Should your companion ask for permission before kissing you on a first date? (Page 2)
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I wish men would go with their guts. If they feel the chemistry (the butterflies) you go for the kiss. I think it’s the mans inability to know when he has chemistry with a woman what hurts him.
It may be the time that he went with his gut feeling, kissed her good, and the girl slapped the shit out of him! Maybe that is what makes guys hesitate.
Me, personally. . . if I feel it, I give her a kiss and it might even be an extended kiss!
That’s the way it should be.
I wouldn't feel comfortable kissing him on the first date. Especially if I don't feel a connection and then he tries to kiss me too at the end of it , it would be an awkward situation and I would feel like he's rushing it. I think any guy should take his time and shouldn't rush a kiss. Kiss later on when you know her better. I feel the exact same way. I need to know him better before kissing him.
You should know from how things are going, or went, and whether to go in for a quick gentle kiss on the lips. Asking is kinda of sad. Moving in too early or when the signs aren't right and getting the cheek or nothing is embarrassing. If you dont know or can't tell, then best not to do anything. Go for a hug and if she keeps her face close to yours, you can try. But no tongue wrestling unless it starts to get passionate.
If there is REALLY a kiss to be had in a given relationship, I think that it will be relatively obvious- through body language, "moving in" or "leaning in", a look of expectation in their in their eyes, whatever- that a kiss is about to occur. If the feeling isn't reciprocated, one can always turn the (other?) cheek.
I personally don't mind if a woman kisses me after our first date regardless if she asks me. It's a compliment to be kissed by the ladies 😍. Unless of course she's ugly, in which case i will carefully resist.
regarding your update
"What is a guy supposed to do?"
Nothing. Just go MGTOW 😎 no problem at all.
It's avoiding entitled princesses.
I've asked before and the girl got upset that I didn't just do it. So, I refuse to ask, but I also try and read the situation. If we're holding each other closely I'll look at her lips then her eyes then her lips and back to her eyes and usually when this happens it's pretty noticeable if she wants a kiss or not so I just start to lean in but I never go all the way. That way it takes both of us for the kiss to actually happen.
I understand some men may determine consent through body-language and social cues but I believe consent should also be verbal.
Unfortunately, many women would get turned off if a guy asks and view him as 'not a real man'. Thankfully, these type of women are becoming far and few between and more women are appreciating men that ask for consent.
I never kissed a girl, well, I kissed my computer screen during my LDR, but in person, I never did kiss a girl and I had that dilemma.
In my inexperienced taught I would go for the corporal language, and the tone of voice, before I do that attempt.
If a guy asks if he can kiss me I get turned off.
https://youtu.be/DSpJQlBJCzAAgree
I thought consent was important.🙄
Honestly It’s a turn off go most of the way if you want to if she turns her head she isn’t interested... but for me asking seems like you aren’t confident which confidence is attractive
If you are unsure if she is interested and want to kiss/ progress things go most of the way and see if she leans in
OP to your update I guess everyone is different but I still feel the same I guess as long as you don’t fully kiss them and give them the option to turn away
I agree but I feel it's a bit more gentleman like to ask. You don't need to ask straight up like an idiot, you can still ask while being flirty, romantic and confident.
Are you able to give me an example?
I think asking by leaning in without fully going in is the best way
Yeah, that's good, maybe instead of asking, just say it imperatively.
Just say I'm gonna kiss you instead of may I kiss you.
That’s still better than asking giving her the option of saying no
If a guy does something in a way that doesn't give a girl an option, that should be a HUGE red warning flag.
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Lol I didn’t see someone had mentioned this scene when I write my answer 😂
Though I think being asked is really sweet
Also I’d rather the mood ruined then someone feel violated
But I dont see how going slow can be “ bad”
Honestly it flatters me a little when guys ask. I mean, me? They want to kiss me? And if not then I'll ask, I'm not afraid and if it's a not then that's okay.
I'd feel awkward if he asked and in this case I agree with statement B. But I never met a guy who asked before doing it.
Usually I try to show if I want it, but sometimes he might also be nervous about it and completely loose the hints...
Personally, I'd go with D - if I didn't want them to kiss me, I'd just change position slightly so that they kissed my cheek instead. However, I think it's really sweet if someone did ask to kiss me, I'd swoon a little bit I think :P
In answer to the update, I'd say a guy should pay attention to the body language. Each person is different - you can't expect one answer from every single person in a group that makes up roughly 50% of the population, that's ridiculous. It's a personal thing. If you think she wants you to go for it then do and if it turns out badly, back off and apologise for misreading the signals. If you're not sure, then play it safe and get to know each other a little more first. It's not rocket science to understand that the correct course of action in any social situation depends on context and you can't receive a blanket answer.
that would be totally wimpy, hot guys know when girls want it
Hot guys may know when YOU want it but every girl does not signal her desires very clearly.
of course they do, but you can't sense like a hot guy can
Thanks for the insult, but the problem is not the guy's inability to sense what the woman wants. Some women simply do not signal what they want. . . to anyone. . . regardless of how hot he is!
LOL! I'm a 'hot guy' and dense af! Please speak up. Thank you.
I don't kiss on the first date, I need to feel quite comfortable before doing that. But yes, I would suggest they ask me first.
You might be able to see the hints if she/he doesn't want to kiss... But probably would best good to ask first, if you can't tell by the hints already to flee from a weird situation
*Be best to ask first
I'd say D. A kiss says a lot whether its gonna become romantic or a friendship. If I'm not feeling it at all I'll stop him before or let it land on my cheek.
I think most people know when it's the right time to kiss on a date but i still wouldn't mind if they asked and if i didn't like them that much id just give them a kiss on the cheek
I think it's super awkward to verbally ask permission. My thing is usually if I lean in for a kiss I'm only going 75% of the way, so it's clear that I'm going for a kiss but leaving enough space for her to be like "haha nope" if she doesn't want it.
Not really typically people tempt that like 1 may make things sweet and romantic to get you in the mood or they just might try without giving some real effort and might cause a precaution because of alertness
I’ve been ambushed and I wasn’t too interested after definitely ask. Or at least pick up on body language if it’s noticeable. If I’m ready to leave you’ll get that vibe. One guy literally grabbed the back of my neck I wasn’t too happy about that.
Wow.
Yea I stopped talking to him after that.
Good choice.