Yes. Rather an unpleasant way of of taking rejection.
Ultimately you're trying to involve yourself in someone else's life and then being bitter if they don't like the idea of that.
Only makes the person feel confident in rejecting you, rather than maybe doubting the decision and maybe changing their mind later.
Not arrogant, just exceptionally stupid and insecure.
Literally nobody suffers a loss by not engaging in activities they *don't want to* engage in.
It's like telling people that they are losing out because they don't eat shit.
What they are losing out on, is eating shit. You get what I'm saying?
No, not really
I don't get it either LOL.
Its not arrogant. Its normal to not want to invest in somebody who doesn't return your investment.
No, if you're a great person and she couldn't see it or appreciate it then it's her loss.
Why do so many other girls though think it's a bad thing to say something like that?
I don't know
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It depends. I've said that once. Maybe out of frustration. With my long term partner. Things just gotten cold at the end.. When youve given everything you can to the relationship. Try to make him/her see your worth and nothing is working. Yet you keep on holding on, hoping that one day he/she will get the message and realise how good he/she has it.. One day, i got tired of giving and not receiving anything back. Investing in something and not getting any results, even the tiniest bit. So I asked him, "i got so much to offer you, im willing to offer you my world, what do you have to offer me?" He was speechless.
We broke up in the end, cause i didn't see him changing. He wasn't scared to lose me anymore. I told him, "ive always been scared of losing you. Thats why i never gave up on us even when you kept on pushing me away. Now that i think about it, im losing someone who doesn't care about me, but you're losing someone who loved you unconditionally. Its not my loss anymore."
Bro, say what you want. Don't listen to anybody here. You are who you are. If you want to say it, you have to have your reasons to do it. I can tell for myself sometimes you need to say things like those and it's perfectly fine. She'll take it badly, but as one woman said here 'There is a lot of fishes in the sea'. Don't feel insecure, the only ones that are insecure are basically the people who say that makes you insecure. If you are insecure, you'll feel it. Still I would recommend to move on, forget her. She lost you.
Who cares what the dumb bitch has to say. She did you a favor by not letting you be a lame ass provider male. Now you are free to live, travel, explore new lands, do what ever you want, fix a old car, track down a vintage motorcycle and rebuild it and in the end. not have to give the bitch half.
It is better to say nothing, walk away and not approach her again.
More than one approach can become evidence to sustain a sexual harassment complaint.
In Britain and France, even one approach can result in an Orwellian thought-crime charge that will destroy a man’s life.
If you want to survive, walk away from women and go MGTOW monk.
It's not as someone who's been on both sides I see it as ture, it is a lost on each persons side not just the girls. She might have had a great relationship with him but unfortunately she didn't feel the same so yes in a way it is a loss and that guys just showing he's not weak and it won't crush his pride.
No, it's just a way of coping with a rejection, it can hit you hard, and this makes it easier.
It doesn't really hurt her, but helps you a lot, so I think it's fine.
Arrogant or not, it makes shit more interesting than just an 'oh okay, bye.'
Interesting how?
Not really. Especially if she didn't give you a fair shot and you aren't a writhing piece of garbage (which you likely aren't). A lot of the time I get rejected out of hand and I don't really feel like I was given a chance. I think what you said is perfectly reasonable in most circumstances.
Also it's worth noting how most of the responses from women here are saying something to the effect of "It's not the worst thing, but it's an unnecessary comment". Chances are they don't get how frustrating it is to be turned down 2/10 times you ask a girl out. They're probably used to guys taking rejections badly, but I think they're unable to truly empathize with us on this. If the worst thing you do in reaction to being rejected is say "it's your loss" you've handled it like a champ. Pat yourself on the back and get on with it. If you got badly injured no one would tell you to stop whining and walk it off. Getting rejected hurts. A lot. Anyone who tells you you're out of line if you aren't polite under those conditions can fuck off as far as I'm concerned.
Not at all. If someone doesn’t want to invest in you then that’s their loss. If you know what you can offer and the type of person you are and think highly of yourself yet someone else doesn’t see that then it’s truly their loss. Not rude, honest.
I don’t think it reads as just cocky, more like flat out narcissistic. If a guy said that to me after I’d rejected him, it would basically confirm that I don’t think he’s right for me.
