I often don't bother initiating with girls who are very conventionally attractive.
Often times, they have very little interesting going on on their heads. Their looks attract the interest, which gives them a pass to let their minds and character decay.
If I go for girls at all, I go for healthy-looking, moderately attractive ones.
I don't know either I am not approached because I am not attractive but some of my blonde hair blue eyed beautifull friends don't get approached either and I think it is because guys think they might not have a chance because they are too pretty but that is just my opinion I am not a guy so I wouldn't know but It might be true
If a girl is too stylish or wearing expensive gear, yeah it's scary because it appears they are after a guy with a big wallet. Experience tells us as guys that the prettiest girls know they are above average and they're usually quite rude. So if you're a very pretty girl, dress more casual and DON'T BE RUDE.
Everything that you stated could be a factor. A lot of men are actually intimidated by attractive women for one reason or another and a lot will figure they're already in a relationship, so may not approach. You are spot on, but it will mainly vary by the individual and the specific interaction.
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Some women are intimidating be it their looks or their overall vibe. I know because I've struggled with it. All my exes admitted they were afraid to talk to me at first because they were afraid I would reject them and I'm just... intimidating in general? Even though I don't try to be. It's all about vibes.
If she's pretty, she might be a total stuck up bitch who thinks she's god's gift to this earth because she was born with aesthetic beauty making her vain and shallow.
Believing she is out of everyone's league because of her beauty
OK here is something I wish feminist could see for them selves. They speak of empowerment and they don't even realize how powerful beauty is which brought up the question. Beauty itself is very powerful and that is why guys are intimidated by it. So indeed females have special powers that men don't have if they'd only realize that.
Years ago if a girl was pretty AND had a great personality, I would (in my mind) have them on such a pedestal that I felt I couldn't approach them, like I was not worthy. Sadly, much later I found out that a couple of them were actually interested in me.
For me, I am a special case, I won't approach any girl unless I have the feeling to do so, even if she was really pretty I won't do anything unless I am like really attracted then I Wil just act without any consideration. As for most guy they would think that she is taken most of the time because a good looking girl won't be single.
basically any girl who does or does not smile at me and give a stare who does not reply to basic interaction like "HI" makes me want to turn my back on. if y'all just foolin around go on some shitty dating apps to boost yo low ego
That's a tricky question. It's usually a combination of factors. Unapproachable could be something as simple as having headphones on all the time, to something as complicated as just not looking like you want people to talk with you because you have resting B face.
Probably since your pretty I'd assume you've got heaps of boys chasing after you so my chances would be slim or none so I'd just accept that and not even bother. Also my lack of confidence and shyness would also make my chances slim. The likelihood of rejection and the conversation being awkward would stop me
Lol ok fair enough I actually was thinking of my paramour crush. He’s shy I am shy it’s definitely going to be on the fence soon. That breaks my heart.
Well why don’t girls try approaching guys for a change and see how hard it is. Although girls will get let down easier if they do get reject which I’m sure they won’t. Guys are afraid of rejection and nervous and don’t know how women want to be approached
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It’s a confidence issue with guys believing that she is likely taken or gets hit on a lot and likely very defensive/choosy.
I still talk to them anyway. Sometimes you might be surprised, they might be attracted to the guy too. If I get rejected at least I can walk away with knowing I had the balls to approach her.
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For you girls out there. If a guy politely approaches you (attractive or not) ALWAYS respect him for having the guts to do so. Also if you like him, HELP him. Ask him questions. Laugh at his stupid jokes. Make eye contact.
If you are not attracted to him, smile and says “thanks for saying hello but I’m really not interested”. 99% of the guys out there will be able to handle that. As for the other 1 percent who can’t take no for answer... they are rare (and I apologize they exist).
A warning sign that a girl will be unfaithful to me is being very popular, so if she has a ton of friends, especially if her friends are girls, I know that pursuing her will only lead to pain, heartbreak, and I don't know whether or not I'll be able to control my anger.
Wow that's a bit of a overgeneralization and totally inaccurate. I have a lot of friends and it doesn't make me unfaithful. In fact I despise unfaithful people.
I've been cheated on in 6 of the seven relationships I've been in, you can guess by what I wrote what kind of girls they were. I need to step away from them and date people that I wouldn't normally see myself with.
Tired of getting played by the same pretty ones who say they are alone or want someone to love them.
