Is it ever okay to date a friends ex? (Page 2)

Question

Ever since I broke up with my ex 2 years ago, I never thought I would ever love anyone again.  Recently I’ve been texting my friends ex a lot (him and I were friends before they broke up). We have great chemistry and can talk for hours. He sometimes even flirts with me. I’m starting to really like him. i won’t date him now since the breakup was recent and my friend is still not over him. I’m just wondering if it would be an option a few months down the road.

annjan · Answer

I say go for it! Because even if the breakup hurt I would still want my ex to be happy and if that happened to be one of my friends then so be it. But maybe depends on how the breakup ended?

The_monk · Answer

I see no problem, just make sure he is over her completely or be comfortable knowing that he may not be and may have contact with her still. You gotta go in the water prepared to swim.

xoxofan · Answer

Unless you plan on ending the friendship. My best friend did this to me to show me that my boyfriend wasn't a good boyfriend long story short we aren't friends and haven't talked since they hooked up.

jayjaymarz1189 · Answer

Yeah go right ahead if you want to ruin yours and your best friends friendship. I guess it sounds hash but I don't want you to do the same thing happened to me

Teapotato · Answer

Which is more important to you, your friend or this guy? I don’t think that you can have both, unless your friend is really awesome.

Peterson933 · Answer

Obviously their relationship didn't work out. Who is to say that you two weren't meant for each other. Will it hurt your friend? Maybe, but it's your decision and only you can make the choice.

Marco6 · Answer

Most likely you will have to choose between your friend and dating her ex. You probably won't have both... Your friend may even tell you to go for it, but she probably won't mean it.

AnnaCavallii · Answer

THATS GIRL CODE: DONT EVER GO AFTER YOUR FRIENDS EX! If you like him now that means you liked him before while they were in a relationship. This is why I don't trust having female friends.

Techno-saurus · Answer

Depense who mean the person before for the friend... also the time... how serious been them relathion... If its been only few months or summer love etc. Why not? Maybe getting real love... never know, if dont try.
If know the ex and the friend had serious story then of course no chances... taboo !

MrEiffel · Answer

I'm kind of shocked by the people that say it's not okay... if you didn't work out doesn't mean that we won't either. I have to miss out of happiness because you didn't work out. I guess this is the world we live in...

abourbeau558 · Answer

GIRL CODE! don’t do it. Ever. It hurts so much to be in her position. Put yourself in her shoes.. how would you feel if she dated someone you were with?

Prof_Don · Answer

Only and I mean ONLY with your friend's blessing, should u date your friend's ex

Chicka-fil-A · Answer

Go for it.. you think she would do the same for you? You like him so there's obviously some kind of mutual feelings. He likes you as well because men do not stay on the phone with women for hours just because he likes you as a friend. They broke up its been 2 years and things happened for a reason. Sometimes we don't want to hurt the people we care about or love but in this case it happened that way.

idkjustbored · Answer

Just let your friend know you like him and stuff before you start trying to date him. That shit burns when you find out later on.

BrianG423 · Answer

I'm in a similar position, I think my friend is going to break up with her boyfriend (sorta my friend)  If she does I wouldn't really know what do do, it's very tough

chezburgr · Answer

There should be no problem with it, however some people take it as disrespectful. I personally don't care.

deraz24 · Answer

I think that's a little too close like yea we're over and stuff but that should just be an unwritten rule to me

AneeB · Answer

I agree with @Tahmaseeb that like guys have a bro code of not dating a friends ex or an ex’s friend it’s the same with girls. If it’s a close friend or not never date an ex’s friend or friends ex. Simple as that. :)

monicasagi · Answer

No.. I just try to refrain myself from doing that. Plus there are so many guys out there. Why to even think about someone who is remotely related to my ex?

Mag05 · Answer

Nah I personally wouldn’t do it. It’d be just too weird

Audreyweirdo · Answer

nope because its like dating her leftovers if he wasn't good to her, then he's not gonna be good to you. however he ended the relationship with her, the same thing gonna happen to you

RoseyJade · Answer

There isn't too much of a problem doing it. Asking your friend about whether they're okay about it or not would be a good idea though.

weaponsdude · Answer

Talk to your friend about it, the one who isn't over him. Based off what she says and how important her relationship is to you, will give you the answer. Best of luck

Anonymous · Answer

I've done it plenty of times. Usually the friends are sweeter and better anyways. Plus its fun to see the ex get mad for talking to "his" friends especially if you all hungout a lot when you and ex dated

trisa0918 · Answer

It's not okay.  Unless... your friend is dead.  Or maybe not even if she does die. Would you be okay if she dated your ex? The one you couldn't get over ever and thought you would never love again?

