How tall do you like your girls?
@sparkdog I usually go for shorter girls, but I’ve dated girls as tall as 5’11 before. My lady I ended up with is only 5’3 though.
Wow...5'11 and you have to be taller... geez that is seriously shallow!
You think it’s shallow but I understand why she would feel that way. She’s probably been told her entire life how tall she is, she probably doesn’t want to be the tall one in the relationship. When I was younger I was the tallest in my class, I always wanted to be around people taller than me so I wouldn’t feel so insecure all the time. But then I stopped growing at 5’5 and now most people are taller than me lmao.
@AmourHoney So what if you're the tallest one? Why is that the kiss of death?
That’s just how I felt. You may not feel the same way, but everyone feels and deals with these things differently. For you it may not have been a big deal, but for someone else it could be. Kids can be horrible and that’s where most of these kind of insecurities stem from. You can’t shame someone for their feelings.
@AmourHoney Who said anything about shaming someone? Where did that come from?
No, I never said any of you said that. I’m trying to tell you, that some women prefer having a boyfriend that’s taller than them because they’re insecure about their height because they were shamed and bullied for it when growing up. I’m trying to explain maybe that’s why she would prefer to date someone taller than her, because she’s insecure about her height.
@AmourHoney I already understood all of that, and I think it is silly to let the bullies from your childhood determine who you will or will not date as an adult.
And that’s what I’m trying to tell you, that’s your feelings about it. Not hers. Everyone deals with it differently. Some people get over it whilst others are deeply affected by it that it carries over into adulthood, and gotta be considerate of that. Because just because you would’ve dealt with it a certain way doesn’t mean everybody would’ve done the same.
@AmourHoney Yes, I already understood all of that. There are people who are raised to be racist and they work to overcome that as adults because they understand how important that is. This is not an immutable characteristic. And, yes, obviously I understand that some people choose to not make the effort to make such changes.
See now you’re just sounding ignorant. It’s not something some people can ‘overcome’. People struggle with it more than others. And maybe that’s her trying to make an effort to overcome it? By realising she’s not the tallest person out there, there’s nothing wrong with her having a heigh preference anyway.
@AmourHoney 1. I was a mental health counselor for 6 years before I went to law school. I know what can be accomplished and what cannot be accomplished. This is not an impossible matter to resolve if someone is motivated.2. What I am talking about is not a preference. It is an absolute, ironclad rule. Yes, I have preferences - petite lady, size 4-6, intelligent, etc. But I have dated tall girls, larger girls, some with less intelligence, etc. This woman would not even meet me for a cup of coffee.
Then you should know that not everyone can just overcome it like that, and that this could be her way of dealing with it. I’ve seen 8 counsellors when I was younger and they understood and respected that. Because that’s YOU, not her. She wasn’t interested because the height was going to be an issue for her, move on. If she wants to date someone taller than her, then what’s the issue?
If you can have a preference of size, then why is her preference of height an issue? Because you don’t fit in within that preference.
@AmourHoney I never suggested that absolutely everyone can overcome being a height conscious person. Never.I also do understand the difference between me and her. I really do.I don't need encouragement to move on because I did that many years ago. I'm not sure why you think it was some big traumatic event for me but it wasn't. I was on a date with someone else the following weekend."If she wants to date someone taller than her, then what’s the issue?" The Asker asked if I took offense to someone not dating me because I am too short and I answered the question. That is what happens on this site. "I took offense" doesn't mean that I sat down and cried about it, whined, insisted that life is not fair, or had a load of chicken manure dumped on her car. I thought it was silly and unfortunate but understood there was nothing I could do about it and I moved forward.You are coming on far too strong about something that I had not even thought about in years until I read this question.
I never said you did, but you were also stating that if people can over come being racist then she could over come her insecurity as well, you were also making it seem like she didn’t want to make the effort to overcome it. I never said you whines or cried about it. But I was also responding the other reply that called her shallow for that. I don’t want it to seem like I’m trying to ‘accuse’ you of anything. But I was trying to make a point as well to the above commenter that you cannot called someone shallow for having a preference.
