What are your thoughts about dating a feminine man?

[liniana265]

I met someone recently and I've noticed the way he uses his hand and the way he talks is a bit feminine.
I know he's not gay because we've both said we like each other and he has his manly sides.
But I've never been with anyone like him before and was wondering what it's like to date feminine man. I'm sure it's different depending on the person but I just want a general view of how being with a feminine man would be like.

[englisc]

Every woman I've known who has dated a feminine man has regretted it at some point, and with those couples it always seems like something is "off". At first they tend to think it might be a good idea but it gets old because really they naturally want a man, not a woman in a man's body.

They always seem to complain that the sex is bad, or they just don't have it as often. There's a lack of sexual desire there usually. The reason for this is that the energy is off-balance. Imagine that masculinity and femininity are on a sliding scale - both sexes tend to be naturally sexually attracted to those of the opposite sex who are on either end of the scale in general - masculine men, feminine women.

When that balance is thrown off, so is the sexual polarity of either partner. There are plenty of studies that show that women prefer a more masculine man, especially when fertile:
www.psypost.org/.../wives-masculine-husbands-satisfied-peak-fertility-study-finds-48909

This should all be common sense though - men like women, femininity is female nature. Women like men, masculinity is male nature. If a man likes masculinity or if a woman likes femininity, men do masculinity better and women do femininity better - those people tend to be bi/homosexual.

So basically, bad idea I think.

[French2020]

It really depends on his background. I can be kind of feminine at some times, but I'm still aware of the fact that I need to be a man and carry the heavy load.

[Neckcheek]

I have dated 2 very “feminine” men. Firstly, the entire notion of “feminine” and “masculine” should be debunked. It is possible for a male to have characteristics that are under the societal definition of being “feminine” without being branded the same.
I find suchguys to be very loving, sweet, caring and sensitive. There is usually a negative connotation attached to such traits in men, which I find problematic. Enjoy this, it’s rare and sweet!

[liniana265]

Well said!!! And thank you!!! I really appreciated your input. I really do enjoy it and you are absolutely right, the stereotypeing has to go. But I think I enjoy his sweetness and kindness.
Thanks again!

[ParisLove]

I find them really attractive. They're Pretty Boys.
I've met a few guys who at first thought were Gay. One guy had a voice that made me think he was Gay all that time, and the way he would like flirt. The other had really pretty eyes, he had really georgeous eyelashes. His voice also made me think he was gay. But in the end everyone figured out that they were just straight pretty boys.

[Mitsamono]

T_T I wouldn't mind if it was a specific person. Honestly I like someone online so I don't really know what he looks like. So when I go out I look at really ugly/weird looking people and ask myself "If that was him, would I love him?" I usually answer yes lol

[MsElizabeth96]

By current boyfriend is a little feminine and I love him, I only wish he was not feminine.

He has quite feminine mannerisms, like the hand thigh you mentioned, sitting with crossed knees, standing with his hand on his hip.

He's into style and like to dress well and groom himself, is always wearing skinny jeans.

Apparently he even once went trough a phase of wearing makeup. Sadly I missed that, but he still gives me lipstick recommendations 😂

[MsElizabeth96]

Edit: *I Love IT
*I Only wish he was MORE feminine

[VIVANT]

I’d think he is possibly a linguist or philosopher or professor or very comfortable with himself and possibly nurturing— none of that is bad in fact it’s all great

[Itssssonlyyymeee]

This is hard. . I think it’s better to get to know him a little more. 🙂 I feel like when you start dating someone little things like that can stand out and somewhat bother you. Then you get to know them well and it totally disappears.

[outside_Toronto]

From the few women that I've discussed this with they don't like feminine guys. But as long as you're happy that's all that matters

[liniana265]

True that. Thank you!

[burntgold]

I wouldn’t mind but I would laugh at him when he does feminine stuff

[passinby]

Well I date feminists ("feminine man" like) so they are okay for a fling.

[Valina]

Feminist are people who support gender equality. Sorry to burst in like this...

[unomilkis1]

feminists are usually women who supports women's rights...

