I agree with you that some of these are wrong to assume of all beautiful women but some ARE true in some cases. Some beautiful do have atrocious attitudes and feel they're above 99% of the men who approach them. Every "hot woman" I've been with has been a woman that approached me, never the other way around. I only approach cute women, I dont approach hot women specifically because I assume they all have 50 better guys chasing after them or they're too much work to keep interested. It saves me a lot of headache.
I've dated incredibly pretty girls, and I just don't get this argument. I've had to literally beat guys away from them, and the biggest reason I stopped going for the over-attractive type is that I got sick of the constant random men always trying to get with them.
If you are even a somewhat attractive female, and guys aren't all over you, it's probably you sending off 'leave me alone' signals or have incredible RBF or something.
Work, work, work... LOL! Just kidding. I know you're right. I think women get pretty scared to make some moves and feel just as much apprehension that the guy she likes is going to shut her down. It DOES happen! :)
Work on your inner self worth. How you present yourself to certain type of man. The exterior is just a cover... and its temporary. Men will look/stare longer at pretty things and will take it for a fun. Figure out what you want and find out what men want so that may close the gap of lonelness. I just noticed your age... What do you want?
I'm sorry but if all of this is true you are 1-in-a-1000. Many men pass on "beautiful" women due to bad experiences with them.
The really beautiful women tend to be brutal with average guys who approach them, are decidedly hypergamous, and frankly not worth the effort and heartache.
@Ayanna240 Seriously? Isn't this exactly what the article is about? All of you "lonely beautiful women" out there, who are desperate for any man to approach you?
Also, you are casually justifying cruelty to another person who simply showed interest in you. You sound like a real Karen.
I do get approached actually. Not all the time but I do get numbers here and there. But i can tell you that 85- 90% of the time, if you approach a girl who is clearly out of your league. She will reject you. Leagues do exist. This asker is just one of the rare exceptions.
@Chittychittybang you know what? I am waiting for the lockdown to get over. imma approach a guy back who tried to approach me. I felt good after reading this article. It did change my mind :)
@Ayanna240 "Asker is one of the rare exceptions", OK I agree with you on this point. I will never accept that being beautiful is a "problem" relative to all of the other problems other people face. Perhaps there are situational drawbacks to being "beautiful" but these are heavily outweighed by the net positives.
@KrakenAttackin, Beautiful girls tend to also attract a lot of perverts or womanizing, bad men cuz they're so attractive. Ya know, the types of guys who want to use them for sex rather than for a serious relationship. The good guys who want serious relationships are usually are too insecure or afraid of what she thinks, so they are less likely to talk to her.
@Ayanna240 So she needs to step up just a hair and be more proactive. If she shows interest in a guy her odds of getting his positive attention ate very high. Problem solved.
@Ayanna240. Also very hot women are known to be more hypergamous as they have so many options. This is obviously not an attractive trait for a potential male suitor.
@KrakenAttackin, Most guys never approach women in real life even if he finds her attractive. Its even more impossible to find a woman who approaches men. Not saying it never ever happens, it can but its very rare.
@KrakenAttackin everyone is a $slut nowadays, including man whores if you live in a modern day large city such as CA, NYC, washington etc. Unless you live in a tight knit tiny town Christian community then you're not gonna find many people willing to hookup. Nowadays people have sex on first dates and before they find out each others names
@KrakenAttackin , of course you're old school. you're 41? you probably grew up in an age where only guys asked out girls and girls are taught to never ask out guys. I would say that most people do not date online. But there are many many people who do date online. Men under 40 tend to have way more hookups , serial daters, less respectful towards women, social skills do not tend to be as good as the generations back then. Kids grow up more quickly than back then and are more prone to depression. Diets also have changed for the worse too compared to the 80s-90s
@Ayanna240 Maybe. This whole thing I see on GAG of people dating multiple people at the same time strikes me as absurd. If I had a second date with a woman with intent of a third I would NOT be dating anyone else and would expect the same of her. Call me crazy.
