Crush got jealous because I talked to another guy?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy I have a crush on and I’m pretty sure he has a crush on me too, but he gives somewhat mixed signals. He’s a good guy, Christian, but today when a guy kept asking me about my career I think he got jealous because usually we hug and say bye before we leave but today he left without saying bye to me at all. What should I do?

[Summeroflove]

I think you should just be direct witn him and express interest but another thing is it can be a red flag if he’s getting possessive before you’re even in a relationship.

Look, just tell him you’re interested and if he agrees go on a date take things slow and be aware of red flags. But if you wait too long he might just figure you’re into someone else and loose interest.

[Asker]

Why do I have to be the one to tell him I’m interested? In fact I’ve dropped hints and I almost feel like they didn’t go so well. Like I sat next to him today and then he moved a seat over away from me to sit with his other group lead. Also I asked to go to church with him and afterwards thanked him for letting me join him and he never replied

[Summeroflove]

Asker that’s because you’re dropping hints and being indirect can make things more awkward then being direct.

Be direct if he isn’t direct back or says no. Leave the ball in his court and eventually you’ll move on.

[Summeroflove]

Some people I’d say someone isn’t interested will instead of being direct. Will drop hints making someone uncomfortable and on the other extreme someone whose interested may not catch on.

[Asker]

Hmm fine I might do it then. I really don’t feel like it’s a good idea but I might try. How would I go about it?

[Summeroflove]

Just tell him you’re interested and ask if he would go for coffee. It’s a date if he says yes then it’s a go. If you start noticing too many red flags take it slow you can break it off before it gets too serious.

[Asker]

Just an update. It seems like he’s already withdrawn, he’s not replying anymore

[Summeroflove]

Someone who won’t respond has probably either lost interest or is bitter over something but is too coward to use their words. I think that’s closure to move on.

Wish you the best

[Anonymous]

Depends whether you like him or not. Because if so you're going to have to shoot your shot at some point. Because if you keep entertaining others guys at some point he's just going to pull up stakes and move on. And then at that point it won't matter what you do.

[Asker]

How does answering another guys’ questions constitute as me entertaining him?

[Anonymous]

Of course he likes you. As for what you should do? Be honest w him. Tell him. Simple as that.

[Asker]

I asked him if he could help me with something and he hasn’t said anything. I’m beginning to think he just doesn’t

[Opinion Owner]

Ok what does that have to do w him liking you as far as asking him to help you w something? Is this a hint?

[Asker]

I can’t tell him I like him if I don’t get a chance to see him again