"The older you get, the harder it is to fall in love." Do you agree with this?

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VonDamme · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's hard to fall in love, but it might be difficult finding mutual affection. Getting older and still being single I think you start to hone in on what's really important to you and you stop taking crap when dating. SOME people may be more closed off depending on past experiences. You're also busier most likely, and there are less single people in your general group. You may not be in an environment that allows you to meet new single people as often as before (no more school, most people in the office are involved, or office romance is also often a bad idea anyway, no more crazy party nights because you're more responsible...)

But that doesn't make it hard to love, because you can easily meet someone and love them often, but they simply may not feel the same. It's just harder to find a relationship that works out.

KaramelKisses · Accepted Answer

for me yea, i just keep running into sex thirsty after sex thirsty, unromantic boring men. seems like if u dont get out much like me, if u didn't find your lover in highschool, college or your job ure shit out of luck.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

This is true for some people. For some people, bad experiences make you become more guarded, more cautious, less emotionally available, less likely to fall in love. For "hopeful" romantics like me, I am still available to fall in love with the right woman, despite the failed relationships of my past.

think_logic85 · Accepted Answer

The older you get, the more realistically you see things, the younger you are, the more mistakes you make before you stand for nothing and end up falling for everything and also let others put the ideas in your head on what a love should be.

In older age you know where it counts the most.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I say no. It depends on your maturity. It might become easier if you become wiser and more mature and intelligent and selfless during this time. I knew a guy who slept with 200 woman when he was younger and good looking. Now he is fat and ugly and he is madly in love with a woman who is also fat but not ugly.

PrincessPie · Answer

I think the more times you've been in love and it ended badly, its much harder to put that trust into someone.

Allie_Oops · Answer

It’s true. I’m one of those people who has become very guarded and disinterested in dating. Past relationships and encounters have shown me guys think with their dick first regardless of age.

Logorithim · Answer

I don't think that applies to me- I'm looking forward to falling in love again, although I obviously won't with just any woman.

Browneye57 · Answer

Not really, it's just that you get set in your ways, and your home space all configured, so it becomes less and less desirable to take on a new residence.
For example, a single parent, executive, has a nice home, the kids are older, finishing school and etc.; so why would this person want to either move a new partner in, or who would want to move into that either, or would they sell it all and move elsewhere? It's all just too complicated.
But it doesn't mean you can't or won't fall in love with someone. It just gets more complicated.

Seems like for most young people the concept of love is about what they'll get out of it, when really it's about being in a place in your life where you have much to GIVE. Love is about giving, not getting.

madhatters4 · Answer

yes i but would say so for a different reason than i've seen here.

as you get older you realize what love is and what love isn't. when i was in high school it was easier to fall in love because i really had a different and more inaccurate concept of love. at 28 when i met my would be wife i had a clearer picture of love which allowed me to pass over all the people who weren't people i was really into and then more easily find and recognize love

chrissykerdock · Answer

mmm i'd say it was the magic of a 1st anything then the magic and wonder wears off... that's what it probably is... the older or longer you do something the more of the magic disappears... but i won't say you can't fall in love at any age it just won't have the same gravitional pull.

Halligan · Answer

I think when you find love as you get older, it’s genuine. It’s not based on lust or procreation, but on ultimate goals in life. Take out the lust and sex factors, then people feel like it’s harder to fall in love. I found it easier to find my soul mate, but I refused to date anyone for over 4 years after my divorce and before my husband came into the picture.

PinkandSparkles · Answer

I don't necessarily think it's harder to fall in love the older you get but you defiantly become much more particular. As mentioned, many factors (experience, past relationships, ect) play into it. I think as you age you get a better understanding of what you want and don't want in a partner.

Mickey9999 · Answer

The opposite. With age you realize your standards change and you become more accepting of people’s individualism. It’s easier to love someone’s imperfections because you know that we all have them and there isn’t such a thing as perfection when it involves people. So long story short, you love the person for whom they are. It may take longer to find the person but i think love occurs quicker.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Yeah, but you're probably thinking of "older" as being like 50 or 60, I can assure you it starts way earlier than that.

By the time you're past your mid-20's, you're fuckin' pushin' it. Especially you girls. Bitter, cynical, and jaded is a most unbecoming attitude for women, and most women start turning into that before they're even 30.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s hard not to get jaded. I’m a sensitive person and I’ve developed a hard shell over the years to defend myself. I keep thinking that one day I will find a woman who can handle it.

I’ve gotten in relationships where I’m able to control my emotions for a few months. But down the road i start getting comfortable and when that happens I start opening up about my insecurities (usually mirroring what my partner is comfortable sharing). Unfortunately without fail every woman I’ve met has a higher standard for her mans emotional toughness than herself. She really has no control over that either. It’s a cold hard fucking fact of life.

That makes it hard to trust anyone.

Goolash · Answer

falling in love is easier when younger because of things such a school, people you see everyday.

when you get older you have to actually go out and meet new people that way, which is much harder, of course there is online dating like tinder etc which make it easier

Djaay · Answer

False narrative... The older you are , the harder it is for others to fall in love with you. As the world turns , the younger find more reasons to disrespect those before them. And of course , those who believe you need to earn respect , deny that the older already earned theirs.

americana · Answer

The older you get, the more you try to find something meaningful. You become guarded after you face so much in the past that after some time, you just want to find something true and worth it and sometimes that’s difficult to find.

Theft · Answer

I am just finding more and more what I want and don’t want... the problame is that the older I get the more I find that what I want has already been taken... lol!!!

