Well there are different reason everyone is something... Nothing wrong with either opinion but that should not be the reason you are together.. If you love each other thats all that matters... and people change so you never know what the future holds.
Being 'pro-choice' is the correct position. But, do you know why it is the correct position?
I have sympathy for people who are 'pro-life'. I used to be one myself. It's not obvious that abortion isn't murder.
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I definitely respect it, that's not the issue at hand. I totally believe people have the right to be pro life. It's just that I'm not and in the end it would be me having to carry the child, which I am not willing to do. Plus it'll be me who has to carry it if we were to have children down the road, which I'm not sure if I even want kids ever. So I'm not reconsidering the relationship because of him being a pro lifer. I'm reconsidering it because we have completely opposite views on having children which is a big deal. He can feel whatever he wants, but so can I. I think it might end up being that we're not meant for each other because of that.
Then the best way is to stop having sex all together. No protective sex is 100% full prove so if you are that worried and love him that much stop having sex.
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Sorry I just dont believe in that. I may never have kids, and I'm certainly not going to stay celibate my whole life because it of it.
That being said, I take every precaution not to get pregnant so this very likely will never be an issue anyway.
I can't see it working long term if you disagree on such fundamental values. Especially if you don't want kids and he does.
Probably better to end it now than to drag it out.
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You could not have sex. Then there isn't even a remote chance of getting pregnant. Sterilization is another option. Don't know if a doc will do that on someone your age. Sounds like you need to keep discussing the big issues. If you can't agree/compromise, then it is over.
If you guys work everywhere else, there is nothing wrong with different opinions and views. This is what we call, a mature relationship. Respecting, working together, and loving eachother matters the most.
It's not going to work out he wants kids and she doesn't, I'm actually amazed that they have been dating for a year and don't know about each other's stance on these things
Men just do not go over things before they start a relationship. It like rent a room in someone home. You do not agree with the home rules. You rent a room somewhat else.
Are you afraid he is going to lock you up and make you have the baby if you were to get pregnant?
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Haha no he wouldn't do that, but I just don't want to deal with this huge emotional explosion between us if that ever were to happen. Wondering if we should be together especially since he wants kids and I don't know if I ever want them.
I'd add to that, that you shouldn't wait in hopes of resolving things. Take your time at your own pace and stay true to yourself! If you aren't ready or aren't willing to - then you simply don't have to. That pressure about kids you are getting is only the beginning of a horrendous "relationshit". End it now than later.
Well unless it really bothers you just because of what it says about him then it's really a problem if you get pregnant. So try to use protection and in the case that you do get pregnant you can have the abortion and if he has a problem with it you can leave him
honestly I don't know. because I could see this being a big problem for the both of you down the road. now that I say this is he very religious?
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He is but doesn't go to church every Sunday or anything. He just is really anti abortion and said he wouldn't accept it if I got one. He says it shouldn't be an option. Which really threw me for a loop. I'm just thinking maybe we're too different...
I would have decided at the being not to date you because you do not go to church. See he goes to church but you do not would cause conflict in the relationship.
if you know he definitely wants kids and you don't then you really shouldn't waste each other's time. I personally never want kids either so I always moved on once I found out the girl definitely wanted them
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Maybe you should stop having sex because that's the only real birth control. I mean this with all due respect, but I don't get pro-choice. You yourself was once a fetus.
That's what I don't get about pro-choice. I respect and will never bash you, but we all were once in that state (fetus) and your mother gave you a chance. I respect your views, but it's amazing how people are and they don't stop to think they themselves were once a fetus.
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If you use protection and don't start debates, I don't see how it could possibly come between you.
Well there are different reason everyone is something... Nothing wrong with either opinion but that should not be the reason you are together.. If you love each other thats all that matters... and people change so you never know what the future holds.
Being 'pro-choice' is the correct position. But, do you know why it is the correct position?
I have sympathy for people who are 'pro-life'. I used to be one myself. It's not obvious that abortion isn't murder.
I definitely respect it, that's not the issue at hand. I totally believe people have the right to be pro life. It's just that I'm not and in the end it would be me having to carry the child, which I am not willing to do. Plus it'll be me who has to carry it if we were to have children down the road, which I'm not sure if I even want kids ever. So I'm not reconsidering the relationship because of him being a pro lifer. I'm reconsidering it because we have completely opposite views on having children which is a big deal. He can feel whatever he wants, but so can I. I think it might end up being that we're not meant for each other because of that.
correct position,, please.
abortion is still murder and you all just say it isn't to make you feel better about yourselves
Then the best way is to stop having sex all together. No protective sex is 100% full prove so if you are that worried and love him that much stop having sex.