Then you can see them getting drunk and allowing “pretty men”(men who they like) treat them like shit and watch them struggle. While hearing a bunch of people calling her a “hoe” no matter how much you don’t want to believe it or don’t believe it. It still hurts. 💔🖤
So I try to ignore them or walk away. But I always get the same ones over and over.
i think it's that some of us assume we have to take pretty girls seriously. But guys your age are generally not ready to be serious. It's a pressure to perform, perhaps..
What? So good don’t feel that they have to take a regular (or less than regular) looking girl seriously? Gosh. I’m married, just curious here... but goodness... why? Lol this makes me think what would be my odd if I were single. This is sad!!
@prettynormal yes and no. It's more that they assume "room for error." Like, if we don't do everything perfectly with a 'normal' girl, and she leaves, it's not as big of a failure as if it were with a 'hot' girl.
If a pretty girl is stuck up then I find her being approachable like if she thought she was the envy of her friends. Like a sorta of snobbish to her like she is too good to talk to you. Like you feel like she doesn't want to be bothered and you got on her bad side.
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fear of rejection and her bitchy face. Smiling and being positive makes girl pretty and approachable. a lot girls stare at me in public but some of them look like they want to kill me. They look mad but even they are not. I know one girl that has good personality but when she stare at me she looks super mad and creppy
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I often don't bother initiating with girls who are very conventionally attractive.
Often times, they have very little interesting going on on their heads. Their looks attract the interest, which gives them a pass to let their minds and character decay.
If I go for girls at all, I go for healthy-looking, moderately attractive ones.
I'm not intimidated, I just know better.
More men should think like you. Respect!
I don't know either I am not approached because I am not attractive but some of my blonde hair blue eyed beautifull friends don't get approached either and I think it is because guys think they might not have a chance because they are too pretty but that is just my opinion I am not a guy so I wouldn't know but It might be true
If a girl is too stylish or wearing expensive gear, yeah it's scary because it appears they are after a guy with a big wallet.
Experience tells us as guys that the prettiest girls know they are above average and they're usually quite rude. So if you're a very pretty girl, dress more casual and DON'T BE RUDE.
Everything that you stated could be a factor. A lot of men are actually intimidated by attractive women for one reason or another and a lot will figure they're already in a relationship, so may not approach. You are spot on, but it will mainly vary by the individual and the specific interaction.
Some women are intimidating be it their looks or their overall vibe. I know because I've struggled with it. All my exes admitted they were afraid to talk to me at first because they were afraid I would reject them and I'm just... intimidating in general? Even though I don't try to be. It's all about vibes.
If she's pretty, she might be a total stuck up bitch who thinks she's god's gift to this earth because she was born with aesthetic beauty making her vain and shallow.
Believing she is out of everyone's league because of her beauty
In reality tho, she's just another dumb thot
someone has a hard time with women
@Tslaveee not really
@Tslaveee Calling girls dumbt thot automatically makes this not nice guy beneath any nice girl. lol. No wonder you're cranky.
@wolfcat87 girls hate the truth told about their true nature
I'm married, so I am not even in this. You on the other hand... like I said.
@wolfcat87 im still fresh, still clean, still getting money, and getting pussy
OK here is something I wish feminist could see for them selves. They speak of empowerment and they don't even realize how powerful beauty is which brought up the question. Beauty itself is very powerful and that is why guys are intimidated by it. So indeed females have special powers that men don't have if they'd only realize that.
Years ago if a girl was pretty AND had a great personality, I would (in my mind) have them on such a pedestal that I felt I couldn't approach them, like I was not worthy. Sadly, much later I found out that a couple of them were actually interested in me.
For me, I am a special case, I won't approach any girl unless I have the feeling to do so, even if she was really pretty I won't do anything unless I am like really attracted then I Wil just act without any consideration.
As for most guy they would think that she is taken most of the time because a good looking girl won't be single.
they don't even have to be pretty for that.
basically any girl who does or does not smile at me and give a stare who does not reply to basic interaction like "HI" makes me want to turn my back on. if y'all just foolin around go on some shitty dating apps to boost yo low ego
That's a tricky question. It's usually a combination of factors. Unapproachable could be something as simple as having headphones on all the time, to something as complicated as just not looking like you want people to talk with you because you have resting B face.