@AmourHoney Would you call someone shallow for having a racial preference for their friends and acquaintances?
What does that have to do with height and relationships? It doesn’t, not bring friends with someone because of their race is racist yes, but again how does that even come close to preferring to date someone taller than you? Jeez man. That was a reach.
This is what I mean, you’re making it seem like she’s shallow for having that preference but then you just admitted that you have a preference of women of certain weights. How is that fair?
@AmourHoney You keep calling her obsession with height a preference. Is was not. It was an absolute, set-in-stone rule with no exceptions, regardless of a guy's other qualifications. My preferences are preferences but, as I said previously, I have dated outside of those preferences many times when there were other aspects of a lady which were sufficiently attractive.
@AmourHoney Gracious concession!
How tall are you and how tall do you like your girls
@sparkdog I am 5' 9" and I prefer petite girls, 5' 0" to 5' 2", but I have dated many women who are 5' 7" to 5' 9"
What about 5’10 and up
@sparkdog I am not opposed to dating women taller than me and my opinion began with me recalling my effort to get a date with a lady who was 5' 11". I have simply never had the opportunity to date a taller woman, but it would not bother me at all.
How tall do you like your guys
@sparkdog around 5 foot 8 inches to about 5 foot 11 inches.
Why not 5’4?
@sparkdog because I have a preference.
Is it a deal breaker?
@sparkdog no, its not a deal breaker.
I would of guessed 5'4. I guess I am a terrible guesser! LOL
Lol for their height or mine?
Yours! I used to live in Texas I know!
How can you guess 5'4 just based on talking to me? Lol
You type comments like someone who is 5'4 HA... I don't know I just guessed! LOL
I figured it must be so! Haha
That's not so tall my wife is 5'9 I am 5' 11. I have a friend he is 6'1 and she is 6'3 and they are happy.
I've dated a guy who was 5'8. I'd prefer him to be my height or slightly taller. But height is not of the most important things.
Why do you want him to be your height or slightly taller?
So I can be the little spoon.
Why can’t you be the little spoon if he’s shorter?
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How tall are you and how tall do you like your guys
I'm 5'3" I've dated as close to my height as 5'4" and as tall as 6'4". I've had really physically fit dates and men with a little more padding. I usually am drawn to men with nice eyes. Ones you can tell know how to laugh and cry.
How tall are you? How tall do you like your girls?
Reject me in the beginning for it not 3 dates in! For sure!
@sparkdog I am 5' 8". Not tall, but not short either. I prefer my girls around 5' 1" to 5' 10", but I still hit on girls taller than that.
What’s the tallest girl you ever dated
@sparkdog The tallest girl I ever went on a date on was 5'9 5' 10
What was that like?
Did she wear heels?
@sparkdogIt was normal to me. And yes, she was in heels, but ultimately nothing more developed between us. Decided to remain friends with her. Had nothing to do with height at the end of the day.
How tall do you like your girls
Honestly it really doesn't matter to my as long as they got a pretty face
No preference? So taller, shorter, same height?
Just not a midget and I'm cool with that. Girls that may be way taller than me sounds exciting
In the end you still have to be attracted to the person. If height stops you from being attracted then I guess that is what it is!
@coachTanthony I agree. It is what it is indeed.I do think that people generally should consider having a more open mind about the more superficial things. Personally, there have been more than one occasion that I meet a girl who initially I might not find attractive, but upon further interaction, things change.In the end, like I said, people are entitled to their preferences.
I agree dude !
I'm 6'1" which is slighty above average for men generally; within 1 SD of an average of 5'9" or 5'10".Apparently, the average height for women is 5'5", and at the extreme ( +2 x 3.5" ), women who are taller than 6' are outliers.I have met very few women who are taller than me.
I am 5'3", and I would like someone around 6 feet tall (from my calculations, that would be about right.)
This kind of thing makes my heart melt...
Wow yeah that definitely happens! wonder if they will respond to this and let us know!
I'm 5'11", no preference on height for women
Taller, shorter, or same height?
Did you see that part where i said no preference?
