Why do my tinder chats keep hitting a wall? (Page 2)

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I've been on and off tinder for a few years now. It seems like I always get frustrated and quit at some point. One major reason for this frustration is that my conversations seem to always hit a brick wall at some point. We'll have what I am considering a good and fun conversation and out of nowhere they stop replying.  I decided to give tinder another try not long ago. I matched with a few people, and started a conversation with two guys that seemed the most approachable. I didn't pick and choose out of a thousand matches, by the way. I only had maybe four so far and decided I'd stop swiping and try to get to know these new matches.  I had a conversation going with both of these guys for a few weeks. Then, a couple of days ago, both of them didn't reply anymore. On an app like tinder it's not alarming if it takes a few days for them to answer but both of these guys had previously answered within 24 hours. Now I haven't heard from either in four days. Obviously you can't know what has actually happened because you aren't mind readers. The guys only know why they decided to not answer anymore. However, this has happened to me more times than I can count.  Do you have any idea what could be causing this trend? Is this a sign of me simply being a bad conversationalist? Should I ask them what's going on or is that too pushy?

Darkchild25 · Answer

I have the same thing with women. They message every few days then nothing. One girl replied saying she doesn't get notifications but she is interested so if she takes a while to responds thats the reason. That was one message FOUR WEEKS AGO!

Superbdiamond1981 · Answer

The best is maybe a Facebook than tinder at least you will find real people with your mutual friends.

Paris13 · Answer

Tinder is not Really known with a Reputation Here, Dear, Of Having A... Real Relationship. More like Hook-up Site. xx

BigGuy8 · Answer

You're probably not moving at the speed they want you to. Some people give up once they haven't met you in a certain time. Or they found other girls.

DodgersGM · Answer

One possibility: they decided you weren't interested in meeting in-person.  Another possibility: they found someone else they like better.

themon09 · Answer

the reason to use tinder is to hookup or meetup. if it's a huge talk that goes on and on with no endpoint in sight that's when most of us tap out. tinder isn't match. com

Brewmaster531 · Answer

My guesses are they were talking to someone else and had more interest or you picked a good bunch who don't know how to carry on a conversation.

random56286 · Answer

When that has happened with someone I connected with, it will ask, basically saying I just want to learn something and wondered what happened.

Gladys2018 · Answer

With guys on tinder need to find ways to keep convo interesting, trying to keep their attention is difficult. Don't take app seriously

nextdoorguy · Answer

Did you have a sex chat with them? Told them all your sexual preference?

vashsoltek · Answer

People on tinder are not looking for a conversation people on kik are but not tinder they are looking for hookups and dates so if you're taking 3 weeks and not going to see them chances are someone else made the move

mac_daddy416 · Answer

Are you boring? Via some people are easy to chat conversations flows like water. Other you hope them to even understand small lingo. One girl on tinder took 30 mins between chats to answer. I just blocked her.

Lucifer_666 · Answer

Maybe they found someone else. Dating apps are terrible for finding partners in my opinion. Another reason is because they didn't find you interesting enough

Masselin · Answer

Honestly I'm still waiting for a chat to happen in tinder.

androcentrist · Answer

Tinder is a garbage site. fun for looking at a hundred hot pics a day, but worthless for having even the most basic of conversations.

ChristianFriis · Answer

Idunno, I've been on there a few days and I've yet to have a chance to use the chat function. Maybe they got frustrated and quit like you do.

Jimbojim · Answer

I don't know I get the same thing when I'm talking to women on Tinder everything's going great then all the sudden they don't talk to me or answer any of my messages anymore

Duke1985 · Answer

Happens to me often. Hard to say, but it's good you're questioning yourself. But it's honestly not easy, for other people like us, to tell you if you're a bad conversationalist.

BeHappy1985 · Answer

I'm gonna take a wild guess here and say that it is because you are overweight and as soon as someone who isn't replies to them they go for that instead.

ryan578 · Answer

Looks like you figured out something here, just wanted to add that regardless of meeting site, and given the nature of online distance everyone has this problem. For a variety of reasons, but choosing online unfortunately comes with this frustration.

Levin · Answer

Suomi men have no balls, that's why. Would rather game than fuck hot Finnish women!

aggle · Answer

You could always try meeting someone in real life. Tinder is pretty much just for hook ups.