@Chittychittybang You need to keep in mind that just because a girl looks amazing, it does not mean she is the right person for you. Its the person you are marrying, not the person with makeup. Personality and compatibility is what decides the tone and longevity of the relationship. I've seen many guys who only date hot chicks from bars. But none of them can ever have a relationship that lasts over 8 months.
I honestly do not feel bad for you. Because if you knew you were so attractive, you would be able to talk to men yourself. Attractive girls befriend others easily. Its just that you have many women out there who are unwilling to put up with making any effort in life. We all have challenges in our lives. You're not any more special. Now go out and make an effort.
Nah, they don't. The kind of men who approach women will approach an attractive woman even harder than the rest, that's the reality.
Attractive women who aren't asked out don't exist. Women who tell themselves they are attractive but in reality aren't, yeah there are lots of those out there.
Also to add the thought pretty girls have nothing to offer besides face. So dates don’t engage in real conversations because they already made the assumption her looks consume her head, and then label her as an airhead or boring but really it’s because they don’t engage in actual conversation or are actually interested in the girl beyond her looks. Which just makes them dumb, superficial and more boring than the girl they claim to be is.
That's kind of like saying "I have known people who could afford pizza, but were pizza-less, not all of them by choice". To which my response would be: "Pick up the phone and order a pizza"/"Download Tinder and watch tsunami of matches make landfall"
It's interesting because I had been labeled as a "pretty girl" for so many years when I was younger, and I had a pretty low bar. I would turn over a rock to find my next boyfriend. It was idiotic. I did that because it just seemed like the ones I wanted didn't want me back.
I’m told I’m cute etc but have such a hard time finding a date. I get attention but not from the guys I want. It sounds like you get more attention than me, I assumed that because I don’t get the men I want must mean that men don’t find me attractive. I’ve given up dating lol
If men didn't find you attractive then you wouldn't be getting attention from any men. But you said that you do get attention, but because it's not from guys you're interested in then they apparently don't count. So either you're being selectively biased to exaggerate your situation or you don't consider guys who are interested in you that you're not interested in yourself as men.
You're an image in your own mind. You're lonely cuz your personality sucks - just re-read your post here. What we call a 'navel-gazer'. Your entire cognizance is a foot around your own bellybutton. LOL.
I usually like what you have to say most times, @Browneye57 - but I'm puzzled how you missed my point that people assume that a woman should be with someone because she's considered attractive and has other things to offer. How does a man know what a woman's personality is like if he doesn't pay any attention to her any more or less than another woman? How is that for a man to later on say to said-woman, "You should have a boyfriend" means her looks are valued enough that that alone should be the reason she has someone, but then a comment like yours now says the personality must suck and that's why there is no guy to begin with?
You have a dominate approach. And I'm here to tell you that attraction and desire cannot be negotiated - it's either there or it's not. If you're having trouble connecting with guys, that's on YOU, not them. And the ones that won't approach or get to know because they're self-defeatists, you don't want anyway - these are the weak ones and you'll be bored out of your f'ing mind. So keep your standards, go for what you really want, but make sure you're not playing games, cuz a high-value guy perceives hard-to-get as disinterest. If you like a guy, make sure he understands that - do what you need to to, seduce, discuss, pay attention to him. In order for a relationship to work there has to be mutual attraction and desire, and there has to be a willingness to meet them half way on everything. You can't MAKE it work, you just have to try your best.
What is your age? Do you really aspire to actually having a mate?
I'm 46 - it's on my profile, as is my marital status, which is married. Try to look at this myTake less about me, and more about the experiences of other women who I can say I know are attractive and I know them as good people - with myself just being in a position where others have told me the same thing. I do mention myself, but that's only because I knew how I felt - I can't speak for all women, but I'm pretty sure a lot felt the same way. This may not be a common thing either, but it does hopefully answer the question to people who ask, assuming looks matter: "Why is a pretty girl like you single?" I hope this makes sense now.
