Do u guys think he was being honest with me?

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I met this guy. So we had a really good day he took me out and paid for me and he was just really nice and I can tell he was attracted to me as he couldn’t take his eyes off me. So after he asked if I’m sure I wanted him to come to the hotel room with me and stay and I said yes. We had good eye contact and the chemistry was there. So the whole time he was holding my hands while driving we got to the hotel and things got heated and had sex. He kept asking my permission tho if he can touch me how we don’t have to have sex but it just happened deep down I knew he wanted. So after sex we cuddled he asked if I’m okay and he’s sis kept on calling him cause she was having issues with her car and he even said to me she’s annoying him. So he was like to me “im gonna go home and have shower and sort all that out and will be back.” He pinky promises me and asked if I need anything when he comes back.

Him: Won’t be long just having an argument W my sis she’s annlyong me

Me: Lol stop arguing with her. 🙄😂

Him: She’s acc annoying me she wants use my car but she hasn’t even got any fuel atallll. So gotta sort that to annoying

Me: Don’t worry take your time. 😂 be nice to her pls 🙄 after he didn’t reply. So then I put
Me: Everything okay? An hour later I got worried and put “hey u coming or not? I’m waiting lol. Then I called he didn’t answer. So in the morning I texted him
I’m really worried is everything okay? And 10 mins later he replied with

Him: Hey omg I’m so sorry I was cold when I got out shower so I got in bed and like a dumbass I fell asleep

Me: are u serious?

Him: Legit woke up rn :///

Me: Or u just didn’t wanna come back and start ghosting me as soon as u got sex.

Him: No it’s not that I legitimately fell asleep I was tired to I don't know how I fell asleep didn’t even take my car either

Me: hmm🤔 come now then before I go or don’t If u don’t wanna.

Him: Just got ready to take my car rn

Me: okay dw

Him: sorry I’ll come to see you end of next month.

Shiver · Accepted Answer

Fuck, something like that happened to me today. I fell asleep like a dumbass myself while texting with a girl, ngl.

I don't think he necessarily just used you for sex, but you definitely don't seem to be his priority at all, which is a potential red flag. I wouldn't have doubted that he just fell asleep, maybe he was genuinely just really tired, laid down for a minute and then just fucking fell asleep, shit happens. But his sister calling him just to help her with car issues while he's on a date with you? It has to be him? She has no one else who can help? She doesn't know a mechanic and hasn't heard of this revolutionary new thing called the I N T E R N E T? I don't buy it. I don't buy it one bit. It's a shit excuse if it's not true and a really stupid situation if it is. It makes me doubt the whole falling asleep thing as well tbh. About seeing you at the the end of the month, I guess I'm just too soft in this department, but maybe ask him genuinely if anything really serious came up, just in case? I've had really bad news ruin things for me before, so I tend to want to give people the benefit of the doubt. I don't think that's the case here, but you can't be too sure. Maybe he just doesn't have all his shit quite together, as @coachTanthony already mentioned. Or maybe he's just unsure if he even really wants to pursue an actual relationship with you yet. Might just be really second guessing himself.
See if it's consistent, maybe it really is just a one off.

Stoner710 · Accepted Answer

You’re really overthinking this the guy likes you he wants to be with you he goes do you he wouldn’t be texting you back if you just wanted your pussy and got what he wanted to be texting you anymore clearly the guy likes you.

The way he was acting that night asking permission to hold your hand and ask information to sleep but he was a result of the #MeToo movement. Which leaves guys not knowing what to do because of supposedly what we’ve been doing for years is sexual harassment even a holding a girls hand without her permission so guys just aren’t that bold anymoreBecause we have no idea what constitutes sexual-harassment and what doesn’t that’s unfortunately the results.

it is very difficult for guys to fall asleep after having sex I guess is he’s telling the truth. Women tend to want to cuddle after sex (nothing wrong with that) Men tend to want to fall asleep so my guess is the warmth of the shower made him tired and getting out of the shower and honestly was likely cool because even in your house there are slight breezes that make you cold. I frequently get back in the bank Cuddle my dog after my shower and when I wake up at 7:30 tend to almost fall back asleep I normally get up but I feel that it is exclamation is very logical and honestly you should believe him

SpacedCharr · Accepted Answer

He's either failing to draw boundaries with his overly needy younger sister, or you're being strung along.