5,11 i mean, was thinking lbs when converting, basically almost 6
6’1 is super tall for a girl and it’s fairly tall for a guy
I'm 5'3. And I don't have a preference. My tallest girlfriend was 5'11 and my shortest 5'4.
What was it like dating a girl that was 5’11?
I'm 5' 11 3/4" so just call it six foot. Brother I love women of all heights she can be 4' 8" or 6' 1" and I'm going to be attracted to them all
@sparkdog I am 5'8" and prefer girls a few inches shorter than me. It would make me feel like an alpha and she can wear heels. But I would be fine if she was my height or a little taller. As long as we can comfortably hug and kiss without having to bend or stand on our toes, I'm fine.
@sparkdog I had never one shorter than 170cm, so i prefer tall girls.
@sparkdog I'm average height and have no preference regarding female height.
Like big boobs?
@Badballie Sure! Anything, really.
@sparkdog 5'7" and height isn't a big thing to me, but I do like it when we're around the same height because we can look each other in the eyes more easily without looking way up or way down.
Do you wear heels?
@sparkdog No, I can't even walk in them, lol.
@sparkdog I'm 5ft 9inches (175cm). I don't care about height in a partner. Besides, it would be rather hypocritical of me to care but also be getting offended that some people have it as a deal breaker. It's still something no one can change. I don't see myself as an exception; everyone is more than just their height (tall, short, or average).
So you don’t have an ideal height for a girl? Taller, shorter, same height?
@sparkdog Nope. Any height is fine with me. I never even paid attention to it until I began hearing how big a deal some people make about it.
My preference is taller than average however it's not that important.I'd happily have a shorter woman if I felt her other qualities where amazing.
How much taller than average
About the same height as me 5"9'+
My ideal relationship has a bit of competitivity in it. I'll do the generic romantic stuff like carry her on occasion but I'd like her to be a bit like that too.It also has a lot if physical affection which could be a bit rough so I'd feel I'd accidentally hurt a smaller woman because of my height plus I find taller more physically attractive.Physically equal is also a preference but then we are getting into the area of extreme unlikelihood, I'm sure there are a few tall strong women but the 3 values that are above all else trustworthy, non abusive and doesn't go too fast.
@sparkdog I'm 153 cm.My last boyfriend was about 175 cm I think, which fit me very well. Wouldn't be opposed to him being taller though.But I would prefer the guy to be at least 10 cm taller than me. Which so far has not been a problem at all.
@sparkdog Why I want him to be taller than me? or?
Yes. Why does he have to be 10 cm taller than you?
@sparkdog I mean he has to be at least 10 cm taller. So 165 cm at the shortest.Mostly because I'm used to people being taller than me. Hell, 5th graders are taller than I am.And I'm growing used to it, even when I meet women that's my height I feel like it's weird.So that's why I prefer a taller guy.But I've never really met a guy that's close to my height, so it's not an issue.
How tall are you? How tall do you like your guys?
I’m 5’6” and I have had a boyfriend a couple of inches shorter and my last was 6’4”!
How tall do you like your guys?
I'm about 5'4" and I'd prefer it if he's taller than me.
What if he’s 5’4?
Why do you want him to be taller than you?
What if he’s 5’3?
No, I don't wear heels. I want him to be taller because I'd feel like the man in the relationship. I want to feel protected in the relationship and not many people are going to be intimidated by a 5'4" man. And I want my kids to be taller than me, especially my son. So many men are insecure about their height and i don't want my son to feel the same way. Being tall has always been a masculine trait. I guess I'd still date him if he's 5'3".
Why would you feel like the man in the relationship? Feeling protected and being intimidated are two different things. Being tall is not a masculine trait. Men are only insecure about their height because women are always saying they want tall guys
If you’re 5’4, chances are your sons will be average height, whether the guy is 5’7 or 6’0.
I can't help it. I'm a traditional person, if a man doesn't possess certain traits I'd feel like the man. I didn't say they were the same thing. I want to feel protected so I want my boyfriend to look intimidating. Being tall is a masculine trait (ik it's wrong for me to think like that but I'm open to having my mind changed about that). It is true that some men are insecure for that reason which is why I want my boyfriend to be taller so my son won't have to worry about it. I'm not really worried about my daughter's height since men are more likely to a date a girl who is around his height.
