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I "met" a lady online in 2015 and thought we might be a great match. She responded to my initial inquiry and was very polite but informed me that she is 5' 11" and does not date guys shorter than her. I thought that was an incredibly stupid and shallow reason to not date someone but, of course, if that is how she feels, there is no sense in trying to challenge that. I just accepted it as one more of those stupid things that happen in life and I kept moving on.127
Everyone has their own preferences and not one single person can change that. I have dated a man shorter than me. I was with him for about 7 months I believe, in high school. And to be honest, I hated every minute of it. It wasn't because he was a bad guy and ultimately when we broke up, it had nothing to do with his height but simply a matter of different opinions and view points. We remained friends. But I haven't dated a guy shorter than me since. I didn't like having to lean down to kiss him or how whenever I held his hand it hurt my shoulders and back because I was slouching so much to reach his hand. Mind you, I am really not tall. Im only 5 foot 4 inches. Its just not for some people. I am one of those people. It kind of sucks that we have been conditioned to believe that we have to be accepting of all people and steer clear of judgement and aren't allowed to have certain preferences because it is "offensive" to others. You aren't allowed to live freely without someone bashing you for not accepting something or settling for less than you desire.16
No, not really. I'm pretty used to hearing about how tall I am. Especially in my city/state where the Hispanic population is large, the average male stands 5'7. I'm 5'10.412
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Not exactly, it would only be a problem if we went out a couple of times and she decided to say that was the reason she couldn't be with me.
Otherwise that just tells me the woman is high maintenance and is only looking at crap on a surface level and is probably superficial.28
Everyone has an absolute right to be attracted to whatever they want.
I am 5’8”, which in my generation was average height here in Australia.
My height was not an issue when I tried to date females.
The problem was that they got the tingles for sociopathic bad boys, which I was not.
Their preference for retarded criminal scumbags was their right.
It was also my right to slam the door in their faces (figuratively, although in one clase literally) after they declared that they were ‘ready for a good man’... finally.21
No, but I'm relatively tall, so I've never had that as a cause for rejection.
I think it is unwise to reject someone for their height. However, people are entitled to their preferences. If their preferences are too unrealistic, then it's on them.
I admit though, I might have some bias, but that's my honest opinion.15
It does not, I prefer a certain type, and if she finds my height unattractive, then she shows she is not my type, and I lose any interest in her, and I honestly do not care if a woman finds me attractive or unattractive if she is not my type.
As for the movie, I never saw it before, but I do not get why tall women are viewed in such a way, to me, a woman who can rest her jaw on my head is ideal.😊44
No everyone is allowed their preferences.
However what I find offensive are those hypocrite women who want to select men on height (aka a physical trait), but they get all pissed off if a man wants to select women based on their weight (also a physical trait).45
i did watch a bit of that and it annoyed me, she's like 6,1? i am 6ft... its not that tall... if she was like 7ft or 6,6 or something i understand.. my girlfriend is 5,12 and her sisters are close to that... plus all the camera angles of her are slanted down low to make her seem taller...32
When I was 17 this girl I really liked, Julie, said to me, "you'd be more attractive if you were taller". I was angry for a long time after that because I had been rejected over a characteristic I had no control over like my skin or age. It wasn't fair, I couldn't do anything about it, and I felt I was done an injustice. Looking back I sounded like one of those incel freaks. And indeed if I were more dumb, I'd probably end up like that. I grew up and realizes the dating world isn't fair. People can be stupid and will reject you for reasons you don't understand and they don't owe you an explanation or justification. I worked hard to be a Renaissance man as a result of that experience so it turned out to be good experience. Challenge breeds excellence. So no I don't take offense. Not anymore.13
I would be turned off. I am attracted by personality and then looks. If I don't like their personality it doesn't matter how hot they are. I may have been attracted briefly but the personality is what keeps me or gets me to leave. A person who would not even try to get to know someone because of their height probably has prejudices, self-esteem issues, or other thought processes I am most likely turned off by. In the end, I would sad for them. They are trapping themselves in one mindset. One that could blind them to someone that might have been the love of their life. Making snap judgments is part of being human. Learning to move past those judgments and really seeing someone as who they are is what creates growth in our own souls.2
It's their choice. Everyone has their preferences. I'm short. I've never knowingly had someone reject me because of my height, but it's possible. It may be a deal breaker for some women. For a lot more it's a negative.
But the truth is, there are so many women out there it doesn't matter. It's one of many many traits, that you whittle down until you get the one you want. With all the thousands of women out there, there are plenty who are OK with my height.
