Guys: If a woman doesn't offer to pay or split the bill on a first date, how do you react or respond? (Page 3)
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*Looks at empty wallet*
I'l just pay for it but I'm likely not gonna go on a date with her again. I dont like this mentality where I have 'buy myself in' to get access to a woman's time. No thanks.
Well, I normally don't ask or expect the girl to offer it. When I ask for the bill I already say that we're splitting, I always assume that we're splitting the bill
I just don’t want to deal with this ridiculous game at all.
I usually get offended if my date offers to pay it makes me feel like she feels sorry for me. Like don't if I couldn't pay I wouldn't bring you here.
Depends on premise of the date ie " let me take you to dinner"
I'm old-fashioned and think women shouldn't pay no matter who they are be it a date out with a friend or family it's the way I am.
I tell her that anyone else I would go with, friends, family and so on, they would all split the bill. Asking me to pay for her time is insulting.
If she has any attitude whatsoever about splitting the first date there will be no second date. Stop objectifying men financially.
I wouldn't even notice because I'd have already paid.
EXPECT to split the bill.
OFFER.
Unless one makes it clear they are buying.
I'd just pay my half and not see her again. I am only interested in finding someone for a lasting relationship and I don't want someone that would be selfish and think the man has to pay for everything.
are you aspiring for marriage?
@mistixs I don't want legal marriage because I've already experienced the bad effects from divorce, but I would like to have a long term exclusive relationship leading to living together and raising a family/kids. I want to know that the woman is going to contribute to our future family too, not just me.
well from a biblical perspective, the husband is supposed to provide for food (Exodus 21:10). But that doesn't mean that the woman isn't contributing. She contributes in other ways
@mistixs That was in the days when the work force was all men so they had lots of choices/opportunity for employment. And the stress of the whole family being totally dependent on him kills men earlier. Also she had no say in anything either back then.
That's not true. The virtuous woman commended in Prov31 had an income. & Women did have a say. For example, God told Abraham in Genesis 21:12 to listen to whatever Sarah told him.
My rule of thumb is if I'm inviting I'm at least offering to pay, if she refuses I don't make a great fuss about it.
I'd be a little bummed. If I never saw her again I'd consider it wasted money. I understand that could go both ways so I'd offer to split
Mostly I have been with guys who always pay for dates, no mater is the first or the fifth. My current boyfriend always pays for dates.
I'm old school, but I don't expect her to pay. I wouldn't even notice since in my mind it's the guy's responsibility to pay for dates.
Unless it's outrageous in price I pay for it. I won't pay for everything throughout the entire relationship.
Offer to split bill can at times be interpreted as indication that you are not interested romantically or not attracted to the person you are going out with.
it is not provblem , i usually avoid expensive restaurants tbh..
I get up and leave her to pay the bill.
Simples...