If a guy kissed you on the cheek while you were hugging, what would you think?

[Anonymous]

OK, I've been friends with this girl for like a year. I have a crush on her and I think she may like me.

We went to the fair last night and both of us had a lot of fun. Went on rides, shared funnel cake, saw a concert, blah blah. Anyway, she drove me home and when we were hugging, like we normally do, I kissed her on the cheek. She looked normally surprised and she was like feeling her cheek but we didn't say anything about it.

We hung out again today (went to see a play and then I went to go help her with her homework at her house) and neither of us brought it up.

We hug like every single time we're done hanging out but this was the first time I kissed.

[Kitty1574]

Well if I was the girl in your situation and I had a crush on you back, then I would be surprised in a good way. Hmm, I think she just wasn't expecting you to kiss her on the cheek. Maybe she likes you too and is just shy about it and that's why she didn't bring it up. Its a good sign that you guys hung out again the next day so I'm thinking that she thought good things. Hope this helps :)

[Asker]

I've been thinking she has a crush on me too but I just think I could have odne it better. It came out of nowhere and it was really fast. And we hung out again today because we've been planning it (Even though she canceled at first, I convinced her not to lol)

[Kitty1574]

Ahh, I see. Well just take things slow and then maybe while you guys are alone, tell her how you feel. I know it sucks admitting to people that you really like them but its worth it. Hopefully, she feels the same way about you. Then you guys can decide what to do from there :)

[Asker]

I would tell her how I felt but doing that got her to reject me once before (Long story. Said she just wanted to be friends but ever since that happened, she's been acting differently and less "friendly". We rarely hung out or talked before but ever since, we talk on the phone for hours and try to hang out at least once a week)

[Kitty1574]

That sucks that she rejected you before and all that but what happens if say you don't ever tell her and she finds another guy that she really likes? Honesty is the best policy but I do understand where you're coming from. How long has it been since you last told her how you felt? She could have changed her mind since then.

[Asker]

About... Three months

I was thinking of just like making a move instead of telling. Like cuddling or a kiss on the lips

[Kitty1574]

You could do that. but make sure the timings just right. especially with a kiss on the lips. cuddling is good move too. subtle, but it gets the point across.

[Asker]

Yeah. I just can't decide if I should just tell her or if I should try one of those...

And just something I noticed at her house (first time I've been at it btw), I saw on her calender that by my name on a day we were planning on hanging out, she had a smiley face next to it

[Kitty1574]

Aww that's a good sign :) plus she trusts you (since she brought you over) so I think the time is right to make a move. But maybe wait a week just to be sure or, if you're impatient, pull your move next time you hang out.

[Asker]

Yeah, I REALLY wanted to make a move this past weekend but the cheek is the closest I could get

Just don't know when we're gonna hang out again... She's busy with class and work during the week and she's gonna be busy this coming weekend... I see her at the college sometimes but I know it'd be bad to do it there

[Kitty1574]

What if you took her out to dinner after class on night? Unless she has classes at night, then that might not work. Do you mind if I ask why college would be a bad place to do it?

[Asker]

She's always exhausted after. She gets up at like 5 in the morning and goes nonstop from class to work (only 30 minutes inbetween or so), where she gets off as five. Even then, she always has homeworktoo.

I dont' think college would be good because even though we do have a class next to each other, we both have classes right after it and after her second class, she has to go right to work. Really just not enough time

[Asker]

And just as an fyi, the main reason I think she's into me is because she was painting a picture for my birthday. She had it finished but started completely over and is even getting her art prof to ehlp her since she didn't think it was good enough. That and the amount of time we spend talking (like at least two hours each time on the phone).. Yeah

[Kitty1574]

Ok then, college isn't the place then. So then you guys will probably have to work out a time next week when you can hang out. And based on your new info, I'd say she likes you quite a bit since she wants to impress you. I'm an art major and (for me at least) its a big deal to start a painting over.

[Asker]

Yeah, she also got me a birthday present too, so that's just like a bonus

I'll admit, I did ask her to paint it, but just the fact that she's doing it makes me hopeful. I mean, I wouldn't do something like that if my friend asked. She said its because I've been teaching her guitar and while I started... I haven't in like a month and even then, we've only done it for like two hours total. Not much compared to how much time she spent on the painting

[Asker]

And when I was leaving her house yesterday, she said like "See ya tomorrow" (even though she meant Tuesday, which is when our classes together)

We normally don't see each other at the school. I know where she goes if she's let out early (she told me a while back). Would going and finding her be sort of stalkery or whatever?

[Kitty1574]

I don't think it would be stalker-like. It would just be a casual appearance, a coincidental meeting. Or you could just tell her that you wanted to see her and that you like spending time with her.

[Asker]

Probably

The only thing that makes me not sure about it is that when she rejected me, it was pretty blunt ("You'll find the right woman, it just won't be me")

Granted, we only kept in touch pretty much by text then, hangin out only like twice when we started all the talking after. And I think she may have been flirting with me when we were talking the other day. We were talking about a class and I offered to help and she was like "Are you serious or do you just want to hang out with me"

[Kitty1574]

Oh wow, she was pretty harsh when she rejected you. BUT that was in the past and you guys have hung out more and gotten to know each other better. Things change with time.Take for example my crappy example: girls (or guys) can be like leaves in the summer and autumn. In the summer, the leaves don't want to fall to the ground since they're green. But in the autumn, they've changed colors and are ready to fall. You see what I mean. I suck at metaphors.. Anyways, I say just tell her how you feel.

[Asker]

True.. I just can't decide what to do lol

Making a physical move would be nicer but I just can never find the good chance to do it

[Asker]

And I don't know if I said, but I managed to get her to uncancel the play with me. I originally told her the wrong time and the right time interfered with her schedule (homework) but at the fair, I managed to convince her to go with me still.

She said she had a good time and it was worth it :)

[Zingo311]

If I liked him it would probably be like those old cartoons where when someone kisses them they walk away all loopy with hearts floating around their head lol but that's just me

[the_cheshire_cat]

i would think he was interested in me.