My boyfriend is busy on Valentine's Day and I feel really lonely. Is this bad?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a midterm tomorrow, so he is spending the whole day of today - Valentine's Day - on studying. We exchanged texts of "Happy Valentine's Day!" to each other this morning, and that was all we talked today. I thought I was okay with it, but today when I go out and see all these couples loved up and exchanging gifts, I started to feel super lonely. I feel like maybe he does not care about me as much, and I feel like I am actually spend this day as a single person rather than someone in a relationship. Is this normal? Or is this a bad sign?

[Jayeleo]

Dump that boy he doesn't love you enough! Do it slowly if it's easier for you, but just get rid of him. Any girl that I would brand "my girlfriend" I would put before any damn test. Study like hell the days before Valentine's Day, spend most of the damn day with YOU and set aside just a couple hours on Valentine's Day for studying. He's not studying all day. No one literally studies all day, it's not possible, and it doesn't work.
If you don't want to break up with him/can't, then I'll give you advice but you can't be mad. Fuck him. Or blow him. Double the amount that you do now. Random times and places are the best, it makes him feel wanted and it flatters him. And flattery is one hell of a drug. If a girl blows you constantly, cuddles and kisses you and you call her your girlfriend, then there's very little reason not love life when you're with her. That comes with a price though. Will you be happy knowing that the stake of your relationship relies on YOU giving sexual pleasure?
This dude skipped out on Valentine's DAY, I'd be hella surprised if he voluntarily eats you out without you asking. (If he does, then damn. Maybe today was just an off-day?)
Sexual pleasure should not be something that carries the relationship, it should be the physical language of showing how much you care, how much you're attracted, how much you want to stay with that person - because it's NOT an easy task, but one should be able to love without the need of regular sexual release. Unfortunately that's really hard to find these days

[Shutupman]

Wow... You have weird priorities in life. Irrational much lol

[Jayeleo]

Lol maybe

[gferg]

Lol what.

[Jayeleo]

It's just how I feel tho

[GingerGuy]

I was in the same situation with my girl and felt the same way. But that's life sometimes. Don't read too much into it. Also, Valentines Day is a day like any other. Meaning you can "celebrate" it another day. You're "love" should be shown everyday, not just on Valentines. It's a stupid day to have in my opinion. Like, why single out 1 specific day?

[Anonymous]

Vday can be ANY day (after exam) + postponement makes it less crowded and more special/intimate, just for you two!

If this relationship is only about you, then leave now and find a loser not qualified to take an exam to better your lives ahead, as the loser will have ALL the time in the world to suck you dry.. perhaps better put... like an anchor

[Anonymous]

You can have the same kind of lovey dovey date another day... the difference in the date will only matter if you let it. His midterm is more important than the 14th tbh cause as I said you can have a date another day his midterm wasn't going to wait for him so it has nothing to do with him not caring about you.

[-Beonkia]

You at least have a boyfriend. You should be happy someone is with you. I had to struggle through the entire day at work with a girl going on and on about her recent pregnancy and her eating Valentine's day candy and I didn't get shit. So

[JM1987]

It's probably bullshit or just doesn't know how to manage his time. I'm sure he knew about the midterm way ahead of time and wanting to study the whole day before midterm which is on Vday? Come on. He could have spent at least a an hour with you. I don't ever recall having to study for a WHOLE freaking day when I went to college. He probably spent playing video games for a few hours.

[Crashnoveride]

Valentine's Day tends to strain any relationship.
Now he should have seen you a little bit and down something for you to show his commitment. Just talk to him softly and say that you wanted time with him.

[Arne215]

It's not bad. You can always go on a Valentine's date another day. I would say it is more important to focus at the schoolwork. It's not like you didn't talk/meet up for the whole week right?

[Cwazzycwafter]

If he’s studying, he’s studying. It’s a bit late for midterms but entirely plausible. It’s just an unfortunate turn of events. If you feel really bad about it, tell him. Communication is the best way to solve problems.

[samhradh_leannan]

I know what it's like to feel stressed about a big test, and it was responsible of him to study. But it seems like he could have found time to meet up for just a little while.

[Big_Tasty]

You're probably a side chick. Studying? That's bullshit. He's with another girl and you're not number one. Track him down and make sure his rein of side chicks has ENDED

[mhmdjoudi]

HE HAS A MIDTERM, Jesus Christ im pretty sure he'd rather spend time with you, he just can't!

[Shutupman]

Euh you are totally overreacting. Exams are more important than a holiday.

[Prakbio]

you should be happy for those couples.. you are not lonely... you have boyfriend.. what about those who dont even have the one who are single..

[emila234]

GOOD THING IS he was studying for exam. He isn't going out wif other girls. isn't it? Valentine's day isn't the only day for couples. If we love each other, everyday would be valentine.

[Anonymous]

I can understand where you’re coming from however it’s not like you all can’t celebrate another day.

[DanOh2018]

I find that if you really value someone you make time.

[Chanel1981]

How long have you been together?

[Leila112288]

if there is a will, there is a way.

[Roje_Kurdish_Gil]

Like a turkish guys