I would not put a lot of stock in the opinions of a few bimbos. Sorry. If a woman is good looking and the guys don't want her, I would look at her, not the guys.
Love can't start 'till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation. The truth is, most women are so self-absorbed they look around them for what caused them to be where they are in life, instead of looking at their own thoughts and decisions. It is ALWAYS the blame-game. Some fault of someone or something they cannot control. You even see in their word tracks, like... I was out of options I simply had no choice he made me feel _____ (fill in the blank)
The truth is, most women don't have much to offer - it's more about 'provisioning'. They're looking for a guy to entertain them, support them, validate them, complete them. If you pay attention you'll hear these things over and over and over. Just check out the Q's on here - why her boyfriend doesn't do what she thinks he should do. The expectations and entitlement mentality is at a fever level.
If a woman can't get a guy or keep a guy, it's probably a problem with the woman. Guys are pretty easy, just be tolerable, regular sex, and faithful, most men are not looking for a super model. Obviously young men are a different story, and most young women these days too. Other than sex most women these days don't have much to offer a man, and it's far safer for a man with-out a woman and usually happier.
@HedwigInABox You're preaching to the choir, but sometimes people who want no company ARE bad company, and that's why they think everyone else is, too.
Your image implies that a pretty girl has them beating down her door. My article talks about pretty girls who are not even approached, because believe it or not - that does happen. They're not even considered when someone is basing their looks on assumptions. (Ie. She MUST have a boyfriend, so don't bother. Or, she'll just dump you in two weeks when someone better comes along so don't bother. Just... don't bother.)
@KrakenAttackin notice how @Ozanne was lonelly but fucking random dudes, she basically just wanted the fuckboys to commit to her, now she just learned how to settle at age of 40
@TessCasie Absolutely not. But people have it in their minds that men will never approach women considered unattractive, but will always approach attractive women. These things just don't happen. This myTake is to let guys know that women who are attractive can also be passed over, and why. Just the same as seemingly unattractive women are certainly able to get a guy too (but that can be a different myTake.)
That's not really the point, yeah of course there are pretty women who are lonely, but they are the architects of their own prison, so there's NO POINT sympathizing with them, it's the fate they chose for themselves.
omg. bananaman, i completely agree with your answer. This girl clearly knows she is attractive yet she is not even trying to make an effort to talk to men. No sympathy for her here. If she truly wanted a man, she would go get it herself. Trust me.
@AdorableLilo Do you think less attractive people have the same problem? Being "beautiful" simply gives you options others do not have. Your choosing not to exercise these options is on you.
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I agree with you that some of these are wrong to assume of all beautiful women but some ARE true in some cases. Some beautiful do have atrocious attitudes and feel they're above 99% of the men who approach them. Every "hot woman" I've been with has been a woman that approached me, never the other way around. I only approach cute women, I dont approach hot women specifically because I assume they all have 50 better guys chasing after them or they're too much work to keep interested. It saves me a lot of headache.
I've dated incredibly pretty girls, and I just don't get this argument. I've had to literally beat guys away from them, and the biggest reason I stopped going for the over-attractive type is that I got sick of the constant random men always trying to get with them.
If you are even a somewhat attractive female, and guys aren't all over you, it's probably you sending off 'leave me alone' signals or have incredible RBF or something.
Some women end up unwittingly paying for other women's mistakes.
I think both sexes suffer that consequence :(
This is why they have to do some approaching as well, not just wait for guys to approach them. We're waiting! lol
Work, work, work...
LOL! Just kidding. I know you're right. I think women get pretty scared to make some moves and feel just as much apprehension that the guy she likes is going to shut her down. It DOES happen! :)
Work on your inner self worth.
How you present yourself to certain type of man.
The exterior is just a cover... and its temporary.
Men will look/stare longer at pretty things and will take it for a fun.
Figure out what you want and find out what men want so that may close the gap of lonelness.
