Why women should have higher standards for dating! (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

This is helpful but stop calling people beta, poor, short and these things. Just stop it.
Nobody deserves to feel like an inferior human being. Nobody is trash, they just aren't your cup of tea. Most people have unrealistic standards anyway. Most people live well below their potential. Everybody is chasing the 3% and they can't even tell the real 3% from the phony people who simply went to college. by the way It literally says you're divorced... Shouldn't give advice on relationships. You've proved you don't know what you're doing if you really are divorced.

[Quigly]

Higher standards?

Many women have unrealistic standards,

They are consumed with fictional nonsense the media puts in their heads from a young age and then meet the real world when they start dating. Reality just isn't good enough for them and the relationship becomes toxic. This leaves many women lonely, bitter and out of touch thinking there is always something better out there. They were told so by the media so it must be true.

Women have been trained to hate reality.

[JamesDiaz11]

Where do you get this sense of worth? I think men have the complaint that your sense of what you deserve is inflated- so, the statement "settling/ dating down," is mistaken because it assumes your value is high, when it's far more likely that it is not.

This is the reason most women over 30 will be unmarried and childless in 5-10 years.

[bamesjond0069]

I agree and disagree at the same time. I see women have in some ways insanely high standards and then in the meantime they have no standards and are slumming it with a starter boyfriend or hookups.

So simultaneously they have high and low standards instead of just reasonable standards. This gives men the choice of jump the high bar or crawl in the mud and tbh its easier to lay on the ground than it is to jump over a high bar... so generally this is the results women get. Even the men who could jump the high bar don't want to do that because it's still easier for them to lay down. Lol.

[inhua]

there's only a very limited number of men who fit these unrealistic standards women have though and if you're gonna have high standards you better hold yourself to high standards too even for factors outside of your control.

want a billionaire 6'3dude with 5% body fat? you better be a billionaire 6'3 girl with 5% body fat yourself.

[chicosuave]

its not that there is a small percentage of those men who women value. they just do not exists. Bill gates and all these other super high valuable man like tom brady are divorced and maybe multiple times. Yet this are men of super high caliber. Yet the women they are with are super delusional and are transferring themselves to other men and they keep doing the same. This all comes down of which gender is the initiator of divorces and break ups. Today you will never keep them happy because of the mindset the media has portrayed on them.

[Red-Blaze]

From one side, abslotly
On the outher, if you looking for a knight with shining armor, you may just die alone, some do have unreasable standards, even more with what they bring to the table
High standards is great, but you should make sure to first of all have possible once
And second have as high as you can bring to it, or you may just have the story in reverse, and no one ends happy there in the end

[TenderFantasy]

Yep. When I was younger (mid 20's to early 30's) my standards were as long as I found him attractive and he had a shlong between his legs lol.

I learned the hard way sadly.

I am almost in my 40's so if it's not too late, I would LOVE to have a better relationship than the ones that were from my past!

[bean2k21]

MGTOWs are afraid of rejection? Such self-flattery for a British girl is hilarious. Let's see, who are some MGTOWs? Sir Isaac Netwon. Ralph Waldo Emerson. Do you honestly think these great men give that much of a fuck about you? Calculus and philosophy are much more interesting.

[GrantArmstrong]

You missed the main reason women should be selective, apparently because you haven't realized it: people don't reduce to a single number that says how "high" they are on some scale. There are women who would love a short, submissive man and don't care about his income as long as he cooks well and gives a great massage, or whatever they like most. And they shouldn't settle for less!

[wowop99266]

So to you a short man is obligated to be submissive?

[Guanfei]

That's just a huge pile of bullshit. Enjoy being single the rest of your life.

Especially when we realize your double standards, as you wouldn't accept from men just a couple of standards. You're just one of those women with an ego so high that they think they deserve the best men in the world, while being average at best, and bringing nothing but her own self-centered view to the table.

[Twalli]

There are reasonable standards and unreasonable standards. No girl should have a long list of standards. My sister had 3. Male, not named T... (my name which I won't give here), not a Chicago Cubs fan. All reasonable, especially the second one, most people don't prefer being called their surname all the time. My dad did, but most people don't.

[JosyJosy]

Everyone shouldn't date down, but we have to be realistic. We have our wants and needs, but so do they and you've got to compromise and sacrifice a bit here and there to make it work together

[strateguy632]

i am agreed with you

[Chthou95]

You want a small rare percentage of men that will meet those standards and these men have other women pursuing them. Why should a high value man choose you? Because that's what want when they say high standards. You're not the prize here. So by all means have high standards but most women don't know the difference between unrealistic and realistic standards

[Anonymous]

Ooop. This turned into a 🍿mytake. So many people offended this effects them negatively. Something to point out they might need to work on themselves to better.

[Anonymous]

Great. Advising women to not date broke guys and short guys instead of looking at the bigger picture.

And of course your immaturity was exposed as soon as you said "beta men".

Caution is advised with this one ladies.

[xJeremyx]

It applies for everyone, not just women, honestly. Good points.

These are good tips for men looking for partners too. 👍

[tydyend1]

Should women have high standards absolutely. Both men and women should. But it’s depending on what those high standards are and what you bring to the table. And understanding that from that equation what your realistic chances are.


As I said everyone should have high standards.

[Anonymous]

Your article was okay till the last line , from last line it's obvious that you are a piece of shit kinda women who is just afraid being more than thirty. Not dating poor , short men or men who are afraid being laughed at isn't a dating standard. It's shaming those guys who can also be genuinely good.

By your same logic and men's standards a 31 year old women is garbage too

[strateguy632]

the conclusion is so shallow and bad advice. also the title "higher" than what. each person is a different mix.

[Labokachulaa]

I agree with this, high doesn't mean unrealistic. Lol

It seems that most people confuse high and unrealistic.