Ever met someone years later and been horribly disappointed? (Page 2)
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I've never had anything like this before but I want to share my opinion.
This is difficult status. First of all, health is important. There's no point in being ugly/beautiful if she is not healthy. You should support her. Because this is she's more important to her. Maybe she hates herself. Maybe she's depressed. Weight is both a pysical and chemical burden. You may have felt bad when saw her. But I bet she feels worse. You was could be like her.🤷♀️
It is also mental burden.
I am still her friend.
Okay. This is good 🐹
Not to be rude, but pretty massive weight gain seems to be a given across the board, sadly.
And yeah, I did see some girls in their mid 20s that I was into when I was 16. They hadn't aged so well (even in their 20s). Having said that, they may say the same about me (no hair). However, I still take care of myself, eat well, stay in shape, etc.
People change in unpredictable ways. I've re-met people that fall into each vote choice, so I can't in good conscience vote for just one. Most of the time, though, I don't have disappointment because I didn't have any expectations on how they would turn out 'back then'.
I've not had this experience although I wouldn't say they looked the same. I've seen old friends and exes I hadn't seen in over a decade, and many certainly looked quite different, and some gained a bit of weight. But it wasn't enough of a change to their character or appearance for me to not see them the same way I used to see. There's probably some threshold where a large enough transformation might make them seem unrecognizable to me, but I haven't encountered a case yet like this.
A hahahaa jk...
I moved so haven’t seen anyone from way back HS or Middle school...
My friend stopped by 2 weeks ago whom I haven’t seen over 2 years...
sadly like you said... medical surgery have caused her lots of weigh gain.
So no, never had such experience and hope I don’t become one. Keeping healthy...
I'm still quite young, but I dated a guy back in high school and he was really into fitness and gymed regularly, he had a great body. I ran into him this year at a local store and he looked terrible. Gained a lot of weight and didn't really look like he was taking care of himself with regards to his clothes, hair and facial hair. He looked completely different (yes I know he should since he has aged but that's not my point). I wasn't disappointed but it was a shock. I felt bad as well for having those thoughts and I know it's normal that people sometimes gain weight as they age.
Of course the men i graduated have gained varying levels of weight, lost hair, some gained way more wrinkles then ever could imagine, and some look exactly the same. Goes both ways for each sex. Some have tougher times in life than others not to mention health problems.
Back in my youth I sometimes made silly decisions. One time I went round a friends house and his parents were out. He offered me weed and normally I would've said no, but teenageness got the better of me and I accepted. It was the first and last time I did that, and I still occasionally see him now years later still smoking weed. He was actually fairly bright, good with maths, but he just went down the wrong path I guess.
A girl at school that I was into. I met her at age 30 and she had totally chunked out. I hit it during the summer after highschool and didn't see her for 12 years when she went off to college. If you ever heard that song angel is the centre fold, well by angel became Jabba the hut.
Actually, options B, D and E. I recently refused to attend our 35th year re-union.
No need to pretend that we are still 20.
I had been in contact with some of them over the years. I was 'shocked' how many mutated into 'good citizens', yes-sayers, and 'adapted'(subdued) characters - talking meanwhile about medical conditions and retirement supply issues.
They became the guys we never wanted to be with.
Physically - I saw no one 'improving (except me :D ) but many … deteriorating.
Oh wow! you're story! I could completly understand the shock! That has yet to happen to me but I've definatly seen recent photos of old hs friends whom have gone downhill... and thats only been 7 years now.
As terrible as it sounds, at least now you know you didn't miss out on much🤷♀️
I've met someone years later and was disappointed by physical changes, mental changes, and other types of changes. It depends on who it was. I've had all three occur. One girl became a total bitch, the other become obese, and another wasn't as attractive as I thought they were when I was a hormonal teen.
Damn, you are 64 and didn't mature much. She is fucking old, what do you expect? Jlo? I get it, she could be in vetter shape, but some people gain weight due to medical problems.
Damn, you are 23 and haven't learned much. Not everyone at my age is in a wheelchair or uses a walker. So I did not expect have any particular expectation. When I see a girl who I haven't seen in 40 years and she has gone from a cute cheerleader to a grossly overweight woman, it is a shock.
"Some people gain weight due to medical problems." Are you SURE about that, Captain Obvious? Maybe you're right, maybe that's the problem! In fact, maybe that's why I said, "She had developed a medical problem which required her to frequently use systemic steroidal medications, and that had caused tremendous weight gain."
When I ran into my ex years later, she gained a ton of weight. We ended up getting back together because I was attracted to a lot more than just her body. I ended up getting her to lose all the weight when we were dating again. We broke up, and she’s already gained it back lol
Not really. But I did have a crush on a chubby guy. I can’t help it he was so cute. Lol n he wasn’t extremely fat he was chunky. I end up ask him out n he rejected me. Later learn he had s twin brother. Who would make fun of me by ask me out as a joke mind you. lol they are cute but it’s too bad I am ugly
Yes, almost every girl I remember being very attractive either in college or back in high school is a heifer now, a couple of my ex's as well. It's easy to be beautiful when your body is young and burns calories at a naturally higher rate, being able to eat whatever you want and still remain thin and fit, but when it comes time to actually put effort into it as you age, those who have taken their beauty for granted fall spectacularly short.
Eating whatever you want isn’t a thing fir most women. metabolism isn’t the same for young women as it is for men. weight gain in women isn’t usually due to pigging out.. more likely pregnancy or jobs that are sedentary.
Yeah the most beautiful girl on my team who got all the boys because she was curvy, short, huge tits and ass - 7 years later turned into a huge saggy ball, the curves merged with her figure. And she’s only in her 20’s. It’s sad but damn.
It’s genetics and food intake I guess.
Honestly weight gain, just looking old and cracked out, or just having so much baggage from years spent making poor decisions. Thats pretty much every girl id ever met from my high school and college days. Women dont seem to hold up well outside of a stable long term relationship for the most part.
I was actually ugly in HS. Years later my former classmates are shocked after all the bullying. I think there's no excuse to let yourself go. People change but you should change for your own benefit. If you don't care about yourself... then you may not care much for others.
Several factors here, some looks even better now then before. And some don't look good at all, it can be that my taste change but also they have changed. But every now and then a beautiful or cool person I used to know now looks like they have been hit by the ugly three 5 times to much.