Is it ageist and shallow if I refuse to date older men and I find them unnatractive? (Page 2)
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you shouldn't be coerced into dating someone. if someone calls you racist, transphobic, homophobic... because you won't date them, they deserve a punch in the genitals.
Its your preference. If you've told him you're not interested and he persists its creepy... Please be careful
If you're getting creepy vibes, then don't do it, age notwithstanding. However, you know your own mind. If you think 30 is too old for you, then you're right.
Well my first thought is you said he was attractive but then later said he wasn't. That seems odd. Either he is or isn't.
Second, it is kinda weird you don't like older men, majority of women do.
Lastly, its your preference and totally fine however if you don't want an older man I hope you don't expect a younger man to be financially secure or him to be mature or even commit to you because most young men are not these things.
We can recognise someone is an attractive human being but don't feel attracted to them. Two different things. And she is young too I don't think she expects the guys she is interested to be mature or financially stable.
@Porcelaine well its weird she says specifically she wants someone attractive and that he is attractive. Honestly it just sounds like she had a bugaboo about age. Like if he said hi im 25 she would have been very into him. Its one thing if there's a specific reason well then ok. I mean she can like whatever she likes im just saying it doesn't seem coherent and maybe she's making an assumption to have the preference she has.
Its like if i was super into rock climbing and running and want a woman who is super capable to do that stuff with me as its my life and i say well im only attracted to overweight women. Im certainly allowed to like what i like but its not really a coherent goal i have set for myself. And thats all im really pointing out.
"well its weird she says specifically she wants someone attractive and that he is attractive" where did she say any of that? And again, recognizing that someone is an attractive human being does not mean she feels sexual attraction to them or desires them in that way. You can recognize that your sister, your daughter, your brother, your best friend are attractive people but you are not attracted to them. Admiring beauty in another person does not indicate attraction or desire.
"He’s nice, good looking" that's all she said. Even if she was attracted it's ok to prefer similar age for many other reasons.
@Porcelaine it seems like you didn't read anything i wrote since i could copy and paste what i wrote as a reply to this.
I read and I copy paste you so...
Well yeah 9-10 years is too much for me too. Very few people would be comfortable with it. Well I would mind sex but relationship no. Even that guy would hesitate dating a 40 years old woman.
True. If he wants someone her age he would probably say no to a 40yr old woman. A hypocrite for sure.
You don't owe anyone a date. Date whoever you like. Tell your friends that maybe they should date him.
Brilliant idea👍
Not to put down your family in any way but they are giving you bad advice. You are allowed to feel whatever you want to feel about everything ever. If you aren't into that guy then dont date him. I am sure if he was a right person or good match for you it wouldn't matter as much be he isn't and it does matter to you so dont do it. You are completely in the right and you did nothing wrong.
It's a good thing..
Because I have came across...
25 year or younger girls getting involved with men above age of 40 for perks of financial support and others..
No, date who you want. Relationships are all personal preference. You should never be guilted into dating someone
It is your right to have your own personal preference in the age of men you wish to date... Maybe it's time to tell your friend and cousin to F... off and mind their own business and stop telling you how to feel and what to do...
Tell me this. Is it right for anyone to expect sexual favor from another person? And fuck "ageism" it's a made up political word to manipulate people.
No dating preferences are shallow... because it's no one else's business who, or why you choose to date.
My baby daddy is 50 and lied to me about his age. It isn't worth it to me they immature like young boys but at least young boys are wrinkled dicks and they have healthy erections
Look, you took the best decision you could at that place or time. So go on and keep going. It doesn't matter what other people say.
It's personal preference. I tend to like younger gals rather than my age or older ones. It's your choice and your life. Although I've dated both directions in the age area. and Have confirmed I do prefer the younger gal.
I'm surprised your question got so much attention
Like it's your preference
Why should anyone fucking care
It's agist to refuse them a job, not to choose not to date them.
You can reject anyone for any reason. Hell, you don't even have to give a reason. This is dating, not a job application.
Tell your friend to date the old fossil herself if she feels so strongly.
It's just your preference. I don't see a problem with people having preferences.
Not at all... you can always be a cougar and fuck young guys... usually girls get with older guys because they get tired of fucking dudes who still live with mom and older guys usually have nicer cars, house, job... that kind of shit