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It sounds like you don't really deserve a person who wants to be involved. We are talking about servicemen who have been out doing their 'work' mainly with people from their own sex not really having any communication to the civilian world we live in. Unfortunately they don't have the knowledge on how to go about things because they were too busy, I don't know, serving for their country?
If you cared for them you would of spoken about this and asked them to slow it down a tad. We are talking about soldiers and marines here. Communication is key to them and they know the importance of it. They are not wired to understand the bullshit mind games you've probably put them through. They think in a way of "She would tell me if something is up right?"
You sound very stuck up, and there's plenty of women out there who would love to be involved and build a life with someone from that uniform. So stop talking about them like you deserve the perfect man going.
I have dated over 15 of them from all over the branches. Officers too. I have cheated on my ex once, who is a soldier, with a fighter pilot. He was being too clingy and if I didn't text back in 30 minutes, he would panic. My old flame was the fighter pilot and we were both aviators. We gravitated towards each other but they both found out. Then, I moved onto a navy lieutenant and a marine. Soon, they asked for commitment but I didn't answer any of them because I was seeing at least 10 other military guys. But now, the lieutenant is deployed and I am with the marine. But another fighter pilot keeps in contact with me and some other marine. There are too many people and I don't know what to do. I need to work on my career and there are so many people to reply to. I would never marry a military guy though.
You are a prime example of someone who should really just focus on yourself. You've had your fun and it really sounds like you're making unnecessary problems for people who are probably better off without it. Do you, have fun, but don't be official with people if you don't see yourself marrying them and being a thing with them 'death do us part'.
The younger Marines seem to have two extremes. They either just want casual sex or they want to introduce you to their mom 15-mins into first meeting you. It's kinda bizarre.
I thing being a military significant other is one of the hardest long distance relationship you can enter into. The majority that enter into this kinda of relationship are just kids that aren't prepared for this type of relationship.
Fast forward to their late 20's, if their still married and enlisted they're all bitter and burnt out as fuck. Not just Marines but most military.
It's the nature of their job, think about it. They are training, killing and using armed devices for a living. It's only normally for them to want a bit of normality in their lives, but because the nature of their work is so dark, a woman in their life to talk to is a god-send.
It's not a bad thing, think how you'd feel having to be in a long distance relationship while you work in the military, not knowing what your partner is up to on the outside, not being able to have any physical or even emotional contact. It builds up inside :)
My sister is dating a marine, and he isn't clingy at all. He texts, and etc but he doesn't go crazy. He doesn't love her any less either. I think it's just the men in general that you are going after. Although, clingy isn't necessarily a bad thing. You should be happy that someone cares enough to want to text/communicate with you 24/7. Most girls can't get that. So, be happy that you do.
maybe they're too much under pressure... I don't know
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a lot of the time military guys come back and arnt exactly sure how to re intergrate themselves into society. As a result they tend to more often cheerish the little stuff. Also lots of them have seen the worst when it comes to war. Even in the reserves lots of crazy stuff happens. Its also could be that many Marines and soldiers leave and sometimes end up loosing connection to their own family and friends.
But why do they say they love you so early and talk about marriage and kids? It's really creepy.
Some guys in the military want to marry quickly because themn they can live in their own place so some of them just marry the first girl they find to get various benefits such as being able to get their own place. This may explain the clinglyness.
Is that why they marry dependas?
I am dating a soldier and is the most beautiful thing it ever happened to me. These men are so emotionally and physically strong and I love the fact that he wants keep in touch with me all the time and i also love he is 'clingy" in a good way , as I am with him cause I love him and we are obsessed to each other. You should be happy to have someone who cares about you and especially to have a soldier as a partner, they risk their life every day serving their country, they are different and you should be proud to have them by your side if he is a good man.
They have to work... but there is a myth and tradition in the military that when someone is deployed overseas, the women will immediately cheat. It is programmed into every Marine and Soldier.
Ask him about "Jody", the mythological guy who is out their to grab his woman.
So are they clingy because they are checking in on me? And if I don't give them time, they assume it's cheating?
These are elite soldiers have been fighting, killing and seeing their best friends die, living months on end without anyone to love or someone to love them, flirt and message. Have a heart selfish bitch... fucking hell. This made me angry
didn't mean to say bitch, sorry.
no i know what she means. I see where you're coming from but i dated a guy who was just graduating west point (US military acadamy if you didn't know). He wanted me to be in a long distance relationship with him after knowing him for a week (2 dates). He was literally ready to marry me- talking about the future, family, where we would live, kids. They move way too fast. This has happened 2x with me as well
@Puppylove94 hmm yeah I can see where you're coming from, the military can do that, cause disruption and interfere with feelings and and emotions. It's sad really but also girls should know this before they start dating military men too, knowing what they might be getting into so they don't hurt the guy after what they're dealing with/have been through. They have one of the most stressful jobs
@Puppylove94 But to see women reject and get frustrated just because of "clingyness" wanting to talk etc is sad, considering what they're going through. Either just totally end it or talk about their "clingyness"
yeah i agree. thats why i ended it tbh. i didn't think id be able to be a good "military wife"-which was obviously what he was looking for.