I just noticed your age... What do you want?
Me? Nothing. I'm married.
I'm sorry but if all of this is true you are 1-in-a-1000. Many men pass on "beautiful" women due to bad experiences with them.
The really beautiful women tend to be brutal with average guys who approach them, are decidedly hypergamous, and frankly not worth the effort and heartache.
I agree 😓
That’s their loss and their weakness.
well thats what happens when you approach women out of your league.
@Ayanna240 Seriously? Isn't this exactly what the article is about? All of you "lonely beautiful women" out there, who are desperate for any man to approach you?
Also, you are casually justifying cruelty to another person who simply showed interest in you. You sound like a real Karen.
I do get approached actually. Not all the time but I do get numbers here and there.
But i can tell you that 85- 90% of the time, if you approach a girl who is clearly out of your league. She will reject you. Leagues do exist. This asker is just one of the rare exceptions.
@Chittychittybang you know what? I am waiting for the lockdown to get over. imma approach a guy back who tried to approach me. I felt good after reading this article. It did change my mind :)
@Ayanna240 "Asker is one of the rare exceptions", OK I agree with you on this point. I will never accept that being beautiful is a "problem" relative to all of the other problems other people face. Perhaps there are situational drawbacks to being "beautiful" but these are heavily outweighed by the net positives.
@Chittychittybang How is it their loss?
@KrakenAttackin, Beautiful girls tend to also attract a lot of perverts or womanizing, bad men cuz they're so attractive. Ya know, the types of guys who want to use them for sex rather than for a serious relationship. The good guys who want serious relationships are usually are too insecure or afraid of what she thinks, so they are less likely to talk to her.
@Ayanna240 So she needs to step up just a hair and be more proactive. If she shows interest in a guy her odds of getting his positive attention ate very high. Problem solved.
@Ayanna240. Also very hot women are known to be more hypergamous as they have so many options. This is obviously not an attractive trait for a potential male suitor.
@KrakenAttackin, Most guys never approach women in real life even if he finds her attractive. Its even more impossible to find a woman who approaches men. Not saying it never ever happens, it can but its very rare.
@KrakenAttackin everyone is a $slut nowadays, including man whores if you live in a modern day large city such as CA, NYC, washington etc. Unless you live in a tight knit tiny town Christian community then you're not gonna find many people willing to hookup. Nowadays people have sex on first dates and before they find out each others names
@Ayanna240 I guess I am old school. Is everything online now? Everything?
@Ayanna240 Well that is fucked up.
@KrakenAttackin , of course you're old school. you're 41? you probably grew up in an age where only guys asked out girls and girls are taught to never ask out guys.
I would say that most people do not date online. But there are many many people who do date online. Men under 40 tend to have way more hookups , serial daters, less respectful towards women, social skills do not tend to be as good as the generations back then. Kids grow up more quickly than back then and are more prone to depression. Diets also have changed for the worse too compared to the 80s-90s
@Ayanna240 Maybe. This whole thing I see on GAG of people dating multiple people at the same time strikes me as absurd. If I had a second date with a woman with intent of a third I would NOT be dating anyone else and would expect the same of her. Call me crazy.
@Ayanna240 no girls asked guys out when he was young. Not a normal occupancy though.
@TessCasie I wish you luck. I’m sure you will find a keeper. Oh btw- my comment was directed towards sackless men who lose out on dating women.
@Denial1984 if a guy can’t approach a beautiful woman, that’s his loss. My girl is a knock out. Weak men slithered away. I approached her.
@Chittychittybang You need to keep in mind that just because a girl looks amazing, it does not mean she is the right person for you. Its the person you are marrying, not the person with makeup. Personality and compatibility is what decides the tone and longevity of the relationship. I've seen many guys who only date hot chicks from bars. But none of them can ever have a relationship that lasts over 8 months.