Meninist · Answer

How much of the conversation are you leading? Do you expect the man to do all the conversing including asking for your number etc?

xanku · Answer

I honestly have no words... because mine do the same thing and I just don't know... I'm sorry I can't help out

leifleoden · Answer

Who sent the last message? Also, if they're just looking for a hookup, it is Tinder after all, they will probably go for the lowest hanging fruit.

blackael · Answer

If he feels like its not gonna get anywhere to when ur actually in person per say or hit that next tier he will go to who he thinks he can with

reixun · Answer

There’s a point when messaging gets tiring and setting up a meetup is the next step. Three weeks is definitely far past that point, for me.

jessture · Answer

They found someone else that intetested them. Welcome to knowing what it is like being a guy

OnAColdWinterNight · Answer

You talk with guys... For weeks? There you go. With Tinder, you match, and within a few minutes you get an actual physical date. If I match a girl and I don't get one within a week I unmatch her.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

They went to find someone else cuz apparently you don't want to hook up, state on your bio that you're looking for a life-long partner and avoid the man-whores

WhoDatGuy · Answer

Most of the time they don't want to meet, just chat. So I've gone old fashioned and started salsa dancing instead. I meet so many better people this way and I like it too!

Mrblueballs42 · Answer

Tinder has a lot of fake profiles. They will chat you up and run off. They dont care about you they usually want money. They say they are from some state but then they moved to africa.

slatyb · Answer

If you want to meet someone from an online app, then stop texting and arrange a meeting.

Nephilim000 · Answer

i would guess they found what they were after somewhere else faster

pooper89 · Answer

They started talking to another woman who is more exciting:/

Fukaroo · Answer

They found what they were looking for. Their temporary boner relief medication (you or in this case someone else beat you to the meat).

DarkerThanGrey · Answer

I think people dont understand there is very LARGE cultural barriers between people. Specifically when u are dealing with others

zackspada · Answer

I don't know but I deleted it because even if I liked everyone on the damn site no one matched with me

Cyye83 · Answer

Maybe your answers are too short and they feel like you are not interested?

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Did you tell them that Finland doesn't really exist? Sorry I saw that in another thread. lol

blueblocker2011 · Answer

They were probably on the site to hook up and when you took to long they went somewhere else. There are other sites for dating you should probably try.

JesseTheMan · Answer

Wheredo you live? It might depend on the place lol. I live in Finland and I know some girls who report the men they talk to stopping the conversations eventually if they don't move fast enough.

Auctor · Answer

You can try saying hi can see if they respond. If not they already found what they were looking for

OinkerBoinker · Answer

Tinder is for sex hookups, go outside and meet people... Lol wow.

BanksRevo · Answer

Because meeting people online is f'n weird and the state of the world and the social structures are fk'd and everyone's constantly in a state of anxiety.  But maybe there is hope. ✌💙👀

Markfish · Answer

Tinder is generally for casual sex so... if your conversation wasn't getting sexual or hinting at meeting to have sex, there is a good chance the guy lost interest.

Duderanch · Answer

I hate tinder. Everyone talks for weeks and you talk about your whole life story. If you like them arrange a date then talk.  The old skool way. That what i prefer

antonio0001 · Answer

Maybe you'll have a much better conversation night.

AlanAyliffe · Answer

You should try to get their numbers after your first chat

Anonymous · Answer

I think the problem was that you were going weeks with conversation when it should only be days and then meet somewhere, I think it went on to long and they lost interest and found someone else

Crankor · Answer

Most likely your not the only one they were talking to and they got better deals with them

JeremiahIam · Answer

My luck is not good there, I never met anyone there either. I think I lost "it"

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I think coachTanthony is right on this one, try and move it to whatsapp or move on.

zagor · Answer

You should write to me instead. As long as you're OK with long distance...

safwat1 · Answer

Many guys aren't confident, so if they do stop replying, just move on.

FluffyBee · Answer

You are not pretty enough aw Tinder is mainly to fuck so don't stress 😄😊

Kai2293 · Answer

Yes i Know it same with girls and i am always Friendly and polite!

1derfulguy · Answer

"a few weeks" HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Christ, you do not understand men at all, do you?

deido · Answer

In short: because it's tinder! Most just wanna smash XD

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