What's the difference between persistence and chasing after a girl?

[Anonymous]

Chasing after a girl sucks, but some girls say persistence pays off, so what am I missing here?

[Anonymous]

Yea it's tricky! When guys hit on me, I pretty much turn them all down unless they have been persistent and have shown me they don't just want to sleep with me. I really appreciate a guy who isn't easily deterred by rejection and is confident and goes after what he wants.
I know it is unfortunate for the guy tho! Because they are left doing a lot of the work. Honestly, if you have gotten the girl (after some persistence) you shouldn't have to chase after her. Then she's just stringing you along :/

[NyomiMcClinton]

If she is showing no interest in you, stop chasing and pursuing. Once you stop showing her the attention that you once did, then chances are she will wonder why and may even strike up communication with you. But again this is no guarantee. She just may not be attracted to you.

[Pinay_ako]

If you have a chance, your persistence will pay off. You do not have to chase a girl who really likes you. There's the difference.

[Chanel1981]

You've got to be able to gauge whether or not she's interested. Is she responding to contact? Accepting invitations?

[Robsinsf53]

It depends on our (guys) interpretation of chasing compared to what I love... "the chase". Its not hard to get or anything like that. Its just a woman being a woman. I ask her out and she says " no, I'm busy that night but, if it was..." Its hard to write down but, you can tell you have sparked her interest. The best way I can describe it is at the end of our first date, I try to get a passionate kiss and she gives me a peck on the cheek at her front door! That begins the chase, just my opinion.

[PunkinPie]

I hear what you're saying but to me that's courtship, meaning she's already consented to date you.

I think "chasing" is like the song Maps by Maroon 5. It's a catchy popular song, but if you listen to the words she's broken up with him but he's still "following the map that leads to you to you". I told my son, "Never be like that guy. If a woman says no, respect her decision."

[Robsinsf53]

I agree, I absolutely love the chase but, I look at some comment "why do I always pay?" That's not about the money, its them being lazy. I love the chase as long as she remains "into" my chasing her. Involved better word to use.

[meatballs21]

If a girl feels you somehow have to prove yourself to her like this, she's not that interested. Don't waste your time.

If she is in fact interested but is playing a stupid game to see how you react, she's not worth your time.

The person who is right for you will reciprocate the same amount of interest in you.

[Arabian911]

Personally i enjoy the game,, persistence is some kind of courtesy to the girl/woman,

If a girl rejected you in a way that makes you look down on yourself then that's the point where you stop.

A simple no means you can do better than that.

Following someone to their house or car might get you killed for example.

But if you keep the right
Distance then maybe you are a persistent guy with a goal to achieve

[genericname85]

Persistence is not giving up when she clearly shows interest. Chasing is when you don't give up even though she unmistakable rejected you.

It's basically bullshit persistence won't win the girl over. It just means that you should stick around even if she's not giving you sex as soon as you may want.

[NaultD]

If you understand that failing is ok its fine. Its just lets you get better at the chase. By the time you get a grasp of this you won't need it anymore becaues you have what you're looking for.

[PunkinPie]

If she's running, you are chasing. Stop it. Persistence is polite and courteous.

[Arabian911]

In deed

[DoctaMario]

If you're persistent, it shows them that you're serious about wanting to date them and that's a good thing.

[GwenH]

Chasing a girl sounds a tad more aggressive (and desperate seeming?) than persistence which demonstrates confidence

[None18am]

Basically, chasing is when you'll do anything for her and your life revolves around her. Persistence is when you try to ask her out, but you you're not always at her beck and call and have a life

[Anonymous]

Some cultures like to test the guy a little for persistence. Some don't. White American culture is moving away from it a lot and I'd suggest you walk away if she isn't giving positive feedback.

[TadCurious]

If the girl doesn't show interest I believe in backing away.

[awesomespoken]

Don't put too much thought into it. Girls are not known for consistency. Ask one and you'll get a different answer from different girls. Even from the same girl depending on her day.

[Anonymous]

it can be one of those things , sometimes it pays off and other times its a total waste of time. it depends how much you like the girl

[samsmoove]

Persistence means you pass her shit test. Chasing is just still going for her when she's clearly not interested

[NeNeLavish]

well i would have to say persistence dose pay off when you have a goal in mind but there is a difference between being persistent and chasing after a girl that you like

[Queenk33]

Persistence is being there for her and only her and keeping it that was chasing is when she doesn't want you but you still talk to her and beg for her to stay

[king34]

The most important thing to find is the line between chasing a girl and stalking her

[gzephier89]

what is the difference?

[baby181036]

Give her space while chasing

[Revolver_Ocelot]

no difference, girls will see it the same

[Anonymous]

there's no difference