Sorry I just dont believe in that. I may never have kids, and I'm certainly not going to stay celibate my whole life because it of it.
That being said, I take every precaution not to get pregnant so this very likely will never be an issue anyway.
I can't see it working long term if you disagree on such fundamental values. Especially if you don't want kids and he does.
Probably better to end it now than to drag it out.
You could not have sex. Then there isn't even a remote chance of getting pregnant. Sterilization is another option. Don't know if a doc will do that on someone your age.
Sounds like you need to keep discussing the big issues. If you can't agree/compromise, then it is over.
Every one has different opinions, are you going to cut every out your life that doesn't shares yours
Plenty more fish in the sea dude.
Well I'm just more worried about the future. Like do we even have one if our views are so crazy different
If you guys work everywhere else, there is nothing wrong with different opinions and views. This is what we call, a mature relationship. Respecting, working together, and loving eachother matters the most.
It's not going to work out he wants kids and she doesn't, I'm actually amazed that they have been dating for a year and don't know about each other's stance on these things
@Jorge567 True, but you never know. People change.
He doesn't believe in killing unborn babies and putting money first? What an asshole. Dump his sorry ass.
Men just do not go over things before they start a relationship. It like rent a room in someone home. You do not agree with the home rules. You rent a room somewhat else.
"I would absolutely not accept carrying a child"
Then have a hysterectomy and never worry about it again.
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Hysterectomies are dangerous to a woman's health and unnatural to her flow of life.
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Funny how it ends up saving some of their lives.
There is no such thing as "flow of life".
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It harms her fertility.
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Her words "I would absolutely not accept carrying a child" not mine.
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Yes, many women have lost their motherly charm.
Are you afraid he is going to lock you up and make you have the baby if you were to get pregnant?
Haha no he wouldn't do that, but I just don't want to deal with this huge emotional explosion between us if that ever were to happen. Wondering if we should be together especially since he wants kids and I don't know if I ever want them.
Then no it will never work. End it now
I'd add to that, that you shouldn't wait in hopes of resolving things. Take your time at your own pace and stay true to yourself!
If you aren't ready or aren't willing to - then you simply don't have to. That pressure about kids you are getting is only the beginning of a horrendous "relationshit". End it now than later.
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This is a huge difference between you two. Both of you are strict with your choice/views so break up
Her view is all she see. They two are not on same page.
Well unless it really bothers you just because of what it says about him then it's really a problem if you get pregnant. So try to use protection and in the case that you do get pregnant you can have the abortion and if he has a problem with it you can leave him
you are polar opposites. its can't work. i can't get how people get in relationships without knowing fundamental things about each other... .
honestly I don't know. because I could see this being a big problem for the both of you down the road. now that I say this is he very religious?
He is but doesn't go to church every Sunday or anything. He just is really anti abortion and said he wouldn't accept it if I got one. He says it shouldn't be an option. Which really threw me for a loop. I'm just thinking maybe we're too different...
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So he goes to church. Do you go to church?
@Robin48 I do not.
I would have decided at the being not to date you because you do not go to church. See he goes to church but you do not would cause conflict in the relationship.
My own Dad is Totally NON... Trump. But I no Dump.
Steer Clear, dear, of Certain Topics and don't Get PG unless you Both Talk it Over.
Good Luck. xx
if you know he definitely wants kids and you don't then you really shouldn't waste each other's time. I personally never want kids either so I always moved on once I found out the girl definitely wanted them
Maybe you should stop having sex because that's the only real birth control. I mean this with all due respect, but I don't get pro-choice. You yourself was once a fetus.
Amen, sister!! Preach on!!
I definitely respect the opinions of pro life believers. But I just have different views on the matter.
That's what I don't get about pro-choice. I respect and will never bash you, but we all were once in that state (fetus) and your mother gave you a chance. I respect your views, but it's amazing how people are and they don't stop to think they themselves were once a fetus.
@Jigsaw_Gal :) amen
Then find someone who doesn't want children so this don't happen