Its nice to hear about a girl being a virgin since so many seem to be whoring around nowadays in the name of "sexual liberation", though what liberating about giving your body away to random men who didn't earn your time or body nor do they respect you ill never understand. But its a feminist ideology, of course it doesn't make sense.
My point is, virgins are rarity, this makes them highly valued. There are also a lot of men who are sexually inexperienced or virgins themselves and are either sickened or merely uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with a girl who has been around and is "experienced". These men probably want to grow with the woman instead of merely gain some experience and sexual pleasure. Of course there will be those creeps to seek out virgins and manipulate them to have sex with them and take their virginity like a prize; be aware of these horrible men. Being sexually inexperienced is what most men are attracted to because men are having less sex (statistically) and are more angry and bitter than they have in many years, largely due to income insecurity but also a healthy dose of the social change women have created that hurts men and makes them feel vilified but also leaves them disgusted at women behavior. Men are SUPPOSED to be jealous. Its an evolutionary tactic developed to prevent cuckoldry. if the woman they are suiting lays with anther man there is likely a chance she will get pregnant and then divert time away from you and will be unable to have your kids as well. If she already has had kid with you then your child isn't being given all the attention from the wife and mother. Men rarely want to raise another mans child. So props to step fathers, we dont give you enough credit. Even if she doesn't get pregnant, she is now devoting time and energy to another man who isn't you... that's why we are jealous. Men NEED women to be by their side. We are better men for it. Women complete us, whether Mens Rights activists admit it or not, the reason they are MGTOW idiots is because women have wronged them in some way they find unforgivable. So we as a society need to once again realize the important of pair bonding.
@shinka1y234 I have never shied away from shaming men for that behavior. For me, it doesn't matter which gender is responsible. They both are using other people and themselves for hedonistic pleasure that brings no sense of real meaning in their lives.
And earlier on in my original comment I specifically call out men who are players and use this to manipulate young women. Men who sleep around have no respect for women. Just like promiscuous women have no respect for men. They see each other as prizes instead of people.
Per the Center of Disease Control's Youth Risk Survey almost 2/3rd of 12th grade girls have had sexual intercourse and other sources indicate 80% before age 20. And 6% will die as virgins. Therefore, in effect only 1 in 7 girls age 20 are virgins.
I know there are older men that say otherwise. And, there may be a few, but I don't know any young men that would reject a girl because she is virgin. However, most of us would prefer a virgin, especially if she is young. Because most guys want virgins and since there are so few virgins, other than the fact that most girls will lie and claim to be a virgin, if they can get away with it, that gives girls that are virgins a huge advantage over non-virgins in getting a boyfriend and/or marrying a guy.
For the large majority of men that would prefer a virgin, because we can’t find an attractive virgin, we have to lower our standards and accept a non-virgin. However, if we can find a virgin and other factors are equal or even close to equal, we will choose the virgin 11 times out of 10.
@shinka1y234 Men want to be a girls first. Women want to be a guy's last. Regardless, if you don't like it, you shouldn't have given up your virginity, but it is too late now to change that.
@shinka1y234 I don't belive that for one minute; not even a second. Because virgins have greater ethics, morality, and loyalty, it is not shallow to prefer a virgin.
@shinka1y234 Since having morality does not define personality I agree with that being a virgin does not imply she has a good personality, but more likely than not she will have. Now I don't wish to upset you. Therefore, if we lived in the same country and the same locality, based on your profile photo, I would accept you because I know that finding and knowing that a girl equally or near equally attractive is problematic at best. But I’m not going to Austria and you are not coming to the USA so that’s all hypothetical.
@Rundown They are from non-virgins and they hate hearing the truth. They resent and vote down when a guy points out that virgins are more desirable. I'm certain they know that virgins are more desirable, but they don't want to be reminded of it.
@Rundown You realize that virgins 18 or older are very hard to find. Especially considering that 7% of women will die as virgins. And those virgins are not available.
@Rundown Hardly! Per the Center of Disease Control (CDC) Youth risk survey 60% of girls have had sexual intercourse by January of their senior year in high school when the surveys are taken. And, other sources claim only 20% are virgins at age 20.
Yes and no. I feel that most men who do adhere to the double standard: they play the feel and raise their body count but when they want to settle down, they want to make sure they have someone that hasn't been around the block like they have and knows that she's clean. That doesn't take the woman's feelings into account.
Some men like taking that V-Card.
Some men don't care.
Other men aren't willing to patient and merely want to have fun, so having to deal with a virgin would ruin that aspect.