[passinby]

@Valina unomilkis1 Stalin was a feminist and feminists are Stalinists. Feminism at the top is the deployment of Stalinism and feminism at the bottom where the useful-idiots are, is a mental illness and cancerous in nature. Feminists at the top, the 3rdwavers and feminist-Nazis are the ones in charge and control the weak minds of their followers to such a degree that some shave their heads dye their hair green, walk around naked, scream at the wind, curse all men for being born, and just hate. Pure mass hysteria and psychosis are eminent in this weak-minded group.

[unomilkis1]

I don't know where you got the notion that Stalin, is a feminist... Stalin was a totalitarian leader in control of Communist regime, so therefore equality and equity of rights of ALL people were encouraged, meaning rights of the people were not based on gender to start with. Also "Stalinist" is not a thing, Stalinism was a thing that described Stalin's over all governing and policy its political structure, it has nothing to do with feminism. Seems like you're in need of more research...

[unomilkis1]

Feminism is actually quite far from communism that was in practice during USSR era, as far as I know even after the slogan of "Power to the People" to encourage communism, women during USSR era had less rights compared to men.

[passinby]

@unomilkis1Russia before and under Lenin and Stalin, the right for free divorce and free abortions were provided with equal wages and work opportunity around 1900. Feminism was a central ideology of Bolsheviks. Stalin simply agreed with feminism for different reasons than what the feminists believed it stood for, he wanted control of the families and children by dependency on the government, and he saw feminism as a way to fracture it and gain that control. So he supported feminism as a method to power but once he had total control he did eventually outlaw abortion around the mid 1930s e. g.; he needed more slaves. We see the feminists at the top take the Stalinist path to agree and promise to gain control over the family by abolishing the patriarchy (man of the household) to gain control and promote dependency on the government , those that step out of line are attacked, and eventually with full power who knows what they will do.

[passinby]

The feminists say the right things to win over the weak-minded followers useful-idiots and like with any cancerous cult, they might one day change their minds like Stalin when it suits them.

[cavmanier]

@Valina

Why do people always say that? Feminism starts with the premise that women are disadvantaged and need to be brought up to where men are. It's really focused on women's rights--i. e. a womens lobby group.

I guess it gains more support by saying it's for equal rights for all, but effectively mainstream feminist have a huge loaded slant towards that liberal focus on women's rights mentality. I've always seen them try to manipulate information to benefit women. It's part of the deal.

[unomilkis1]

Where exactly are you getting these information? There is absolutely no clear line of connection between actual first wave of feminism with Stalin other than the fact that Bolsheviks had emphasis on equal rights of people, which included women. The only reason women's rights were ever involved in was the fact that before the revolution, women of Russia had less rights and were aimed towards domestic functions, so therefore emphasizing the equality of the people, Bolsheviks also encouraged more education and work for women which gained Bolsheviks more support, however this does not mean that this was their core ideology. The disconnect here is that you're taking a part of ideology, feminism, that was marginalized to the main ideology, communism, as though if the PART was the core of it. Bolshevik revolution consisted way more than just women's rights.

[unomilkis1]

Not to mention this happened ALL before Stalin took control, and I'm yet to see what actually connects Stalin with Feminism, other than that PREVIOUS of Stalin, the party encouraged women's rights.

[unomilkis1]

And actually I don't even know why we're talking history of Russia in 1900s. The word feminist, isn't used as how you used it here in 2018.

[passinby]

@unomilkis1 Do your our research fella before some feminist sticks your ass on a stake.

[passinby]

Russian Defector formen KGB agent Yuri Bezmenov said his job was to undermine the west with deception. KGB's subversive tactics against western society is Jewish Marxist ideology is destabilizing society and the economy and running the U. S. into numerous crises. "civil rights" activists and idealistically-minded "useful idiot" leftists-feminists s well are their prime manipulative groups for destabilization. The "useful idiots" are instigated and promised overthrow of their enemies and they will take to the streets with protests and violence against the government such that once it is overthrown and the dictator is in power the leftist-feminist useful idiots are done away with. All that is remaining is conservative slaves and the ashes of the useful idiots. Look him up and watch his talk and then do some more searching for you own self preservation.

[passinby]

*@unomilkis1

[unomilkis1]

Petty little attacks like that already tells me you've no good counterpoint to make... Next time don't just blabber things out thinking you're gonna make sense.

