What's wrong with making out on a first date?

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Myonzon · Accepted Answer

What can be wrong about that is, you're literally making out with a total stranger if you just met them for the first time. Who knows, what happens after having great sex or whatever, but the next thing you know, he was just there to fuck. You try contacting him again but ignores your calls or text but only responds when he wants to fuck. So you literally wasted your own time and now you're fucked emotionally because you had a stranger who you did not know much about bang you. If you already knew this person like for instance you two being friends, then I don't see much of whats wrong

Swan555 · Accepted Answer

Nothing "wrong" with making out on a first date but what will You do on the second date? There's no hurrying about Dating, so take the time to Talk openly about things with the other person. They may want go slow and You sure want to know that before making out or anything else. You will be more attractive when You are "Not in any Hurry" because this allows the other person to set the pace.

Dsg1193 · Accepted Answer

So there may be an exception to this.

Let’s see if you met the person online and were talking for months, and finally meet in person (long distance). That connection is there so it would be as if you two knew each other for a while.

I think if that happens right off the bat, looks more like a hook up versus a possible relationship.

SydneySentinel · Accepted Answer

Generally, if you've only recently met, physical stuff may cloud your judgement about the person.
Or maybe, it can help you focus on getting to know them better if you're not wondering if they're going to kiss you or not at the end of the date.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Nothing... if there's a connection there and it feels right.

With that being said, I certainly don't do so, because for me, I need an emotional and physical connection with someone before making out with them! Why would you make out with someone you barely know, and they might not feel as strongly about you or want to date you again? I want to at least know a bit about the guy and make sure he's worth it before making out with him so I don't get my hopes up or disappointed later.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Define "making out." I know what it means when I say it, but I don't think everyone uses the same definition.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Nothing! Do men think this is a problem? Is someone judging? Bah. Not me.

Apope16 · Answer

There is NOTHING WRONG with that. Life is too short not to have romance and sex and true live out your life fully. No regrets.

SueShe · Answer

Basically, the first date is the date you try to know your date.

It is a very well known fact that not one single person will divulge its true personality. I could be a criminal and you may be a single parent, yet no one will say it by fear to ruin that first date with details that are too incriminating.

Just like you will not say that you have STD/STI. Why should I take a risk with my own life trusting you blindly and assuming everything is perfect with you?

A healthy suspicion is always adequate and you don't make out when you suspect something not being correct.

Always assume the worse before rather than the other way round. Would you make out with a rapist of course not! First he has to prove he is not and then you make out, not the other way round.

Anonymous · Answer

I tend to just be a hugger and a kisser but I don't think there is anything wrong with some really passionate kissing, some touching and bit more. For me personally, I'd have a problem with any real hand contact in private regions but that is just me. It would, also, depend if I knew the person before the first date.

lucifera · Answer

Well it's focusing more on a physical relationship, where as the first date is where the metal aspect of the relationship should be the focal point. By becoming sexual on the first date means you're going to mentally categorize that relationship as a sexual one, not giving the emotional growth any room.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Making out usually leads to sex. If both are looking to hook up go for it. If you are not open to maybe having sex then don't start something you don't want to finish.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

I don't try to be that girl, but my current SO had made a very smooth point... We had started with coffee to start and just kept talking, coffee turned into going to a little local restaurant and that turned into a walk in a park... He said we've technically been on three dates since we've spent almost 8hrs together...

chriswohlleben01 · Answer

Ok I'm all for a good makeout session... depending on the situation... the first date depending on how well you hit it off... where you plan to take the relationship... how much you talked... there are so may circumstances that change this but I would say for the first date you should usually end with a good bye kiss (a peck) just a nibble to get a feel for it if both sides agree the kiss was great the next time you would go all out makeout...

there was an article I read that 90% of women can generally know how they feel about a man on the first kiss so making it memorable is important but if your truly serious you should take it step by step🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

roflgun · Answer

Seems rushed, hurried, easy, desperate, and gives the wrong impression. You barely know the person on the first date. Don’t just give yourself up like that, make them EARN you. Take things slow and make sure they deserve you. You don’t have to get physical right away. That way, they will value you more.

Avicenna · Answer

Absolutely nothing. Whatever the two of you want to do on a first date is fine- you're consenting adults.

dbr1987 · Answer

Nothing, you should make out on the first date to feel if the chemistry is there.. but if you want to keep seeing this Guy you should spread your legs for him on the first date. Even if he's so Alpha you can, t resist him. Give him something to play with. In this day en age not giving away anything on the first date is also not the way to go if there is sexual tension.. so basically if you want to keep seeing him keep your pants on on the first date but give him something to play with.. to think about subconcious

Anonymous · Answer

The people saying there’s nothing wrong with it mean it’s fine if you just mostly want casual sex. If your question is more aimed at wanting something substantial to last beyond casual sex, then that’s why taking it slow is important. It all depends what you want out of it, both methods are fine, it just depends which goal you’re aiming for, short or long term.

Wrestling01 · Answer

nothing. I prefer a peck tho. so we would take things slowly and not make out immediately. I would postpone making out so it would be more exciting for both parts (even tho I made out on my 1st date cuz we were both so attracted to each other that we couldnt hold back)

JeremyT · Answer

For a men (for me) sex is a important part of a relation. Usually girls want to wait before sex to build the relation. So I wait usually 3 to 4 dates before she decide to have sex and then I know if we are ment to be together. Having sex on the first encounter is just faster.

Syrian_survivor · Answer

Screams "I'm probably here just to physically feel you and don't really care about your feelings, getting to know you, or respecting limits and giving things between us some time to keep the best for last, I might know this and might not, but it's true, we"re having sex in the next couple of dates, right?"

