"The older you get, the harder it is to fall in love." Do you agree with this?

[danii363]

Yes

No

[VonDamme]

I don't think it's hard to fall in love, but it might be difficult finding mutual affection. Getting older and still being single I think you start to hone in on what's really important to you and you stop taking crap when dating. SOME people may be more closed off depending on past experiences. You're also busier most likely, and there are less single people in your general group. You may not be in an environment that allows you to meet new single people as often as before (no more school, most people in the office are involved, or office romance is also often a bad idea anyway, no more crazy party nights because you're more responsible...)

But that doesn't make it hard to love, because you can easily meet someone and love them often, but they simply may not feel the same. It's just harder to find a relationship that works out.

[KaramelKisses]

for me yea, i just keep running into sex thirsty after sex thirsty, unromantic boring men. seems like if u dont get out much like me, if u didn't find your lover in highschool, college or your job ure shit out of luck.

[Theft]

Well some times... sometimes you meet your lover on line...

[lyannamormont]

@KaramelKisses
Sex thirsty after sex thirsty... Couldnt agree more.

preach.

[KaramelKisses]

@Theft they are sex thirsty

[Theft]

Lol! Oh it sounds so brutal to say it like that. l though! I guess we are all sex thirsty... men! Maybe you should just become a lesbian... I hear they are much better with the pussy too!!

[OlderAndWiser]

This is true for some people. For some people, bad experiences make you become more guarded, more cautious, less emotionally available, less likely to fall in love. For "hopeful" romantics like me, I am still available to fall in love with the right woman, despite the failed relationships of my past.

[TiredMonkey]

Hope you find it mate 😎

[OlderAndWiser]

@TiredMonkey I appreciate your well wishes, sir!

[NeallyNeal]

Giving this man a thumbs up! He said it all.. no need for me to post the same message. @OlderAndWiser.. 63 is still young mate. I'm sure she's out there with a loving heart and eyes for only you, just waiting for you to say hello.👍🏽😉.

[OlderAndWiser]

@NeallyNeal I appreciate your kind words.

[think_logic85]

The older you get, the more realistically you see things, the younger you are, the more mistakes you make before you stand for nothing and end up falling for everything and also let others put the ideas in your head on what a love should be.

In older age you know where it counts the most.

[jennifer_bloom]

I say no. It depends on your maturity. It might become easier if you become wiser and more mature and intelligent and selfless during this time. I knew a guy who slept with 200 woman when he was younger and good looking. Now he is fat and ugly and he is madly in love with a woman who is also fat but not ugly.

[PrincessPie]

I think the more times you've been in love and it ended badly, its much harder to put that trust into someone.

[Allie_Oops]

It’s true. I’m one of those people who has become very guarded and disinterested in dating. Past relationships and encounters have shown me guys think with their dick first regardless of age.

[TiredMonkey]

There's plenty of good guys out there, just need to weed them out from the pervs. Don't give up.

[Logorithim]

I don't think that applies to me- I'm looking forward to falling in love again, although I obviously won't with just any woman.

[Browneye57]

Not really, it's just that you get set in your ways, and your home space all configured, so it becomes less and less desirable to take on a new residence.
For example, a single parent, executive, has a nice home, the kids are older, finishing school and etc.; so why would this person want to either move a new partner in, or who would want to move into that either, or would they sell it all and move elsewhere? It's all just too complicated.
But it doesn't mean you can't or won't fall in love with someone. It just gets more complicated.

Seems like for most young people the concept of love is about what they'll get out of it, when really it's about being in a place in your life where you have much to GIVE. Love is about giving, not getting.

[madhatters4]

yes i but would say so for a different reason than i've seen here.

as you get older you realize what love is and what love isn't. when i was in high school it was easier to fall in love because i really had a different and more inaccurate concept of love. at 28 when i met my would be wife i had a clearer picture of love which allowed me to pass over all the people who weren't people i was really into and then more easily find and recognize love

[chrissykerdock]

mmm i'd say it was the magic of a 1st anything then the magic and wonder wears off... that's what it probably is... the older or longer you do something the more of the magic disappears... but i won't say you can't fall in love at any age it just won't have the same gravitional pull.

[Halligan]

I think when you find love as you get older, it’s genuine. It’s not based on lust or procreation, but on ultimate goals in life. Take out the lust and sex factors, then people feel like it’s harder to fall in love. I found it easier to find my soul mate, but I refused to date anyone for over 4 years after my divorce and before my husband came into the picture.

[PinkandSparkles]

I don't necessarily think it's harder to fall in love the older you get but you defiantly become much more particular. As mentioned, many factors (experience, past relationships, ect) play into it. I think as you age you get a better understanding of what you want and don't want in a partner.

[romeodili]

true talk so can we be friends

[Mickey9999]

The opposite. With age you realize your standards change and you become more accepting of people’s individualism. It’s easier to love someone’s imperfections because you know that we all have them and there isn’t such a thing as perfection when it involves people. So long story short, you love the person for whom they are. It may take longer to find the person but i think love occurs quicker.

