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If a woman sleeps with a man on the first date does it diminish their chances of having a long term relationship with that guy? (Page 2)
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Generally when that happens they have quicker fall outs
That depends. If they had already been talking and felt good vibes and a connection then the sex after the first date would feel as if they've been having sex for weeks now. Not every dude has that mentality of wham bam thank you ma'am. It's a rare occasion that sex on the first date leads to long lasting relationships.
I don't know to me it's so uncomfortable.
At the first date he is still a stranger.
I need to see him as a familiar to think about physical intimacy.
It's shitty on both parts to have sex on the first date but wemon are way mean to other wemon about then men are truly most guys won't lose respect for you it's a choice you made or didn't make
It depends on how the woman plays her cards right after.
If they really fall in love in the first date ( which is super are) then I won't consider it as a problem but if the woman is just interested in sex then there's a high chance that the relationship won't last long.
**super rare
Men on a whole I think respect us more if we don’t give in too easy but at the same time they do like to “enjoy” time with us
It really depends on the people involved. For the younger set, it could well be. But after a lot of age and experience it may well be irrelevant.
NO. Me and my last ex boyfriend slept on our first date cause chemistry was undeniable. That was my longest relationship so far.
I don't know about how other's feel but for me Yes I respect women who waits unless everything happening in life is good for both of us..
They might have a long term sexual relationship, but a mutually respectful one is, I think, highly unlikely.
Depends on the guy. Sometimes psychical attraction is so hot couples fuck on first dates. But some men are weird: they want sex, but then blame the women for putting out.
Yes like some men say woman are sluts for having sex so fast yet aren’t men sluts too for accepting to have sex with the girl
If she knows what she wants and goes for it I can't blame her.
How about everyone stop treating orgasms as a gift or reward? If it feels good, do it to each other.
For me it would, but then I would never do that after a first date.
Yes some fucking jerks are in the score..
They do not want a long term relationship..
I won't sleep with a girl unless she is attractive and if she is attractive id want a long term relationship
I will rather give more importance to her. I believe that romance and sex strengthen the relationship.
romance and sex strengthen the relationship? On a first date? Is that what you are saying?
Yes and I mean it. I don't like to make relationships complex. If both of us have talked for so long, have laughed together, have enjoyed the meal together, then why make sex such a big issue?
It's a first date! There is no relationship! HELLLO
How do you make strong bonding and relationship? By coming close to each other, not by making calculations and thinking about your next move. Women want to be loved by their partners. Wasting time doesn't make sense if the woman is falling for you already. Give her as much love as possible.
by their partners? It's a first date... you aren't partners!
There is a saying "Women offer sex to get love, men give love to get sex". I am fine with first date sex if it can be bring her closer to me.
Thanks for the comments.
My last girlfriend for over a year started as sex on the first date, so I'm inclined to say no.
My wife and I fucked for three days on our first date. Been together since 2008. So, no. I don't.
No 2 of my relationships lasted years when i slept with them on the 1st night.
But you aren't with them now, right? Hmm...
A relationship that isn't lasting and mainly sex doesn't last and that is not enough for women as a whole. It's not trustworthy. When you sleep around with anybody whether it turns into a relationship or not, your missing many potential red flags that could have been prevented. I don't agree with premarital sex for that top 10 reason other than its just a one night stand or hookup. Women don't want anything that isn't going to be permanent no matter what she says otherwise. Just saying.
Im married now and the last 2 relationships we we our own separate ways. im missing nothing from your question. relationships dont even last if there isn't any sex either. should there be trust yes thats a given but saying its not trustworthy remember it takes to fuck unless guy rapes you then thats very shitty. your question was asking if a woman not if a man. now adays if a relationship last couple years to several years thats pretty damn good in todays standards even you slept together the 1st night or not.
That is not true at all. A relationship can last as long as you both choose to make it. If you have no desire to make a relationship last based on your perception didn't is not going to last. It doesn't matter how long it takes. And if you think that sex is actually f***ing, excuse my French than that show no respect to sex, yourself and that woman. Women in general don't know any better and they are learning simply from you because sadly if they refuse sex then you won't marry him anyway. If they give sex to you. Then you get to decide whether or not you want to stay or go. That's not fair on anybody especially if God forbid a child ends up in the middle of it. Thats not security.
