Do you think it’s important to challenge typical gender roles in dating? (Page 3)

Question

Gender roles are those expectations held by members of a given regarding how their genders should act, speak, dress, and so on. Examples include: 1. Men are expected to ask a woman out while women are expected to wait to be asked out. 2. Men are expected to plan the date, including the venue and time while women are not expected to. Women’s input to date planning is reduced to accepting and advising on the date plan. 3. Men are expected to take control during sex while women are expected to lose control to the man. 4. If you’re short or skinny and happen to be a man, your male appeal to a woman reduces. 5. If you’re flat-chested or have a flat bum and happen to be a woman, your female appeal to a man reduces. 6. The man is expected to keep the relationship exciting by taking her out while the woman is not expected to take a man out. 7. If you are a straight guy and groom yourself to near polished perfection, which may include wearing female cologne or deodorant, and/or makeup, you are a lesser man, or even mistaken for a gay man. 8. If you’re a straight girl and hardly shave your legs, do manicure, pedicure, and nails polishing, you’re a lesser woman. 10. If a woman has slept with more than 20 guys she is less than a girlfriend or marriage material, but if a man did it he is not looked down as much as the woman. 11. If you’re broke and happen to be a man, your social standing and appeal to the woman is reduced while if you’re a woman and broke, the effect on your social standing and appeal to the man is not reduced by the same measure. 12. Women are not expected to be sexually forthcoming while men are expected to be. 13. Women are not expected to foot the bill on a date while men are expected to foot the bill.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, now that we are marrying for love and companionship rather than simply being a little family business together, it’s valuable to be who you really are and cooperate in your own unique ways rather than filling a generic role.

rjroy3 · Answer

I'm not sure I would say challenge as much as I would say to selectively adhere to. Some gender roles are good, some are more or less bullshit.

Gatoleyo · Answer

Yes and no, I would get rid of all that spectations but for example if I want to pay the dinner I wouldn't like to be tagged as sexist

NorthwestRider · Answer

Gender roles are just bs stupid sexist rules that the religious nutjobs made up to control women

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't think any couple should be held to any traditions imposed on them by society.

LuWe22 · Answer

I go by the motto just do yourself. Make your own Traditions. Do what you think it is right.

ecfresh · Answer

For the most part these make sense, with a few exceptions. Good job summarizing the roles

Bondfan · Answer

Sometimes in relationship there has to be a fine balance

1828avaava1828 · Answer

Important is a relative term. Hmm 🤔 in the context of this question, I think it depends. Let’s go with sure!

Massageman · Answer

No. There is the male sex. There is the female sex. Explanation? There is the male sex. There is the female sex.

GD360 · Answer

I think you shouldn't let culture or media or anyone tell you what your relationship should look like. Do what's comfortable for the both of you

youcantknowwhoiam · Answer

Some yes some no depends which ones you wanna follow or not do what you want but just don't do something for the sole purpose of proving gender roles wrong

Anonymous · Answer

It’s fun My boyfriend and I will joke. He jokingly punches my vagina, I jokingly say “MY BALLS”  We laugh and we move on

Gedaria · Answer

There is not such a thing as gender roles as far as I am concerned. If it needs doing get on and do it...

AtramentalIvory · Answer

Not important to challenge them or not challenge them. Every relationship is different, people should do what they like and works for them.

oldoldold · Answer

From what I've seen most people work out how to be happy. Mostly be breaking the suggested rules. The rest suffer

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I prefer all the traditional gender roles. Dating and relationships would not be worth participating in otherwise.

ultimega · Answer

I think some traditions I don't mind but others require some balance.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I like traditional gender roles so I don’t want to completely replace them. It’s more of a preference to me.

AcidT0y · Answer

Nah, nothing is important. We're all gonna end up in the dirt eventually so just do what you want :D

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