@Puppylove94 Totally agree with you there!
I know. I did the wrong thing and cheated on my ex with a fighter pilot. Because he was clingy 24/7 and if I did not reply for 30 minutes, he would panic. All military guys I have dated, including officers, were clingy. I don't know why. I'm dating a marine now and he is just as clingy. I have dated over 15 military guys in the past and most were clingy.
I don't really care about being a military girlfriend or holding the title. It really doesn't mean anything. I'm not a dependa. I won't marry military guys or get married until I have a stable career at 28-32.
I don't like kids either.
lol that right there shows you shouldn't be a military girlfriend or side. You dont appreciate their clingness- a lot of girls not mind it. It got so bad that you cheated? i think you need to find guys that are not enlisted. I feel like you'd be much better off.
@MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah Lmfao dude even I wasn't that emotional :D Your reaction made me laugh m8.
@Puppylove94 I don't know. I thought about joining myself. But it would be unprofessional to have so much unnecessary drama with so many guys. I am already having trouble keeping up in civil life.
Once my ex boyfriend blocked me on Skype because I didn't reply for a week. I knew he was doing it for attention and felt neglected, but I was extremely busy at that time and stressed. When I am stressed and depressed, I shut down and isolate myself. I needed more time to think and get through things alone. But they think I'm going to break up with them.
@ Asker why do you keep dating them then?
@Jan1ssary_ but you're not full time army are you? :p
I have a friend who is the Army, he's witnessed things you wouldn't want to hear about, cousin is in the Marines and he's tortured, witnessed friends die and struggled emotionally after!
@MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah Nah not full time man but I went to army at age of 20 :D In Turkiye every man at age of 20 must join the army if they don't then they will be tagged as ''traitor'' by the country and their citizenship will be removed by the government. So I was soldier like 7 months then I decided to stay in and at the same time I had exams so I am lieutenant right now, but few years left for me to start fully :D
I know that man, they also tortured me in the army.. well I couldn't do anything cuz If I then they would lock me in Military Jail as a punishment :D I didn't witness someone dying but my uncle was a soldier aswell and he died.
@Jan1ssary_ Damn the patriotism is real there xd Ahh yes I remember you saying too, a LT, and you'll get higher too.
Wait you were tortured?
Yeah soldiers have to deal with it all the time. Part of the job
But a lot of marines haven't served combat time. I
@MaLifeBeLikeOooAaah Yeah man I don't know in UK, USA or in somewhere else but in here when someone has higher rank than you, they always want insult you or even hit you. Some generals in Turkish army such maniacs :D They called me son of a whore few times, if they were citizens I'd punch them fo' sure but I couldn't cause they aren't.
One of my uncles became soldier years ago at age of 20, he was tall and well built. However one of the officers were impressed cause of my uncle's size and invited him for a wrestling. My uncle whoped his ass in a short time then it ended up with officer going freakout and hitting, insulting my uncle cause of winning against him :D But there are sometimes good high rank Officers around especially if they are from your hometown they don't let other Officers talk shit to you much :D Like it happend with me, otherwise they would torture me harder.
Lmao I am not clingy moreover I hate clingy people, I feel like saying ''get the f*ck out of me''. Maybe they are clingy because being in Military isn't easy job, you don't have much time for your girlfriend, your family and even for yourself because of homeland's needs. So you miss people you love and it end up with you texting them often, maybe you could show them more tolerance cause of that reason.
I get you. Usually it's the spouse that complains abiut their boyfriend or husbands being cold or aloof. They never reply and don't like PDA. I just run for the hills because most of them talk about marriage, kids or say they love you very early. Or they say they love you a lot. They want a lot of attention and want to talk 24/7. A lot of them didn't get much sleep and would rather talk... even the officers.
Soldier life cannot be compared with normal person, most of them haven't got time for theirselves cause of their hard job, they don't have anything to make their mind busy. Working in military isn't like working at somewhere else, you do what they say and if you don't they might blame you with betraying or being a traitor. Its a hard job, I remember when I had free times ( since I am Lieutenant ) its boring as hell and you don't have anything to do, I was chatting with my friends sometimes or I was surfing on the internet from my phone but it wasn't helping either, so there was nothing to do than texting with my ex :D. These guys u said propably had free times in military like I did, they didn't have something to make their mind busy so they thought you about more and missed you :D I think thats why they were texting you more often.
