My crush found out I grinded on another guy, how do I fix this?

[may72]

So, I've been low-key talking to this guy for a while. And it's a pretty flirty relationship but he hasn't asked me out. He hinted to us going out but didn't actually initiate it (I think it’s because he’s shy). We had a mutual friend who I asked to find out if he liked me. My friend told me he said that he was really into me. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago, since he wasn’t making a move, I kind of got bored and did something I kind of regret. I went to this nightclub and there was this guy from my school (college) and I ended up grinding with him for like a minute. it was a one time thing and we only danced, it literally meant nothing to me. Anyway it got back to the campus and for some reason everyones talking about it and I think it got back to the guy I like. I say this because his whole temperament towards me changed, he’s no longer flirty, and doesn’t put in effort to talk to me, how do I fix this and make him like me again?

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grinding as in twerking, you know typical club activity...

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Also he had been talking to other girls while we were talking.

[SjE78]

tell him the truth, sit him down and admit what you did to him and try work it out... tbh "typical club activity"? wtf? if you are in a relationship and it isn't a part of the dynamic of that relationship then that is not typical activity whether in a club or otherwise, you were grinding another guy...
to him that is signs of if you would do that with someone else you would most likely jump into bed with someone else too...
so yeah be honest with him, and be prepared for a break up...

talking to other girls? in a sexual manner or as friends? cos tbh if in a sexual manner then think you both need to sit down and discuss where you wanna be a year from now and what you both hope to get from your relationship together...

but if he was talking as friends then that doesn't excuse your actions at teh club

[ShortCircuit]

You don't. If your behavior was a deal breaker for him, it would be wrong of you to expect him to sacrifice his standards for you. You are simply incompatible now. If you were so willing to move on and find someone more compatible before, what's stopping you from doing it again now?

The lesson to be learned from this is that if you are unsatisfied with the pace of your relationship with someone, the appropriate response is to swallow your pride, take some initiative, and actually communicate, not immediately find someone else.

[Anonymous]

you were grinding your pussy on him? even if it was that, the guy who hasn't made a move doesn't have anything to complain about. and you shouldn't regret it, you were just having fun and a little sexual release

[juicyjessie]

Which is fine, if she does not mind waving goodbye to the crush! That guy has gone.

[Opinion Owner]

@juicyjessie no i bet he'd totally still go for her, even more so

[juicyjessie]

LOL! We will see! Judging by the number of times I see the following question, I do not think so:

"The guy I was dating, dumped me because I slept with someone else. We were not official, so it should not matter to him". How wrong can you be.

[Opinion Owner]

@juicyjessie yeah but she's not dating this guy

[juicyjessie]

Guys do not have to be exclusive or even dating. If he had a crush on her, that has now gone. He will move on, as there are many other suitable girls around him.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but you shat on your crush from a great height. I doubt you can ever fix this. Turn round, walk away and find someone new.

[OlderAndWiser]

When you say grinding, I think of behavior that is intended to simulate sexual activity. Doing that with one guy when you are interested in another guy just makes you look like a slut. . . and you don't get a second chance to make a good first impression. Learn a lesson from the experience and move forward.

[Kurαȷ]

You can't fix this, because it is not a fixable issue.
You are the way you are and your crush was informed of that, if the way you are doesn't sit well with them then that is all there is to it.

If you don't want people to think of you a certain way, then don't behave a certain way.

It doesn't matter if your actions were a mistake, an accident or something you regret because the reality is that there will be tons of people who have never made that mistake in the first place, and those are the ones who will be granted precedence.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Maybe he was waiting for you to initiate, its not always up to the guys. And you not saying anything made him thi k you're not interested, and that grinding thing or whatever it is made the final statement that you can forget it. You missed that train girl

[tertater]

You go to your crush and try to show more interest in him. If it doesn't work, you are just out of luck and time to move on.

[000_000]

Make it official and cut that stuff out or part ways and look for someone else

[answerALLquestions]

You don't. Hard lesson but either take the initiative next time if you want it to go faster or learn to live with the current status. You blew it he's gunna find someone who's interested in him

[Zer0Ghost]

Why. Not. Just. Ask. Him. Out. People make this so difficult...

[Anonymous]

Give him a head :)