Why are guys in the military/ navy such assholes?

[Anonymous]

Just recently broke up with a guy who was in the military, before I went out with him a bunch of my friends told me not to date men in that field because most of them end up being liars, cheater and sex addicts and I didn't believe her until I dated one myself.

So why do you think this is? And yes there are SOME exceptions

[Telekinetic-Potato]

In my experience, people in the military don't really lie unless it's about cheating which they don't do if they're in a serious relationship with someone. Also, of course they're sex addicts, they're not in the military because they have low testosterone.

I know one guy who cheated on his fiance a few weeks before they got married and swore it off. They have what seems to be a pretty rock solid relationship.

I've worked with a lot of maried people in a lot of industries and I can say that there are a LOT of cheaters. I don't think it's specific to the military in a way that's worth taking note of.

Seeing this kind of post really annoys me because I always hear women talking about how they can never find good men and then they say shit like this. Military men are an excellent place to look for good guys and wether or not you can handle dating one is a pretty good indicator as to what it is you want out of a relationship. The people i've come across in the military (even that dude who cheated) have been some of the highest quality people I've meet in my life.

Very determined to do what they believe is right, better themselves as well as the people around them. They are decisive and a lot of the time would give someone the shirt off their back if someone else needed it more then them. Marines especially usually end up being pretty successful people after their service.

[Asker]

Being successful has nothing to do with whether or not they are cheaters and liars... I never said cheater and liars are BAD people but they're just... assholes. The guy I dated was a good guy but was he good at relationships? Definitely not. Him being successful or not was not important to me at all

[Telekinetic-Potato]

What I'm saying is, you're ready to stop talking to a whole group of potential dates for a problem you saw in one guy and the problem is the kind of thing you would see anywhere else.

It would be like going to Alaska to dig for gold, not finding any after the first spot and finally saying "This place fucking blows, I'm going somewhere else!" because you thought there were too many rocks there.

There's gonna be too many rocks where ever you go, Alaska's a great place to mine for gold

Cheaters are all over, guys from the military are usually very good relationship material. Like to the point where even the cheaters that come from there aren't as bad as the ones who aren't.

[makima]

U must be a military guy too

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@makima just someone who loves level headed, reasonable and impartial world views.

[i1T2daty]

Yeah, I’m sure their are exceptions but many of these guys have come from living 24/7 where their lives and their buddies lives depended on being in control. These guys were trained to think it yes/no, T;F, good vs. bad situations and trained to annihilate the bad, their lives depended on it. I don’t know if I’d want to be capable of that and Imcertainlymdoubt I could turn it off on demand. Most of the guys that have gone through this only return to a society where people live pretend lives on FB. That’s a tough adjustment because the haj doesn’t just want to “unfriend” you. He wants you gutshot screaming in pain, dying at age 19 and doing it slowly so they can do the same to 1st responders who try to help.

[LeoZay]

Guys in the military aren't any worse than civilians. Being a veteran, I can say that maintaining a relationship can be difficult if your unit is in the field or out of country a lot. My unit was gone over half the year so it was difficult to be in a serious relationship. I felt sorry for the married guys because their wives would often cheat on them when we were gone. One thing to remember, military guys can be assholes but usually it's their way to blow off steam when dealing with stress and dangers that civilians never encounter.

[Asker]

So did you avoid relationships all together? The guy I was dating told me he couldn't have anything serious while he was out on deployment and I later found it he was sleeping with multiple women while away... like really. Is that why you guys don't do serious stuff?

[LeoZay]

I didn't avoid more casual relationships but I did avoid serious ones because why set yourself up for the frustration knowing you are a rapid deployment unit?

[Asker]

Yeah that's understandable I guess. Have you been cheated on or have cheated while you were out?

[LeoZay]

I wasn't cheated on but I did cheat but when I was 19-27 years old I would cheat without blinking an eye.. My morals and values changed quite a bit when I got into my 30's.

[jp612612]

You know just from observation, I agree that this seemed to the case as well. My take is that the guys who go into the military are the guys in high school who had no chance of getting into college so you're already starting with the lower end of males and it just goes from there. I know that people want to celebrate the military and blah blah but it just doesn't seem like the place to look for a quality guy.

[Intraluminal]

They train you to view women (and all non-military people) as weak, inferior, and unpatriotic. Read about how to brainwash people, then read what basic training involves there are a LOT of similarities.

[LeoZay]

That's BS

[Intraluminal]

@LeoZay
Ex-what army, marine, what?

[LeoZay]

Army 11B

[Intraluminal]

@LeoZay
So do you deny that basic training isn't meant to"break you down," so you can be "rebuilt stronger" as the saying goes?

[LeoZay]

Basic training isn't what it was back in the day, it's about learning go take orders without question, getting in physical shape, learning to shoot and learning basic soldering skills and marching/parade duties. Never is disrespect towards civilians and especially women ever taught.

[Intraluminal]

@LeoZay

Taught as in, "females are shit" or "fuck civies" no. As an implicit statement, absolutely.

[Rsf00]

Because they're sleep deprived and trained to kill other assholes who are trying to kill them in some deserted hell hole

[TheMostCharming]

Joining the military doesn’t make any better then the rest of society

[Ankush_is_here]

Yes there are some exceptions indeed.. We live among guys! I know that's not an excuse but still.. Not all of us are assholes..

[hotdoggy]

Cuz they were bullied in hs for there small hotdogs

[Anonymous]

Because the military breaks them and deprived them, but it also makes them fight to get their way, so they become pricks

[DanFlingwing]

cause mostly they brag about it but not all of them are like that

[Demiurge6]

Because smart human will not go to military

[NerdInDenial]

Was he enlisted?

[NerdInDenial]

The military is a hard life and people are under a lot of stress. They become salty after years of deployment; so, they become harsh.