How is it narcissistic? I accepted it & moved on. I didn't let it bother me, but if she can't see my worth, then oh well, her loss. Next
It’s narcissistic because you can’t accept the fact that she’s not into you like that, and you want to twist it and make it seem like she’s still losing something important. When in reality you probably never would have worked out (due to her disinterest) and therefore nobody is ”losing” anything. It’s not about ”not seeing your worth”, she might think you’re a good guy, but she’s just not attracted to you like that. Nobody can force having feelings for someone, and pushing this narrative that she just made the wrong choice because you’re THAT awesome... wellp, just comes off as narcissistic. You don’t know what she’s thinking or feeling, so acting like you know better than her is very selfish and narrow-minded.
I did accept it & moved on. I don't it's narcissistic. If she can't see something good in front of her, it's all good. Eventually i know i'll find a girl who is
Again, like I said, this ISN'T about her "not seeing something good in front of her". She might have very well acknowledged your good qualities but decided against accepting your offer because she didn't find you attractive (physically or personality-wise). You insisting that it's her loss and that you're "all that" does point to narcissistic tendencies. It's like you can't even fathom that someone just doesn't want you like that. No matter how "good" you think you are, some people just won't be interested in you. And that's the cold truth. Saying "your loss" hints at the fact that you're too delusional to believe that cold truth. If you truly accepted it and moved on, it wouldn't have even crossed your mind to let out that "your loss" jab, nor would you have come on here looking for validation.
I did accept it though. Why is it such a big deal to say that? And i don't dwell on the fact she wasn't interested. I said what i said & moved on
Debating can be fun
Say this instead "Ok. Good luck with life." that will say something similar in a indirect way also some other thing's without downgrading yourself.
Or just say "Okay!", it will say you have already moved on if you move on directly after.
Everything has to do with how you present it and how the other one are but you can't take responsibility for the other one in the first place 😉
I find it funny how some guys show their fragile egos when being rejected. And honestly any response of self-defense is just whatever to me then, I’m mostly not even listening to them at that point.
No, it's not rude or arrogant. You didn't grovel. A good thing to say to a girl who rejects you is "I would never be friends with you", She'll ask "Why
not? " And be shocked that you said this. Then you say, "It's no what I want. So its not going to happen". She won't know whether to shit or go blind !
I had a girlfriend who tried to freindzone me after a year and a half. I said-"No". It bugged the hell out of her and she still tries occasionally to get in touch and talk but "No means NO!"
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I've done that. Some girls just don't care 😂😂😂 like -Hey I wouldn't be your friend -Ok, I don't care. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 But yea, others are as you say. Lol, but I had to tell it.
@AmazingGuy008 It's all about setting boundaries and your self respect.
I would find it arrogant yet funny. If you are not a match you are not. Maybe you are but it doesn't feel right.
No need to judge what works and what not for someone.
Simply move on gracefully. At least she didn't lead you on.
Meh, they rejected you might as well sting em back before you move on.
Most women are completely uncaring about the feelings of men who approach them, why should we be caring of them?
Treat people how they treat you in my opinion.
No not really, I mean dude being rejected sucks and; when your open and exposed then someone rejects you, you kinda just say things. Like my friend asked a girl out and she said "sorry. I have a boyfriend" and he said "me too" right away. It's not because he's interested in guys its because during moments like that our emotions take more control than our brain.
I wouldn't call that arrogance, but it can very possibly be perceived as you getting butthurt. It shouldn't be anything to over think about, but if you ask me, i would say you should just tell her have a nice day, then walk away. Because if she's not interested, then you could say anything and it probably wouldn't change her mind right then and there. Its better to just be friendly and move on.
Your need to point it out is deflective and unnecessary.
I wouldn’t call it cocky tho. It’s just a sign of insecurity in my opinion.
I'd call it pride. I took the L, but just said that as well.
It's cool. I'm not serving time for it
Seems like a back up plan to collect the shattered pieces of ego.. still, it depends upon the guy
Didn't say it to come off like an asshole from a bruised ego though.
its a common trait of a narcissist. keep walking girl.
Why lol
I understand why you said it but it could have come off cocky or a bit rude. I guess it would depend on how someone took it
I didn't say it though because i was hurt. And some girls are calling me nacissistic
No I know you didn’t say it because you were hurt I think you said it because it was a self explanatory comment and you generally meant it, but some people would think you’re saying it because you felt offended or whatever. People are retards if they think you’re narcissistic for a comment like that.
