lmao oh god. this is the worst thing I've ever read. You didn't really mess up, I know what you meant. She does, too. It's obvious. She's just feeling bad about herself and looking for reasons to self-loathe. There was no reply to that message that would make her feel good about herself, you know?
A few things are important: you were right to try and take the conversation away from her comparing her looks to the other girls'. That's very destructive for her. Even if you say 'no, you are much better looking than her, blah blah' and she believes you (she wouldn't), it'd just reinforce the anxiety to look good (to look better than the other girl), blah blah.
She already knows you didn't mean to say that, so don't worry about convincing her. If it comes up in the future, try not to play the game of sorrows at all. Honestly, I really don't have a good solution to this problem. I've never been in a serious relationship and not had this situation come up. I think all girls have explosive episodes of self-loathing; it's a response to trauma (and all girls are traumatized). I have never found a good way of dealing with this.
Make sure to compliment her a lot when she's *not* feeling like this, I think. Because here's the thing: when she most needs the reassurance, reassurance won't help her. As with all things fate is cruel. But she won't believe a word you say when she feels like this. Better to take her by surprise - 'hey, uhm... you're really beautiful, you know?' - and make her feel good *when she's with you*, in general. At your best you can be a moment away from the pressure and anxiety of the world for her, where she doesn't need to worry about what people think. But it takes a very long time to get to that stage.
Anyway, that's my advice. It's not very good, sorry. Relationships are pretty rough! But you did good, champ, believe me! Good luck!
hahahaha. You committed the cardinal sin of being honest. lol!
Yeah, honesty and our feelings don't really go hand and hand even though we always say we want someone honest. lol!
This will be fine. All you need to do is show her you want her. You desire her. And you can't wait to have HER.
Whatever that means to you guys, do that - make it so she knows SHE is the only one.
Good luck. :)
I don't really think you said anything wrong, and she's putting that all on you though, she has to realize that you are no longer with your ex no matter what reason. If she's constantly going to be comparing herself to the past then there's no future.
You deserve better than that. She's playing your mind for attention with her negative self image. You deserve a woman who has confidence.
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Oh god! That sounds like a convo teens would have. Do people still worry about shit like that?
Please PLEASE don't tell me you guys are 30...
That conversation was cringe asf.
You fucked up bad dude.
Lmfao. Cringe
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