What makes it last is whether or not you end up with a person who shares your agenda and prerogative. Would you choose to do with it with that person is entirely up to you. But that does not guarantee us a little fight relationship which is exactly what a woman needs. So unless she doesn't care and share the same ideals as you, that affects a lot of women, and because it does, you can destroy and ruin her life. Regardless if she is an adult and is liable of her own actions.
Why are you just pointing the finger at men. you can say the samething about women it goes both ways.
Then it's not going to last*
Everything in life is a choice. And if you're not on the same page about what you both want you going to screw yourselves over anyway. I rather not deal with that and take chances on somebody who is not going to take anything seriously and follow Godly values. Women have to deal with the harsher of punishments than men ever will. She can be disqualified from marriage, run high risk of disease that can be life long or permanent, it can turn go cancer like it did to my late mother, and sadly can go infertile. Mental disease and psychological issues can ensue especially for highly sensitive people. And their sex loves can be damages or unsatifying.
Oh trust me I do point the figure on both. But one thing I've learned over the years as somebldy who is a virgin and never dated is that it's only conviensnt for you if sex is on the table. You wouldn't marry or want something serious unless by your choice or standards. Many girls never asked to be in those positions where their elibility is based on the status of her vagina. Hence why God calls it a sin. And just because you're married doesn't mean that you aren't being affected by your sexual choices and that it won't cause problems in the near future. Nothing is guaranteed especially if you can't find yourself doing so and taking responsibility for them. I'm not saying all women are saints. But that as God commanded, Men are leaders and head over their home. Anything you do in your own leadership will either benefit all of us or destroy us. That's how much influence you men have over our lives. It's part of the curse.
Plus a lot of these women naturally do not want to sleep around let alone just anybody on the first date. In fact a lot of them would prefer it if they had that on their wedding night. You only reason why a lot of these women are doing that is because they're fed up with broken promises by bad men who done it to them, and also because it's now became a requirement which is detrimental to us in the end. That is the point I'm making. Because regardless of how good you feel your experiences were is never good to trivialize it and make it seem acceptable. You are simply an exception but it should not be a rule that is okay to do. Because that is your life. Others, as the old saying goes, are not so lucky.
So men are to blame for everything thats how your putting it as no matter what its our faults. do you not understand it goes both ways not 1 way evidently not so keep blaming men for everything. bc in reality women are just much to blame for shit as men are. you think men can't be emotional fucked up by women or catch dieases from women or accused for shit we didn't even do. it happens every damn day. women have ruined mens lives as much as we ruined womens. but no matter what i say or any other man in this world you set on your opinion its all our fault. your entitled to your opinion just like we all are.
Look I blame all who do not follow God's design. It doesn't matter if it's a man or woman, young or old, a child, an adult or senior. Any and all who deceived one another, and willingly fornicate in the eyes of the Lord are guilty of sin. But God at the end of the day cold a man to lead. And if a man leaves a woman into damnation because he wants to fornicate with her then he is guilty. And if a woman is an agreement of it that she's guilty by association. If a woman as it says in the songs of Solomon leads a man astray by seducing him to bed, and he will only go, then he's already in hell because of his choices. Most of these women who do these things are again don't do this by themselves. They cannot break themselves open by themselves. We are born clothes. Only a man has the ability to open a woman sexually. The problem with some of those women they don't take responsibility for those actions either. All that I'm telling you is don't say such prideful things. Because unless you in contact with these ex's you don't know the damage you may have done to their locks besides the damage that they've done to their own or to you.
Were born closed*
I ain't saying that men are to blame for everything. But that if you know that you're doing something wrong, then you have to take ownership. No different than a woman because she's going to deal with equal punishment as he will. So that is not my opinion it is simply fact. Because when I tell a guy that's claiming to be interested in me that I believe in waiting to date because you want to get to know the first as a friend and build a relationship with that person. Then they don't like that answer. And especially don't like that answer if you say you don't believe in premarital sex. But then they the same ones that complain about the women they would deal with or how women are not loyal. Is very sad that a lot of people say this stuff is religious but it's actually proven to be true every single day by your own choices. To love is a choice, to have sex is also a choice. But to say that you're not going to want to love a person without having sex first is only proving that you're dangling commitment and love in a woman's face. And nobody needs that. No different if a woman use sex to punish him for undesirable outcomes.