[unomilkis1]

I mean the bottom line is, even IF the points I made were wrong which wasn't, you still used the word "feminist" wrong compared to what general consensus may indicates😁

[passinby]

@unomilkis1 You go ahead and analyze semantics if that is what make you comfortable. Feminism is about control and it is about controlling and ruling men. If you haven't figured that out yet, then you will learn the hard way someday.

[cavmanier]

I see feminism more like this. Many people will take as much help and support as they can get whether it's monetary, rights, career advancement or whatever else. If I were to slap hundred dollar bills on the table every few seconds for someone to keep, when would they tell me to stop? The obvious answer is never... People usually want as much as they can get. It is normal human tendency. Women have the backing of mainstream society and therefore will generally take what they can get. That's not a shot against women. Men would do the same shit.

The question is how bad are women really doing? Do they really have less rights than men? Are businesses really willing to pay men more for the same productivity of a woman, therefore lowering their profit margins?

[passinby]

@cavmanier Sure, agree, this is a symptom and a tool, incentive that is used to obtain the overall subversive objective. My answer is, they will always be worse off as long as they can scream for more.

[unomilkis1]

I mean say that but semantics matter in this case because you were using the word wrong. Why does that definition of feminism even matter in a conversation where you tried to claim that somehow Stalin was a feminist? lol hahaha

[cavmanier]

Why would they be worse off by screaming for more? I mean it does cause division, but it also gets them some results.

[unomilkis1]

Also, I'm quite appalled by current notions of feminism, and this was the case before your poorly made definition of feminism came to my knowledge. You don't have to worry about me :')

[cavmanier]

You know I live in California where I can legally change my gender. I actually thought about becoming a "woman" to take paid menstrual leaves. I don't think the state offers it right now but I'm sure it's in the pipeline.

@Valina Do you think if women died 8 years younger than men on average, that part of the feminist platform would be for a lower age retirement for women? I'm being serious. I think that's a right feminists would likely be lobbying for if the stats were reversed. I know he likes feminists don't actually lobby for men's rights though.

[Valina]

Well, you gents can go to court with it over with Google.
The is a direct quote from Google webpage.

Feminism

Political ideology

Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal, and social equality of sexes. This includes seeking to establish educational and professional opportunities for women that are equal to those for men. Wikipedia

[cavmanier]

@Valina

Notice how it says, "[to achieve a bunch of rights] for women that are equal to those for men." That definition is what I said, "Feminism starts with the premise that women are disadvantaged and need to be brought up to where men are."

Given that, if men are minus 100 in a certain right, feminism does not address that mans right by definition. Therefore feminism is a womens' lobby group. They aren't for equality of sexes. Again, they start with the premise that women are socially underserved or lacking rights which they aim to address specifically.

[Valina]

Sorry, I guess I should have just point blank said feminists are a movement.
NOT another TERM for males who are feminine.
Guess I thought too highly of your reading and thinking skills.
Oops... Sorry for not being clear and point blank...

[Anonymous]

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[Reggieray]

Until you have sex with the lights on, you don't really know.

[liniana265]

Oh dear...

[Cask23]

Women may tolerate it but not love it. Eventually they will grow to resent it and end up cheating on the beta feminine male with masculine dripping alpha male (even if it's only a one night stand).

[BluesheepOwl]

I guess macho stereotypes don't apply to him since he's in the middle. Manly and feminine middle.

[Anonymous]

I hate stereotype. Stereotypical men are boring as are stereotypical women

[lofii]

if it's a feminine man he probably likes getting pegged with a strap on too

[MsElizabeth96]

Wish my boyfriend would consider that

[lofii]

@MsElizabeth96 that's disgusting

[liniana265]

Lol nice

[MsElizabeth96]

@lofii Don't knock it until you've tried it. Which I haven't.

[lofii]

@MsElizabeth96 no...

[RobLovesDemi19771992]

You sure he’s not gay? What behaviors make him feminine?

[Anonymous]

Most girls date bitches nowadays. He's a bitch. Not a big deal - most guys are becoming bitches now. And yes bitches are usually bi-sexual so keep a condom.

[Jessiexix]

I could not jist because im boyish my self. Id feel weird

[Pink2000]

Hell no. I want a manly man.

[Jhon24]

I think he is the perfect guy for you girls