Definitely a dumb question, lol. I know there are.. I'm just curious to see if the public has some positive points I might have skipped over.
I'm currently crushing on a 20 year old coworker and logic.. (apprehension?) is telling me I'm thinking with my vagina and I'm going to regret it. But I'd like to be wrong about that. So.. What have you guys got?
So innocent it's cute?
More Spontaneous?
Passionate?
Optimistic glow?
Energy?
I feel kind of fucked up about it. Like I know he's of age but.. I'm slightly ashamed of my VERY STRONG animalistic urges.. I feel like I'm going to overwhelm him with my overly freaky, PTSD having, darkness embodying self 😅
Someone try to talk me out of this.. It won't work but TRY
I don't know, at my age, I wouldn't want to go too much younger. I'm nearly 24, so I'd probably put my cutoff at 21. 18-20 is just a bit too young for me, personally.
Not all guys are the same of course, but generally, guys mature at a slower rate than girls, so you run the risk of being with a guy who might be quite a bit below your maturity level, unless either A) he happens to be extremely mature for his age, or B) you're extremely immature for your age.
I can't really think of any perks specifically related to age, except for that he *might* be less experienced, if that's important to you. Of course, age doesn't necessarily have anything to do with experience (at nearly 24, I'm less experienced than a lot of 18-year-olds, for example).
I'm just 18 so for now I won't getting myself with any minor. But once I'm a little older I wouldn't mind younger guys at all. I'll be open to them but my preference is still older men.
I think one perk to this will definitely be the excitement because no one does that here so the age difference itself would mean we're going against the norm. Otherwise I don't think there would be much difference. He could be a little bit more immature though. And you would have to be careful not to become his mom.
If the guy's equally attracted to you and you have some things in common, that age difference is negligible. This is no May - December sort of thing. A 20 year old will not be significantly different than a 23 year old. Someone your age will have more work and life experience, but who knows. People are individiual. If he's not giving you any signals, however, then perhaps it's time to give up this fantasy. He may have a girl or boyfriend etc. You have no idea about his circumstances.
To me, it sounds like you're interest is more primal than it is romantic. I'm not saying there isn't any romantic interest, but you seem to be sex-driven in all of this. If that is the case, then there's nothing wrong with indulging in what would then be a fetish, so long as there is full transparency and you both agree. If you're interested in a relationship, you need to approach with a lot more caution and self-control. If you can't do that, it's best to just walk away before it has the potential of ending badly.
The thing is he's interested in more than just sex... Which makes me even more attracted to him! I can hold back my desires but that'll never make us work in a relationship.
I'm not too sure I could work with anyone in a relationship..
So you're right. I'll just have to take a step back.. So much easier said though! He's.. so.. sexy.. 😭😭
You can try and see if he'd be willing to have a more physical relationship instead of an emotional one to start off with. It might give you the time you need in order to garner a more romantic interest. If he agrees to start out in more of a friends with benefits situation, you can enjoy your desires while taking it slow and seeing where it really leads.
Okay you're only 2 years older than him so that really isn't that big of a difference. If you were a Senior in High School he would be a Sophmore so you're still at the same stage of your lives. If you were in 30, then him being younger would matter because that's an entire decade.
I don't want to talk you out of it. Go have hot animalistic sex. One thing though, younger guys often don't last as long, and may not have much expertise in bed. On the flip side they can go more times. Also be aware, he may fall in love with you and be clingy. That' can be annoying.
You won’t notice a difference because the gap is small. But younger guys are usually more open minded and have more physical energy. They can go longer in bed and more frequently. They usually don’t have kids or a lot of obligations.
Usually they're inexperienced, and you get to mold them into your perfect play thing. I say go for it, I love younger guys myself! Literally I was riding my freshie's face just a little bit ago.
I wouldn't say a mere three year difference qualifies as you dating in the, "younger guy" category. People most often refer to a minimum of five year difference when talking about this.
Let's see, now - - you are 23 and he is 20, a three year spread at most. This isn't exactly what someone might define as a "cougar and cub" relationship. If you like the guy, date the guy.
Probably just inexperienced with women. Hasn't had his heart broken yet. Give him 5 years in this dating climate. He'll be a jaded dick like the rest of them. I guess you could expedite the process. Sounds like you want to.
Oh I'm a walking heart break, and that's not me claiming to have some awesome skill at fucking people over, I actually just hurt people by accident naturally..
I really just need to stay away from anything remotely good hearted all together.
But he's so tempting.. The jaded dicks are so unattractive I can't even get half of a lady boner for him.
But you have a point.. If I don't ruin him then someone will. It's not bad if I warn him first right?
Yeah. You project that vibe. I don't know. You can try to warn him but he won't take it seriously. Especially if he's as naive as you make him sound. And you don't actually want him to take it seriously. So its kind of a moot point.
What do I want though? If I play along and keep flirting someone is going to catch feelings at some point! Namely me because how the hell can a person catch feelings for me? I'm borderline crazy.. I just heard you raise one eyebrow and roll your eyes. Yeah. That crazy. Lol.
And then we're going to get in some relationship neither one of us need, we'll have sex, and I'll feel awful about the entire thing because it's all doomed anyway. I've been down this road and nothing ever works out.
It's not supposed to.. And despite this gross, selfish vibe I probably give off.. I don't like hurting people. I hate it..
there's always the chance I'm just being an idiot again and he's not as innocent as I think.. Shit.
It's a tricky situation and the only chance of avoiding any risks is to quit entertaining these lustful feelings.. Peace of mind or a beautiful nightmare? Shouldn't even be something I'm questioning but here I am.
If u both like each other and he's okay with ur age, then don't worry.. 3yrs is not a big difference, who knows he might have got some new skills in bed which old guys don't know.
Well i think for quick shag, young guy might appeal to you, but for clitoris stimulation in many ways, is where an older man may do better. I dont mean selfish men, i mean someone who makes you cum every single time.
And I realize I'm not that much older than him when it comes down to it but.. His personality is younger if that makes sense. Not like he's behind developmentally but he's got this mindset I can remember having before all of the bullshit in life.
Age doesn't matter to him. Looks aren't important. His relationship needs are pretty simplistic. He wants to settle down before having sex with a person. His sense of humor is childish as hell and I fucking adore it but that's beside the point..
I just don't want to ruin him and if he's pulling one over on me it's really going to suck. But I can't help but want him seriously bad.. I feel like a dog tied to a tree, and he's this beautiful bacon sandwich. It's torture but I respect him so much.. I should just leave it alone and take a cold shower right?
Well the age difference isn't really that measurable. I say go for it. I was married to a 29 year old when I was 23. He may appreciate your sexual experience and knowledge
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