There's nothing wrong with any of these (aside from the first). I say that the right guy wouldn't care if you're experienced or not. You should recognize from the male comments the caliber of men that I'm talking about.
It highly depends on culture and also just individual people. In Western countries most people prefer someone with a bit of experience whereas in the place where I live, even having coffee with a guy alone is a serious offense.
I do have great appreciation for virgins though. I believe no one should engage in having anything less than committed relationships and not have physical relationship with anyone other than the person that you are committed to. It saves you from a lot of burden, trust me.
If means you haven't whored around/have a "purer" sexual morality/will not question their sexual ability or lack thereof because you have nothing to compare it to.
The morality thing is the big one. It means having a strong sense of self worth and choosing only those worth sharing yourself. Although, I still think you are appealing if you hold these standards and aren't a virgin.
@Regicider Is it the same for men? As in, if men have more than one sexual partner I should judge them for having no self worth and for not being a virgin?
It's not that I don't want my ability questioned. I hold a very high standard for myself and I will strive to be the best that I can be, and furthermore I am confident that I can fuck just as well as or better than any other guy out there, even though I am still currently a virgin. It's just that I don't want to be compared to somebody else, period. I mean, you girls don't like it when guys compare your bodies to other girls, do you?
As I said, even if you're not a virgin, it's the appeal of holding a standard. Yes, I think it's the same way with men. I should clarify that anyone can do what they want to do, but having self restraint or a clear history is appealing to those who want sex to carry more weight and value.
virgins are special for not being with anyone it a new and fun thing to them. I should not lost my to a girl who was with a lot of guys. I was thinking it was time I was 22 and I feel old and want something new in my life. She gave me an std and I all most had a kids with her and I think I going to hell. But so many time befor I did older women who want to do it with me and stop me cause I was not ready and they did not want me do something I may have not want to do. But this girl she just want money and she gave me lice and dram. Just today she be with lot of guys. I think she be the first and last girl I be with but I don't know.
Do not do it unless you want to also Do not use other I try not to use her I want a nomal one. But there to many scam out there. I want try just be with many 2 girls at the end. Being with her is not good and she seem me as just a guy give her thing. She going back like she never new me try thing and I guss she be ok. She have lot kids with lot of guys and I glad I not suck with her.
I don't know any more people want be sex positive now day. Fine a good guy want to stay with you or just a hook up if you want I don't know anymore.
Personally, no. Virginity, and the concept of saving oneself for marriage, are not prizes to be flaunted. Sexual compatibility is critical to the success of a healthy relationship. Too many people have suffered great emotional, psychological, and physical torment (including death) from entering into marriage without determining whether or not he/she is sexually compatible with his/her spouse. It’s unfortunate that this reality is stigmatized such that it’s not discussed openly and accepted as status quo.
We learn from each partner/experience. Happiness and general satisfaction often comes from being in a relationship with another who is curious, adventurous, open-minded, willing to step beyond his/her comfort zone as necessary, encouraging, reassuring, and much more.
Further, when both partners express a greater interest in the other’s pleasure/release/satisfaction, and put forth the time/effort necessary to bring such things to fruition, both are often quite pleased and content.
Your not a whore or is a harlot. You kept yourseld even though you have many opportunities to have sex. Overall guys like the idea of being first to take your virginity, but many care less if your a virgin when their not virgins themselves. Take that from me who is a virgin and never dated. The problem is they don't want to get married first before losing their virginity or even sharing that lost together with that person. Some respect you, others will call you a prude, and the rest will not care. At the end of the day is not worrying if a guy wants or like a virgin. what matters is what makes you happy and and desire to do. Because premarital sex is a sin before God. For good reasons. And the reasons are practically endless. Don't worry about it. Love yourself. You don't need anyone's else's opinion.
All the people, especially men, using the terms “whore/whore out” and “ oh men (only) want virgins” then keep that SAME energy when you’re around non-virgins or shall I say the Aces? 👸🏽. A few of you probably fucked a non-virgin and didn’t say an ounce of this mumbo jumbo. Why? Because you know it really doesn’t matter or make a difference, pussy is pussy. Ladies, and gents also remember, a good pussy stays good no matter how many dicks is in it (real lucky ones it’s good even after birth) and it’s about health over everything. 👑.
Most of them use the word "pure", and I hate it. My boyfriend says I'm pure cause I'm a virgin, but he doesn't how much I masturbate thinking about him, or how much I want him to fuck me, and when I try to talk about it, he just says it's not for now, that I'm too pure for him to imagine that, that I'll make the first step when I'm ready. He shows me no sexual desire, and I end up masturbating to the thought of someone who does want me sexually. And I hate it.