But yeah talking about marriage or having kids sounds weird in a short time.
I would never marry a military guy. I don't want to become a widow or raise my children fatherless. Since I am training to become an aviator, I will be away from home a lot. I don't want my children to be without care from their parents first hand. But military guys are cool to date. It's just that I hate getting involved with military SO drama and stay away from them as much as possible. I hate the dependas that flaunt their SO's rank and act like they are entitled to be treated like they are actually serving. I have seen stolen valor videos and they overreact more so than the veterans themselves.
Because of all the stories of soldiers going off to war and being cheated on while they're gone. It's like that tale about all the British soldiers coming back after WWII and finding out lots of their wives had gone off and married Americans who'd been based in England.
Most military men are betas. I'm former military, so I've seen it firsthand. That's why they can sign their life away to serve someone else's interests. It's also why they lose their minds over a little bit of pussy.
They also get married very early and have children. Is that why they fall for dependas?
Being betas is basically why dependas exist.
How can they hit something so fat and useless? I will never marry a military guy and become a dependa. Or associate with other military wives that brag about their husband's rank and think they deserve the same respect as thise who served. One even wrongly called out stolen valor in the most over exaggerated way.
They are probably the type to live their life one day at a time, never knowing if there will be a tomorrow. So they do everything they do with passion.
They want to get married and have kids. It's really creepy. I can't help but back away when they say they love me. I will never marry a military guy.
asker... why you say that?
@zombiebabe Things get intense so quickly. I think I'm scared of commitment.
oh ok :/
They are young, possibly away from home for the first time. You might be the only aspect of their lives that gives them happiness.
Do not be creeped out. They want to hold you close and feel a connection with you.
They talk about kids and marriage. I am only 19. I will never marry a military guy. And I will only marry once I am in my early thirties with a stable career and income.
That's because they might die one day, and want to spent the most possible time with their loved ones.
Probably because like every military girlfriend/wife cheats when he's deployed, so they need to know you're in 100% in early on so they don't get fucked over.
I come a massive military family and none of them are clingy at all.
Well duh, they don't know if that would be their last 'I love you' to you...
I agree it's because they're lonely and don't get much female interaction. Also they want to settle down fast
Yeah. They want to get married and have kids too. It's enough to make me run for the hills. I'm not settling down until I am in my early thirties with a stable career and income.
Because most people going to the army or marines are wusses who desire to be put under someone else, telling them what to do, etc.
What about clingy officers? Or sergeants?
The thing about the army is - there is always people above you, telling you what to do. No matter what position you have in the army, you will always be a follower.
The stereotype where I live is that they're jerks, lol.
I'm ex British Army , was always the reverse , I can be affectionate , but never clingy. Could be lack of female interaction as a possible theory.
I heard about a lot of military SO complaining that their boyfriends or husbands don't like PDA or never reply/ignore them. They say they feel neglected. But now it's apparently the reverse? Hoe come they don't need to work? And they say they want marriage and kids...
Many single soldiers wanted to get married just to get out of the single accommodation & get a married quarter , little wonder those marriages mostly failed !!
Is that why they marry dependas?
That's a US term , but very often the case here in the UK too ( Chav is the British slang for uneducated , low grade , aimless types , normally welfare benefit dependant ) , yeah same sort of shit , the marriage is doomed even before the vows
I don't see why soldiers marry the first thing they see when they walk out of basic training. Even if they are fat and uneducated. They often ride on their SO's coattails and ranks. They even buy army girlfriend t shirts, car stickers, handbags, etc. They already assume that they're military too. They overreact to stolen valor.
" They often ride on their SO's coattails and ranks " Especially officers' wives !! You are right , they marry a woman that they don't even really find attractive , " settling " , which is a huge mistake for both parties !!
Cause they might be shitting their pants cause they boutta die
I don't get it.
You ain't the brightest bulb, huh?
They can die any day and want to live out their dreams before doing so?
maybe because they need to deposit their seed because they will die soon.
Most of us have lots of time to text. We can talk while running too ;)
I haven't seen clingy, but I have seen controlling...
they are assholes too, I'm never talking to a military guy again
Why is that for? Lol, military guys are serving for homeland needs, they are brave people.
@Jan1ssary_ that does not make them good men automatically
Yeah. Many do not get actual time in the front line.
There is another question on gag where a woman got pregnant while her hubby was deployed overseas. They know this happens.
lmao xD
This is a dumbass question
yay free point for first guy
Congtras. Would you like fries with that?
lol.
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