Yes. It's very egotistical and that's the impression you gave her by saying it. All that does is reinforce that she made the right choice in rejecting you.
Where's this fedora you speak of?
Well the lack of fedora was supposed to be the visual proof that you're wrong.
Yes, I'm overweight. I admit that entirely, but you'd be surprised how non-white-knight-ish I am.
Also I didn't mean to say she DID make the right decision by rejecting him.
All I meant was she at least has it in her head that she made the right decision.
For all I know maybe the asker is a great guy, but saying "Your loss," makes you look bad.
No it doesn't. It shows that he's not a beta Momma's boy faggot orbiter. Bravo to him !
It's extremely arrogant, because you are literally telling her that she missed out on a big prize of a person, when there's likely a reason she turned you down.
Well if you actively think about it... It's A bit cocky to say "your loss". Better Substitute to a friendlier implication like this: "this was our chance to be together".
I personally find it funny when a guy tells me that, like yeah sure lol
Yes, you sound like you are full of yourself. Or like you are trying to retain something that isn't there.
I wouldn't say it's cocky, though maybe a bit unnecessary.
Of course. What is more disturbing is that you're not sure.
And it doesn't matter what you say - nothing is relevant if she doesn't want you. It's a dead end, a dead issue. NEXT!!
It's totally arrogant. Like there aren't better guys around than him. Why else would I have rejected him.
It's unexpected and not exactly polite but not punishable.
Yeah, when girl does that, it's OK, but when guy… Oh, boy. All hell break lose.
Just…don't talk to her.
Better to just smile and say, "Okay. Have a nice (day, afternoon, evening, whatever time of day it is)" A lot of women get hit on constantly, so try to see it from their perspective.
Yes, just say, "O. K. but if you ever change your mind."
The greatest gift you can give to someone is your time. So yeah when someone does not appreciate it then it is their loss.
I say it’s totally cool bro, you should keep your confidence up. There’s plenty of fish in the sea.
Hang on with that comment. Women don't deal with rejections too much.
I’ve dealt with rejection and I’m glad they happened because I found my other half.
Eh maybe a little bit understandable. It is lame though lol
lol just dont think about it coz arrogant or not, whats gonna change?
What's the point of saying it? Why not just move on?
I wouldn’t read too much into it, I’d prolly say the same
You said it all, it's a way to more easily move on, our brains try to blame external factors. It can be true or not but they'll do it regardless
If you really mean it, confidence is implied but not necessarily arrogance.
It's just kind of gay to say lol and it prevents you from maybe getting them at another point in time
Depends on how you say it. And the reasons she rejected you.
pretty much.. you get rejected... you move on... dont pass go, dont pay $200...
It’s arrogant for anyone to say that. Just accept the loss and move on. No need to be condescending.
I did accept it. But if she can't see something good in front of her, then oh well, onto the next one.
Just strong not arrogant. But sometimes it depends on the tone of his voice
No, if you said something like 'you'll never find someone as good as me' then sure.
Yes, if anything you are trying to justify your own loss.
Lol yeah, to me it does sound arrogant. It's like a self-defense system to product yourself from getting rejected.
I think its more confident than arrogant, as long as you say it in a „normal“ way
Yes it is because everyone has the right to select or accept and reject.. we should move forward
Sure, but why do you care? She rejected you. Saying something douchy is the best way to deal with it
It is arrogant and ignorant. Only boys play games. Men will one show respect for your choices
self defence mechanism id think
Depends on how well you can back up your claim.
yeah dont put salt on the wound damn
Not necessarily arrogant, just lame. Just be cool. Nobody has the obligation of liking you back.
Didn't say i was obilgated. Here we go with the entitlement talk. What's so bad about saying that?
She was obligated*
I think it shows that you're pissed about her rejection. And we can't just assume she's losing something since she may have something better.
I wasn't pissed though. I said it in a calm manner. I don't hate or get angry a girl for rejecting me. I moved on with pride
It makes you look like an insecure loser
Who cares what the woman thinks? She rejected you
I don't think it's a nice thing to say.
So what? He's establish boundaries.
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