Is it arrogant for a guy to say "it's your loss" after getting rejected?

[Anonymous]

I got rejected & i didn't say it to be cocky or come off like an asshole. But i said it & just basically moving onto the next. But is it cocky to say that?

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[learningtherooes]

Yes. Rather an unpleasant way of of taking rejection.
Ultimately you're trying to involve yourself in someone else's life and then being bitter if they don't like the idea of that.
Only makes the person feel confident in rejecting you, rather than maybe doubting the decision and maybe changing their mind later.

[Kurαȷ]

Not arrogant, just exceptionally stupid and insecure.
Literally nobody suffers a loss by not engaging in activities they *don't want to* engage in.

It's like telling people that they are losing out because they don't eat shit.
What they are losing out on, is eating shit. You get what I'm saying?

[jennifer_bloom]

Its not arrogant. Its normal to not want to invest in somebody who doesn't return your investment.

[emmily2396]

No, if you're a great person and she couldn't see it or appreciate it then it's her loss.

[krisnic28]

It depends. I've said that once. Maybe out of frustration. With my long term partner. Things just gotten cold at the end.. When youve given everything you can to the relationship. Try to make him/her see your worth and nothing is working. Yet you keep on holding on, hoping that one day he/she will get the message and realise how good he/she has it.. One day, i got tired of giving and not receiving anything back. Investing in something and not getting any results, even the tiniest bit. So I asked him, "i got so much to offer you, im willing to offer you my world, what do you have to offer me?" He was speechless.

We broke up in the end, cause i didn't see him changing. He wasn't scared to lose me anymore. I told him, "ive always been scared of losing you. Thats why i never gave up on us even when you kept on pushing me away. Now that i think about it, im losing someone who doesn't care about me, but you're losing someone who loved you unconditionally. Its not my loss anymore."

[Alice2398]

It's not as someone who's been on both sides I see it as ture, it is a lost on each persons side not just the girls. She might have had a great relationship with him but unfortunately she didn't feel the same so yes in a way it is a loss and that guys just showing he's not weak and it won't crush his pride.

[AmazingGuy008]

Bro, say what you want. Don't listen to anybody here. You are who you are. If you want to say it, you have to have your reasons to do it. I can tell for myself sometimes you need to say things like those and it's perfectly fine. She'll take it badly, but as one woman said here 'There is a lot of fishes in the sea'. Don't feel insecure, the only ones that are insecure are basically the people who say that makes you insecure. If you are insecure, you'll feel it. Still I would recommend to move on, forget her. She lost you.

[Marinepilot]

No, it's not rude or arrogant. You didn't grovel. A good thing to say to a girl who rejects you is "I would never be friends with you", She'll ask "Why
not? " And be shocked that you said this. Then you say, "It's no what I want. So its not going to happen". She won't know whether to shit or go blind !

[sassygirl13]

I would find it arrogant yet funny. If you are not a match you are not. Maybe you are but it doesn't feel right.
No need to judge what works and what not for someone.
Simply move on gracefully. At least she didn't lead you on.

[Just_A_Guy2018]

Who cares what the dumb bitch has to say. She did you a favor by not letting you be a lame ass provider male. Now you are free to live, travel, explore new lands, do what ever you want, fix a old car, track down a vintage motorcycle and rebuild it and in the end. not have to give the bitch half.

[Factshurt90]

It’s arrogant for anyone to say that. Just accept the loss and move on. No need to be condescending.

[cth96190]

It is better to say nothing, walk away and not approach her again.
More than one approach can become evidence to sustain a sexual harassment complaint.
In Britain and France, even one approach can result in an Orwellian thought-crime charge that will destroy a man’s life.
If you want to survive, walk away from women and go MGTOW monk.

[Sucram]

No, it's just a way of coping with a rejection, it can hit you hard, and this makes it easier.

It doesn't really hurt her, but helps you a lot, so I think it's fine.

[Anonymous]

Arrogant or not, it makes shit more interesting than just an 'oh okay, bye.'

[steveguitar]

Yes, you sound like you are full of yourself. Or like you are trying to retain something that isn't there.

[Browneye57]

Of course. What is more disturbing is that you're not sure.
And it doesn't matter what you say - nothing is relevant if she doesn't want you. It's a dead end, a dead issue. NEXT!!

[crazy8000]

Say this instead "Ok. Good luck with life." that will say something similar in a indirect way also some other thing's without downgrading yourself.
Or just say "Okay!", it will say you have already moved on if you move on directly after.

Everything has to do with how you present it and how the other one are but you can't take responsibility for the other one in the first place 😉

[ForteExe]

Not really. Especially if she didn't give you a fair shot and you aren't a writhing piece of garbage (which you likely aren't). A lot of the time I get rejected out of hand and I don't really feel like I was given a chance. I think what you said is perfectly reasonable in most circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. If someone doesn’t want to invest in you then that’s their loss. If you know what you can offer and the type of person you are and think highly of yourself yet someone else doesn’t see that then it’s truly their loss. Not rude, honest.

[lumos]

I don’t think it reads as just cocky, more like flat out narcissistic. If a guy said that to me after I’d rejected him, it would basically confirm that I don’t think he’s right for me.

[Wolframium]

Yeah, when girl does that, it's OK, but when guy… Oh, boy. All hell break lose.
Just…don't talk to her.

[JackJPershing]

Better to just smile and say, "Okay. Have a nice (day, afternoon, evening, whatever time of day it is)" A lot of women get hit on constantly, so try to see it from their perspective.

[avalonbob]

Yes, just say, "O. K. but if you ever change your mind."

[princessfromjupiter]

I find it funny how some guys show their fragile egos when being rejected. And honestly any response of self-defense is just whatever to me then, I’m mostly not even listening to them at that point.