Me (23M) and my girlfriend (27F) have been dating officially for around two weeks, and have been going out for almost two months. Before we met, I recently ended a two year relationship that resulted in me being cheated on, and discovering it through social media posts of my ex and the man they cheated with together (for context, it gave me a lot of trauma and trust issues considering how much my ex told me she would never do such a thing, and how she’d been cheated on before) In these two months, we have formed an intense bond together. She’s been single (many almost relationships but a man has never committed until me) since she was 18, and I am technically her first boyfriend. She has told me many things about herself she has never told anyone before, and taken many steps she’s never done for a man before (posting on her social media, sharing her location through GPS app, telling her parents and friends). I find her extremely sweet and genuine and I don’t know how a man has never given her this commitment that I am giving her before. However, when she’s hungry or tired, or sometimes when she’s just normal, she has a tendency to say hurtful or mean things without realizing until later. She’s been single for so long, she has never had to take another persons emotion into consideration, which I understand. But sometimes it is still hurtful to hear. The other day she said she found it stressful to be my girlfriend after years of being single, because now she feels she has to answer my texts and hang with me, instead of enjoying alone time, or ignoring men like she used to. And this morning after a sleepless night due to my snoring I recently developed, she said for the first time in our relationship she misses her own bed and thinks the snoring might cause us to break up if I don’t fix it, even after all we have been through in a short amount of time. She later apologized for these and realized they were not right to say. What do I say to her about this?
Girls, How do I deal with my girlfriend saying mean things unintentionally?
What Girls Said
Well you say to her that there are things that you can both work on and come to a compromise. Then you wanna sit down and see what issues can be addressed. If she needs more "her" time then there is nothing wrong with dialing back the amount of time you spend together or text or whatever. So long as you are okay with it sounds like you can comprimise on things. It may be because it is her first real relationship that she just feels a bit overwhelmed by everything and things need to slow down so she is more comfortable.
Really sounds like a sociopath... she can't fully relate to others emotions and just say what ever she things. Most are not killers like on TV!
Honestly she had her fun now she is done and it is stressful and she just says what she is thinking no filter!
Really it will probably end cause of her. Snoring is hard and if she does not wanna stick around then with her sounds like she will run!
Nothing you did she is well how she is and really sounds like your close to be ready to end it.
Your both not compatible! Let it end it was a nice new relationship after a bad one!
I stopped reading at texts. Learn to communicate properly.
Majority of our communication is through phone call or in person, I just mean small texts throughout the day.