I overreacted should I text him?

[Anonymous]

A guy I used to see got in contact two weeks ago. We fell out the last time because I felt he wasn't interested. So he added me as a friend on Fb but the same thing I just get the feeling he couldn't be bothered. So I broke off contact with him but now I'm thinking I made a mistake and should have just worked on our friendship first. I kind of started to think the worse and I overreacted about the situation. I really want to get in contact, if a girl done this to you would you ever talk to her again?

[Exatorian]

Haha; that’s hardly overreacting. Stop stressing and get in contact with him.

YOu want overreacting try a waking up to a girl abusing my for a rumour I didn’t start. Ie her and I were sleeping together lol. Even now I would scould her for that; id just make it clear I wouldn’t tolerate that reaction next time.

[Falamalabobala]

Just text him take it easy and think before you react everytime.

[Anonymous]

If you're the one pursueing him it won't work. Accept the loss, guys like the chase and do not like to be the one chased, he will just take advantage of that and I feel you would probably get hurt in the long run, he won't respect a girl who throws herself at him, men like to work for it.
By all means if he contacts you first, go with it, but I wouldn't expect it and definitely don't initiate considering he's already tried and has since stopped trying.

[Asker]

He was the one that always made contact first but I always pushed him away. After a year he got back in contact and I pushed him away again he never once took advantage of me.

[Opinion Owner]

Thats when he was pursuing you. I mean, once the roles are reversed he won't take you seriously, only take advantage.

[Thehelper101]

That's not true if he is really interested in her he's hardly going to change his mind in two weeks and use her. It's 50/50 men like to be pursued too I don't know where you've got that information from.

[Opinion Owner]

@Thehelper101 My experiences of men. If you're the one who is eager and they view you as easy they will just take advantage of that. Being the one to initiate things makes you really easy, no chase at all. Just sex to them, they won't have genuine feelings for you. Of course, as you say this is not all men but this has been my experience with majority of men.

And how can he possibly be "really interested in her" when she was originally getting vibes that he wasn't even bothered... I'll tell you why he didn't seem bothered. Because he thought he had her in the bag, she was too available straight away and thats why he started to lose interest.

[Falamalabobala]

You're definitely a man hater!!! She was thinking he wasn't interested because maybe she is panicking. She said it herself she keeps pushing him away and he still keeps coming back. How would he think he had her in the bag if she's the one that keeps breaking it off with him? I think your own bad experiences with men are cloudy your judgment maybe because you were the one always being used.

[Opinion Owner]

@Falamalabobala i dont fucking care then she can get fucked and ditched im only trying to save her the heartache lol but fine.

[Opinion Owner]

@Falamalabobala i mean literally have you even READ what she put? she misses the attention and so she's looking back at it with rose coloured glasses. if a girl said how much a guy liked her and put specific things that they had said to her I would encourage them to go for it, but in this instance I really REALLY don't think thats the case at all. When it was actually happening TWICE she felt he wasn't really putting effort in or interested. Thats what she thought when it was happening which means it is most likely what happened. Now she's thinking back and RE-analyzing it when it was in the past it might not "seem so bad" but your initial instincts are usually right. offer your own advice instead of criticizing mine please, thank you.

[Falamalabobala]

Thanks for mail and for blocking me because you are a sad person that thinks all men are the same so all women should walk around miserable just because you are. You just come off with mailing me calling me pathetic when you just told a girl who no nothing about that she is being used for sex and she will look desperate if she for once makes a first move.

[Falamalabobala]

Think before you write and before you label all men the same.

[Opinion Owner]

@Falamalabobala no i went on your profile and saw that you have a habit of replying to comments on anyone's posts that have different opinions to you. news flash, it's PERFECTLY OK for other people to have a different opinion. And I will give people advice on a CASE BY CASE BASIS. From the (little) information I have been given here I have seen nothing positive about this guy. If I saw some inclination that he genuinely liked her I would be the first to say to give it another shot.

And do you mind not personally attacking me, what kind of weirdo are you? I've got a different opinion to you so I deserve to be belittled? You're saying I'm judging all men, well you're judging me off of one post so don't pretend you know anything about me and back the fuck off. Freak.

[Anonymous]

You should text him if it doesn't work at least you know you've tried.