Dating 10 years! No sex?

[Anonymous]

Me n my girlfriend have been together for 10 and never had sex. She says she’s waiting until we’re married. I’m still a virgin, she isn’t. So this doesn’t make sense to me. I know a relationship isn’t 100% about sex, but. The only reason a couple should never have sex is if there is health issues that get in the way, and we’re both healthy!

I’ll be honest, other than not having sex she is a good girlfriend. She comes over on her off days preps my meals for the week. Can’t remember the last my I fed myself. She’s been supportive through my rough times.

Regardless of how good she is I’m ready to just leave all that behind. I’m starting to regret my time wasted. She tells me “I can’t live without you”, but that doesn’t mean anything at this point.

She most likely cheating

She’s not cheating she’s just weird

Either way it’s not worth it leaver her

[Cynicaldreamer]

Wow, that's... dedication. Kudos to you sir for holding out that long for her! There are not many men that would stick around that long without sex in a relationship without a good reason!

First off, why have you two been together that long and aren't married yet? It's good that you're not rushing into marriage, but if that's her condition for having sex with you, and you've been together THAT long, I think it's time to consider proposing if you're both ready.

As for why she's holding out? I seriously couldn't tell you, especially since she's not a virgin. Have you asked her why she won't?
I'm sorry but if I'm with a guy and not sexually active, it usually means I've lost interest in him, I'm mad at him, or I'm not in the mood. Though if she hasn't had it in that long, her sex drive might be low as well; it's possible she might not want or need sex to be happy.

I think you both need to sit down and discuss it. While there are more important things than sex in a relationship, if you both have been together that long, sex is something that she should at least desire from you if she supposedly cares and wants you.

[btbc92]

I don't understand how the hell you two are still together for 10 years. It sounds like to me she is either:

1. Not interested in sex
2. Doesn't really want to get married
3. Is trying to control you and its working
4. Regrets her sexual choices and is forcing you to wait and stay with her because she is scared she'll be lonely and have nobody interested in her because she claims she wants to wait for marriage.

I'll just tell you this as a virgin who also believes in waiting for marriage to have sex. SHE'S PLAYING YOU! And is being selfish. You wasted 10 years for somebody who doesn't want sex. Telling you the truth. Anybody who desires that kind of closeness would have married you LONG AGO. So the fact you waited 10 years for her should already show and been proved your not that type of guy. Find somebody who desires sex with you, but will wait for marriage as well. Don't waste it on just anybody and definitely don't waste on her if she doesn't want to commit.

[Creepazoid]

why not just marry her then if she's so good. i have a feeling there's more to the story you're leaving out

[andreasderjuengere]

Where is the problem? If you want to bang her: marry her. If not: then don't.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why did you not get married 8-9 years ago?

[Wonderer89]

... why have you stayed for 10 years knowing her proviso that you’re not willing to meet?
Seems incredibly stupid to assume she’s cheating on you when she’s stuck to her guns for 10 years about no sex before marriage

[Mädchen]

Seems Like her Sex Drive is basically non existend. And that probably won't suddenly change once you're married. You've been waiting longer than anyone would. So don't feel bad to give her am ultimatum. Tell her you want Sex or you're gone

[Mitchell2004]

She's not cheating. She just wants to wait till marriage. A lot of girls will do that even if the have already lost their virginity. Sometimes having sex with someone or more than one someone can make you realize you really only want to have sex with one person so waiting till marriage is the best option. She's definitely not cheating.

[VIVANT]

Ummm she is waiting for marry she. She was upfront about this. Why did you stay if you did not want to wait. Are you even considering marriage. If not then why did you stay this long?

[MajesticTwelve]

Gee whiz... this reminds me of 1000 ways to die in the west.
This relationship doesn't sound healthy. Run!

[pleasestopthis]

Will you ever marry her? If not, you should have broken up long ago.

[humanearth]

Hell I would have left a long time ago. I don't know how you lasted 10 years

[October808]

Option D. She expects you to propose marriage already.

[Anonymous]

After 10 years, why no engagement or marriage?
Do you see a future with her (sex aside)?

[Opinion Owner]

Why the downvote?

[MysteriousDarkness]

Why do you think a person has to be married to have a future with someone?

[Opinion Owner]

@MysteriousDarkness The girlfriend wants marriage before sex and he wants sex. Marriage solves both problems. Plus, after 10 years you know whether you want to marry someone or not.

[elisa_0]

This sounds like complete torture, i would never be able to do that.

[Thatsamazing]

Um... how are you dating if you're not doing anything physical with her? How old is she?

[Reddwolf]

Dude wake up and it's time to move on if you haven't proposed to her then you two are not meant to be and she is getting it somewhere else

[OfDeath]

You have lost 10 years of your life. Get out of this relationship and get out of it now.

[BrabusBoyBand]

Maybe she has an STD and is waiting to make it a legal matter if you try to leave her

[Bman4907]

that's what i was thinking

[4eyes2mouths]

Do you do other sexual activities?

[nerms123]

Why didn’t you marry ten years ago?

[JustRollTheDice]

So after ten years why haven't you proposed

[Anonymous]

10 years no sex we done with in a year.