Caught girlfriend having sex with another guy, after he left she started blaming me saying I made her do it, our friends say to forgive her, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

Our friends said to just forget about it and that she was just lonely, her female friends told me to stop being such a whiner about it and that quote on quote, "all girls just like to have a little bit of fun and excitement sometimes with other guys", I really like and honestly I do feel a little guilty even though I don't know why because I haven't done anything and I've treated this girl like girls talk about how they want to be treated, we have fun together, we spend time together, go on trips, I even get her the gifts she wants, she loves roses and I always buy her flowers, it's not cheap but yet somehow it's my fault, I asked this question on another forum and was attacked by females saying that I was wrong and that having fun and buying flowers isn't enough, well that's not all i do, I'm not going into depth, somehow it turned into a giant fest of ganging up on me, I honestly felt like a criminal/garbage after reading all the comments on that post, am I really in the wrong to be upset?

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To add we have been together for 6 years and I planned on proposing to her

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The wife just text me saying she is indeed pregnant, we were talking and it looks like we aren't going to tell after all, we are just going to keep this our secret. Thank you all for your help ✌️️.

[LostGentleman]

Dump her. They are trying to make a fool out of you.
Basically: "From now on, you do all the stuff guys don't like to do, like buying gifts, being yelled at, being blamed for everything, doing what I ask, going to places other guys won't go with me - and you are not to complain for me having sex with whoever I want. I want you to be the moron who is alright with me cheating. Oh, and P. S? just say sorry. Yeah, I cheat, you get on your knees and say sorry. Go, feel guilty, lmao, how much of a moron can we turn you into? Gosh, really, can we really convince you of this? Oml, this would be awesome, it would be like a really lame slave or something, omfg when I tell others about this.. Hey, did you apologize yet? Just apologize for my infidelity - cmon, ROFL just do it, wait let me call Anna so she can be a part of this too, I can't believe we can actually brainwash you into this lmao wait.."

Man, I am really sorry that she cheated. No it is NOT your fault.

Nothing takes a person to cheat, cheating is a choice. If you don't get intercourse, if you are feeling lonely, if you got yelled at and are hurt: you break up and move on.
You don't cheat.
She isn't just lying with all her teeth, she is also borrowing all her friends' teeth to pull this one over your head.
For crying out loud, don't fall for it

If she loved you a) she would not cheat that easily, accidentally falling for someone is not the same as "hi, I'm lonely, lets sex"
b) she would NOT try to pin her decision to physically cheat on you, ... on you!

[LostGentleman]

She did not care of 6 years of relationship.

She had sex with another man.

And put into equation the following:
Psychology studies, state that when we first make a lie, we feel guilty. The more we lie, the less guilt we feel about the lies we may say, and the bigger they get.
Now, notice that you caught her having sex with another man, and instead of being guilty, and bluntly lied like an insane person, trying to put the blame on you. That shows she is not new to the feeling of her own cheating.
For this reason, I believe that in 6 years, she has cheated far more - enough for her to not be upset at all about it, to make up the biggest lie in the form of an accusation, and to feel repulsed at you when SHE did the cheating. That may be due to her feeling repulsed at how you did not notice in such a long time, her infidelity.

Please, do consider all this

How much those 6 years mean to you, they mean absolutely nothing to her, not even enough to respect you.

[joeywalnuts85]

You probably didn't even notice that there were red flags this was about to happen, sometimes meeting all of your girls needs and showing so much attention can cause a need for someone knew. I'm guessing recently the sex has started slowing down and the little gestures you did to express love gradually lost there impact and were taken for granted

[DaniaMQ]

lol wtf, thats the biggest bs I've ever Heard "all girls just like to have a little bit of fun and excitement sometimes with other guys" ... just great... so now cheating is totally fine as well -__- tbh, idc what you did, she AND her Friends do sound complete b****es. its NOT okay for her to cheat, and what cheaters do is justify themselves and tell you its your fault for making her feel like that -_- if she really felt it was your fault then she shouldve TALKED WITH YOU about it. God gave us a tongue for a reason lol

Dumb her, dont listen to her or others, she'll be cheating A LOT from now on.