Proverbs, not song of soloman*
But you have stated men several time. not everyone cares what the bible says. everyone will follow there own path and everyone doesn't need a book or someone telling them on how they should live there lives. its called free will and shouldn't be judged by someone or something that doesn't approve of how i lived my life or anyone elses. what you believe in or do on how someone else lives there lives. by judging someone else on what they do or live makes you no better then that person. if you are truly god loving you shouldn't be casting judgement on anyone else. seems like thats a very common thing with anyone that thinks that god teaching is the only way to live and if someone doesn't follow it damn them to hell. by that standard that is very wrong
If you say that nobody really cares about what the Bible says then why do you really care about what the Bible says about judging people? I'm not judging people simply for the sake of judging them. But that I can give that righteous judgment because I have not done those sins. Yes people have free will to do whatever it is that they want to do, but it comes with consequences that hurts other people. It doesn't matter if you think that this wrong or even if it's wrong according to me. Because the only ones that can actually do that is yourself. Nobody else can damn you to hell but your own. It doesn't matter what path people choose to follow. But that there is no need for complaint if you have no desire to follow Godly living. Those relationships that you had could have been beneficial if done correctly on both ends. Now if you don't care for such relationships that is entirely up to you and it's your choice as well as again your life. You now have a wife that you got to deal with InFocus something. But again as I said before having those kinds of decisions are Reckless. At that point if it's going to damage other people than it should be judged. Therefore I am not judging unrighteously.
The point of the question is if a woman sleeps with a man on a first date if it diminishes their chances of having a long-term relationship with that person? You clearly said that two of your relationships lasted where you slept with them on the first night. But the point is again you are not in those relationships now. You're in a relationship with another person whom you chose to marry. Therefore you honestly do not seem to care or understand how that choice affects the two women that you slept with if not the other women if you slept with them prior to these two and your wife. That's the point. And that is where anybody with common sense should judge because when you invite another person into your life, your responsible for what happens to them besides their own.
Cause i have heard it all my life and my same response will always be the same stop shoving your beliefs down my throat or anyone elses bc im not shoving mine down yours or anyone elses. everyone like you always tells people you shouldn't be judging people etc bc god says its wrong to judge your fellow man. well guess what every bible thumbing person judges everyone that doesn't believe in what you believe in. judge me as much as you want bc your no better then anyone else including the girl that fucks someone on the 1st night or the guy that has 5 kids with 5 different women but there's only one type that we are all better then are the sick fucks that touches little kids. because in the end what does it matter on what i do or what you do all that should matter is that you or anyone else shouldn't be judging anyone for what they do with there OWN LIVES. does what i do affect you or visa versa no it doesn't.
Because when you make those kind of statements that's hypocrisy. And that's that kind of hypocrisy that make good decent people not want to really bother. Every relationship should be sacred and precious. And if you just going to hop between the different person just because one relationship didn't work out, again that's adding extra baggage. Now that is something between you and your wife that you can handle and deal with, then that is something that's between you and your wife. But to expect that other people should be okay to do the same thing is highly irresponsible. And by doing that younger Generations, mainly your own children, cannot look up to you for guidance. Because it's not fair for you to complain about how another person hurts you, but another person cannot complain about how you hurt them either.
If I was not a virgin God forbid and I was sleeping around with different men in and or outside of marriage, then neither can I give judgement and will be called a hypocrite. I have not once hurt a man due to my sexual choices because I have no sex life. Let alone a dating one. So nobody can point the finger at me for something I never did and would never even do. Why? Because I wouldn't want it happen or done to me.
@btbc92 what you say is true for all humans not just women. Men, despite what they say, also want that special permanent forever lasting love connection. We all want it. We are a monogamous species despite how hard we try to be otherwise.
