where did you usually do your asking out?
Just walked up, introduced myself, made small talk, try to get her to laugh (important), ask for her PHONE NUMBER (extremely important), wait a few days, ask if we can get a drink with just her and I...I read it takes a man roughly 100 steps upon first meeting a girl to then having sex with her. We risk rejection EVERY step of the way. But we have to do it.
so you did this anywhere? or at bars? at a mall?
Bars yeah. In public places I’m more cautious. I’ll look to see if she’s wearing a ring or make a comment “well you should have your boyfriend do this” and if she says she doesn’t have one...
Then on top of that , your brain is hard wired to remember negative experiences so you wouldn't get eaten by a lion or killed in the wild
I for one cared less about body weight (it is a considerable factor for me), and more so about personality and compatibility. Matter of fact, I have a particular preference for curvy women, considering I am a man of balance (not too skinny or too obese, keep it in the middle, but also healthy, not anorexic slim jane, give me curvy jane.)As for the sapiosexual interests. Perhaps that can be arranged... Although I hope you don't mind dating asexual men. I can't offer sex, but I definitely don't mind making out with you or any certain fetishes (that don't involve intercourse).
@TheTrueLordJ and I just celebrated 4 years together last week.
That's right, baby! Love you! Also, it seems strange to me when someone say that they are asexual and imply that they hope you don't mind that and that they would make out with you, without even knowing anything about you.
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does the thought of making moves petrify you?
No, I mainly see it as pointless.
as in a you don't approach because guys approach you? therefore no need for you to do it?
No, as in I'm never excited enough about anyone to want to ask them out.
But if u are going to like someone , then?
Y dont I care because youryour own master and maker.
Suicide seens apt builds charecter plus fat ass ugly people who make everything worth wona die need to draw the line at some one payingforthe drinks.
And that's exactly why I don't go up to women like you
@Iron_Man wtf lol You're past the sell by date lol
I don't understand how else am I supposed to pick up girls then? You go to go up to them. How else do you get them? I don't type on the internet dating sites to get girls
@Iron_Man you just carry them off in your truck.
And what color is my truck and what make is it? You seem to know a lot for guy that lives in Saudi Arabia
@Iron_Man Its airplanes in saudi arabia xD
It's more painful, I think, to not ask and wonder what if, than to be rejected. The what if knaws at you. If you are rejected you just move on because there are others out there and it's a big world and a long life. Don't waste it.
Rejected just gives u an excuse to try harder plus u kno its confidence.
... there I go again with the stupidly long comments lol no wonder I don't like texting.
Are those percentages based on science? Or your guess?
@cavmanier Sources/estimates very, but it is undeniably disproportionately females who had it far easier when it comes to biological success. It's much more equal these days, but historically it has not always been. There are many aspects to that estimate. But we can be pretty sure one figure is double the other. If you compare the variation of Y chromosomes (inherited from men) with mitochondria (inherited from women), the difference between the two variations shows you that twice as many women have bred in the past as men. If 100% of women bred in the entire span of human history (not possible), the best we could achieve is 50%. That's not a very good success rate In the animal kingdom, the difference are far more extreme.
That may explain why lots of men say no girls respond on dating sites. I've never heard a girl say they got no messages.
how often would you say you have gotten rejected by girls in life?
Probably literally over 100. I’ve dated quite few for a decent amount of time about 9/10 are rejections for one reasons or another.
To reduce your chances of being rejected.. Get to know them more a bit first,(build a connection) flirt with them, and try to pick up signs to see if they like you in anyway (flirting, open body language, body facing toward you, playing with hair, diluted pupils, breaking the touch barrier, etc). Then ask them out. And if you get rejected, oh well. At least you tried. Work on yourself i you need improving.. and then move on to the next
yes their is that problem, especially when they are not honest about it.
@VIVANT exactly girl you're speaking the truth
of course they can lie just as easily if they are the ones to ask us out, so might as well choose anyhow lol
Finally, a woman with some courage.#Respect
yeah i don't mind rejection i just hate the games.
so try the numbers rather than just a few?
I think so, it's not that rejection itself builds confidence, but just getting out there and trying does. It's like the comedian Bill burr says, the hardest part about being a comic (or rather starting out) is just going out for those open mics and putting yourself on the line.
how often would you say you have gotten rejected by guys in life?
Trust me, it's not stupid m
It is stupid. It's cowardly. It makes you more likely to be dumped if you expect the man to do all of the legwork. I'd respect a woman for asking me out a lot more in this day in age than her expecting the other way around. Otherwise it's no longer worth it. I am seriously tired of wasting time asking women out and getting the same old "No, get lost!" response or "I got a boyfriend" excuse. The dating lottery is terribly rigged against men and boys to the point where we'd rather just stay single -not even gonna play the damn game anymore. So if you truly love him, you'll have to make the first move.
@LordIheanacho i understand your point of view, and i respect it
@Bárbara1402 I may be blunt, but I always strive to speak the honest truth.
@LordIheanacho i respect that
@LordIheanacho amen to that brother!
@LordIheanacho I'd prefer a girl ask me out for the very reason she gave.
everyone prefers to choose -no one wants to be told who to date. but everyone is free to choose regardless who asks. you can always say no. whoever asks the both people are choosing each other or rejecting each other.
Trust your heart and dont try take the piss out of your self. Fame/status/power. kids.
and what about you specifically?
I have severe anxiety about any kind of social interaction. It takes massive amounts of willpower to push myself passed the fight/flight response. I deal with it by analysing it, considering exactly what it is and why it wants to sabotage me. There are days where I just can't push myself to open a girl, but most of the time im able to. And it ends up not being as bad as my amygdala assumes it will be.
I feel that way almost with every encounter