Why am I always the last choice for every guy in the world?

[Anonymous]

Guys don't like me at all. I've never even actually dated someone before and I don't think I'm ugly either because I get compliments a lot. Like yesterday 3 guys came up to me and told me I was pretty. But yet no guy ever likes me or has asked me out on a date before. I wouldn't say I have a terrible personality either, maybe a little shy when I first meet someone but that's all. Other than that I'm really nice, fun, outgoing, smart and easygoing/chill. For example I thought this 1 guy from work was intersted in me at first but then another girl came along and he was all over her and liked her instead and pretty much friend zoned me. Which is whatever but I don't get why I'm always the last choice. Even when I go out with friends guys always apprch my friends first and if they don't talk to them then they would talk to me

[DanoMR98]

Try being a guy. If you're not an 8, 9 or 10/10, no girl will want you. Not only that, but you must have the money to bankroll every date and spend on her practically every time she asks. If you don't pay out the nose, she'll find a guy who will. For men, being not first is being last. Women do not like the #2 or #3 in a group of men, they want #1 and if you're not him, tough.

If only I could be a girl. Then I could at least get compliments for being average.

If you were a male and posted this, the commenters would probably tell you that you're a bitter neckbeard manchild and you don't deserve women anyways. Believe me, if you lower your standards a little, or just wait around longer, you'll be fine. Women don't ever have to be single.

[Asker]

Hmm well not all girls are like that and tbh most guys seem to only like one body type and that is being fit (not too skinny but not fat) and big chest and ass

[TCaptain]

huh, if you get complimented a lot, well you might want to change some details? maybe you want to give guys more subtle hints that you like them, with your body language for instance... and not wait too much, if you see in their actions that they do like you, but don't ask you out, they are probably just too shy 😃 but yeah, don't wait too much, they might move on to somone else...

[Asker]

What are some hints that I can give? Hahaha I don't know any tbh I don't even know how to show a guy that I like him. That's what happens when you go to an all girls school lmao

[TCaptain]

google it ^^

[JohnDoe3000]

Yeah, this would be my advice as well.

[Silv3rcloud]

Why don't you smile at the guy and talk to him? show that you are interested in knowing him better, say that you like spending time with him... only a fool wouln't notice :) smiling is really important!

[Asker]

@Silv3rcloud okay I'll try that thanks!

[Anonymous]

How can you even claim that? Have you met every guy in the world? Of course not.
If you think you are always the last choice when it comes to men in your social group, then start hanging out with a different group. I don't see what's so hard about that

[Unit1]

You got complimented 3 times yesterday? You lucky girl, i wasn't complimented in months. Except yesterday from an older woman, who is a already a mother of someone but she's not a dating material.

Try to be more assertive, more open and don't try to end interactions but try to keep going. Also do not expect men to do all the work. We're humans too. Try approaching yourself some guys, that you like. It will hurt if they reject you but what have you got to lose? If you won't try then you may likely regret it. It's dating. And dating is gambling. Gambling until you pull a certain lottery.

[akadatank44]

Did you even think before you typed this out? "3 guys complimented me yesterday. No guys like me."
Honestly by reading about shyness you probably were shy to those guys and other guys and didn't open up a conversation starter with them. Break the ice with guys who compliment you. Confidence is attractive as well.

[Anonymous]

Me and you. Let's go on a date.

if it works it works, if not, you'll get unconditional, truthful feedback as to what was wrong.

[Asker]

Okay deal. Thy I've always wanted to try that with a guy friend or a random guy and them giving me honest feedbacks on what went wrong and stuff

[Opinion Owner]

When and where?
I live in South East London.

[AlphaGhost]

If you are smoking hot, than random guys may not even try to think about you cuz you look like very high standard or intimidating to them.

[artie1983]

I know the feeling (Except with women obviously lol). Well, all except the being good looking and women complimenting it 🤣

[king34]

I don't know a picture of u would help, but most girls who ask this and put a picture they usually don't look nice or friendly, so you can be hot all day but it will intimidate Guys if you don't seem nice or friendly cuz they immediately assume their gonna get shot down. so if this is the case, smile more

[Anonymous]

how old are you, just wondering because usually guys in high school/early college are immature so maybe they aren't at your maturity level.

[Asker]

I'm 19 and i mean I'm not saying "I'm mature" or that I want a relationship because I do like going out and partying and just having funn but I was just curious that's all if that makes sense lmao

[Crapulux]

Let's try the usual obvious dealbreakers like: fat, bright green hair, vegan, feminist, pushing obnoxious political opinions in people's faces, etc. Does any of these apply?

[Asker]

No none of those apply altho I guess I could be in better shape. (I'm not fat tho)

[Smegskull]

do you look approachable? have you tried approaching them?

[Asker]

No I don't look apprchable all the time especially if a guy is attractive tbh I'd look like I'm not intersted

[cth96190]

Try an old-style introduction agency.
Not a dating website, an agency that has an office and wants to interview you in person.

[Djaaay]

Count you're blessings , all those idiots out there are leaving you alone. There's a reason why bad individuals leave good people out of the picture. Attraction for them is based on prey.

[anoddtod]

gonna have to be more aggressive, your losing to faster gals.

[Justinaveragedude]

Either 1) they assume you are taken or 2) you intimate them.

[johnmichaei]

I don't understand sound like fun to me i'll try it lol

[cswisher88]

maybe they think your to hot for them to actually ask you

[TTSTBP]

You're exaggerating. You haven't spoken to/met "every guy in the world". I don't know why. Perhaps you're unattractive or part of your personality isn't that enjoyable.

[TTSTBP]

Ask someone who knows you well and is honest if there is anything you could improve about your personality or physical appearance. If it's none of that then there isn't a reason other than it just hasn't happened yet.

[Asker]

Well my guy friend said no guy would know that I like them and tbh he's right but I don't know what signals to give to show a guy that im intersted

[TTSTBP]

To Hell with signals. Just tell them straight.

[zagor]

If you give the angry-bitch-face to the world you can't expect guys to approach you. You have to at least look amiable.

[JohnRis]

you are who you are , if someone likes you they will tell you , don't care about the others

[Reddwolf]

because you haven't met me lol

[bekkesmash]

You need to be the one asking guys out.