He ghosted me and now he’s back. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

So I went on three dates with this guy and we had a fantastic time the first two dates (third date was okay; not terrible, but not as fun as the first two). Well I texted him a couple of days ago with days I was free to hang out again, but he didn’t reply until just now asking how I was doing (2 days later). I want to know why he didn’t reply to me about hanging out again, but what is your advice?

Should I confront him about it, and if so, how?

Should I assume the worst and not talk to him at all?

[Screenwriter]

A couple of days ago was Christmas and he might've been tied up with family and friends so he didn't respond. You are a new person in his life. Two DAYS is not ghosting someone. Dial down expectations over Christmas and New Year's. You barely know him. Confrontation? Stop talking to him? Why are you being so harsh? Maybe he doesn't want to be tied down to a hang out schedule. I'd want to take it easy early in dating. If he didn't respond to your availability text, guess it didn't interest him. If he wants to continue dating you, he will ask you. Let it alone. What's the rush?

[Stan83]

I think you should stay calm, respect yourself. Tell him in a very short and polite message that he was wrong and you were sad. And that is why you want to stay away from him now.

[ForteExe]

I wouldn't even address it. For all you know he had some real shit to deal with and needed to focus on that. It's a new relationship so it's not like you two are a big part of each other's lives yet. Also I don't call it ghosting when it's only for 2 days. If you really got ghosted you'd never hear from him again no matter how you tried to reach out to him.

[Anonymous]

I'd ask "did you get my text the other day?". While it's unlikely, maybe he didn't, or, got busy and forgot to respond? But what happened the third date that made it less enjoyable? But I would never make assumptions! This is the worst thing people do when it comes to dating/relationships.

[Anoniemus]

Two days is way too long for people to ignore their phone. I would ask why it took him so long to respond because he could have a reason. If he does it again though, I would be done with him

[I_Am_Sazerac]

Ghosting is petty and pathetic that they didn't value you enough to say it wasn't working out or what not.

No one is owed communication but they should at least as a courtesy tell you that something is amiss.

[princessde]

Call him over and before an hour of meeting, cancel the plans ;). Teach him a lesson. You have ur self respect. Or else ignore him and reply exactly after 2 days if u don't wanna be too harsh ;)

[pleasestopthis]

You said "ghosted" but then I read he took only two days to answer. Aren't you over reacting? He might have been busy or had trouble.

[ChefPapiChulo]

This is typical woman behavior

[pleasestopthis]

@ChefPapiChulo right 👌

[Anonymous]

Tbh.. Sometimes I do the same with my girl but it's not bocz I want to ignore her or something it's coz I'm just not in the mood or just wants me some my metime

[ChefPapiChulo]

Obviously the dates weren’t that fun if he ignored you for 2 days

[OddBeMe]

I’d go out another date and then ask him. Look for signs of lying.

[Snickermarstwix]

He wants to fuck, he's balls are. Full

[Clayaya]

He’s not interested. Leave it alone now.