Im always the rebound, never the girlfriend. How do I not feel ugly and hurt?

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy for a few months after he broke up with his girlfriend (lets calls her S). He and S dated for over a year, and I started dating him about 6 months after they broke up. It was super obvious he still had feelings for her. They remained best friends, and he was closer with her than he was with me. That's why we broke up. Fast forward a few weeks, he started dating another girls, and they've been together for TWO YEARS now. How can I stop myself from feeling hurt? Why was I his shitty rebound? Does it mean Im not pretty enough to be in a relationship?

[Jmcmanning]

Usually rebounds don't last, especially if they are still hung up on the ex and still talking to them. I would always find out if they have broken up recently, then find out if he's over her or not. I went through with a guy and we were together for 2 years. It became obvioous at the end he was still into his ex-wife. You will never compare to the other women he still has feelings for. It's not you, it's them not getting over the other person. Keep the faith.

[rgb008]

Because you let yourself be the rebound.
Stop dating guys who are looking for a rebound.

[Logorithim]

It does not in any way mean you are not pretty enough (you did something right to attract these guys in the first place), but are you pursuing the guys who you want to go with or do you wait for whoever asks you out? I constantly urged women to ask out the guy they are interested in instead of waiting to be asked out.

[petark7]

Send me a picture and I can tell you whether you are beautiful or not. But I doubt that he doesn't like you because you are not beautiful... It's probably because he doesn't like you overall.. but that doesn't mean that you have bad qualities it rather means that he doesn't like yours.

[Chaz269]

Stop dating guys who are vulnerable after a breakup, if you can. That should be in your top 10 interview questions, even if you're not necessarily interviewing. If there's a chance you'll be interested in a fella, quiz him about his recent love life.

[Charleslvajr]

It's not about attractiveness, it's about timing and emotional state. He needed a friend but ended up with a girlfriend and it's insanely difficult to unravel, it's just cleaner to move on.

[JakeDion]

You took the words right out of my mouth...

[thinker_]

looks: no one can say over here unless you are ready to share it with us

rebound: maybe you get too needy (so when u see first men, u date with him and dont check compatibility)

can say if u can share some information

[disgustingweebtrash]

Stop dating guys who just got out of a relationship?

[hasrett]

This.

[Darkchild25]

Maybe he just wasn't the one babe. Take your time to get to know someone have them be your friend then best friend before becoming more.

[samuel72]

No not at all myself have been in rebound think have to take into account that they had spent good while together and the dating other girls was perhaps he didn't want serious relationship and thought bout respect when it came 2 u

[Philyouup]

Dont date guys that are fresh out of a relationship.

[Cornchipuniverse]

No you were just unlucky, you're probably a great girlfriend.

[SilverRain92]

Maybe you are just not his type of girls. But it doesn't mean you are not pretty enough.

[ftw00]

Dont date anyone who just got out of a relationship make sure they have been single for awhile

[CrazyyChick]

It was just wrong timing

[zagor]

So this happened once, and now it is always?

[Rosewanda]

You haven't found the right guy yet.

[rm_llort]

Withold sex until you're official?

[WiggleWasser]

You obviously need to improve your pussy skills.

[Acenova]

Let a guy come to you

[terrencep]

When think about it