I don't think that there really is a right answer here or at least more than one. Option B is the best one because it's the truth, C is correct but it's not good to sneek around and disobey your parents, and option A is true because if/when you get caughyti can only imagine the havoc it's going to call but I really do feel that the boy and your young love is worth it.
I don't want to encourage you to get in trouble but at the same time I don't want you to miss out on something wonderful.
If you can wait maybe you should wait until you're 18 to date him that way your parents can't have a say so, but you really like him go meet/hang out with him when your friend goes to be with his brother that way you won't be lying to your parents when you say you're with her.
But in my mind as I read this all I could think of was the story of Romeo and Juliet the star cross lovers.
In the end the decision is yours... Good luck 👍
Don't listen to your parents, Love knows no color, their views are ridiculous
Live YOUR life. Your life isn't you parents or anyone else's but yours. I wish I could say most parents aren't like that but lots are. My dad didn't want me dating a white guy. Guess what I do? I dated him anyways, and guess what my dad did? Excepted it while we were together. He SEEN that this wonderful guy was good to me and he accepted him with open arms after a a year. We aren't together anymore because he moved after graduation (his mom HATED me) but my dad know not to misjudged anymore.
Who's going to be involved with this guy; you, or your parents?
Ask them why you can't be with him. Get them to try to justify their actions.
I'd say just do as you please but you're under 18, still living under their roof and quite a ways off from being independent. Try to reason with them that he's a great guy, and that him not being white does not make him any worse. Hopefully they'll warm up to the idea.
Take this from a white girl who also had issues with her parents accepting the fact that her boyfriend is not white.
I can't tell you to go against your parents because you're still living under their roof. I don't agree with them tho. But for now you should stop. You could probably try to plead your case, but I don't think it'd help much. Once you're out of their house and making your own way, feel free to date who you want.
u You should not go behind your parents' back because that will cause a heap of problems for you. If you and Mr. Wonderful are meant to be, it will still be right when you turn 18. However, remember that you haven't met him, so you can't really know whether you would be compatible, and sometimes the man basis of an attraction is that the relationship is forbidden.
this is difficult since disobeying your parents can have serious consequences and make you wonder if it's worth taking the risk... but me personally, I'd go for it. my mother wasn't very thrilled when I dated a white girl in high school but I figured I'm not going to follow rules that I don't believe in on principle
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I understand why people vote for "dont listen to your parents", because its not right to decide over someone in that matter especially for a stupid reason like that. But I still voted for listen to your parents because he is maybe gone, maybe you two find out that this relationship doesn't work, maybe he cheats on you. doesn't matter which race he is, young relationships are more likely to break. Believe it or not. But your parents will stay. Never stand against your family. If you're older and ready to marry someone, thats when you can fight for your love.
so ignorant of this girls circumstances! all those who voted B!
Asker, listen to me carefully, your parents will ultimately ruin your relationship, it will be a sacrifice, your parents love for a fleeting childish relationship
the relationship will end, and you will have bitter parents to turn towards dont date him!
i dated a black girl in HS and it was dreadful being shunned by my mom, and it put stress on my girlfriend, me and ultimately my girlfriend left me we only dated for 2months
its tricky and difficult just dont get involved
wait until you can take care of yourself before turning on your parents
You are almost 18. Just wait a tiny while until you can move out and then you can date anyone you please. They may still be unhappy but they'll probably get over it.
For fucks sake 2015 why are people are still opposed to dating outside their ethnicity?
Yeah, this would mainly be up to you. But race shouldn't matter when it comes to friendship or love. Since you're young, just don't let your parents see the guy. When you're 18, you can stand up to your parents speak your mind but don't say anything right now.
If your parents are gonna kick you out for something like this, then it's not worth it for some boy. Their views are horrific, but you shouldn't jeopardize your future to go against them. Just put up with it for now, and then do as you wish when you move out and have your own income.
You would have to be over 18 and living outside of your parents' home for that to work out
It's sad that people still have racial issues..
But, at your age, be careful to not get yourself in mkre trouble than it's worth with them.
Them not wanting you to date someone not the same race as you is ridiculous, if it's what makes you happy then date him. Your parents will eventually see how happy you are and they won't care that he is a different race.
Not much you can do while you still live with your parents. Going behind their backs might make your life hell. When you're on your own you can do whatever you want.
fuck what your parents think. it is your life, not theirs. you are big and old enough to decide who you date
just make sure that you are dating him for the right reasons not because your parents tell you no. also you should be upfront with your parents. it will only cause hurt in the long run if you hide it.
As a heavily mixed guy, I particularly hate how ignorant your parents are.
Honestly it's gonna be difficult because if you go behind your parents back and date him their gonna make it impossible for you two to date
I disagree with your parents. You should be able to date a guy of a different color of skin. However, I will say you should wait a few years before you date. That way, you can get your future more in order.
That awkward moment when you bring a green & orange alien home to meet your dad...
In your situation I would date the girl behind my parents back, which I have... My parents also are not very cool with me dating or marrying a white girl, but they will have to deal with it whether they like it or not
If you really like him just lie about it... if you dont then its not worth it
Dang I have a friend like that. Her parents refuse to let her date anyone who isn't black. But my parents have always told me follow your heart.
Date him behind their backs, but only for fun. Don't let it get serious. You're only 16 lol.
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