And trust me not all virgins are inexperienced, my past boyfriends never believed me when I said I was a virgin. Just because I have so much desire and lust and I'm not afraid to say it and I know exactly what I want to be done to me.
Personally and honestly... I think men like to know you want them bad enough to give it to them first. It's an ego boost. However, in reality, being the first comes with some responsibilities many men do not want or care enough to consider. Most men / boys are not emotionally mature enough to make it the great and meaningful experience as it should be. I would say I have no issue with being someone's first as long as I know they are emotionally and physically ready, but as a preference, absolutely not.
I wasn't ready:p I was having problems with him just 1-2 days before he took it, and I thought maybe I should do it cause my best friend told me she lost it to a random guy and it didn't seem like a big deal to her, and I 've always done what she does and thought "ok maybe it's my time to lose my virginity now", but I later found out it was a lie, I don't know why she lied but if she told me she actually lost it to a guy she had been dating for 6 months, maybe I would still be a virgin.
Well yes, there are many men who like virgubs, but not for worthy reasons. A virgin is seen as a pure conquest... And that's pretty misogynistic. There is also the pursuit of sex with a virgin because their vaginas will be really tight... also a pretty superficial and disgusting motive. Lastly there is the idea of a man taking away a woman's virginity which is rooted in alpha male dominance and female submission and often sadism (being turned on by the pain a woman may experience during their first time, etc. It's right that you guard your virginity because men chasing after a virgin is rooted in really negative things.
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In my experience, they don't care until they realize you're serious about it. I want to wait until I'm married to lose my virginity because I think it's the most emotionally healthy choice for me. At first, guys always say it's fine, and then a couple weeks in when they realize I'm not budging, they start to get annoyed and things deteriorate. So basically if you're a virgin who's willing to change that in the near future they're all for it, but if you're not, you're not worth their time. In my experience anyway.
Honey if a guy doesn’t want you because you won’t have sex with him. He’s not worth YOUR time! Think of it as, he is a caveman and you’re a gem. He doesn’t understand what he has so he would go for a rock instead.
I see your point Anonymous, but those men may be thinking you have a poor attitude about sex to the extent that if he does wait until marriage with you, you may still have that nonbudging attitude. It's supposed to be fun, relieve stress by releasing hormones on both parties, at first glance it seems like you could be taking the fun out of it. Perhaps considering a compromise may work, any skin-to-skin contact has been shown to achieve this, kissing etc. What about your behaviour when sex isn't the topic for debate? Does he enjoy your company and you enjoy his? If this is true, then sex will happen naturally between you two (yes he could be lying but that's the risk we all take), but simply refusing sex outright shows you may have a biased/bitter attitude on the whole act, and therefore the entire relationship.
I don't know, it's true some fetishize it, but to me, it means the girl hasn't been out with a lot of guys, and generally doesn't take sex for granted. I don't have a virginity fetish, but I think girls who see their sex as precious and only for someone special are much preferable. I see sex the same way. In this age, it's astronomically rare to find someone like that, especially since girls get propositioned a lot. To a lot of guys, a girl who values their sexuality can be a fairytale. I mean, no one wants to be used for sex, but a lot of people are okay with using each other as a scratching post.
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Some men like virgins because they think they’re easy to manipulate. Some men like virgins because they think they’re pure and they think it would be kinky to “deflower” you, sort of like tempting and angel. Some people just think it’s uncommon for an 18 year old to still be a virgin in this day and age. There are men who like virgins and even fetishize them. There are men who are completely uninterested in virgins because they think they’ll get attached. Men will have sex with a McChicken sandwich. There is bound to be some guy on this earth that would happily be with a virgin.
Interesting question. I personally haven't been with a virgin in a mighty long time. I haven't given it thought until now. For me, I wouldn't be with her specifically because she is aa virgin. I find the who concept of waiting for marriage to be antiquated and problematic. Would I date a virgin if she wanted to stay that way? Only if we can find other avenues of sexual exploration. It's fun to see the excitement and pleasure of someone experiencing it for the first time. A consensual corruption is sexy. I've had a lot of opportunities to train submissives as a Dom. So even though they are not virgins sexually speaking, from a kink perspective, a few of them were shiny and new.
I think 'special' means unique as virgins are rare these days.
For me It means that there could be a chance that I may be able to share and experience your first sexual encounter. Yes your vagina may be untouched by another man, which is special in itself, but I get turned on by the fact that you trust me with that awsome role. I would be so gentle and soft. I would take my time to show your vagina just how truly special sex can feel. But that would come after I had aquatinted myself with her with my tounge liking it ever so softly and kissing it as though I were kissing your gorgeous face. Most guys just want to fuck a virgin, me I want to show that vagina something she'll never forget.