There might be a middle option in there, where he isn't stringing you along and his sister is a fucking asshole.

HOWEVER.
You're not important to him. Coach is right.

There's a shower in the hotel room - one you could join him in.

What possible reason does he have for falling asleep at his "sister's" house?

How the fuck did he get to his sister's house without his car (and why'd he leave it with you?).

Too many holes.
Leave him.

foriWish · Accepted Answer

Either his sister is exactly his girlfriend or. . . I don't know. The beginning of the conversation was I guess ok, it sound like a regular argument (with a person, who? Could be anyone honestly. He could be telling the truth that it's his sister or she could be more like a girlfriend or wife). Now the falling the sleep after the cold shower and not being able to see you after next month or whatever sounds like some bullshit. I think he's playing you.

I hope I'm wrong though

coachTanthony · Answer

---------------------If he did really fall asleep knowing you were waiting for him then YOU my dear are obviously not a priority for him. That is just something you simply don't do.

He is somehow an expert in helping his sister sort stuff out but is a clumsy ninkumpoop not getting back to you by falling asleep?

Honest or not... that guy doesn't have his act together and certainly doesn't respect you or your time. He got what he wanted and bounced.

Chikky · Answer

He faked the whole sister story, maybe a dude was calling because he gave him the time to call, or he actually liked you. Just be careful

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Maybe telling the truth, maybe not. Time will tell.

serious · Answer

I would say he was being honest with you but then only one thing I didn't understand which is how can one be cold after having shower? I mean I have shower everyday and after I come out of shower I am actually very warm and yes that warmth does make a person fall asleep fast.

Well after that he hasn't made any attempt to come and see you then. That is not a good sign, although you can till the month end and see if he comes or not then you will know the truth yourself.

cicchis0 · Answer

Dunno, doll. You are probably in a better position to tell. You should have some idea of how tired he was to figure out if the fell asleep story is realistic. As for the rest of it, I think you can only figure out how genuine someone is by getting to know them and seeing how their behaviour lines up with the rest you know about them. He might be being honest with you, but the guy could be full of shit, just saying what he thinks you needed to hear to get you into bed. Probably only you or other people that spend time with him can figure that out. He might have a wife or girlfriend in his home town and just think you are a fun diversion, or he might be telling you the honest truth. How did you meet?

If it does turn out that he has deceived you, try to remember that you got what you wanted, too, and had a great time. Don't dwell on it or recast yourself as a victim, remember that you got to do what you want and loved it, then find someone else to make you happy.

billyboy37 · Answer

Of course he's not beimg honest with you but i get the feeling he's not out to hurt you either, whatever it is, he hasn't told you and you shouldn't push, just be cooler and happier and just in general someone he wants to chill with , so the guy wanted to hav sex, he did it right from wst i see, and you went for it as im sure you wanted it too so he spemt money and was cool, he doesn't owe you anything amd not askkm for anything more than a cool girl to talk too.,. just... be a cool girl to talk too. But dont forget to open ypurself to other guys cuz... end of the month? Clearly he is an alien that can't visit that much

Justacatlady · Answer

Sounds more like you are the side chick. Unfortunately. He may actually like you but, if his “sis” was irritating him so much, why’d he leave you? The him saying he fell asleep? Come on. If you were important, he would have been so excited to get back to you, that he would have come there to shower.
To many inconsistencies for this to add up to him wanting to be with you.

jdhtx1 · Answer

To me it seems like he was playing the role of the gentle, emotional lover who tries to show he truly cares, by continually verifying what you have clearly given him permission to do, which is to touch you sexually. Saying you didn't have to have sex over and over was just part of the act. That is what it seems like to me. In addition, I don't think my sister wanting to use my car would start any kind of argument between us... especially after I texted back the answer "no." Did he ever give her an answer? It seemed like the logical thing to do. Or he could've just told her he'd talk to her when he got back. None of those things should've resulted in him abruptly leaving. And his reason for not contacting you or returning later just seems ridiculous. In my mind, the only way anything he said or did, (in terms of communication with this other person or what he didn't do after he left your hotel) would make sense is if you substituted the word "sis", with the word "girlfriend."