I honestly do not feel bad for you. Because if you knew you were so attractive, you would be able to talk to men yourself. Attractive girls befriend others easily. Its just that you have many women out there who are unwilling to put up with making any effort in life. We all have challenges in our lives. You're not any more special. Now go out and make an effort.
Nah, they don't.
The kind of men who approach women will approach an attractive woman even harder than the rest, that's the reality.
Attractive women who aren't asked out don't exist.
Women who tell themselves they are attractive but in reality aren't, yeah there are lots of those out there.
Also to add the thought pretty girls have nothing to offer besides face. So dates don’t engage in real conversations because they already made the assumption her looks consume her head, and then label her as an airhead or boring but really it’s because they don’t engage in actual conversation or are actually interested in the girl beyond her looks. Which just makes them dumb, superficial and more boring than the girl they claim to be is.
I'm aware of that. I've known some very attractive women who were single, not all of them by choice.
That's kind of like saying "I have known people who could afford pizza, but were pizza-less, not all of them by choice". To which my response would be: "Pick up the phone and order a pizza"/"Download Tinder and watch tsunami of matches make landfall"
@Denial1984 It's more like, they could afford a pizza, but there's no pizza joint nearby, or the pizza joint is closed.
Or more like, the pizza in their country is really bad.
Very interesting mytake, thanks! I wonder if in some ways pretty girls don't set their standards too high? What do you think?
It's interesting because I had been labeled as a "pretty girl" for so many years when I was younger, and I had a pretty low bar. I would turn over a rock to find my next boyfriend. It was idiotic. I did that because it just seemed like the ones I wanted didn't want me back.
I know the feeling... :(
A lot of times they can't get any friends at all, male for the reasons you mentioned, and female because of jealousy.
I’m told I’m cute etc but have such a hard time finding a date. I get attention but not from the guys I want. It sounds like you get more attention than me, I assumed that because I don’t get the men I want must mean that men don’t find me attractive. I’ve given up dating lol
If men didn't find you attractive then you wouldn't be getting attention from any men. But you said that you do get attention, but because it's not from guys you're interested in then they apparently don't count. So either you're being selectively biased to exaggerate your situation or you don't consider guys who are interested in you that you're not interested in yourself as men.
You're an image in your own mind. You're lonely cuz your personality sucks - just re-read your post here. What we call a 'navel-gazer'. Your entire cognizance is a foot around your own bellybutton. LOL.
I usually like what you have to say most times, @Browneye57 - but I'm puzzled how you missed my point that people assume that a woman should be with someone because she's considered attractive and has other things to offer. How does a man know what a woman's personality is like if he doesn't pay any attention to her any more or less than another woman? How is that for a man to later on say to said-woman, "You should have a boyfriend" means her looks are valued enough that that alone should be the reason she has someone, but then a comment like yours now says the personality must suck and that's why there is no guy to begin with?
You have a dominate approach. And I'm here to tell you that attraction and desire cannot be negotiated - it's either there or it's not.
If you're having trouble connecting with guys, that's on YOU, not them. And the ones that won't approach or get to know because they're self-defeatists, you don't want anyway - these are the weak ones and you'll be bored out of your f'ing mind.
So keep your standards, go for what you really want, but make sure you're not playing games, cuz a high-value guy perceives hard-to-get as disinterest. If you like a guy, make sure he understands that - do what you need to to, seduce, discuss, pay attention to him.
In order for a relationship to work there has to be mutual attraction and desire, and there has to be a willingness to meet them half way on everything. You can't MAKE it work, you just have to try your best.
What is your age? Do you really aspire to actually having a mate?
I'm 46 - it's on my profile, as is my marital status, which is married. Try to look at this myTake less about me, and more about the experiences of other women who I can say I know are attractive and I know them as good people - with myself just being in a position where others have told me the same thing. I do mention myself, but that's only because I knew how I felt - I can't speak for all women, but I'm pretty sure a lot felt the same way. This may not be a common thing either, but it does hopefully answer the question to people who ask, assuming looks matter: "Why is a pretty girl like you single?" I hope this makes sense now.
