How to deal with a boring guy?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy online. We've been texting each other now for a month. He has traits every woman would desire in a man. Sex is the least of his priority rarely ever talked about it. I love him dearly but there's one thing that bothers me, and that is he doesn't talk much. If he does, then it's only to express his love for me. I'm the one who initiates other topics and he would reply in one word answer. Now I ran out of ideas. I pretend to be busy and reply late to him. What makes it worse is that when I don't talk much he'd point it out. We'll be having our first date soon. Imagine how that will go, I guess we'll just be staring at each other lol

P. S I already told him that he seems not fond of small talk he replied that he likes any talk with me.

[candycanehearts]

eh he sounds kind of weird, maybe its just cause its texting but if he doesn't say anything on the date, i would be really creeped out, cause if he's only saying super duper sweet stuff that guys think girls want to hear, a lot of guys like that turn out to be control freaks, i think you should be careful

[mooky06]

It’s probably hard for him to have consistent conversations with you over text. He probably would be more social face to face with you

[Amy247]

You haven't even met him yet? I wouldn't worry about it then, chemistry in person can be way different than text.

[Asker]

I know I think a lot. I forgot to mention that it's a long distance relationship. can't wait to see how he is in person. Thank you for your comment.

[HorrorFan]

Some prefer in person conversation over texting. It simply isn't the same.

You also have to remember women on average say 8,000 words per day, men 2,000. Women talk more. You should probably wait until after the first date before you worry about things like that.

[thinker_]

talk to him instead of texting

would be far better

[Soporific-san]

You do realize he might be a shy type? Of course he won't talk much. Do you honestly think it'll be better in person?

[thinker_]

@Soporific-san yaah 100 and 1%

you can't say about someone shyness unless you have tried it once.

Maximum what will happen, he will deny it but you have your answer and far more cleared

[Asker]

@Soporific-san He's not shy at all. He's a home care owner. I'm the one who's of shy type. Hope he be talkative in person.

[thinker_]

asker

yaah i guess it will be fine if u start talking

[Soporific-san]

Ahh, then he should be fine in person. There is more joy in conversations in person anyways. Not much entertainment over the net, unless you approach it in a different manner.

Question, have you ever tried talking to him over a call? Discord, Skype, cell phone? That is a bit more entertaining than text.

[thinker_]

@Soporific-san lol thats what i told her lol

cuz this will help the change to be gradual

if they directly go face2face, would be weird then

[Soporific-san]

Still, not talking much over phone can be troublesome. When it comes down to not able seeing one another all the time. Can further decline in wanting to see them due to lack of communication. People get bored of others pretty easily when there's lack of communication. I know this due to me not texting my ex as much back then. She was worried I lost interest or cheating on her. At the time, I hated talking over phone.

[Asker]

@Soporific-san No, never spoke to him over the phone, Skype, etc. He just sent me a voice message. I was surprised to hear his voice cuz I didn't expect it to sound like that. Imagine he never hears my voice then we go directly face to face lol die from weirdness.

[thinker_]

asker i understood this directly and thats why i am saying proceed gradually and with what you mentioned about him you woud have better chances with call than of text

[Asker]

You're right. Thank you so much for sharing your opinion, thinker.

[thinker_]

no issues

give it a mho, if u like :P :P

[Soporific-san]

It doesn't seem like it'll work out for you due to his lack of conversations. Bring it up with him. Open his shyness bubble and burst it open. That's about the best advice I can give. I normally tend to be very talkative and ramble on random topics. Don't understand how no one can stir up a proper conversation. Anyways good luck to you!

[Wraithguy]

So you haven't had a first date yet and your already creating these ideas? Slow it down self-appointed princess.
Some guys aren't much for small talk. I think the problem is people want to chat via technology and some of us still prefer face to face.

Give the guy a break...

[Asker]

I know its wrong for me to form these ideas. Problem is it's a long distance relationship. communication would be mainly through texting. It's really bad right now. Some questions I ask like do you like animals he didn't even answer. He changed the topic.

[Asker]

All the while he gets upset for me not talking much lol

[unknown-creature]

I think that it's a good idea to meet him in person. People can be different when they are texting and when they are with someone in front of them. Maybe he is a little shy. Or the topics that are you talk with him was not of his interest. Maybe he is an introverted person so in that case be patient and everything will be okay.

[Stafa]

I went on a date with this girl, and for some reason I was tired and didn't talk much, we'd stare passionately into each other's eyes, and she initiated most subjects. I was happy to be with her, holding hands and walking in the snow, sometimes talking just didn't feel necessary

[GingerGuy]

I'm the same way. It's nothing personal so don't take it that way. I'm like this with everyone. For you, you have to either accept him as that's the way he is (on the plus side, it allows you to talk about anything and everything you want to lol, and he won't mind that), or he's not the right guy for you and you need to find someone more your style. Because otherwise you're never going to be completely happy.

[LasPlagas]

Maybe he's just like that in texting I know some people who talk a lot but when I text them I get 1 word replies only

[FatMu]

I have exactly your problem with a girl. Damn the world îs small

[Asker]

hate this.

[Sebdcjones]

He could just be very introverted yet loyal and a good listener. Maybe he has a secret passion which he can talk about for hours. Put the time in and you might unlock his secret. I sound like a 14-year-old girl but I already wrote it so posting now.

[shrek2915]

If you have a reason to be with him, you will definitely find a way to ignore the feeling of being bored with him.

[anton_dmitri]

The guy doesn't seem to have much general knowledge and hence doesn't have much to talk about...

[Anonymous]

All the best... better post another question in this way
"how to date this boring guy i like him a lot but never initiates anything?" :P :P :P

[sandovke]

Once you're face to face, it'll all work out.! 👍🏼💪🏼

[yuilv]

Tempt him. Wear innerwear in front of him. Spank him to get interest in you

[Asker]

It's a long distance relationship. Actually, he's extremely interested in me he just doesn't talk. weird.

[Anonymous]

DO things together that's how you create memories and things to talk about, inside jokes and romantic tension.

[WriterAndy]

Make him wear clown make-up. Then it's always a party!

[Anonymous]

Ah the good old what I should want doesn't match with what my instincts want.
Gotta decide which part of you to make happy the female or the woman.

[iamshan]

Make him a deal " You talk or I walk"

[AlexDelux]

Dump him or drag him along