Is 4 months too soon to tell someone you love them?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been a couple for going on 2 months but started dating about 4 months ago. I know for certain I’m in love and keep almost accidentally telling him. I’m afraid it’s going to slip out and freak him out.

Stockton · Accepted Answer

That's always a possibility, it takes a yard of guts put yourself out there like that on one of the most private and intimate feelings you will ever have, but you know what will happen if you do nothing? Absolutely nothing will happen. When you trust and when you trust someone with your most intimate feelings there's always a possibility your heart will be shattered if you truly love them. It's scary stuff being in combat was not as scary. Love however is not the purview of the week or the Cowardly you know how you feel you know you want to tell him then do it and if he's not the right one. You'll know and you can move on snatch that Brass Ring go for your happiness but be prepared to skin your knees and your heart. I'm rooting for you in your corner I wish you all the best regardless of your decision

Massageman · Accepted Answer

I waited longer than that, but if you are certain of your feelings, certainly express them to your guy. Why do feel the news may "freak him out"?

AuroraRoseat · Accepted Answer

I think you should be honest, if that is how you feel. If you honestly feel in love, I don't see the problem in saying it. Time frame doesn't matter (especially since some people have said it way earlier than you).

I would personally be wary of a guy saying it early (because there are a lot of users and PUAs out there) though I understand some men are genuine.

Ibeji · Accepted Answer

Tell him. Love doesn’t always follow logic or sensibility. You’re not wrong for falling in love with him after four months. To keep it to yourself would be far more regrettable that telling him and risking rejection.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If you want to tell him then tell him - don't try to hide how you feel

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Love has no timing and I don’t think there is a certain time frame to say you love someone but you want to make sure he’s feeling the same way before you say it prematurely. To be safe I would wait till he says it so you can confirm it without having to worry if he feels the same way.

Some may say (why wait?) but here’s the thing you don’t want a guy to feel obligated to say a word just because you picked it out of the blue and used it. I’ll be honest with you if I’m dating someone for 4 months I am still on the “getting to know you stage” that means the relationship is still fresh so I’m in the honeymoon phase feeling jittery because it’s a new relationship.

You’ll know when it’s genuine love when something tests that relationship. I’m not talking about an argument over texting, food, or something simple but a serious test that will either completely make or break your relationship than you’ll know once that word is being used? You’ll know it’s the right time to use it.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

If you feel strongly about it, go ahead. Meanwhile, here's a similar situation to yours except from the opposite sex...  You should try to understand each other from opposing views.

Miristheiss · Answer

No, I think four months can be enough. Fear and holding back is NOT the way to get what you want in a love and in relationships. Going for it, being bold and taking risks, risking looking foolish and taking the chance someone may not like you like you like them is how you get what you want.

Kydill13 · Answer

My boyfriend said it about a month and a half in. He said he didn’t regret it and would never take it back but he does admit it was too soon. I said something along the lines of that I am starting to feel the same way and with time I’m sure I’ll be there. I said “I love you” about a month or so later. Say it when you feel it. Life is too short.

Mazerock · Answer

It's hard to know. I knew like a week into dating my wife that I loved her and wanted to be with I finally told her like a month in and no she didn't say it back for another month or two which at the time freaked me out but still. If you feel it say it

tyrantfuryre · Answer

No you're fine. People should say it to each other when the time comes and they mean it.
I've been seeing my current lady friend for about 3 months, been with her officially 5 weeks. Haven't said it yet but we've briefly talked about it. We agree that it needs to be said the first time in person and has to be meant when it's said.

Hurlyburly · Answer

Well I haven't told my boyfriend until about a year in the relationship (we've already knew eachother for years at this point). I think its importnat to be sure that its love and not just infatuation before saying it.

Paris13 · Answer

Do Not Say Anything Here. dear. You may be Exclusive but not an Item with being Official just Yet. You used the Word "Dating."
Wait until he Gives you a Ring or Says just Anything to Let you Know Joe is Serious. For Now Somehow, Silence is Golden, girl. xx

kaewk · Answer

People are too particular about the word, in reality its just a word.
It means nothing if you treat him like dirt. For actions do speak louder than words. With that said, you should always tell people you care about how much you appreciate them. If he dies tomorrow, will you regret not saying it?

FMFoster · Answer

Love is a strong "Will", if there's a will there's a way. You're both attracted to one another which led you two to end up together, and clearly your attraction is erecting a foundation and that you shouldn't hide. Final advice, it's near early so give it some time meanwhile leave some hints in your behavior and try to collect his reaction and come up with a resolve from it. You can do it !💪👍

SirRexington · Answer

No. Whenever your heart feels ready and you think he is ready to hear it (which is hard to dictate) then that is the right time.

TrixiePooch · Answer

Why would he be freaked? Maybe h is not telling you for the same reason.

maddog998 · Answer

Yes it's way to soon wait until 6 months or even a year... some people just say it out of habit but wait until you are more serious about the relationship. I used to say it to early and always got played. Wait until he says it first :)

AirIsBetter · Answer

It's different for every person, love can be instant, however I don't think it is that prevalent. I do think that you can fall in love in a short amount of time. I also think that if you are in a relationship with someone for an extended period of time and you don't fall in love with them, then chances are you probably won't.

speedracer105 · Answer

I told my girlfriend one month in... and were still together after seven months!!! Say what you want to say chap!!!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I never tell a girl first. I always wait for a girl. Usually I feel in love or close enough after about 3 months of seeing each other almost every other day and talking on the phone every day. I am dating a girl right now for 2.5 months and if she said she loved me I would say it back.

mono_gram · Answer

I don't think it's ever "too soon" if you genuinely like someone. If you know your feelings are legit then there should be no worries telling them.