I would not put a lot of stock in the opinions of a few bimbos. Sorry.
If a woman is good looking and the guys don't want her, I would look at her, not the guys.
Love can't start 'till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation. The truth is, most women are so self-absorbed they look around them for what caused them to be where they are in life, instead of looking at their own thoughts and decisions. It is ALWAYS the blame-game. Some fault of someone or something they cannot control. You even see in their word tracks, like...
I was out of options
I simply had no choice
he made me feel _____ (fill in the blank)
The truth is, most women don't have much to offer - it's more about 'provisioning'. They're looking for a guy to entertain them, support them, validate them, complete them. If you pay attention you'll hear these things over and over and over. Just check out the Q's on here - why her boyfriend doesn't do what she thinks he should do. The expectations and entitlement mentality is at a fever level.
I don’t disbelieve or discount your experience, but I’ve never encountered an attractive woman who was lonely.
Lonely pretty girls do exist & some of them are stuck up & probably will be lonely for life if they don’t change their ways.
Very interesting and very true. I have met my share of beautiful women who were lonely.
Ozanne this is an interesting myTake and I don't doubt in the least that there pretty girls who are lonely.
If a woman can't get a guy or keep a guy, it's probably a problem with the woman. Guys are pretty easy, just be tolerable, regular sex, and faithful, most men are not looking for a super model. Obviously young men are a different story, and most young women these days too. Other than sex most women these days don't have much to offer a man, and it's far safer for a man with-out a woman and usually happier.
A lonely girl is like a starving millionaire: no one to blame but yourself.
Sometimes no company is better than bad company.
@HedwigInABox You're preaching to the choir, but sometimes people who want no company ARE bad company, and that's why they think everyone else is, too.
An attractive girl can be surrounded by many people and yet be lonely. Monica Bellucci in the movie Malena showed this beautifully.
Your image implies that a pretty girl has them beating down her door. My article talks about pretty girls who are not even approached, because believe it or not - that does happen. They're not even considered when someone is basing their looks on assumptions. (Ie. She MUST have a boyfriend, so don't bother. Or, she'll just dump you in two weeks when someone better comes along so don't bother. Just... don't bother.)
Are you trying to say girls who are being approached by men aren’t pretty enough?
@HedwigInABox "Bad company" is anyone but a giga-chad apparently.
@AdorableLilo Being surrounded but lonely is a reality for anyone not just the really hot people.
@KrakenAttackin Where in my comment did i say it only happends to attractive girls, drear?
@KrakenAttackin notice how @Ozanne was lonelly but fucking random dudes, she basically just wanted the fuckboys to commit to her, now she just learned how to settle at age of 40
@AFellowWeeb Women's intuition not so good at self-reflection, scientists say...
@TessCasie Absolutely not. But people have it in their minds that men will never approach women considered unattractive, but will always approach attractive women. These things just don't happen. This myTake is to let guys know that women who are attractive can also be passed over, and why. Just the same as seemingly unattractive women are certainly able to get a guy too (but that can be a different myTake.)
That's not really the point, yeah of course there are pretty women who are lonely, but they are the architects of their own prison, so there's NO POINT sympathizing with them, it's the fate they chose for themselves.
@AFellowWeeb Yup, "single" usually means riding the cock carousel.
omg. bananaman, i completely agree with your answer. This girl clearly knows she is attractive yet she is not even trying to make an effort to talk to men. No sympathy for her here. If she truly wanted a man, she would go get it herself. Trust me.
@AdorableLilo Do you think less attractive people have the same problem? Being "beautiful" simply gives you options others do not have. Your choosing not to exercise these options is on you.
@Bananaman177. Look at all the entitled, clueless, women who down voted you. How predictable!
@Ozanne. Pretty girls who never get approached don't exist. Perhaps you aren't that pretty.
@AFellowWeeb That's exactly right.
Preach it! I get sad when pretty girls are lonely too🥺 💔.