Probably since your pretty I'd assume you've got heaps of boys chasing after you so my chances would be slim or none so I'd just accept that and not even bother. Also my lack of confidence and shyness would also make my chances slim. The likelihood of rejection and the conversation being awkward would stop me
How many guys are shy?
I wouldn't have a clue, how longs a piece of string?
Lol ok fair enough I actually was thinking of my paramour crush. He’s shy I am shy it’s definitely going to be on the fence soon. That breaks my heart.
Well why don’t girls try approaching guys for a change and see how hard it is. Although girls will get let down easier if they do get reject which I’m sure they won’t. Guys are afraid of rejection and nervous and don’t know how women want to be approached
It’s a confidence issue with guys believing that she is likely taken or gets hit on a lot and likely very defensive/choosy.
I still talk to them anyway. Sometimes you might be surprised, they might be attracted to the guy too. If I get rejected at least I can walk away with knowing I had the balls to approach her.
For you girls out there. If a guy politely approaches you (attractive or not) ALWAYS respect him for having the guts to do so. Also if you like him, HELP him. Ask him questions. Laugh at his stupid jokes. Make eye contact.
If you are not attracted to him, smile and says “thanks for saying hello but I’m really not interested”. 99% of the guys out there will be able to handle that. As for the other 1 percent who can’t take no for answer... they are rare (and I apologize they exist).
I think both facial expression (RBF for example) and body language can make someone look closed off and unapproachable.
Exactly, damn you always have the best answers
@massb thanks ^.^
No problem beautiful and what’s the thing you put after thanks
@massb it's just a happy emoji.
Ooo okay lol
Gurl yes.
A warning sign that a girl will be unfaithful to me is being very popular, so if she has a ton of friends, especially if her friends are girls, I know that pursuing her will only lead to pain, heartbreak, and I don't know whether or not I'll be able to control my anger.
Wow that's a bit of a overgeneralization and totally inaccurate. I have a lot of friends and it doesn't make me unfaithful. In fact I despise unfaithful people.
I've been cheated on in 6 of the seven relationships I've been in, you can guess by what I wrote what kind of girls they were. I need to step away from them and date people that I wouldn't normally see myself with.
I'm talking about girls who literally everyone knows, gossipers, and so called "cool" girls
That's just your perceived truth.
I've gotten fucked over enough times to know I need to change things up. I should've done this sooner
This is not an overgeneralization.
It is perfectly true that anybody cheats because of two reasons
1) better opportunities
2) dissatisfaction
3) when they're not ready to accept his/her partner's flaws and keeps expecting a "perfect partner"
Yeah I can feel your feelings buddy.
These people who keep trying to look "cool" all the time and keep laughing on others like monkeys. They're more likely to cheat.
My ugliness 😂 💩 inside and out.
Tired of getting played by the same pretty ones who say they are alone or want someone to love them.
Then you can see them getting drunk and allowing “pretty men”(men who they like) treat them like shit and watch them struggle. While hearing a bunch of people calling her a “hoe” no matter how much you don’t want to believe it or don’t believe it. It still hurts. 💔🖤
So I try to ignore them or walk away. But I always get the same ones over and over.
i think it's that some of us assume we have to take pretty girls seriously. But guys your age are generally not ready to be serious. It's a pressure to perform, perhaps..
What? So good don’t feel that they have to take a regular (or less than regular) looking girl seriously? Gosh. I’m married, just curious here... but goodness... why? Lol this makes me think what would be my odd if I were single. This is sad!!
Ahhh autocorrect is my enemy
@prettynormal yes and no. It's more that they assume "room for error." Like, if we don't do everything perfectly with a 'normal' girl, and she leaves, it's not as big of a failure as if it were with a 'hot' girl.
Ahhh I get it now
If a pretty girl is stuck up then I find her being approachable like if she thought she was the envy of her friends. Like a sorta of snobbish to her like she is too good to talk to you. Like you feel like she doesn't want to be bothered and you got on her bad side.
fear of rejection and her bitchy face. Smiling and being positive makes girl pretty and approachable. a lot girls stare at me in public but some of them look like they want to kill me. They look mad but even they are not. I know one girl that has good personality but when she stare at me she looks super mad and creppy
omg lol an exchange girl stayed at my house and she looked like she was gonna kill everyone but she was actually pretty nice
this dislikes probably resting bitchy face girls