[Bananaman177]

Yeah, but you're probably thinking of "older" as being like 50 or 60, I can assure you it starts way earlier than that.

By the time you're past your mid-20's, you're fuckin' pushin' it. Especially you girls. Bitter, cynical, and jaded is a most unbecoming attitude for women, and most women start turning into that before they're even 30.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard not to get jaded. I’m a sensitive person and I’ve developed a hard shell over the years to defend myself. I keep thinking that one day I will find a woman who can handle it.

I’ve gotten in relationships where I’m able to control my emotions for a few months. But down the road i start getting comfortable and when that happens I start opening up about my insecurities (usually mirroring what my partner is comfortable sharing). Unfortunately without fail every woman I’ve met has a higher standard for her mans emotional toughness than herself. She really has no control over that either. It’s a cold hard fucking fact of life.

That makes it hard to trust anyone.

[Goolash]

falling in love is easier when younger because of things such a school, people you see everyday.

when you get older you have to actually go out and meet new people that way, which is much harder, of course there is online dating like tinder etc which make it easier

[Djaay]

False narrative... The older you are , the harder it is for others to fall in love with you. As the world turns , the younger find more reasons to disrespect those before them. And of course , those who believe you need to earn respect , deny that the older already earned theirs.

[americana]

The older you get, the more you try to find something meaningful. You become guarded after you face so much in the past that after some time, you just want to find something true and worth it and sometimes that’s difficult to find.

[Theft]

I am just finding more and more what I want and don’t want... the problame is that the older I get the more I find that what I want has already been taken... lol!!!

[Chaz269]

It's absolutely true for most people. You get jaded and barely believe in love. Even if there's love interest, you're too stuck in your ways to make the compromises necessary to maintain a long-term relationship.

[Jmcmanning]

No harder, but life lessons over the years teaches the value of love and how to recognize real love from fake love (infactuation)

[Pamina]

I get the sentiment. But I would rather define it as "the older you get, the better you know what you want and don't want.

[bellybuttonlint]

I agree. When you're young you're not as selective. When you get older, hopefully, you get more selective.

[Pamina]

@bellybuttonlint Being more selective can makes things more complicated. But damnit I'm old and I want it my way! Haha

[kitty71]

You feel old at 34? Im 46 what do you think I feel then. ANd yes the older you get the more selective it becomes so it can get harder to fall in love EVEN to meet guys at your age who can be single and available. Therefore you may wind up with noone or with the wrong guy as an desperate attempt to be at least with someone in your life in your late years. I think im experience this for the very first time ever in my life and I dont know what to do with this guy I am so attracted with. He is 44 im 46 he is single just like me, he has no kids just like me. But there are certain things that I believe I can't go further with this guy, but it is for the guys personality and the way he see things. I am attracted to him and he knows iand I sense he also likes me.

[kitty71]

So since I can't go further with him I have to settle with what I have with him now, and that is nothing serious.

[Pamina]

@kitty71 Haha no, I don't feel old in that sense. I was just comparing myself to teens and young adults (18 to early 20s). But yeah, what you say makes perfect sense. It's quite the catch 22 - the older you get, the more selective you get, but at the same time, the older you get, the less options there are and the less time there is.

[kitty71]

Exactly the older we get the more selective we become but the downsize is that the older we get the less options we have and the less time we have to have someone in our lives or remain single what what is left of our lives or fall in lvoe with wrong guys beacuse there is no time but also because at our ages if we are so picky we won't find anyone also so we have to settle to what we find or look for, I think that is what is happening to me now with a guy I felt very attracted to.

[Pamina]

@kitty71 I'm gonna stick to being as selective as I am though.

[kitty71]

so it can be difficult t hen for u to be selective?

[bellybuttonlint]

I think it's good to be selective... no matter your age. It depends on your mindset. I feel like if I just be with a girl for the sake of it and she knows it, the relationship won't work and we'll either break up or she'll cheat on me. Being selective is tough, but some of the best things in life are worth working for.

[kitty71]

@bellybuttonlint I agree with your statement and if in the chance that you try and try to find someone because you are selective and you can't meet a man like that. Some women has to lower a little their standards for that.

[bellybuttonlint]

@kitty71 I agree... we all have to lower our standards a bit. I don't need a supermodel in my life (I would feel insecure at times admittedly) and I'm not looking for the perfect girl. I know I'm not perfect so in some ways if a girl is going to be with me, she'll have to lower her standards a bit.

[Pamina]

@bellybuttonlint It's always a trade off to some degree.

[kitty71]

@bellybuttonlint For some women lower their standards a bit it can mean like finding a guy with a not so high profile job or with a good professional job or a ordinary guy or a guy who cannot take you out from time to time or a guy who not pamper you much

[findingdreamland-1]

Self defense mechanism let me say. Love is a very strong feeling and there is no always happy ending. So your mind is protecting you by experience in case of bad ending.