[Felinegirl]

Do you have sex with her often? Do you have good sex with her? Do you listen to her and talk to her and have meaningful conversations with her?

Most girls don't want a butler, they want a guy who is their partner. Gifts don't mean much, actions do. If your connection is gone it's gone.

I don't defend cheating and think that if your girlfriend felt like you "made her do it", she should just have dumped you first instead. But that still doesn't mean you're completely innocent when it comes to why your relationship is shitty.

[CheerGirl38139]

yeah, sorry.

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[CheerGirl38139]

Yo, Blue Anon... as per your question updates, it looks like you got your two BS troll questions mixed up. LOL.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2214304-i-banged-my-friends-wife-idk-what-to-do-i-honestly-want-to-come

[CheerGirl38139]

@rjgraveytrain @elarra check the question updates. LOL.

Homie got his troll questions mixed up. ;)

[Asker]

Oh your good lol, how many people did I get 😂😂😂

[CheerGirl38139]

I dunno but you never had me on either one. Neither seemed real. At all. :)

[Asker]

MHO, for you, the only person that noticed

[Asker]

i enjoy a good troll every now and then, the answers crack me up as to how to tell my friend I banged his wife 😂😂😂, ill give you mho for the other question too,

[CheerGirl38139]

LOL well thanks, but it ain't rocket science man.

Trips me out how many people bite on this stuff.

[Asker]

People like gossip and drama, I admit I'm even a sucker for some of the juicy questions you see on here sometimes lol.

[Cosytoasty]

Ahahaha

[RJGraveyTrain]

Lmao you got er' there girl. I won't lie, I had my own suspicions.

[Asker]

@RJGraveyTrain ha, did you see my other troll where I said I banged my friends wife and we are gonna keep the baby and not tell him 😂😂😂

[RJGraveyTrain]

She cheated on you and is blaming you.

Dump that bitch.

[MickyMouse1231]

That's the biggest lie I have read in my entire life. Not all girls are cheaters! This isn't a normal thing! I would dump her. If she was feeling lonely she should have TALKED about it instead of fucking some other guy. Do NOT spend the rest of your life with a girl that clearly doesn't love you because if she did, she wouldn't be sleeping around with other guys like that. What happens when she wants to blame you for something else? Rather than talk about your problems is she going to go find some other guy? Please. Break up with her.

[Mt144]

Totally my thoughts 👍👍👍

[btbc92]

What the heck did I just read?

Are you kidding me! Your friends are nuts, her friends are even crazier! Their all justifying your girlfriend being a hoe! Get new friends, dump her butt and move on! Don't marry a cheater! She will do the same thing AFTER you marry her. She doesn't deserve you, she will USE YOUR BUTT! You have every right to be upset. And I don't know who's kid that is but you better get a paternity test and see if it's yours, and if not, move on!

[Elarra]

I don't give a flying fuck what you did. Unless you put your hands on this girl, then she is 100% at fault and you should NOT forgive him

I'm with @RJGraveyTrain

That hoe gots ta go.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Lmao yes girl!

[Vape-King]

you didntmake her do anything they are trying to defend her when she made a personal choice to cheat on you knowing the consequences. don't let others tell you what's wrong with you or some bullshit. you know she is in the wrong. its not your fault. she was not loyal to you and had a heart that wasn't true to you. she should have the will power as a girlfriend to say no and make her own decisions on what's right and wrong and she made the wrong choice but it isn't your fault in any way from what she did. she was in the wrong PERIOD

[Azgeda]

If you let her tread over you like this, I'd lose respect for you as a man.
Dump her ass and spend the money and time on yourself. Buy a motorcycle , go on a vacation , buy some new threads , any second more with that cheating scum is a waste of your life.

[vonasaurus]

what the actual fuck?

i don't care how long you've been together. she has zero respect for you, and it sounds like you need a new girlfriend, as well as new friends (since they obviously don't have their heads on straight).

once a cheater, always a cheater. dump her ass, kick your friends to the curb immediately; no one is worth your self respect.

