What's wrong with making out on a first date?

[Chikky]

[Myonzon]

What can be wrong about that is, you're literally making out with a total stranger if you just met them for the first time. Who knows, what happens after having great sex or whatever, but the next thing you know, he was just there to fuck. You try contacting him again but ignores your calls or text but only responds when he wants to fuck. So you literally wasted your own time and now you're fucked emotionally because you had a stranger who you did not know much about bang you. If you already knew this person like for instance you two being friends, then I don't see much of whats wrong

[Swan555]

Nothing "wrong" with making out on a first date but what will You do on the second date? There's no hurrying about Dating, so take the time to Talk openly about things with the other person. They may want go slow and You sure want to know that before making out or anything else. You will be more attractive when You are "Not in any Hurry" because this allows the other person to set the pace.

[Dsg1193]

So there may be an exception to this.

Let’s see if you met the person online and were talking for months, and finally meet in person (long distance). That connection is there so it would be as if you two knew each other for a while.

I think if that happens right off the bat, looks more like a hook up versus a possible relationship.

[SydneySentinel]

Generally, if you've only recently met, physical stuff may cloud your judgement about the person.
Or maybe, it can help you focus on getting to know them better if you're not wondering if they're going to kiss you or not at the end of the date.

[SydneySentinel]

Thanks for the MHO

[Cynicaldreamer]

Nothing... if there's a connection there and it feels right.

With that being said, I certainly don't do so, because for me, I need an emotional and physical connection with someone before making out with them! Why would you make out with someone you barely know, and they might not feel as strongly about you or want to date you again? I want to at least know a bit about the guy and make sure he's worth it before making out with him so I don't get my hopes up or disappointed later.

[OlderAndWiser]

Define "making out." I know what it means when I say it, but I don't think everyone uses the same definition.

[Nixer]

picture says, do fucking sex

[OlderAndWiser]

@Nixer Sometimes, if you post a question or myTake without any graphics, Admin will add a picture without consulting you, so you can't assume that the person asking the question selected the picture.

[Cocacolaaddict]

^^^^^^^

[Nixer]

oh, Thank you. Then please accept my apologies. Your question has a point.

[SueAnon84]

They should do a better job at choosing the pictures lol.

[Mamamialetmego]

@SueAnon84 they look hot

[SueAnon84]

@Mamamialetmego That's not the point. 1. It's not that accurate. 2. Not every question has to have a picture. 3. How do you know the asker didn't choose the pic?

[Mamamialetmego]

@SueAnon84 ı didn't say a shit 😂

[AmandaYVR]

Nothing! Do men think this is a problem? Is someone judging? Bah. Not me.

[AmandaYVR]

You know there’s lots of ways to interpret this. Really it comes down to what are the details? I assumed two people really hit it off and there was very strong mutual attraction. So go for it! But obviously don’t do it just automatically with every single date. It could cloud things and start the relationship off sexually too fast. But consenting adults should be able to do what they want. It’s just 💋.

[Apope16]

There is NOTHING WRONG with that. Life is too short not to have romance and sex and true live out your life fully. No regrets.

[SueShe]

Basically, the first date is the date you try to know your date.

It is a very well known fact that not one single person will divulge its true personality. I could be a criminal and you may be a single parent, yet no one will say it by fear to ruin that first date with details that are too incriminating.

Just like you will not say that you have STD/STI. Why should I take a risk with my own life trusting you blindly and assuming everything is perfect with you?

A healthy suspicion is always adequate and you don't make out when you suspect something not being correct.

Always assume the worse before rather than the other way round. Would you make out with a rapist of course not! First he has to prove he is not and then you make out, not the other way round.

[Anonymous]

I tend to just be a hugger and a kisser but I don't think there is anything wrong with some really passionate kissing, some touching and bit more. For me personally, I'd have a problem with any real hand contact in private regions but that is just me. It would, also, depend if I knew the person before the first date.

[lucifera]

Well it's focusing more on a physical relationship, where as the first date is where the metal aspect of the relationship should be the focal point. By becoming sexual on the first date means you're going to mentally categorize that relationship as a sexual one, not giving the emotional growth any room.

[Daniela1982]

Making out usually leads to sex. If both are looking to hook up go for it. If you are not open to maybe having sex then don't start something you don't want to finish.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I don't try to be that girl, but my current SO had made a very smooth point... We had started with coffee to start and just kept talking, coffee turned into going to a little local restaurant and that turned into a walk in a park... He said we've technically been on three dates since we've spent almost 8hrs together...

[chriswohlleben01]

Ok I'm all for a good makeout session... depending on the situation... the first date depending on how well you hit it off... where you plan to take the relationship... how much you talked... there are so may circumstances that change this but I would say for the first date you should usually end with a good bye kiss (a peck) just a nibble to get a feel for it if both sides agree the kiss was great the next time you would go all out makeout...

there was an article I read that 90% of women can generally know how they feel about a man on the first kiss so making it memorable is important but if your truly serious you should take it step by step🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

[roflgun]

Seems rushed, hurried, easy, desperate, and gives the wrong impression. You barely know the person on the first date. Don’t just give yourself up like that, make them EARN you. Take things slow and make sure they deserve you. You don’t have to get physical right away. That way, they will value you more.

[dbr1987]

Nothing, you should make out on the first date to feel if the chemistry is there.. but if you want to keep seeing this Guy you should spread your legs for him on the first date. Even if he's so Alpha you can, t resist him. Give him something to play with. In this day en age not giving away anything on the first date is also not the way to go if there is sexual tension.. so basically if you want to keep seeing him keep your pants on on the first date but give him something to play with.. to think about subconcious

[Anonymous]

The people saying there’s nothing wrong with it mean it’s fine if you just mostly want casual sex. If your question is more aimed at wanting something substantial to last beyond casual sex, then that’s why taking it slow is important. It all depends what you want out of it, both methods are fine, it just depends which goal you’re aiming for, short or long term.

[Wrestling01]

nothing. I prefer a peck tho. so we would take things slowly and not make out immediately. I would postpone making out so it would be more exciting for both parts (even tho I made out on my 1st date cuz we were both so attracted to each other that we couldnt hold back)

[Avicenna]

Absolutely nothing. Whatever the two of you want to do on a first date is fine- you're consenting adults.

[JeremyT]

For a men (for me) sex is a important part of a relation. Usually girls want to wait before sex to build the relation. So I wait usually 3 to 4 dates before she decide to have sex and then I know if we are ment to be together. Having sex on the first encounter is just faster.

[Flamdring]

Nothing is wrong with it if both of you feel that way. Sometimes people need more time, others are so attracted to each other that one date is enough to end up in bed together. Do not worry about it too much if you are certain you want it. If you are not, then wait for another time.

[cinderelli]

nothing, especially if you know the person before dating them. But if it's the first time you're meeting that person , then you should be careful, who knows what diseases they're carrying and if they're hygienic or not :|

[Massageman]

It's jumping right into the physical thing before even knowing if you are compatible in ways other than a good fit with your genitalia. It takes more than one date- or a dozen dates- to know if they are right for you.

[TripleAce]

nothing, it seems like its normal
I usually don't go for a first kiss on date 1, I usually leave most of it up to her lol
and pretty much 95% of all dates I ever go on, she always goes for a kiss on date 1

so its probably fine, making out is just a bit more... seems fine lol