You’re the average height for a girl, you don’t have to worry about your sons being short
And what if my boyfriend is shorter than me? I won't have to worry about my kids being shorter than average, right? Wrong, kids are usually between their dad's and mom's heights. Generally, Short parents have short kids and tall parent have tall children. It's not common for people to end up being taller than both of their parents.
For girls, parents have to be very far removed from average for their height to be affected. For guys, it depends less on the height of their parents and more on when they hit their growth spurt. Hardly any guys are shorter than you, so you really have nothing to worry about. And no, kids are not between the heights of their parents. It’s the average of the parents heights, plus 2.5 for guys, and minus 2.5 for girls.
It's still possible for me to meet a guy who's shorter than me. He might be a really good guy but he just so happens to be shorter than me. I want to be with him but I'd still feel unprotected.
Why would you feel unprotected? What if he’s a tough guy?
Would you be intimidated by a guy who's shorter than you? Most people wouldn't be intimidated by a guy who is shorter than average. He'd just be a joke to them. "Haha look at this angry midget man"
No I wouldn’t be intimidated by him but why do I need to be? If he’s a tough guy he can protect you, why does he have to be intimidating?
I wouldn’t be intimidated by a guy who’s taller than me either
How is he a tough guy if he's not intimidating? Tall and tough is just more intimidating than short and tough. Being taller just adds on to the intimidation. It's like horses. Tall horses are more intimidating and stronger than a short horse. I'm not saying short horses aren't as strong but they aren't as intimidating as a tall horse.
Why do you want intimidating? If you want to be protected, then strength is all that matters
Because it's more attractive.
Ok but I don’t even know any guys that I would find intimidating
I just find it attractive. I don't expect everyone to be intimidated by him.
You feel bad because you are 5'2? Or the rejections from it?
Mostly I feel like women never give me a second because they see that I'm small and just brush me off.
Very possible! I am only 5'6 and I have usually dated women who were 5'0 or 5'1. Had a few who were 5'8 but not many! I have had a few that I really liked and they basically said.. I like wearing heels so if you are short don't bother. Those kinds of women you don't want anyway.
I tried dating a girl that was 4'10 she didn't want to date me because I wasn't 6 feet tall. Whenever I try dating women at my height they always say I wish you were taller. So, I can never win
Yeah if somebody said that to me I would of said well I wish you were funnier! I guess we can't have it all! Want to get some icecream? LOL
the key is to never allow them to see that it bothers you. Come right back!
alright I will try not to let it bother me. I know it will be hard
@sparkdog I try to date girls who are shorter than me or a little taller 5'7 is my max. At least I think they are 5'7?
@sparkdog cuz Why not
So you wouldn’t date a girl taller than 5’7?
@sparkdog if we both find each other attractive, then sure I will date them.
No doubt! Agree.
@sparkdog I'm 1,80m tall and I have no preferences when it comes to height.
@sparkdog I am okay with girl's till height of 6"0 but muscular..And still find attractive above 6"0 till 6"2 if she is a bit thin.. Or fit.
I'm like 5'4 and personally I don't really care. For the sake of fun I like being able to pick up my girlfriend, but height? As long as it works out physically I'm ok
@sparkdog, I'm 5 feet my men no taller than 6 feet.
How tall are you?
@PrettyRegular, my license says 5' 10"
Ok well I guess that's kinda tall for a girl.
I played volleyball and did XC and Track in school.
Ok well I'm 6'5. So I like taller girls. It would be awkward to date someone and kneel for a kiss. 🙂
As long as his nose isn't buried in my chest when we dance, i'm pretty ok with it.
@sparkdog I'm 5'10. As long as she's shorter than me.
Why not same height or taller?
@sparkdog I am 5 ft 8inches.. I dont mind a guy my height and above
What if he’s a little bit shorter?
@sparkdog how little?
