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Ladies: In your experience, what do MEN think about a woman who has sex on the first date? (Page 2)
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After what number of dates she is okay with sex has nothing to do with wanting a relationship with her or not. I had sex with my girlfriend the first time I met her and 2 years later we are still together.
Totally depends on the circumstances, including whether the guy & girl knew each other previously vs. just meeting. But in general I think it's better to wait a little bit, get comfortable with each other, let the sexual tension build up.
I don’t think anything. Sex on the first date feels pretty normal to me. I don’t think it says anything.
According to my husband and my brother, it’s a dealbreaker if she tries to have sex on the first date. They said it makes them think she’s a slut.
I think it has a lot to do with physical and mental connection between the two. If you have sex on a first date, I think you won't have the connection nor perhaps comfort towards another so it might get either awkward or it might feel like a one night stand. Therefor one might discard another becuase of that feeling.
You won't have that feeling unless you go on a date more with him/her. Its all about timing. By then, you'll be more comfortable knowing who you are with your significant other. Then the sex will be amazing but only if you two are in that comfort zone. That's what I think.
If your connection to that person is strong enough and you two talked it though and decided that if she got preg that night you would take responsibility for your actions. No relationship will last with out love trust and connections and passion.. If you have that one the first day the. Magic has happen... But chances are she or he is using you as a rebound or plain horney in that cause I agree with the person below.. Likely has something ajax can't wash off
You get sex if you are sexually attractive, alluring, and don’t do too many stupid things. You get a relationship if you meet a long laundry list of items... One of those items is sex. It doesn’t matter if sex happens on the first date. Women like to always use sex as an excuse for not meeting the other 99% of the list.
Easy, they often don't respect women who give up quickly, especially on the first date. They will go along with it but look at you differently like you trash afterwards.
Having sex on the first date is a mistake ( in my opinion). Sex isn't a good foundation to build a real relationship on.
If a woman wants a longterm relationship with a man, she should focus on getting to know him as a person.
How many other guys she did that with on the first date lol
She's a ho. Plain and simple. I don't care what her background is or her education level or her prestigious career. If she has sex on the first date, she's a ho.
How would you know she had sex on a first date
And why is sex negative to you.. presumably its something you like to do?
Well, that's a good question? I guess I wouldn't know. Because generally the guy is the one to initiate sex, and the woman either accepts or declines. Right? So if I didn't initiate anything, then obviously nothing will ever happen. And I will never know what would have happened.
And sex is not negative to me.
Feel free to follow up in case I need to clarify anything; it will be good for us to understand each other better.
Well I just that if you don’t want sex in a first date then it wouldn’t happen so the question how do you feel about her having sexual in the first date.. unless you guys had sex its not answerable.
You are right!
Too many scenarios and guy behaviour for a straight answer.
So as a girl, play safe, no sex until after at least 3 dates.
Well I’m curious here... If he has sex with her on the first date and then Turns around and dumps her as a result, do you really think he was a “keeper” that she should e played it safe for?
@VIVANT
This is the risk of first sex with a new guy: too high an expectation on misguided "love".
If he sincerely thought he was in love, but after sex loses all that chemistry (happens all the time) then it's up to you to take the risk.
However, it is also possible (happens all the time too) that he was just "hunting". So he cautious of such guys. He will do it again.
Thats his problem though 🤷♀️
@VIVANT this is the problem for the "receiver" of "love". It's hard to tell if the "giver" is real.
Hence, dating becomes like gambling. Sometime we win, sometime we lose.
If he wasn’t interested in her beyond sex she didn’t lose anything by having sex with him. She got sex out of it and never would’ve had more than that anyhow so the Sex ruined and risked nothing.
As for my saying that’s his problem— the question is about how the guy feels about it the woman having sex with him / him having sex with he, fast.
if he has sex under false impression of himself or to deceit her, that’s his problem and his responsibility , not hers.
@VIVANT how about her offering and him denying? She'd still have ruined it
@scooogy
But the question is about women having sex on the first date. If they don’t have it then she didn’t “ have it”
But even with your scenario..
A she offers he’s not ready so she says ok I like you I’ll wait. She has self control and is patient and is sexually attracted to him and likes him as a person and wants to date him. He would be foolish to drop her. But that’s his choice. She’s not going to miss out on losing a guy who will punish her for having sexual
Interest in him. Their relationship will suck. I’d say yes the one who lost bc he passed up a really great opportunity to date a person he likes who respects him enough to wait🤷♀️
B she offers he is not ready so she lives in. She didn’t lose anything. He didn’t lose anything... they were simply a bad fit.