Flamdring · Answer

Nothing is wrong with it if both of you feel that way. Sometimes people need more time, others are so attracted to each other that one date is enough to end up in bed together. Do not worry about it too much if you are certain you want it. If you are not, then wait for another time.

cinderelli · Answer

nothing, especially if you know the person before dating them. But if it's the first time you're meeting that person , then you should be careful, who knows what diseases they're carrying and if they're hygienic or not :|

Massageman · Answer

It's jumping right into the physical thing before even knowing if you are compatible in ways other than a good fit with your genitalia. It takes more than one date- or a dozen dates- to know if they are right for you.

TripleAce · Answer

nothing, it seems like its normal
I usually don't go for a first kiss on date 1, I usually leave most of it up to her lol
and pretty much 95% of all dates I ever go on, she always goes for a kiss on date 1

so its probably fine, making out is just a bit more... seems fine lol

TacocaT6969 · Answer

There are too many things to list.  I’m just going to mash them all together and sum it up as trashy.

SpearsAndStones · Answer

I thought it was a requirement. I prefer taking things slow, but it seems like if you don't meet up for the first date without the explicit intention to fuck, you might as well stay home, because she'll assume you're gay. Besides she's fucking four other guys that week! She doesn't need you

CuteRose · Answer

Because for most people you need to have a connection and know the person before kissing.

GhettoGirl · Answer

Hey, there are those of us that know it might be the one shot to grease the guy.

Tony1Kanobi · Answer

The slow lead up can be exciting to some and you've kind of just met the guy. Who knows what's in his seller. Lol. but really not much I guess to me anyway.

HuskerCAR2567 · Answer

Nothing! Personally, I love kissing whomever I am dating! For me, that feeling is so awesome! Your partner returning the passion! Feeling those soft lips on mine. I like touching her cheek with the back of my fingers. Rubbing her face up and down slowly. Then kiss some more! Someday I'll get back in the dating scene.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

I learned its best to take your time
Its so easy to give in to quickly and things get stale and boring
Making out is fine I guess, but I would prefer a woman who denies my advances and lets the tension build up

Iron_Man · Answer

Nothing if that's all you're going to do.  But if it leads to forplay and sex then Its a complete disaster and you lose all respect from all of your friends co workers and parents

crazy8000 · Answer

Some fixated assumptions certain kind of people still has it's bad for all kind of reasons. When it comes to it it doesn't really matter, it's personality based if it's something that works or not.

fonduegirl · Answer

escalates the relationship before anything meaningful happens.

bimmy5000 · Answer

Lol nothing, sometimes people just click really well!

Okami_Kitsune · Answer

If you click really well I'd say nothing. Of course you're taking a risk not knowing much about them.

xkildy · Answer

If your a smart couple , and your enjoying the kissing and touching you will leave it as is.. not have sex and move on to the next date cause only thing heaving kiss will cause will be a morning after pill..😂

blondfrog · Answer

I think if you move too fast that will make the relationship start off as just sexual. It will ruin your chances of actually sharing personal interests with your partner and if it's just sexual those type of relationships never last long.

WalterBlack · Answer

There is nothing wrong with that. Sex on the first date might be taking it too far, depending on how long you've known each other. But what is the harm in a little make out session? I think it would be a good sign that there is some chemestry.

elizamichale1 · Answer

nothing at all to be honest coz if you click with each other then why not... just give it a go lol

SilentWatchman · Answer

Kissing is fine. I wouldn't go any further than that on a first date.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

cuz most the times people don't know stds an they usely just want hook ups or friends with benefits when most want a relationship

Agem123 · Answer

Nothing's wrong with that. Me and my man did it a few hours after we first met (the chemistry was too strong) and we're still together after one year.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Well I need to make some kind of connection with you before I can do that

LuWe22 · Answer

It is just not for me, bc I need a strong emotional connection before I wanna do stuff like that. But if you want to go for it

Anonymous · Answer

I think the idea is to make sure you're both actually interested in each other and not just feeling horny

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't but it's everyone's own personal choice.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Not a damn thing! I did it with my first g/f! EVERYTHING! Kissing, French kissing, feeling her up, sticking my fingers into her, and later that night, fucking her twice. We both LOVED it!!

trentreznorswifey · Answer

Nothing, if you ask me. It all depends on personal preference.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I made out with my boyfriend on the first date 🤷🏽‍♀️

Shamalien · Answer

Maybe at the very end of the date briefly but if we’re going nuts on eachother it shows desperation

Jerre · Answer

I think it is great, even enjoy fucking on the first date

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

Nothing. The last girl I did that with... well, she's my wife now.

kuame · Answer

That will be too fast since it's ya first time meeting

DecentguyIzBack · Answer

people can do whatever they want to, BUT I won't !, i would only make out with her if we are in a monogamous committed relationship. making out on the first date is more like you are into lust more than love

spekald1 · Answer

I don't think I've ever been on a date that hasn't ended in making out. Maybe things are different here

Liam_Hayden · Answer

My affections are earned, not given to every random girl. If she wants to make out or mess around on a first date then her views on intimacy are far out of sync with mine and it won't work out.

mermaidia_lol · Answer

"Where's the fire, what's the hurry about? You'd better cool it off before you burn it out You've got so much to do And only so many hours in a day" -Billy Joel

cheekylad · Answer

Not unless it's really necessary two people lust for each other mmmm

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong but you must be cautious.  If he 100% no STD haha

Price511 · Answer

Seems like you're going a bit fast there, but it's your choice, not mine. :/

rievious · Answer

It would just depend on the person intentions. If they really get along it I'd they want someone quick. Is it that they both feel the same way or if the feelings are one sided.

MissPebbz · Answer

Nothing if you both feel a strong connection. Nothing wrong with having a little fun 😝

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