to lunch with her, I'd offer to pay for us both, or I'd just not ask her to lunch with me. What I WOULDN'T do, is put her on the spot, and put her in a position to pay out money on a frivolous lunch, when that money is desperately needed elsewhere.
I've got better ways of dealing with women who won't pay their way.
The bill should either be split or paid by the one that invited the other. I always pay my share of the bill and I don't think I'm responsible for the food the other person orders.
For a first date I would suggest splitting the bill. For future dates, the one who proposed the date should be expected to pay but of course their partner can offer to split the bill.
Men also are hypocritical lol. People only want equality in the areas they deem convenient. Both sexes. It’s not just women.
No it's women mostly.
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@LonelyGuy87 lmao no. It isn’t.