That's always a possibility, it takes a yard of guts put yourself out there like that on one of the most private and intimate feelings you will ever have, but you know what will happen if you do nothing? Absolutely nothing will happen. When you trust and when you trust someone with your most intimate feelings there's always a possibility your heart will be shattered if you truly love them. It's scary stuff being in combat was not as scary. Love however is not the purview of the week or the Cowardly you know how you feel you know you want to tell him then do it and if he's not the right one. You'll know and you can move on snatch that Brass Ring go for your happiness but be prepared to skin your knees and your heart. I'm rooting for you in your corner I wish you all the best regardless of your decision
I waited longer than that, but if you are certain of your feelings, certainly express them to your guy. Why do feel the news may "freak him out"?
I think you should be honest, if that is how you feel. If you honestly feel in love, I don't see the problem in saying it. Time frame doesn't matter (especially since some people have said it way earlier than you).
I would personally be wary of a guy saying it early (because there are a lot of users and PUAs out there) though I understand some men are genuine.
Tell him. Love doesn’t always follow logic or sensibility. You’re not wrong for falling in love with him after four months. To keep it to yourself would be far more regrettable that telling him and risking rejection.
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If you want to tell him then tell him - don't try to hide how you feel
Love has no timing and I don’t think there is a certain time frame to say you love someone but you want to make sure he’s feeling the same way before you say it prematurely. To be safe I would wait till he says it so you can confirm it without having to worry if he feels the same way.
Some may say (why wait?) but here’s the thing you don’t want a guy to feel obligated to say a word just because you picked it out of the blue and used it. I’ll be honest with you if I’m dating someone for 4 months I am still on the “getting to know you stage” that means the relationship is still fresh so I’m in the honeymoon phase feeling jittery because it’s a new relationship.
You’ll know when it’s genuine love when something tests that relationship. I’m not talking about an argument over texting, food, or something simple but a serious test that will either completely make or break your relationship than you’ll know once that word is being used? You’ll know it’s the right time to use it.
If you feel strongly about it, go ahead.
Meanwhile, here's a similar situation to yours except from the opposite sex... Girls, is she ready to hear the "L" word? ↗
You should try to understand each other from opposing views.
No, I think four months can be enough. Fear and holding back is NOT the way to get what you want in a love and in relationships. Going for it, being bold and taking risks, risking looking foolish and taking the chance someone may not like you like you like them is how you get what you want.
My boyfriend said it about a month and a half in. He said he didn’t regret it and would never take it back but he does admit it was too soon. I said something along the lines of that I am starting to feel the same way and with time I’m sure I’ll be there. I said “I love you” about a month or so later. Say it when you feel it. Life is too short.
It's hard to know. I knew like a week into dating my wife that I loved her and wanted to be with I finally told her like a month in and no she didn't say it back for another month or two which at the time freaked me out but still. If you feel it say it
No you're fine. People should say it to each other when the time comes and they mean it.
I've been seeing my current lady friend for about 3 months, been with her officially 5 weeks. Haven't said it yet but we've briefly talked about it. We agree that it needs to be said the first time in person and has to be meant when it's said.
Well I haven't told my boyfriend until about a year in the relationship (we've already knew eachother for years at this point). I think its importnat to be sure that its love and not just infatuation before saying it.
Do Not Say Anything Here. dear. You may be Exclusive but not an Item with being Official just Yet. You used the Word "Dating."
Wait until he Gives you a Ring or Says just Anything to Let you Know Joe is Serious. For Now Somehow, Silence is Golden, girl. xx
People are too particular about the word, in reality its just a word.
It means nothing if you treat him like dirt. For actions do speak louder than words. With that said, you should always tell people you care about how much you appreciate them. If he dies tomorrow, will you regret not saying it?
Love is a strong "Will", if there's a will there's a way. You're both attracted to one another which led you two to end up together, and clearly your attraction is erecting a foundation and that you shouldn't hide. Final advice, it's near early so give it some time meanwhile leave some hints in your behavior and try to collect his reaction and come up with a resolve from it. You can do it !💪👍
No. Whenever your heart feels ready and you think he is ready to hear it (which is hard to dictate) then that is the right time.
Why would he be freaked? Maybe h is not telling you for the same reason.
Yes it's way to soon wait until 6 months or even a year... some people just say it out of habit but wait until you are more serious about the relationship. I used to say it to early and always got played. Wait until he says it first :)
It's different for every person, love can be instant, however I don't think it is that prevalent. I do think that you can fall in love in a short amount of time. I also think that if you are in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time and you don't fall in love with them, then chances are you probably won't.
I told my girlfriend one month in... and were still together after seven months!!! Say what you want to say chap!!!
I never tell a girl first. I always wait for a girl. Usually I feel in love or close enough after about 3 months of seeing each other almost every other day and talking on the phone every day. I am dating a girl right now for 2.5 months and if she said she loved me I would say it back.
I don't think it's ever "too soon" if you genuinely like someone. If you know your feelings are legit then there should be no worries telling them.
Not at all. My boyfriend told me he loved me after three months and I said it back no problem. If you’re feeling it, then it’s not too soon.
My ex and I fell in love within two weeks and it was real. So no it doesn’t matter especially if the other person feels it too
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