Leafpool2 · Answer

I don't know? I've never been in that situation but in my opinion unless they were abusive I don't see the issue?

_bunny_ · Answer

Its part of the code and on top of that what kind if friend are you to date your friends ex its so fucked

Xing92 · Answer

It depends on how long ago they broke up. If it's about a year - no problem

sean_bisexual · Answer

Definitely seek validation from your friend before trying anything. If the breakup was brutal I say no. If it was a normal or mutual breakup I feel like a true friend would let you date who you want.

BellePepper · Answer

If your friend gives you *explicit* permission it’s okay

Dimewolfe · Answer

I think it all depends but if you do there will definitely be some jealously along the way. Maybe.. maybe not

CHARismatic110 · Answer

No. None of my friends ex's would ever cross my mind like that.

devils_play_aj · Answer

Why not. You can have date with him. It seems he's into you.

marijajr · Answer

You need to ask her. My ex ended up with my best friend. It didn't hurt because of him, it hurted like hell because she was my best friend and she knew how much trouble he put me into.

sunrays1 · Answer

Whoever you date is going to be someone’s ex, friend or no friend.

amarahorrorstory · Answer

I think so, no one owns another person. But I think asking them first is good.

JasmineAsks · Answer

I would be hurt and betrayed if my friend did that to me, but of course, i'm talking about how i would feel.

Edit231 · Answer

I would say that your friend will understand. She is your friend and she has to respect your decision

kaajal · Answer

Dont get in this relationship. Thats never a good idea to date a friend's ex.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on how serious the relationship was. If they dated for more than 6 months and met the family I'd be careful.

donniepineda · Answer

My vote is no way but it really depends on how long they were NOT together and if she is hurting from that relationship.

pleasestopthis · Answer

If you're willing to lose a friendship (this is a possibility), go ahead. I personally wouldn't do it since I consider it a bit of a betrayal.

mrirkre4y4u · Answer

Its been a couple years then it should be fine but id talk to freind cind out how shed feel first and then make my mind up notsaying let friend make descion fir ya.

Beebee1010 · Answer

It depends how close you and your friend are... I'd say no way. First of all there are so many other peoole in the world plus how would you feel if roles were reversed.

Venus_ · Answer

It all depends on whether or not you care about your friend’s feelings and how much you like him. In my opinion, I would advise you to ask for your friend’s permission after you’re sure that she’s over him.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

HELL NO, unless you don’t care about that friendship

Pocahontas2000 · Answer

Not for me. Friends ex is a NO GO territory for me.

Gladman85 · Answer

Realize you may very well lose your friend. "A man cannot serve two masters without loving one and despising the other."

azure81 · Answer

Depends on how and why they broke up, and how close you are with that friend.

lucasguy11 · Answer

If you care even slightly about your ex in anyway, you shouldn't. It's a hurtful thing to do, And is a violation of the bro code.

Dianael · Answer

I have been in the same situation and she didn't understand my opinon she thought I was dating with her ex boyfriend but I swear I didn't , so she said me Bitch so to you I advice don't do it 💖You better feel alone.

hasrett · Answer

I would have no problem with that, unless he was an asshole.

clampfan101 · Answer

If he doesn’t want her anymore, you’re not taking anything from him.

lilzichik1 · Answer

I've dating my friends ex or I thought she was my friend but it was fine

Iron_Man · Answer

That's a very bad idea, that's a good way to ruin your friendship with your friend

es20490446e · Answer

Depends on if there are still feelings involved or not.

pinayfit · Answer

I mean you cannot pick who to fall inlove with. It just happens

mac_daddy416 · Answer

She is ex why be sour pus. Let bygones be bygones and be happy for your friend. I was when my ex dated my best friend.

Kiran04 · Answer

Of course it would be. Would your friend like it? Probably not, but you don't need their permission just like they don't need yours.

Redrocket69 · Answer

Ehh not really but damn... girls do it all the time.

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