Chaz269 · Answer

It's absolutely true for most people. You get jaded and barely believe in love. Even if there's love interest, you're too stuck in your ways to make the compromises necessary to maintain a long-term relationship.

Jmcmanning · Answer

No harder, but life lessons over the years teaches the value of love and how to recognize real love from fake love (infactuation)

Pamina · Answer

I get the sentiment. But I would rather define it as "the older you get, the better you know what you want and don't want.

findingdreamland-1 · Answer

Self defense mechanism let me say. Love is a very strong feeling and there is no always happy ending. So your mind is protecting you by experience in case of bad ending.

steveguitar · Answer

You meet less people, you don't care as much, you're used to being single, you have less money to spend willy nilly.  Besides if your track record is bad at this point it's not likely to change

Mr-Kabuki · Answer

no it not about age is about sexual experience. you become desensitized to it all the more you engage. a 25 year old with 10 sexual partners in the past will be more desensitized than a 40 year old with zero partners

GracefulCharm · Answer

This depends on if you have given up or not. Has nothing to do with age. A lot of older people will use their age as a excuse to not do something. I see this all the time with any physical activity or chore.

sawno · Answer

For me, not so much since i experienced genuine love quite early but for most people i would absolutely say so.

MyExBackCoach · Answer

I think so, because you've learned that no one is perfect, so it's more difficult to be infatuated right away.

watisgoingon · Answer

I think so. life beat me down and taught me many lessons while beating me senseless. I did enjoy the process of maturing and learning but it left me to be cold inside and kinda killed my emotions. I don't think I'm capable of love anymore

Anonymous · Answer

I believe this to be true due to the amount of singles having emotional baggage from previous relationships and not being able to let that baggage go when they meet someone great since they're so guarded, insecure, possessive and controlling!

miiszmel · Answer

You can still fall in love when you're older. The sky's the limit when it comes to love

St4rbuks · Answer

I think we compare love in our 20s and 30s to the "love" we had in high school and college, but love evolves.

askmegirlagain · Answer

Older you get, more the baggage with you or your partner. Also you look at the holistic view rather than just love.

USA1960 · Answer

As a man of 57 years, I feel this is true. "We" have so many experiences throughout our lives, that we sometimes become overly judgmental. This goes for both men & women.

bubble_tea · Answer

I don't think it's harder to fall in love, but it probably gets easier to fall out of love.

JimRSmith · Answer

For some, definitely.  They get out of the habit, or never get into it. Trust issues and all.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Experience tells me that it's not the case. What DOES get harder: To meet someone who matches the (or my) criteria.

aficionado · Answer

Yes, because there are far fewer single people left beyond 30.

Darknut123 · Answer

No its not that at least for me. Its hard to find somebody that hasn't been ruined with societies ways. Women don't trust you even when intentions are clear.

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

Yeah, its like the more closed off and guarded your heart becomes with time.

aguynamedDan · Answer

It may be harder to find but you gain experience in live that makes the love you can feel and share much greater

studDMuffF1n · Answer

Yup, being young and dumb sure is nice. Adulthood sucks, everything looses its appeal when shit gets real.

rahul_24 · Answer

I agree, but it's only a viewpoint. Another viewpoint could say the more mature you become, less mistakes are observed, thus less likely to be in love later

Nik1hil · Answer

with experience comes perception , and you quit stupidity..

Anonymous · Answer

Not for me, I’ll still call pretty quick if I meet someone really special, it just happens less though if that’s what you mean.

Crankor · Answer

Not really harder, just realize more whats fake vs real

Pocahontas2000 · Answer

Not for me :D I can fall in love as easily as at 14

aa180 · Answer

I think it's more true with people who face constant rejection than with age.

19Merc94 · Answer

Dozens of people, dozens of different life stories and experiences. Don't think it's same by everyone.

skykid1992 · Answer

No I honestly believe you just realize all the bs people put you through so you end up becoming picky or just going with the flow.

Harsh_5299 · Answer

Only immature people "fall" in love, mental maturity is not correlated with age... I've seen many dumbass rich old guys fall for young gold diggers

LegateLanius · Answer

Possibly, I already know I won't and that I'm probably going to be single for life unless an actual miracle happens.

JamesDylan1990 · Answer

Possibly I suppose - I met my current girl at 25 she was 20 we love each other but if it ended I wouldn’t even want another girlfriend at least not for a long time

Tweets · Answer

For sure cuz as time passes the pickings are getting less and less as all the good ones get married off. Then most people just give up on falling in love and they quite looking.

jsid78 · Answer

I agree, But i think it's because you can finally see through all the b. s. The older you get the less likely you are to fall for all the fakeness you get when sometimes first meeting someone.

MrMAC777 · Answer

I think it is true because it gets harder to meet people as you get older.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I'm not quite sure really, but I'll say pass a certain age it will definitely get harder to find love..

ayman09 · Answer

True, kind of. The emotional baggage is bigger and that can make it harder to trust..  But on the other hand, we're supposed to learn from failure to avoid obvious traps..

Anonymous · Answer

hate to break it to you but what you call “love” is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed

Anonymous · Answer

can't say if it's true or not. love is hard for me regardless of age.

Anonymous · Answer

Love please. I can’t even get a date. I have girls like me but they never want to do anything just hit and runs.

Likes2drive · Answer

I don’t believe that but I am more choosy on who I fall in love with

bigbang101 · Answer

People get matured... So they don't get bothered by their hormones at a certain age...

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