JanuaryCanine · Answer

Not at all. My boyfriend told me he loved me after three months and I said it back no problem. If you’re feeling it, then it’s not too soon.

Hellobeautiful33 · Answer

My ex and I fell in love within two weeks and it was real. So no it doesn’t matter especially if the other person feels it too

PinkMichae · Answer

There's no time limit however it's important to be together long enough to really know if you can love everything about each other. Falling in love is the easy part. However, You can love a person and still not be compatible.

AlbertsPrince · Answer

Tell them when you believe it to be true. Hard to get right, but when you do - wow, it's powerful. :)

Cammy137 · Answer

My girlfriend and I said it pretty quickly and nothing bad as happened as a consequence

angelin · Answer

It’s ok. You can have the feeling of living someone in a short time.

jake1230 · Answer

If you feel that way tell him. You never know how he feels. He could be too afraid to say it for the same reason.

ajoymandi · Answer

Hey don't worry.. nothing will happen.. he won't freakout.. everything will be fine.. even the same thing happened to me... We were close friends for 2years but we used to be like couples.. and suddenly one day she kissed and proposed me.. I was shocked but at the same time I was happy that she understood my feelings for her.. now we are together and 9 months of our relationship has passed.. so don't worry he won't freakout..

Krazzymike321 · Answer

It's probably freaking him out that you have yet to tell him... I have no dating experience but I'd feel like I was doing something wrong if I wasn't told that I was loved after 4 months...

Jgel1992 · Answer

Well if that is what you feel who cares what anyone thinks? Some people love faster tan others... just do what you feel is right, if the person is for you. he/she won't mind...

redpanda_ · Answer

If you love someone, tell them and never stop telling them.

AlienChickk · Answer

Honestly I think it depends from person to person. If that is how you feel, then let him know.

bennybomb111 · Answer

Not at all too soon. If he loves you too it won't freak him out.

shades777 · Answer

The timing depends entirely on the people involved and the desired result.
Society's norms makes it seem like saying i love you too early make you out to be a weirdo.

If you truly love someone who cares what others think.

Malita55 · Answer

Lol no. I told my current boyfriend i loved him after 2 weeks 😂

aaronbw · Answer

I'd say it's not too soon. Just be careful you dont confuse love with lust and Infatuation. Many easily confuse these two.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. We were together for 3 months when we said it now 7 years later we are married with a 6 year old child

Myk13 · Answer

If you feel it. Say it. Without risk, there is no reward.

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriend and I said it two weeks after we met. Three months have gone by and I told her I wanted to marry her one day. We've been together for six months now.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Nope, that’s the right time. I would say it right as the feeling in my heart. I’d make sure I mean it though

LanayLuckie · Answer

It's not too soon. Some people fall in love with someone just from text, or spending one day with them.

lovelygirl1234 · Answer

I don't know some people fall in love faster than others nothing wrong with that but dont you think that might scare him off?

kartik_sharma · Answer

It's not too soon if you feel confident about him, know him well, and feel like he is a part of you😊

ATuairiscean · Answer

Very tough one - I usually wait till I am sure other person feels the same way not working towards it.

Northern_star · Answer

let go of fear, and speak your mind.  he would be fine with that, trust me.

Outdoorwanderer · Answer

Nope... Priyanka and Nick got married 5 months after they started dating :)

lilmismuffen · Answer

If you Love them I think they would want you to tell them :)

Babsie1984 · Answer

In my opinion, no! Do whatever you feel comfortable with

RIVERTAY888 · Answer

you are so late l would tell the girl l loved her on the first date

reezan · Answer

It's OK to tell him u love him... Feel free to express ur love. He will definitely accept. I hope he is also thinking the same way u are thinking now

ColoradoKid · Answer

If that's the way you feel deep down then its never to soon

Anonymous · Answer

It took me six months, even tho I felt it after a couple. Just took me a while to say.. My boyfriend said it after three, and I loved it.

mike8116 · Answer

I think so and I only say this because I have been through a couple of failed relationships you have to become best friends before you can be anything else that is the truth only then can you start to think about love

shubh2623 · Answer

If you are planning for long term Than just wait.. And if it's just hookup.. Thn it doesn't matter

hiper · Answer

It's kinda too early but I don't think he'll freak out go ahead life its better without fear

Kimiii6124 · Answer

It ain't to soon, maybe not tell him just like that, try to tell him between the lines somehow, or wait for the right moment, i think you won't make a mistake even if you say it like directly but its best to let him figure it out

Anonymous · Answer

give it another 4 years, things can be so different then, they you might realize that you love somebody else instead of him

Gopnik · Answer

he's gonna like that, it's not going to be weird you might find it awkward at first though.

DeeDee_gem · Answer

Girl you have to follow your heart but make sure it's the right time

Jonny222 · Answer

It depends on the relationship. If you really love him tell him

parasindore · Answer

You express your feelings let him express his , don't prejudge any one

Hassi26 · Answer

I think this is too early  at least give her couple of years to ruin your assests🤑😜

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