bubbles328 · Answer

Some guys are dumb and slack so you gotta decide if that's the type of guy you want to be with. I mean come on if you have sex with someone you really like you don't just drift off and abandon them. That will happen throughout your relationship, trust me. Secondly his sister? calling him frantically? or girlfriend he's cheating on? Seems off to me I would block block block

BagoH · Answer

You got used for sex. And all that nice guy stuff was just to make sure you gave him consent to have sex. He might have thought you'd be angry for being used for sex and would try to press chargers on him for non consentual sex, set him up etc... Just a thought because we hear a lot of women falsely accuse men of rape because they got their hearts broken by men.

DWornock · Answer

That could happen. Sometimes I lay down for just a few minutes and fall asleep so don't overthink it. He paid for sex with his effort and money and got it so he doesn't owe you more. However, since you and he still text he interested. That doesn't mean you are wife or serious relationship material, but you may be.

Regardless, I sense that you are more interested in him than he is in you which implies he is dating down and since guys date down for sex but almost never marry down, more likely than not that is the case with you.

jgirl99 · Answer

I'd say that he wanted sex in that moment. If he really saw u as a priority no way he would've fallen asleep. I'm bot saying he doesn't like u but definitely need to have a conversation with him in person cause that wasn't okay it takes 2 seconds to text someone. If he's still texting u then id say he likes u, but that was definitely an asshole move

Peuples_Francs · Answer

Sounds like he's only using you to feel good. If he really was as invested in you as you make it out to seem, he would have made time for you. Feels sad that he left you alone in the hotel for an entire night, seems to me like something no man would forget.

So yes, sounds like he lied to me.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

if my sister needed help after i just had sex i'd leave to help her even if i was already tired. i'd stay the night, because a cuddle versus an accident doesn't make sense.

he could be lying and just wanted to fuck. he might not have a sister. people lie a lot

justsimpleguy · Answer

It's hard to tell. Problem might be getting involved sexually too soon and not taking the time to get to know someone well.
Sometimes sex doesn't guarantee it's going to be a serious relationship.
Some of us just want to have a good time. I was attracted to a lady before but she was just interested in sex and nothing serious.

scholastic_vibez · Answer

Seems like a lame excuse. How do you really know she was his sister. More likely she was his girlfriend, he used you as a side girl, went to the girlfriends place, took a shower so she wouldn’t smell the scent of your pussy juices on him, and then he proceeded to fuck her. Then he fell asleep, woke up, you texted him, then he made some lame excuse to cover his tracks in case he wanted to try another one night stand with you.

lilyanony1 · Answer

It's hard to really say. Maybe he did really fall asleep. Maybe he was worn out due to his sister that can be draining. I think maybe you should just take it as it is. You slept together he fell asleep he will see you next month. If he flakes and communication stops then you know he isn't interested

soleil2666 · Answer

Sweetie, the one thing that could be happening here is that it isn't his sister but his girlfriend - and quite possibly one he either intends to leave firmly for you, or is considering leaving.
You would have felt it all being there much better than any of us could guess - it could be a thing, it could be a big thing - or something could go wrong (he gets disappointed in himself, that other woman, sister or a girlfriend, gets possessive etc)

Stockton · Answer

Thats a tough one i smell a hint of honesty and yet it seems perfectly balanced with a dash of old school bullshit. Next time you see him. Do not put out. See if that makes a difference. if he is still into you. Then you may have a keeper. You will no what to do then at least

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I think expecting him to return after leaving was maybe ambitious. Was always possible something would come up, though his excuse is a bit weak.
I wouldn't judge your whole relatiinship on one night. Look at his actions as a whole. If it becomes a habit tk let ypu down then maybe reasses what you're doing

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