@btbc92 I am so sorry I wish I could delete my comment! I replied before reading everything and even now I haven't read it all yet. I agree completely with your logic despite being agnostic. Our people have forgotten how to be men and women.. forgotten that men are meant to lead.. so many men are wandering this world blindly unfulfilled bc they do not live as we are intended to. So many women lost and broken bc they've been used but have no head.. You are wise. A rare one these days. I would very much appreciate your perspective on life and God. I want to believe but I cannot. I am not convinced. Can we talk more? I don't know if i get notifications here as I've just created this account only moments ago and so you know I have a woman I just want to hear what you have to say. Please help me find my way to God
@btbc92 masterson0713@gmail. com any words of wisdom are welcome please
@Human0713
Thank you for you kind and candid words. I am glad that as a new user you are able to at least fond something that you are looking for. While I do not hand out my personal info on here, I have no issues DMing you here on GaG for more talks. However I wouldn't say that I am qualified in those areas regarding my faith. As there is people who are. But one thing I will tell you is that following Christ is not easy, he is not about religion, and you have to be willing and prepared to let God lead y our life. He knows your heart, so it's a simple matter of trusting him to be your Lord and savior. You have to develop a relationship with him the same way you try to develop a relationship with the person you are with. If you ever need any prayer I'll be more than willing to lend you some. :) I'll keep you in prayer as I do for everyone here on this site.
No I always want to know how she is the first day she being good or bad is a very very big thing to me
Many people are against fornication and never know who supports it so it varies from person to person.
No I dont think so. It would rather increase the chance of one asking 'what are we', or 'where are we going with this?'
We won't have sex on the first date. Maybe oral, but I would do that with a girl I meet at a bar.
It depends on the chemistry. Respect should always be maintained!
My question would be do you think less of a guy if he tries to have sex on the first date?
Yes because for me I would be looking for a relationship date first then sex.
I'm upfront and won't look bad at a woman that chose me for sex.
Yeah i never call a girl back if she fucked me quickly. Sorry i dont date sluts.
Why not? Why do u accept the sex then? Wouldn’t u be a slut too then?
I feel like the chances of the relationship working out lessons when you sleep with someone on the first date or to soon.
I know, what happened to the getting to know a person first? People jump into bed before they even know each other's name.
@Daniela1982 I know it blows my mind how fast people jump into bed now. I've ran a few guys off by not putting out on the first date.
Sure the chances of it lasting are low but no relationships last either way. How many people really stay together long term and are happy through out and are people you want to be like? A couple or two? Maybe? Relationships fail just like lottery tickets are a waste of time even though there are exceptions that prove the rule
If you think it's the right person then do what makes you happy
Past your bedtime kid!
such terrible advice can only lead to detriment. If she's someone you think is special then treat her as such. Expect her to do everything she does with you with anyone else during the beginning of your courtship.
I had a long relationship and we had sex on our first date
Bcoz sex doesn't define relationship it mutual respect and love between two people
Well said bro
See poll. Have a merry Christmas coach!
Had sex on the first date, 6 Years later still together
And I'm not 22 by the way... I wish
She's basically testing you. She wants to see if you're a player or not. If she was to have sex with you on the first date, how serious you'll be about her..
If you'll stick around basically
No sex on a first date shouldn't matter 😜
A serious guy most certainly doesn't want an easy women. They are too easy to get into bed with a handsome stranger. Easy guys that want fun will love it though.
Statistic wise I would say yes.
Nah; at least nobody I know gives a shit.
🤔 good question
Not at all. It goes through the roof.
It shouldn’t matter but it does I think.
We have to remember that most people are more cynical, dominated of thinking “gosh she must have really been attracted to me to sleep with me so soon” yltheyll more likely think “wow she’s easy, I wonder how many others she has and will do that with”. I’m also a little guilty of thinking that way myself.
*so instead of thinking*
Could be 50/50 CT
Cool Tanthony will check it out and let you know what i thought
Not at all
I dunno
Nope
It depends.
It depends
No i do not think so
It's a no!
Depends on situation
Yes it surely does.