The thing about height and weight, is that they are immediately visible. If approaching a complete stranger it will have more impact than getting to know someone first. But personally I've never considered my height as a negative.
In reverse, I'd have no problem dating someone who was taller than me. I suppose there is a limit, but I don't know what it is.1
I saw that movie a few days ago... even though I could understand what she was going through, I can't relate to that. I never had a guy outright telling me that he didn't like me because of my height, and I doubt I am going to hear it from now on (people are more mature in this age group - or so I want to believe...)10
Never happened to me. But im sure for all those who are voting no are only voting no because they haven't experienced it. Just imagine you kick it off with a guy/girl online, you both are feeling each others vibes and set up a date. Imagine preparing for that date thinking to yourself how amazing that you met a person like this on social media so you get your self sexy wanting to dress to impress you thinking of how you will plan the date ahead of time, and then its time to meet. Now im 5'8 apparently im short for a guy luckily i live in hawaii and this is a very decent height but the stories i hear from and about the mainland? If i were to go through all the motions and emotions of my example just to be turned down for a second date or stood up cause she seen me and didn't think i was tall enough!!! Damn right i would take that personally lol. by the way im not a social media person so I don't know if height is listed on there.4
It hurts at first because rejection hurts but, in the end, do I really want to be with someone who is ready to reject love for something as petty as height? Probably not.23
I don't take offense, I think every reason to not date someone is a valid reason.
I do think those 5 ft women who say they don't date anyone shorter than 5'11" are silly and I do think to myself that it is probably the result of some sort of an insecurity and that well adjusted individuals should be able to get over arbitrary height differences.
But at the same time, if they don't feel attracted to me, they don't feel attracted to me, whatever their reason might be.1
If they dont want to date me because I'm too much of something or too little of it I say I got lucky with that one. If they were to date me anyway I would have to find out latter that they were settling or just an all around vain person, besides it's our choice who we date and why date someone with an attribute you dont like or find atteactive2
I wouldn't care. If my height bothered her then she is not right for me. If it bothers all girls then screw them. They don't deserve me.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GMEwZq4wXcw2
190 cm and fit... I have been rejected because I have kids or because of my past, but never hear it's because of my appearance.
I didn't find this offensive, people have some criteria and I can remember the time where a serious relationship with single mother was unacceptable for me.2
As a guy who is only 5'2 and who has been rejected a lot. Yeah, I do take it personal sometimes, I often feel bad about myself too.113
Lol had a friend come up to me and say she started dating a guy that's almost exactly like me but taller. I made fun of her for being heightist52
I figure if that's their criterion for judging other people's worth, I'm better off without them in my life.
Shallow people tend to be weak allies, and as any strategist worth his salt would know, a weak ally is more to be feared than a strong enemy.2
No, I move on. I won't date someone over a certain height or weight so how can I get offended. Even if I didn't have my own preferences I still wouldn't get offended for someone's elses choices.12
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Not really an issue for me at 6’2, that seems to work for most women. But short guys, don’t feel bad, I would get DQ’d for something else half the time in my single days: don’t like blond dudes, don’t like white dudes, don’t like stoners, don’t like football players, don’t like the big nose, could be anything, lmao. You die a thousand deaths out here in the field. I feel like that gets lost on a lot of guys, you can’t quit because a few chicks didn’t want you... MOST won’t want you, haha. This isn’t like real life battle, this is Call Of Duty as a shitty player, like 3-to-30 kill/death numbers lmfao. Anyway, another tangent for another day.
I’m not looking but I made a Tinder just to see what the hubbub was about because I’ve been out of the game since ‘07. I’ve seen a few women with “under 5’10 swipe left”, and I’ve seen others say “I’m 5’10 if that matters”, so that seems to be a point of insecurity for some taller women too. And I felt bad when I saw both statements because I know somebody feels bad in the situation, on one end or another. That Long Island dude that freaked out and got toned up in a bagel shop this past summer, he was an asshole, but leading up to that event, I’m like “damn... homeboy has been THROUGH IT.” And I mean he said it right in his tirade, he was sick of women disrespecting him for being short. Totally went about it in the wrong way, but I feel him on some level. So it’s obviously a thing that happens sometimes. Thing is, when I go out in the world I see short guys with wives and gfs, sometimes taller than them even. So I guess all I could hesitantly say from a non-experienced perspective is “keep swinging.” I’d be pretty pissed if someone ruled me out for height, so I get the frustration.
How tall do you like your girls?
@sparkdog I usually go for shorter girls, but I’ve dated girls as tall as 5’11 before. My lady I ended up with is only 5’3 though.