What does it mean that you still walk out in society without a burka or hijab on?
I mean seriously. Girls need attention and validation that they're sexually desirable, guys need attention and validation that they're sexually desirable. The only difference is that girls can just sit there and have guys give it to them, whereas guys have to make an effort first, get a girl interacting with him, and then just see if she's interested in him that way or not.
Doesn't mean anything beyond him just trying to feel good about himself and see that he still has it (outside of just between you and him). If you want to turn it into something else so you can take that away from him because you're insecure or needy, or want to feel like you're the only one, then may I also suggest the following device:
www.amazon.com/.../B008SM473S
Now, you don't have to just limit yourself with having his emotional sense of well-being and feel-goodness on lock-down, you can also deprive him of sexual release unless you're in the mood, so that any pleasure he has in life is given exclusively through you. . . after all, that's the whole power trip you're suffering from isn't it? Want to be the exclusive gate-keeper to anything that makes him feel good?
I think you need to get more comfortable with the idea that he actually prefers being with you as opposed to other people, so you don't need to resort to doing these things or feeling this way out of fear or insecurity, in order to have him prefer or want to be with you. If you let your fear and insecurity get the best of you, he "WILL" leave you.
Social media has become a good route for deception with people today. I am not on Tinder but from what my friends say, it's used for hooking up. If he asked someone out then you are being played. People think cheating is strictly doing physical actions but that is not accurate. Cheating can be in different forms. I would break up with him or take a break, and take time to process this outside of being in the relationship. Do you really want to be with someone that is displaying this behavior? Just make sure your reading the signs and know that this is indeed a red flag that can spare you further heartbreak. Best of luck in this shitty situation he put you in.
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Have you two agreed to be exclusive yet? If not, then you may want to have that talk if him on there is making you uncomfortable.
If you HAVE had the talk, and he's STILL on there, you definitely need to tell him you know.
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