What’s the difference between being persistent to needy when a man is chasing a woman?

[JRise25]

[btbc92]

A man being persistent can go either two ways:

1. Either he is fighting for her attention and willingly do whatever it takes to win her affections.
2. He is harassing her to the point she is scared, tired, will seek legal action and those around her will valiantly help her because of it if its distressing her. Know when a woman doesn't like you. If she says no, her answer is a no.

Being Needy is most for male friends who are lacking a healthy attachment style and are often anxious or anxious-avoidant, which sadly mine. This kind of behavior is off-putting to people. Because there is a fine line between yearning for attention that it's your basic need vs, supplementing your need because you never got at home. Aka Mommy or Daddy issues. Now if you were a victim of abuse in some way, that is NOT your fault. If it's naturally your personality trait as it is for some personality types, then this is a matter of context and appropriate environment. The problem is your intent is mostly out of sexual desires. Not out of understanding and wanting to get to know a person as a friend IF you aren't friends and just want her because she looks attractive, seems friendly, etc.

At the end of the day, a woman doesn't owe you a relationship, like you don't owe us a relationship. You don't chase women. You learn to respect her and what she is looking for in a partner IF she is interested in a partner at all.

[JRise25]

This is where it gets confusing, we were super into each other, then she got sick, said after she got better that she needed to get herself together with work and personal health, so she was going to take some tome to herself. We were messaging everyday day, she was even calling me nicknames and telling me she was glad I called her, etc. after she got sick and told me this, I backed off, I probably have text her four times in the last couple weeks and casually trying to take her out. While we have slowed down, it’s hard to tell what she wants. I message her and she gets back every time, but commitment is tough. Would this come across as needy?

[btbc92]

She's playing head games. She isn't really interested in you. Your not even what I would call a friend. Your just somebody she wanted to fool around with emotionally for her ego. Move on. All I did was answer your question. This chick overall sounds kinda cooky.

Your not coming across as needy. You was sold the idea of dating her and she strung you along.

[cnndrm]

Inwardly, they come from different places:

NEEDINESS comes from something inside YOU. You want this woman so badly that you are failing to read her subtle feedback.

PERSISTENCE comes from her, believe it or not. It is when she resists your advances while simultaneously indicating interest.

Outwardly, they look very different:

NEEDINESS smells like approval-seeking. You want so badly to know that she likes you back, and feel ecstasy if she does.

PERSISTENCE is simply goal-directed behavior. You know she likes you back, and you're just sticking it out until she's ready to take the next step.

Each girl is different. The persistent guy understands this, and can read a woman well enough to know if it's worth continuing.
The needy guy has no idea how the girl feels about him, because he's so focused on his own need for her that he's not even paying attention to her.

[JRise25]

This is where it’s all confusing, because one day she told me she thought we were ready for the next step and then a week later things have cooled down a lot! I stepped back and I reach out to her every now and then over the last two weeks and she does respond. My thing is, if she weren’t interested after being persistent with me so hard for a week, she could have said something, but when I just send her a small text and give her some space she still replies.