Now I can't speak for all guys when I say this because I'm weird but:
Its okay to be a virgin it doesn't put me off if a girl is, though I've never been a girls first. That being said, there is some pressure there. If I was going to be a girls first I would want to be sure it's what she wants and that she's not just doing it because she thinks she has to.
And finally there is a bit more pressure for a girls first time not to hurt them and to be ready to stop if they need you to. Some guys have trouble with control during, not me personally but I would still worry about it.
Yeah I was thinking, you were saying that you want the girl to have a good time and you'll stop when it hurts her too much. But I always thought, do guys really have the self control to stop? It would be messed up of him if she tells him to stop because she's in too much pain and then he keeps going because he can't stop. How can you reach a climax while someone is yelling in pain? That's disturbing.
Well I wouldn't know, like I said I wouldn't be able to. I'm a bit much of a softie I guess. I get that it's harder not to Like when your close to kissing someone it's hard not to kiss their lips when you're so close. The trick is having the control to stop which not everyone has
Girls your age that are virgins are special because it means that you have standards and having standards means that you have standards for yourself and having standards for yourself is something a lot of girls neglect because they are brain dead... That's why I think?
@shinka1y234 If something inherently valuable such as virginity, gold, diamond, a Leonardo Di Vinci painting, rarity makes it more valuable. If something has no value or a negative value such as an STD or a mosquito bite, rarity doesn’t make it more valuable. Well maybe it does in the sense that less is better, but it certainly doesn’t make it desirable. Even one mosquito bite is annoying, you certainly wouldn’t want more.
@DWornock virginity is inherently valuable whether its rare or not. 99% of men would choose to marry a virgin over a whore. This is true whether every girl was a virgin or none were. Thats why its not the same as say a bmw which is nice but if everyone had one then people would invent a new brand that had more status. There isn't anything more desirable than virgins for serious relationships so thats that.
@bamesjond0069 i hope you find a virgin who treat you like shit. I dont have respect for people like you and are you virgin yourself? If not stop dreaming about virgins
@bamesjond0069 I believe virgnity is a girl is valuable. However, beauty is more valuable than virginity. Almost all men, if given the choice, would choose a beautiful non-virgin over a virgin if she is a big girl.
@shinka1y234 well i hope you stop liking successful men unless you're just as successful. Dont you dare date a millionaire unless you are one too. Smh. How ridiculous.
Most guys don't particularly care either way if a girl is a virgin or not - the thing they care about is whether the girl is willing to have sex with HIM. A handful of guys specifically find virgin girls special and/or attractive, and a handful specifically avoid them, but the vast majority don't care about her virginity status beyond how SHE feels about it and beyond making sure she is as comfortable as possible if they have sex.
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Some men do, others don't. I think it depends on how we both see sex. I'm a virgin for example because the idea of sex to me is as an act of intimacy between two people in love, ( I know that's rather idealistic, but I don't care) as opposed to satisfying some primal urge, or strictly for pleasure. If a girl is a virgin, I'll assume that she sees sex in the same way, and is in control of her urges rather than the other way around; that she has strong values as well. That makes her special in today's hook-up/one-night stand culture.
If they are calling you "Special" that means your a "special ed" student, you should be on the short bus that goes to school. In essence girl they are saying your "retarded" and just too "dumb to fuck" as in one would have to be thirsty and desperate to get with you. Yeah, "special" isn't special at all, they are being mean.
Ok then, Yes men like Virgins one time just to say they did. Then they spend the rest of their days looking or hoping to get with this. Make sense to you Sugar? And you is sweet, ain't trying to ruffle you none. ✌😎👍
They do. Some like them cause they are virgin themselves and want a virgin woman to marry. And some just like them cause they want to be the first one to plant their little flag that says " I was here first". Which is why a lot of men (not all of you, not all of you NOT ALL OF YOU DAMMIT NOT ALL OKAY!) like to bash on women for not being virgins even though they traded in their v-cards a long time ago.
Some men like virgins yes. It's like to be the first to mold and shape your first step into sexual world. Many men like that idea. Other men that also like it is the men that want to find love and if no other man have been in you it makes it emotional and special for them. But for me it depends why they are Virgin, I tend to get curious and ask if they ever are horny and/or if they ever have masturbated to see if they are normal in their head or not. Also I will not date some that wants to be married before they have sex. I prefer love and date, but if no sex I no date.
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