What is an acceptable age gap when dating? (Page 2)

[Coffinspire]

I think it depends on the maturity gap, not the number gap. I'll explain, a 15 year old is a lot different in maturity than an 18 year old, so that's too old. An 18 year old is a lot different than a 24 year old, a little old but is doable if the 18 year old is mature. I think after your mid 20s, people usually get on the same level as adults (some more than others, but generally speaking)

[tomakievil]

He sounds like a good guy! That's all that matters.
I'm almost certain I found my perfect guy and we have been together for about 8 months or so. He is 8 years older than me, and I'm 19.
My parents weren't very thrilled but all of my family likes him because they knew him since he was a kid.

[nokyso]

I look at it as in there might be a difference in what you want out of it. 10years is not a lot but he might be ready to get married, have kids, buy a house etc. and at 21 you might not want that just yet. So think of all of that when making a desicion. Thats how I think when approaching a love interest of a different age.

[Kartusha]

I think age is not important if you love each other. I had relationship with older guy and also with same age as mine and it didn´t last long. I wouldn´t follow other opinions if I love somebody. You know best what is good for you. Follow your heart and resume if you want stay with him or not. Good luck :)

[Lovemuffin31]

I married my husband when I was 21, he was 32. We have been married over 10 years. Tbh my parents were not thrilled about it at first but they grew to accept it. Especially after getting to know him and how I felt about him. We never really saw the age gap. It's really all about the situation.
Since your mom knows him, I would talk to her about it first. Let her hear your argument, and you never know, she might come around.

[risaharue]

I am sixteen, and I am crazy in love with a guy six years older than me. I even used to like a guy that was more than ten years older than me, lol. In my opinion age gaps are not important... well unless it's a thirty years age gap. Anyway, I hope everything gies well

[ZachD]

It depends on what you feel comfortable with. If you are genuinely attracted to the person and the fact that others may judge you and disapprove of your relationship doesn't bother you, then any age gap is acceptable. And just FYI, I've known multiple couples with reader than 10 year age gaps who had long happy relationships.

[Sweetiepie2120]

I draw the line at a certain age gap. The only problem with big age gaps, in my opinion, is that if the gap is big enough, it's hard to have much in common... especially from one another's time. But if you feel comfortable with the age gap, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks!

[Levin]

dude, I wasn't born in the Victorian era =/

[Sweetiepie2120]

Lol. I see what you did there. What I meant is that there was different things happening in lets say the early 70's to the 90's. There are things that people dating with large age gaps would have trouble relating to certain things that happened in their year
@Levin

[killerbunny52]

If you really like him go for it but if u feel it would be unconfortable then don't do it its all about preference and highly on how mature you both are if your more mature for your age or he us less mature for his it will have a higher chance if working out.

[silvergirl06]

I wouldn't say it was that big, if you like him then ignore it. the only problem is that you two are in different stages in life, he's ready to start settling down and find a career and possibly make a family and you're just starting your adult life and still want to have fun before you settle down. definitely keep him around but consider not committing 100% yet.

[prettyface]

Age is just a number but sometimes it plays a role. I tend to like older men but the age difference may be bit hard on compromising such as you my want to party and he wants to settle down. I think that if you two are serious about it then go ahead and try to make it work.

[SoccerDiva]

I don't think age matters I just personally couldn't date someone 10 years older than me. My limit is 5 years older and a year younger, (I am only 20 so if I go any younger I get into high school kids)

[Anonymous]

Me and my man have an 11 year gap, my parents have a 12 year gap, I know a couple with a 20 and two couples with a 40 yr gap!! Don't worry at all about the age. :) it's great dating an older man. They're a lot more mature and wayyyy more respectful towards women. In my experience.

[opugh93]

currently dating 38 y/o. ex was older than that. as long as you two are on the same pages in life then you're golden. just expect others' unwarranted comments.

[Strivous]

The only concerns I would have with this is it would look like he's dating a 'girl', and women on average, already outlive men by a considerable amount, I wouldn't assume that tacking on 10 more years, spouseless after his death, would be desired. Thats the 'rational' side of it, my other side about relationships is that I believe that you should love people for 'who' they are, not 'what' they are.

[Meedo]

The other day. An 18 year old wanted to go on a date with me. I am 38

[NotTheFBI]

The youngest I've dated was 21 and that was perfectly fine. That being said the fact that you brought up that he has his own farm and jobs makes me kinda shy away a bit from this question; I hope it's because you like him and not because of his status. Not saying that your that kind of person but I have meet to many women like that. Once they know 'who' you are things can get complicated fast.

[Anonymous]

Well I dated someone that was 17 years older than me when I was 18. Bad decision all around. But seeing as though its only 10 years and that he really seems interested in you and wants to be with you, means he probably is a really great catch. Age is only a number with this guy. If he talks about you that much and especially to your mother, and is that successful, he's going to treat you right.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date someone who's 10 years older than me now. Maybe in a few years, I will be able to do that. 10 years is too much for me.
I'm not mature enough and I have no sexual experience. A 32 year old man would never want to be in a relationship with someone like me.
Age plays an important role sometimes. Some relationships don't work out because of the age gap.

I would say that more than 5 years older than me, is too old.

[cavmanier]

I don't see how ten years difference is bad. What's most important is if you like each other and are attracted.