C she offers he’s not ready she waits they date they like each other continue dating... eventually he’s ready and as the tension has built up and they know each other better they have amazing sex- win win.
If he is going to lose interest bc she’s sexually attracted to him, he’s a dummy lol
And she’s be risking wasting her time to try to accommodate his silliness.
@VIVANT my bad... I misread you.
But most cases are guys wants sex and "Player" usually applies to guys, not girls.
Your cases appears realistic, but misses out the feeling part.
Guys can and had entered dates to the point of sex with little or no feelings. But girls tend to look for love.
And first date do not show too much real feelings. So the cases are not as accurate.
I don’t know if girls tend to look for love it friends what they are looking for
I don’t think a tube has sex on a first date thinking it’s love lol if they have sex on a first date they want sex. Doesn’t mean they are not open to more but no one is in love on a first date. Sex isn’t a risk unless you are only having it to try to catch someone.
Having sex to get someone to stay in my opinion That’s as dumb as dumping someone for having sex.
But if she wants sex and has sex and ex is all he wanted then she still got sex🤷♀️
Anyhow this question is about how guys feel. So I’m looking st it from that Angie. If he feels bad about having first date sex he shouldn’t do it. Instead of doing it and turning around and blaming her. It’s just very sloppy and inefficient approach life. and he will generate a lot of misplaced negative views on women and sex that will negatively affect his future relationships.
@VIVANT yes, i agree that there exists guys who are still virgins at 24 who turn down sex for reasons of their own. Those are really "nice guys" LOL!
And I think you're liberal and sexually free. And I congratulate you for that.
I’m actually super conservative with my own body lol but I support people doing what they want if it Doesn’t harm anyone and particularly interested in the way people can condemn others not just for something that they hurting them or anyone else but actually something that they benefit from.
I get turning down someone who is going at a different speed.. but to turn down a person who hits at your speed. It’s mind boggling. There is an approach that definitely seems like that going to bite the person eventually. I think people who drop anyone they like interested in sex , risk to end up with someone who doesn’t really like sex.
Me I wait year or do can’t help it. Just takes me a long time to feel comfortable. And I don’t believe in pretending l.
@VIVANT glad to know you here and I wish the man of your heart falls madly in love with you. 😁
Thank you , you too. Well I assume for you it will be a girl lol
@VIVANT LOL! Of course! 100% straight. Never once for a guy!
Lol 😊🙃
It should be that we really like each other. It could mean anterior motives but I always hope not
Anterior motiives tired spelling off tonight
Spell check did it twice in a row alterior
Hmm What kind of motive?
Ulterior
Oh haha I know I just meant I wondered what kind of ulterior motives he was thinking of 😊
Yes yeah spell check fatiuge
Happens to the best of us
#bulletbob555
😊 I understood the meaning I just wondered what kind of motives you were thinking of
Take advantage of some sort. Why what did you think?
I dk I wasn’t sure what kind of ulterior motive there is to sex- it seems pretty straightforward to have sex if you both want to
So, if a girl likes you and is honest with you, and you go together the first night, she is easy or a b***...
I only expect that the girlfriend who you finish with, be that type of girl who fucks with everybody except you, because you are her love.
On a more neutral tone.
The only thing you must say a girl who fucks with you on a first date is...
Thank you for that wonderful night, now that we are having breakfast, what do you want to do?
From what I've been told, it's seen as slutty and being easy, such as you're the kind who would do it with an other and they feel threatened by this I guess
Every woman I've dated has slept with me on the first date, I thought it was just normal
I know you are asking women, but my personal male perspective is that it is a major turn off. Not only will I not engage, I will not call her again.
If you won't engage then you wouldn’t have had sex with her so
how could you guys have had sex on the first date?
The question is asking about her having sex on the first date not just being interested in it on the first date.
A girl that I knew (that I kind of liked) thought I was crazy for not wanting sex on the first date, only when married. I virtually lost all respect for her then.
I can understand this bc she was obnoxious about it plus you are being consistent with your own standards.
@VIVANT She was divorced though, that's a biggy... because her husband lied about wanting a baby.
Simple
Depends on the sex. Playful and alcohol inspired is one thing, but an all-out kink fest or that cold “professional” style is a bad sign for relationship material.