Is a picnic a good idea for a first date?

[Anonymous]

This guy I met (he's a graduated lawyer) through a mutual friend... wanted to go on a first date
He asked if I'm free after work on Thursday night
So I said yes I am.
And then he suggested to go to a park by the waterview - and have picnic there
But it would be around 8 or 8:30pm
Since we both have work till 6/7pm during the week

Yes

No

[CallMeDave]

If you both enjoy picnics in a park with a water view and the weather is reasonable, then I think it's fine. In my opinion, the main point of a first date is to do something you both enjoy and to talk so you get to know more about each other and can decide whether you seem compatible enough and have enough chemistry to go on a second date. If you both like them, then I think a picnic at the park satisfies those requirements.

You must live in the Southern Hemisphere if it's still going to be light that late. Here in the Northern Hemisphere it gets dark annoyingly early at this time of year.

Good luck on Thursday night! I hope it goes well for you.

[Asker]

Yep live in Australia lol and its daylight saving - so it gets dark later at night

[CallMeDave]

That's how it is here in June and July. I don't really like the heat of summer but I do like the long hours of daylight!

[Zhou_]

If it's still light out go for it
If it's getting dark and you feel something shady
RUN 🏃

[Zhou_]

A lawyer will know how to defend himself in court xD

[CallMeDave]

Did you do the picnic? If so, how did it go? After having done it, do you think it was a good first date idea?

[GDG44]

Harder to bail on a date if you are in the middle of a park, which is probably dark, and probably somewhat isolated from other people. This requires too many assumptions that everything will go ok. Ease into these types of dates. You can always go for a picnic in a month or two.

[macchiatomommy]

Whatever you feel is a good date is all that matters you want to feel comfortable so obviously don't do it in the snow outside unless that's actually what your comfortable with but a positive environment is all you need to make a good venue for a date. Also it shouldn't hurt to ask the other person what their scene as a perfect date and you two could probably work something out together.

[btbc92]

A picnic is always the vestvfirst date. However, the time is way too late and I wouldn't be comfortable trusting somebody let alone that situation so late. Very dangerous at this time. Please reschedule to an appropriate time like the weekend.

[razelove]

Picnic during the day, great idea, picnic at night with someone new, bad idea. It could be any number of reasons he likes the spot, suggest it for a second date. No matter how well you know someone, the first time they let down their hair on a date, make it a well lit public place with at least 2 exits, one preferably by the bathroom. I have had things go SOUTH before and fast walked out.

[Screenwriter]

I think a picnic is fairly intimate. Lying around on a blanket. I've never gone on one with someone I've just met. I like the ability to leave quickly if it's going South. Coffee shop is the go to in my opinion. And a picnic means whoever made all the food has gone through a LOT of trouble. I think it's too much work for a date you know little to nothing about. A picnic is like going to the beach. You want to laze around for hours and NOT have to talk.

[Zhou_]

I don't know why people think a picnic isn't a good idea
It's a good way to spend time together with no hassle there's also the pro of him noticing your cooking skills or your microwaving skills *jk*
Anyway what might need a change is the time cause 8pm is kinda late
If there's still light out I'd say GO FOR IT AND GOOD LUCK

[Browneye57]

Too late. Meet for coffee instead, and TALK. Get to know. Determine whether he's actually worth dating at all in the first place. If he is then set a date for a real date, if not then you can get up and leave in an hour, and it doesn't matter who pays.
In any case, after an hour or so get up and leave anyway - you have places to go and people to meet, things to do. Don't be desperate.

[Ianto]

I think it unwise for the simple reason that a proportion of people will be unhappy about some aspect; insects, cold air, wind dishevilling elaborate coiffure, etc. Unless your aim is to eliminate fastidious fussbudgets, it just adds unpredictable elements beyond your control. Of course, if all goes well, it may create wonderful memories.

[funkit46]

However at dusk like that would be questionable... Perhaps he was thinking with his emotions and not head.. give him point for romance.. but lacks common sense..
That is how things go when you think with your heart.."you do and say irrational stuff" but hey we all have our moments!

[Rob19777]

uh picnic at NIGHT in a PARK with A GUY YOU NEVER MET BEFORE except through a mutual friend? Think about what you're asking here. And in case you're still wondering I purposely capitalized all the important words in that first sentence

[Screenwriter]

I'm with you, brother. Seems too much, too soon.

[MrMilti]

Picnic in the dark sounds a bit weird and also creepy, I have to admit.

Or are you living on the southern hemisphere, where it is currently summer and its basically bright forever?

[egarcia1360]

I think it's cute. But given all the specifics of your situation, well... just make sure there are enough witnesses around.

[broken_heart_at_48]

It's a little too intamit for a first date plus a park at night is probably empty. He probably has good intentions but maybe you should recommend coffee or somewhere that will have more people around.

[Anoniemus]

It's perfect. You two can get to know each other and talk while having a nice meal with scenery. You need nothing more than that for a first date.

[MannMitAntworten]

No. However the time is nutty for a picnic. That's a day time activity. Sounds like he wants to watch the submarine races.

[Bananaman177]

Bold move, sounds very promising.

I salute his choice, very smart if he can carry it off.

[Anonymous]

A picnic in the dark, sounds like some outdoor sex is gonna go down!

[cloud9vortex1234]

The guy is probably decent, but isn't this a Red Flag? Night Time at a park?

[OGxtra]

It's outdoors , plenty of room , informal ; great idea for a first date

[Silver158]

Nah go for something easy like coffee or a drink. A picnic at 8pm is flat out weird more of a day date and I avoid day dates as a first date as a rule

[Exorcist_Rampage]

It sounds like an awesome place to meet for any date.

[slob94]

Watching the stars under the night sky. Sounds cool.

[KazMiller]

I'd certainly hope so seeing as this is something I could see myself doing

[MindYourEyes]

Yes sounds like a cute date.

[Nikki1989]

A picnic makes a great first date.

[Snickermarstwix]

Who the hell go to a picnic at 8pm except killers?

[Snickermarstwix]

Lol every guy commenting is telling you it's creepy, girls are like "what a good idea" 🤣

[Screenwriter]

You have me hooting with laughter!!! Thank you!!! ahahahahaaha

[legalboxers]

if it feels right yes

[Whatever2929292]

That's amazing!

[Gottabsavagee]

Not bad

[Aya17]

Heck yeah!