But I'll play some devil's advocate for the devils here, and assume they are genuine. I'll assume, for the sake of all arguments, they want to help. I'll assume their advice comes from their heart, and I'll take it for granted. Even with all of this laid out, there is a lot of advice they give that is nonsensical, vague, and worst of all, contradictory.
In case you all are pondering on where I am getting the PUA's self-proclaimed "advice", I'm taking this from various websites, and Youtube videos. If you're bored, type in "PUA/Dating Coach Advice" on Google, and you will see similar advice. The advice tips I'm listing come from all over the internet, and in some cases, advice I've heard in real life. Here are four dating advice tips, according to these "PUAs."
PUA Advice: "Just be yourself."
This one takes the cake for its own absurdity. And this is one piece of advice I see from nearly everyone in dating, not just PUAs. Before you argue with me, tell me this: How much sense does it make to tell someone to "be yourself" while giving them advice...on how to change themselves.
If you tell someone to "be yourself", don't give them advice on the most efficient ways to change themselves.
Quite frankly, I never did agree with the advice anyway. I'm one of those people who are a "what you see is what you see" scenario, and that scenario has been a brutal experiment for me. Unfortunately, this hasn't granted me too much luck in the dating scene. Chances are, if I put on an act, it would help me to some degree with the opposite sex. The problem with me, is I'm too stubborn to change.
However, changing isn't necessarily a bad thing in the first place. In many cases, the problem is that you are being yourself in the first place. If you're hard-headed, maybe it's time to tone it down. If you're a poor man, maybe it's time to find a way to make more money. If you let yourself go, maybe it's time for an appearance change. Maybe "yourself" is a repel to others.
PUA Advice: "Women don't care about money; just wear nice clothes, cologne, have a nice place, a good car, etc."
Don't act like you haven't heard this charade.
Chances are, the angry male singleton will spout off "women only like guys with a lot of money", and rage into what appears to be a future mass-shooter. This is when the clever PUA shoots him down, and says "look, women don't care about how much money you make." This sounds good, right? What can go wrong saying this?
Well, first of all, it's not true for most women. But I won't even go there right now. Instead, here is the bigger problem.
After the PUA gets done being the white knight, he then states that women do care about a guy with nice clothes, a nice house, a nice car, and any other "nice" things. And of course, by the word "nice", the PUA is referring to clothes from Banana Republic, a new car, a large house, Calvin Klein cologne, and other luxury items.
If you're admitting women want you to have luxury items, you're admitting women want a man with a lot of money.
And cease on the term "financially stable." I'm a teacher, and I'm financially stable, but that doesn't mean a trip to Dubai on a first-class flight is anytime soon in the future. I have a 2015 Chevy Malibu, not an expensive foreign car. I have clothes from Walmart, because...I actually don't care about fashion that much.
However, if money doesn't pull women, does this mean the wealthy, famous men who pull women all the time are just...that sexy? It makes me wonder.
PUA Advice: Approach, Approach, Approach her.
According to PUA's, we're not humans.
Instead, we're uncivilized wild animals in the Savannah hunting each other. It's the male lion's duty to approach the female lion, no matter where she is at. This can be out in the open field, behind a bush, in the jungle, or with her peers.
In other words, approach a woman no matter who she is, how old she is, where she is, or who she's with.
If you approach a girl, and she tells she doesn't want to be approached, she probably doesn't want to be approached.
First of all, we're on the verge of entering the 2020s, and at this point, online dating is ingrained with our culture. We have several dating websites, applications, and unlike the good ol' days, online dating is not only socially acceptable, but expected. Perhaps before the online surge of dating, this would have been fine. But times have changed, and approaching women is quite rare in the first place.
Also, most women I come across don't actually want men to approach them, at least not among Generation Y'ers, and Generation Z'ers. Hell, the new Gilette commercial is making it quite clear we are sexual predators just for approaching women.
(P.S. I actually wish we met people like they did in the good ol' days. It's too bad we're all paranoid, and don't mingle with each other anymore).
PUA Advice: "Looks don't matter"
When it comes to men, this is the advice I actually agree with the most from the PUA's The problem is-just like every other problem I have with the PUA community-is how extreme they take their measures.
Of course looks matter to some extend, even for males. It's time to just face the reality that some men who are conventionally physically unattractive, and are deemed as "creeps" before anyone gets to know them. On the contrary, conventionally attractive men have no problems getting women to approach them.
And of course, most men fall in the middle, and are subjectively ranked by others. The bottom line is, your looks will play a role sometime in your life(not just dating), and it's time to ignore this obvious fact.
I'll stop here. What are some other things PUA's have said?