I take the hug if she offers it at the end of the date. Otherwise I give a handshake. Girls are really hard to read and guessing can get you in trouble.
I could hug her and she might be thinking “I really don’t want a hug but I don’t want to be rude but I also don’t want to give him the wrong idea but I also don’t want him to think I don’t like him but I also don’t want him to think I want sex tonight but I also don’t want him to think I’m a prude but I also don’t want him to think I’m easy but I also don’t want him to see me as just a friend but I also don’t want him to see me as his girlfriend but I also want a second date but I also don’t want him to be clingy but I also want to hear from him again but I also don’t want him to blow my phone up but I also don’t...” the list is endless. That same scenario can repeat after I hug her without her offering.
“I didn’t want him to hug me, he really invaded my personal space, he probably kissed and hugs on every girl he dates. Is he dating other girls? Does he even like me? If he liked me he would have kissed me. Why didn’t he kiss me? Does he not think I’m pretty enough? Is he not attracted to me? Was I too uptight? Was I too friendly? Why’d he hug me without my permission? Why didn’t he kiss me? I feel violated. He doesn’t like me. He would have kissed me.
Basically. Never guess with women and choose the safest route when you meet for the first time. Communicate. Ask her if she’s ok with a hug. Ask her if you can kiss her. Never try to read her mind. If she wishes you did, avoid her.
I’ll hug her if she hugs me. If not I wave her goodnight and text her goodnight when I get home. From there I’ll try to set up a second date while showing interest within the next week. It usually works in my favor.
Fuck that noise dude. Talk for a few seconds, guage her reaction, give her a high five for something she says, if she goes for it, she's okay with physical contact, so you can take a riskier move. Great tester.
Go for a hip hug, if you can, after the high five. It's more sexual. You have to be confident.
You only live once. Take some calculated risks. Feel her out, test lesser intimate physical contact to guage her reaction to you, then increase the intimacy of the contact, bit by bit.
If she doesn't accept or acts standoffish, back off, but don't give up, and whatever you DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE that you just tried to touch her and she denied you. Do not admit akwardness. Move right past that shit, quickly, and try to soften her up a bit, wait until the aura is more receptive, then try to test her boundaries again. If they're still solid, repeat above. If she lets you, you're in.
Think tactical bro. Bring your night vision goggles n shit. She is a castle, and you are the invading army. Albeit a very respectful army which doesn't push harder than she's wants you to... okay, not so much like an invading army. Like a Canadian invading Army. Except without the apologies, unless you seriously fucked up.
@WildWinter The side of your hip to the side of her hip, with your arm around her waist. You can kinda move around a bit, like a small dance, halfway mirroring a sexual act, but it has to be an implication, not too overt. *Not* the front of your hips, haha. That would be awkward. Although, you can do basically anything if her demeanor towards you is at a peak and you do it with enough confidence.
Although, going from high five to hip hug might be too fast. It all revolves around you being able to perceive her demeanor towards you. If she's all smiles and really focused on you, go for it. If she's not, then try to get her to that point before the high five test.
Handshake, always a handshake unless you know her well beforehand, and even then I'd still do a handshake first just to be safe.
If she pulls you in for a hug, or motions for one, go for it!
Even as a female, I always watch other people's body language before touching them. In other words, let her guide you on what she feels comfortable with! Approach her and watch to see if she puts her hand out for a shake, or around you like she wants a hug.
NEITHER. lol that's just awkward! handshake? this is no business meetingXD and hug is only okay if you really know this person, maybe you were friends before dating I don't know, something like that I guess. It's just weird to do those things on a first date, but if it's not the first date, then hug:3
I wouldn't worry about it, and do what comes natural. Having said that, I'd probably keep it a bit more cordial if your texts have been more on the friendly side. If they've been more flirty or steamy, or you have more of a plan for how things are going to go down, then maybe hug. Probably more formal in meeting, and if the night went well, get a hug.
Ask the person your dating. If they get offended or huffy, red flags. Better to be safe than sorry. But either one is better than straight of kissing them or touching them inappropriately.
Safer with a handshake, but some girls will signal they want a hug, and some will make it very plain the want a hug. (that is, a friendly hug) I tend to be a little touchy feely, and like hugs, so sometimes I have to reign myself in to make sure people are comfortable. I find that people love hugs, but not everybody loves them. You kind of have to read people.
Personally, I prefer light hugs. But check if the girl is comfortable first. There’s nothing wrong with asking if you can hug someone. And it shows that you care about consent.
I think you should go for the hug, the trick is don't make it weird. She'll just assume you're happy to see her and it's a great way to start on a good note. Remember that your happy to see her and smile, it's not weird unless you make it weird
The only reason this is even a question, because guys greet each other with handshakes usually. Hug is i would think too personal/intimate when first time meeting someone. It seems most girls prefer the hug.
@ElvenMr yeah, I agree, I don't really like hugging people I don't know, and even people I do know sometimes lol, but a handshake is just too formal. If a guy shook my hand I would think he was firmly but politely letting me know this was going to proceed as a friendship and he doesn't want anything more.
I think it depends on the girl and time. For me personally, I'd say blend the too. Stick your hand out, when she grabs it place your other hand on tio as you greet her. Then give a nice hug
If she's 25 and under, hug. If over 25 kiss on the cheek.
You asked her out on a date so she should like you at least a little. If she gets weirded out by a simple hug she has issues and isn't ready to date.
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I don't like physical touch with strangers or people i'm not close to so when a guy greets me with a hug on a date it's not a good start to the date for me.
Neither. A handshake is awkward and I personally like hugs but i know for sure not everyone is a hugger so you're better off with just a verbal greeting and a smile to play it safe.
These days, don't touch her at all unless she offers a handshake, hug, whatever. Keep your hands to yourself or else you are going to jail for sexual harassment (whatever that means).
You don’t meet someone for a date. If you met online or were set up, the first time you see them is a meeting. If you want to take her out on a date at that point you have already met so a hug works.
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