[arineunha]

you are not wrong to be upset. if I were in your position I would be really super upset. break up with her and i'm one of those people who don't believe in breaking up unless it's super serious. this is super serious. she's in the wrong for cheating and having sex with another guy

[MargaritaPeach]

If she's been sleeping with someone else at the same time, there is no way of knowing whose baby it is. I would definitely ask for a paternity test when the baby is born. I don't think you would be in the wrong for breaking up with her, though. She sounds pretty unappreciative.

[madhatters4]

no you aren't wrong to be upset. her friends are just trying to defend her but their rationale is absurd.

you are 100% in the right to be angry, upset, etc. you are 100% in the right to feel like you may need to end the relationship

she betrayed you... simple as that. what you do is up to you and entirely up to you but you are more than justified to end things if that's what you want to do

[Hihikinn]

I don't care if you did something wrong or not. You can't believe someone cheated you anymore. Believe me. It won't work if you forgive her or not.
whatever you did, as long as you didn't force her not to break up, she shouldn't had sex with another guy.

[ORiGiNALJANE]

ew. who the fuck are you hanging out with. your girlfriend you need to totally fucking dump. please take all her clothes and junk and toss it out. now your friends as well as her disgustingly stupid gal pals. if they really cared they would have told you the same fucking thing I did.. tell whoever to go fuck themself and cut them loose. you don't fucking need people like that In your life

[Cowboy6666]

Exactly my thoughts

[ORiGiNALJANE]

besides all of his so called friends and stupid girlfriend. I think there's a more serious issue that he needs to seriously take care of... his choice of friends.

[Cowboy6666]

You look mixed? Correct? Or full Asian?

[ORiGiNALJANE]

I'm full vietnamese

[Cowboy6666]

Really? You look adorable. 😊❤

[ORiGiNALJANE]

thank you.

[CapnHawk]

Time to cut her loose. If she' cheats on you now, she'll cheat on you after you slip the ring on her finger. She's probably bored with your relationship. Drop-kick her to the curb and get on with your life. Lesson learned.

[Anonymous]

Your friends are idiots. Not only she cheated on you, but she also started blaming you for HER mistake. Do not forgive her.

[AleDeEurope]

When you troll and people take it seriously.

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[Anonymous]

The thing is girls stick up for each other no matter what. I wouldn't stress. She doesn't sound like she's worth it. How can it be your fault when she's the one that cheated?

[aficionado]

I think this is a troll question.

If not, then dump her cheating ass immediately, and don't even think about it again.

[Asker]

I've invested 6 years with this girl, this isn't just my 6 month girlfriend

[aficionado]

Well... I can understand, but I would dump someone who cheated on me, even if I was with her for 6 decades.

[lualesca]

You plan to spend your life with someoen you can't trust? Good luck.

[LostGentleman]

Asker:

She did not care of 6 years of relationship.

She had sex with another man.

And put into equation the following:
Psychology studies, state that when we first make a lie, we feel guilty. The more we lie, the less guilt we feel about the lies we may say, and the bigger they get.
Now, notice that you caught her having sex with another man, and instead of being guilty, and bluntly lied like an insane person, trying to put the blame on you. That shows she is not new to the feeling of her own cheating.
For this reason, I believe that in 6 years, she has cheated far more - enough for her to not be upset at all about it, to make up the biggest lie in the form of an accusation, and to feel repulsed at you when SHE did the cheating. That may be due to her feeling repulsed at how you did not notice in such a long time, her infidelity.

Please, do consider all this

How much those 6 years mean to you, they mean absolutely nothing to her, not even enough to respect you.

[the-truth]

you invested 6 years and care, she don't care. i couldn't care if i was married and had 2 kids. I'm gone. im the boss, im in control, she will relies when I'm gone she has made the biggest mistake of her life, and daddy don't mess about.

[SarahsSummer]

she cheated. Don't ever talk to her again but wtf is with your update? wife? pregnant? secret? are you getting your trolling stories confused?

[cth96190]

Dump her in the gutter, where she belongs, unless you are a cuckold who wants to invest his resources into raising the bastards sired by her exciting bad-boy lovers.
Grow a pair, lad!

[lualesca]

What do you think she would do if it was the other way around?

Dump her, and tell her freinds to fuck off, they are just a bunch of enablers.