A few inches
@sparkdog lets hope he has a killer personality
@sparkdog 6'1 myself, but I personally don't care on height. Dated a girl who was 5'11, couple girls who were 5'2. Girly I'm talking to now is 5'9. Last two exes were 5'6. I genuinely don't care about a girls height. It's about the proportions for me as far as physicality. Which is why I don't like dwarves lol. She can be 4'10 and that's fine if she's normal looking yet small. But dwarf measurements is not attractive. Same for a tall girl. Met a couple girls who were 6'3 I find attractive. But most times tell tall girls aren't that appealing physically
I'm short. lol I'm 5'1.I like guys who are taller than I am but that's like MOSTLY EVERY GUY. 😂
LOL you suck!
I think it would suck being 6’2 because then all the girls would be way shorter than you
@sparkdog: 5'11. Like em 5'10 and taller.
@sparkdog whats up kid?
I am 5'4" and prefer women to be 5'6" to 5'8" but it's not a requirement. It's just a preference if all else seems equal. I don't exclude women who are in a different range or shorter or taller than me.
Why do you like girls taller than you?
It is just something I prefer. They usually have a better sense of reality and aren't as vile in many things from what I learned. Shorter women griped about things when I was with them. I had a 5'3" girlfriend before and called me a shorty when I'm actually an inch taller than her and I said she can't say that unless I was shorter than her and she said but I'm a woman. She thinks a woman of any height even 4'8" can't be called a shorty but a man under 5'8" can.
5'4" and I want at least 5'11"
What would be wrong with 5’4?
Because I want a taller guy.
Why do you want a taller guy?
What’s wrong with 5’5?
Because why not?
What would be wrong with a guy your height?
I wear heels and people will make fun of us. Tall guys seem so protective 🥰
Why would people make fun of you? How are tall guys protective?
Because they do. I have seen. Tall guys are bigger=protective.
Um, no they don’t. I have seen. And even if they do, who cares what they think? Why would you let someone else’s opinion decide who you should date? And tall guys are bigger=protective makes no sense at all.
They make fun of such couples where I live and such couples are extremely rare. I don't want to deal with another challenge. Plus, my dad, brother, cousins etc. are all tall and they'll reject him too.
Tall guys are considered automatically more attractive where I live.
Where do you live?
Your family would not reject a guy you’re dating
You could just not wear heels
Oh but I love heels 😍 and I live in India.
Ok then wear heels and stop bitching about it
@sparkdog Anywhere from 5 ft to 6'2. But not a big deal for me.
What’s the tallest you ever dated?
@sparkdog I didn't measure, but I would say 6'1.
@sparkdog 5'10". I like 5'5", 5'4"ish, but I've been with girls a lot taller than that. I don't get hung up on height with women. They're all shorter than me when they're on their knees.
What’s the tallest you dated
What was that like? Did she wear heels?
@sparkdog I'm 5'8, and I only liked girls that were 4'10 to the same height as me
Why not taller?
@sparkdog I don't know, it would seem awkward, maybe 5'9, but nothing taller than that
Why would it be awkward?
5'8", and just shorter than me
i like when she's shorter without heels, but taller with heels on
just what i prefer
@sparkdog im 5'10" and the girls i most seriously dated ranged from 4'10" to 5'2" and typically weighed 90 to 110 lbs
What’s wrong with a girl that’s 5’10?
@sparkdog just not attracted. I can't help it.
What if she’s really hot?
@sparkdog nah. I dont find tall girls hot.
@sparkdog I don't know just dont.
@sparkdog I'm 5'11 also I don't really mind hight when it comes to dating.
5'7 and don't care
No preference at all? Taller, shorter, same height?
I’d never date a guy shorter than me so I can’t get upset over someone having a height preference either.
5’4 and idc just as long as they’re taller than me lmao
What about same height?
I prefer taller
For me yeah it would be
Why? What if he’s really hot
Because it’s just what I prefer
@sparkdog I'm 5' 7" and I usually don't care about her height
@sparkdog same height
@sparkdog 6'6". I really don't care about her height.
175cm, I really don't care
No preference? Taller; shorter, same height