Do you think the dating app Bumble is sexist for making women initiate conversation with their matches?

[TsundereMatrix]

My guy friend and I were talking about dating apps because no one ever talks to me on tinder or they will tell me they’ve seen me on the street and then unmatch me. I told my friend that with Bumble, the woman has to talk first. He said “well that’s sexist.” I said “well it does push the woman to initiate and it keeps the fuckboys away”. He said “what if the guy really likes her and wants to get to know her better?”. And we just had a little debate about that.

So what do you guys think?

[Anon-ymous1]

I get the idea of Bumble, I mean girls do get lots of nasty messages on normal dating apps, but I wouldn't go so far as to call it "sexist." I do get his point though, that it may be tough for a guy to have to just wait and hope, rather than being able to say something first. Like with me-- I'm not a jackass on dating sites, like "hey sex wanna fuck" stuff like a lot of guys do. Why shouldn't I be able to say something first? But then again if no one USES Bumble, it'll go away, so... you know. Don't use it if that's how you feel.

[Anon-ymous1]

Thanks for MHO

[jonstr101]

I like bumble, as it actually requires the female to take an interest in the male. As a guy who isn't exactly the hottest person alive, this is comforting because it means any chat I do get has legitimate interest behind it and I will most likely get to set up a date.

[TsundereMatrix]

And then you can control which ladies you want to talk to

[jonstr101]

I don't like chatting a lot through the app. When a match comes in, my first priority is setting up some small date, like getting coffee or lunch , to chat and really get to know them.

[cinderelli]

it does solve one problem for men tho.. because mostly guys have to fish for a long time to finally get someone who would reply to them and have a conversation, this way women can avoid the creepy ones and both parties can save time..
a little disadvantage is that a guy can't initiate if he really likes girl.. but those guys can go join tinder.. there's something for everyone

[NatashaJ]

Nope but I do think there a shit ton of catfishes on there and only a certain type of women get messages while everyone else gets ignore (cough cough fit and "hot").

[bomotion]

I think it's the closest app there is to being an equal field. I went out with a girl I met on match who showed me she had over 100 messages from that week alone. Women are bombarded by messages and the whole point of online dating is to be able to sort through what you think you might be interested in and if the men of match can't handle that responsibility why shouldn't bumble give it to the women.

[oddwaffle]

It is. However, that depends on the type of guy you are. If you are hot then it's pretty favorable because you have real women with the need to contact you behind those choices instead of flaky women. I'd you are not a hot guy... Well, your chances go way way down.

That doesn't mean people don't use it.

[random56286]

I have never used that site but I love the concept. I'm not forward with women and the only good relationships I have had, she made it very clear that she likes me. That would reduce the number of hounds using the site and make it a lot easier for normal guys to get a chance to get to know someone.

[SnapTsch]

It gives more power to women.
If you want to claim sexism then its against men.

But they should be allowed that, because they are a private entity, they should be allowed to be racist or sexist.
If people have a problem with it, they won't use it or boycott it and the company would crash.

[Alessus]

I mean yes, by taking away the mens ability to start a conversation, the app is biased against them, but then again it should be clear from the get go that the app is like that so if you someone is so concerned about it's sexism, then they should just not use it. I think Bumble has a reasonable explanation for why it functions like it does and it's not trying to hide it either, so I don't see anything wrong with it.

[MrMAC777]

Women have the most control now, but they are brainwashed into thinking the guy needs to make the first move. So I think women should show their interest, then the guy can show his game to someone who is at least interested, which is nice. Otherwise, guys are just playing a guessing game and hoping for the best...

[Anonymous]

It's about time. If anything is 'sexist' it's that women demand equality, but still expect men to do all the hard work in courting... and then to pay for the dates to boot. I'm glad to see a site making women put in some actual effort for once.

[poiuyrvhgd]

Sounds like a good idea. Dating would be much easier if women had not been conditioned to think they could not initiate.

[RationalMale]

Bumble was a great idea. Unfortunately the reality is that just like tinder, 99% of girls just go with a lame "hi" bc women suck at initiating.

[TsundereMatrix]

Or not at all

[Malcom_Reynolds]

I don't think it's sexist, it's an artificial rule created just for this one particular app which people can choose to use or not.

[TheUglyMonk]

I think it´s funny and it obviously won´t be as succesful as other dating apps; I wouldn´t call it sexiest, if you simply don´t like the options this app offers just use another one.

[Anonymous]

It is a typical example of the sexism of feminism. As a man I would never use Bumble. Why in the world would a self-respecting man use a self-proclaimed feminist dating ap? And why in the world would a man be interested in a woman who would use it?

[Anonymous]

I'm in favor of anything that doesn't allow women to sit back and gloat about all the attention she is getting online.

[moviedude714]

I don't know why women are so adamantly against this

[Anonymous]

Isn't it also sexist to assume that a guy has to make the first move?

[Nadeem9916]

What every it might be
But I always suggest tinder is the best

[ohshee]

Is tender very good maybe i should try it

[mT2359]

Why would you consider that sexist?

[Nahid1234]

Nigga read the description

[mT2359]

Yes. But why is initiating conversation by women sexist?

[mT2359]

After all its a woman who has to approve men on other dating platforms as well.

[TsundereMatrix]

Because it doesn’t give men the opportunity to initiate

[mT2359]

That is sexist! Expecting a man to always have the option to initiate! Women have that option on Bumble, that's not sexist!

[TsundereMatrix]

But I think my friend think it’s sexist because he wants the option to initiate.

[mT2359]

If he is not sexist then how does it matter to him if women initiate. That's another argument.

[Nahid1234]

Most of the time. A guy does initiate a conversation and a relationship 😅 so a girl can get played 😝

[TsundereMatrix]

I don’t know. He’s a bisexual guy that just got out of a long term relationship with his ex girlfriend and now he has a boyfriend. Not like it matters to him anymore.

[jonstr101]

It doesn't matter to him that women have the option to initiate. I have yet to see a dating app that did not allow for the female to initiate. He holds issue with the fact that if he sees a girl he'd really like to get to know a bit more, he does not have the option.

[madmonkey1968]

Is bumble not full of fake profiles though !

[Dinnye001]

Well, it is not. Why would it be?